Monday, September 24, 2007

Dating Advice: Using The Triple R Technique

So, you’ve gone on a date with a girl and you really like her. Now you want to make sure that she wants to continue dating you. One way to assure a second date is to be very attentive on the first date to one specific topic that SHE brought up. The first step to The Triple R Technique™ is Remembering. Remember as much as possible about a specific topic that she spoke about. Try to pick a topic that she seemed very interested in.

To demonstrate this technique I’ll use a specific situation where I used it recently. I was out a restaurant on a first date with an extremely attractive woman. She was really into cooking. She was telling me about all the different recipes that she loved to prepare. I could tell that she was really passionate about it. So what did I do after the date? I moved on to the second R and did some simple Research. I went to the food network’s website and found some upcoming shows that looked interesting. You can just as easily go to tvguide.com and do a search for anything she might have been talking about. For example, if she was really into tennis, you can search for upcoming shows or tennis or search elsewhere online for upcoming tennis events. The next thing I did was called her a few days after our date and I got her voicemail. So I took this opportunity to perform the third R of the triple R Technique. I Recited the new information that I gathered. I remembered she spoke about how she loved making all different kinds of pasta sauces. In my message I included, “Oh, by the way, Emeril is making his Penne Vodka sauce on his show tomorrow night on the Food Network. I doubt it’s as good as yours but I figured I’d let you know if you wanted to pick up a few tips.” Always have this prepared before your phone call after the first date. This way, if she was semi-interested in you and let’s her phone go to voicemail, you have just increased your chances substantially of her calling you back.

She will love the fact that you actually listened to what she was saying and took an active interest in it. She’ll be amazed because I highly doubt any other guys have ever done this, thereby making you different and interesting.


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Rejection And How To Deal With It

I really take comfort in knowing that nobody like to be rejected. It hurts and can also be quite a blow to the old self esteem. But getting rejected in connection with dating is absolutely the worst kind of rejection because it touches us on such a personal level. It doesn't matter whether the rejection occurs while asking someone out on an initial date, or in the middle of a long term relationship. Rejection hurts. Period.

In fact, the "after effects" of being rejected, dumped or dissed (take your pick) by the opposite sex can linger around for years. I can still recall that lost, empty feeling I had as a teenager after my first girlfriend pushed the rejection button on our dating relationship of one week. I didn't even get a rejection letter. Sigh.

If you are a single Christian who has suffered rejection in your dating life, and has experienced accompanying depression and loneliness, be encouraged by considering the following:

Know That God Is Working It All For Your Good

You know, I hate it when people quote Bibles verses to me when I am going through a painful moment. Just shut up and be with me if you wish, but don't get preachy until I have time to process.

Anyway, I suppose most of you already know this wonderful promise from Romans 8:28. If we love God, He really will work everything (even rejection) for our good, even if it doesn't feel possible at the time.

By way of example, I can share stories of singles who were heartbroken because their girlfriends or boyfriends broke up with them. However, months later they were thanking God for having been rejected because had that not happened, they never would have met their present soulmates. It's really amazing how your Lord works, so just hang in there, okay?

Understand That Everyone Experiences Rejection.

Rejection is not something just poor little you has to suffer. The rejection bug infects all of us from time to time. That's just the way it is. If you have read the news recently, you'll see that even outwardly beautiful and famous people like Christine Brinkley and Jennifer Aniston suffer rejection. Even our dear Saviour, Jesus, suffered rejection by others (Isaiah 53:3).
If you are a single Christian who has suffered rejection in your dating life, and has experienced accompanying depression and loneliness, be encouraged by considering the following:

Know That God Is Working It All For Your Good

You know, I hate it when people quote Bibles verses to me when I am going through a painful moment. Just shut up and be with me if you wish, but don't get preachy until I have time to process.

Anyway, I suppose most of you already know this wonderful promise from Romans 8:28. If we love God, He really will work everything (even rejection) for our good, even if it doesn't feel possible at the time.

By way of example, I can share stories of singles who were heartbroken because their girlfriends or boyfriends broke up with them. However, months later they were thanking God for having been rejected because had that not happened, they never would have met their present soulmates. It's really amazing how your Lord works, so just hang in there, okay?

Understand That Everyone Experiences Rejection.

Rejection is not something just poor little you has to suffer. The rejection bug infects all of us from time to time. That's just the way it is. If you have read the news recently, you'll see that even outwardly beautiful and famous people like Christine Brinkley and Jennifer Aniston suffer rejection. Even our dear Saviour, Jesus, suffered rejection by others (Isaiah 53:3).

Learn From The Experience

None of us like to experience rejection. But when it does come, we should take the opportunity to take stock of what has just occured. You may never know all the whys, but let the following rejection hotline questions guide your own soul searching process:

* Will I allow rejection to make me a bitter person or will I look for the positives in my experience to build on in the future?

* Do I need to make any changes in my life physically, emotionally or spiritually?

* Can I forgive the person who rejected me?

Know Where Your Self Worth Comes From

It doesn't matter what others think of you. What a trap to base your self-esteem on that! It doesn't even matter what you think of yourself. The real issue is that our true worth comes from what God thinks about you. The true fact is He loved you enough to die for you, and considers you very valuable (Luke 12:7).
None of us like to experience rejection. But when it does come, we should take the opportunity to take stock of what has just occured. You may never know all the whys, but let the following rejection hotline questions guide your own soul searching process:

* Will I allow rejection to make me a bitter person or will I look for the positives in my experience to build on in the future?

* Do I need to make any changes in my life physically, emotionally or spiritually?

* Can I forgive the person who rejected me?

Know Where Your Self Worth Comes From

It doesn't matter what others think of you. What a trap to base your self-esteem on that! It doesn't even matter what you think of yourself. The real issue is that our true worth comes from what God thinks about you. The true fact is He loved you enough to die for you, and considers you very valuable


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Honest Lovers Can Win

Homely women have been cornered in a culture that worships physical beauty. They have tried all paths in their search for an acceptable man and have not had a date in years. They have tried going out on blind dates, many of the guys were perfect for them but they never returned. There is no hope for these homely women ever finding a man and they have no choice but to accept final rejection. There is no fury like a woman that is scorned. Many women take alcohol or drugs to quiet the pain of their loneliness, others have swallowed a bottle of sleeping pills and said goodbye to a cruel world. The brave woman does not tear herself apart but becomes a prime fighter against her loneliness and finds other interests.

Men and women are not as compatible as is generally thought. Most single men find women useful only as a means to satisfy their sexual needs, but if the woman is the mother of his children she is needed for many other things. Women on the other hand need men for financial reasons and little else. It is surprising that so few men and women accept the fact that they are psychologically unfit for each other.


A heterosexual man will not date the most beautiful or intelligent women for more than a few times unless he is sexually rewarded. I have observed this fact to be true after witnessing thousands of breakups after the man was denied sexual satisfaction. Of cause there are exceptions to the rule but that does not alter my assertion. Most single men after being sexually satisfied find something else to do which leaves the woman alone. It is a rare man that hangs around a woman after she gave him what he was after. It is no different after watching a good movie. When it is over it is time to leave. A man who shares his children with a woman is bound by responsibility. His relationship to her is more complex but his psychological incompatibility remains. More than half of married couples break up before ten years of marriage. They wisely go their own ways. The others remain for financial security or other factors that rarely have anything to do with love.

A single woman spends a lot of her time searching for a husband. The type of husband she is looking for hopefully can give her the financial security she needs to live like a queen. There are not that many wealthy guys available so she compromises and accepts a middle income husband. After having a few children and working like a slave to rear them, she comes to the realization that she does not need him at all. With his child support payments and her job she can have a better lifestyle without his annoyance. After a long court battle for their assets she finally is rid of him. Her house is now her castle and she and the children are happier without him dictating to them. Her phone is now alive with divorcees that want to meet her for dinner or dancing. She is free at last and she will never return to the type of life she just gave up.

The homely women are no longer lonely. They have found lots of girlfriends and spend quality time with them. The community center is not far from their homes and is open all the time. The art classes have taught them how to paint in oils and they are there every evening. Board games are available and women love them. After hearing all the heartbreaking stories from the divorced and sometimes battered women at the center the homely women are happy that they never got involved with a man. It comes to their mind that their homeliness might have served as a blessing.

There is nothing evil about a single man that enjoys sex with a woman. Most men do, and it is programmed into their genes. Men seek out women for the sole purpose of having sexual pleasure. But due to the mindset of women men must not disclose this secret to anyone but trusted male friends. It is against a women’s financial interest to date a guy that is only focused on having sex with her. She wants a man that enjoys only expensive things, and places his sexual desires in a secondary position. Men have interests that are not hers and he does not need the company of a woman to share them.

Men and women should be honest with each other and disclose their real purpose in dating. But if they did they would never date. If a guy told a woman all he wanted from her is sexual pleasure she might slap him and walk away. That is why a man has to lie and tell her that he is interested in theatre and traveling---if he does a love session will soon follow. If a woman told the truth and said all she needs from the guy is financial security or a free vacation in Europe he will be insulted. It is obvious that some sort of give and take values have to be accepted if men and women will be able to get along.

There are sex toys available to women and they work perfectly. Woman that try them never give them up. There is no sexual advantage for a woman having a man. The dildo does a much better job. Men that ask women for a date should be ready to spend enough money to give the lady a great time. If they are broke they are absolutely useless to a woman with a sex toy.

I am a man and understand men’s needs. We all enjoy making love to attractive women. Some men are more fortunate and have a better sex life than others but we all get our hugs and kisses. I think it is wrong to lie to a woman about your real needs. Tell her the truth after you have taken her out nicely. If she thinks you are worth keeping you will get what you are after. Guys that are cheap or broke should stay out of the dating game. They are causing harm to women by their lies. Men and women can get along but only if they are honest with each other.
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Soul Mates, Twin Flames, & Your Love Life – Why You Can’t Always Get What You Want

We are convinced, based on our research, that everyone has many soul mates, not just one, and no soul mate connections are perfect.

There are many “experts” who say you can meet your “soul mate” simply by purchasing their love spell, following their plan, reading their book, attending their seminar, or praying to the right angels.

Most of these “experts” fail to acknowledge that you can’t just have what you want right now if it’s not meant to be. Instead, they pander to the instant gratification demands of the general public. Too many ignore the importance of getting to know yourself on all levels, discovering what you need to accomplish in this life, and other higher-minded values.

Promoting captivating half-truths and wishful thinking dressed up in sophisticated-sounding phrasing might fatten profits, as many “best-selling” New Age authors have found, but in the end it only serves to mislead and add to the massive New Age misinformation heap.

Sure, we appreciate inspiring and creative writing, especially when it’s grounded in truth instead of cozy escapism. When one simple idea is stretched into pages of wistful, much-about-nothing, long-winded prose, and one concise paragraph could have outlined the point, it just confuses the reader. Really, truth isn’t complicated, and you should be wary if you have to read a passage more than a few times to get its meaning.

We agree that the Universe (or God, or your Angels, or your Guides, or your Higher Self) does respond to questions as we’ve experienced the benefits of this countless times.

But as we’ve said before, we disagree that you can have something just because you want and ask for it, unless it’s part of your destined path, regardless of how much you heal yourself and regardless of how much energy and inspiration you direct toward your desire. There is no Santa Claus. If you could receive anything you wanted in this lifetime, you could just ask for and receive the winning lottery numbers or anything else, even if it didn’t match your destined path.

To avoid disappointment and wasting your time, it’s important to be your own Santa and not expect rewards from anyone or any power outside yourself just because you feel you’re entitled to them. You only get what you want if you've earned it, often times through past life, not current life, behavior and action. Just because you’ve been “good” in the recent past, doesn’t mean you'll be rewarded for that now.

Regarding twin souls or true equals, it’s debatable whether they really exist or if the concept is absolute New Age nonsense. If you’re referring to someone who is your most compatible match (which may or may not be a lasting, rewarding relationship connection, depending upon your personal love karma), then yes, we do feel everyone has soul mates who are more compatible than others. But if you’re hoping for your “other half,” someone who is a “perfect” match with whom you’ll have the ideal relationship, we must inform you that based on our research, we feel that concept is pure fiction and fantasy.

If you view love relationships as a means to fulfill an emptiness inside of you, or something that will give you all that you dream of emotionally, sexually, mentally, spiritually, or financially, you can be confident that your outlook on love is unbalanced and unrealistic. In time, you will be forced to face any feeling of lack you hoped to eliminate through connecting with another person.

Does that sound a little harsh to you? We would rather blatantly present our findings and our professional opinions than lead you down a primrose path of illusion like we see happen too often in today’s New Age marketplace.

Concerning love spells, we advise against them for two reasons. The first is that when you cast a spell, you are accessing and bringing forth energy that may not be for the highest good of all involved or that may even be dangerous if not used correctly. While Wicca spells, for example, can be very beneficial, we feel only those serious students of Wicca who understand what they are doing should dabble in spells. The second is that it’s not anyone’s right to manipulate another person, and sometimes love spells encourage this.

Also, we firmly believe, through years of observation, that karma overrides spells. In other words, someone might be able to “create” a life circumstance through worship or spell-casting, but it won’t last (and could possibly be harmful) if it isn’t harmonious with one’s karmic and fated plan.

We encourage you to learn to enjoy being independent and make the most of yourself on all levels now so you’re ready for the right person at the right time. We are also supportive of the idea that it’s necessary to know yourself and what you want in a relationship if you want to make the most of your love life. A simple question to whomever you pray such as “What’s my next step to improve myself and my love life?” can work wonders. Ask this as often as you need to for insight. With practice, you’ll find that asking before bed will often result in waking up with answers or awareness.

Ultimately, the only way to have an authentically happy love life is to stop looking outside yourself for love. Think about that.



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