Let’s assume for a minute that you have met a great girl and that you want more than a one-night-stand. You want to have a good time with
her because you want to develop a long-term relationship.
I believe that there isn’t a perfect general place for all first dates, just the perfect place for you and your future date. One where you have been with your ex date and it was great, could be a wrong choice for your date with another girl.
Make sure your first date will be a success choosing the right place. There are some rules and criteria that will help you to make the best
decision:
1. For your very first meeting it is suggested that you only make it brief but fun, inexpensive and relaxing.
2. Chose the place for the first date according your date's age and lifestyle. Maybe you don't know too much about the women you are going to
ask for a date, but you can make a clue about her, looking to how she is dressing and watching the type of people she is hanging around.
3. Particularly on a first date, you may wish to leave early, or so may they. An exit plan for both guys and girls is always useful.
4. Dates that will make you interact with the other person and share both your interests will not only teach you more about them, but also show
how compatible you actually are. Sporting events, concerts and picnics are great places for first dates. You can talk, and being outside,everything feels less claustrophobic. It's easy and relaxed and clothing usually isn't a problem
5. It makes a difference if you can find something that she will remember for a long time. If in your area is an event like circus, carnival,festival, don't miss it and you two will have more fun than at a coffee place that's for sure.
There wouldn't be any pressure; you’ll only have to enjoy the company.
6. If you are dating late in the evening make sure that you walk in places where your date is feeling safe. Don't forget that she does not know you very well and being alone with you in a place that is not public can make her feel insecure. It is normal!
By being unique and creative, you'll stand out among the other guys she's dated and she will want to be with you again.
http://www.articlefair.com/Article/6-Rules-to-Choose-the-Best-Place-for-the-First-Date/31771
Wednesday, August 22, 2007
How do You Get a Great Girl... and How Do You Keep Her?
How do You Get a Great Girl... and How Do You Keep Her? by Savoy, President and CEO of "The Mystery Method"
Guys don’t talk about this stuff. Sure maybe once in a while your best friend might tell you that you’re being too nice or your clothes are out of style, but we are not bombarded with information and advice on how to succeed with women. That’s normal. In general, men are valued, and value themselves, on their accomplishments. It’s different for women. In general, women are valued, or value themselves, on their relationships. You probably know this, but the implications are important. Have you ever heard women talking in great detail about their hair? Where they get it cut, how they get it cut, what shampoo, what conditioner, what highlights, it goes on and on. Not just about hair either, but about clothes, makeup, shoes, skin care, etc. For most of my life, I thought this meant women were unusually vain, superficial, and obsessed with minutia. Now look at it from a woman’s perspective. That stuff is pretty darn important. Even in today’s world, women are judged, especially by other women, on how they look and what kind of man they have. After a certain age, ranging from early 20s in small conservative towns to about 30 in some big cities, a single woman around her married or committed friends is an object of pity, even if they pretend to envy her to make her feel better. So women’s magazines focus on this: how to look good, how to find a man, how to get a man, how to keep a man. This doesn’t mean I endorse that view or see women that way, but as we often tell men on our weekend workshops - we didn’t make the world; we just live in it. So let’s talk about this world – the real world - as it pertains to dating Most people get their subconscious mental map of how dating works from movies and TV shows. These do not accurately portray reality. The audience wants the shy and lovable man to get the girl. In real life he goes home alone, while she goes to a party with the challenging man who has an edge to him. Most women do not know, or do not want to admit to themselves, what really attracts them, so their advice is not always helpful There are no magic bullets – no “pickup lines” or pheromones or other shortcuts. If you don’t intuitively understand the psychology behind dating, you either learn it or you hope for luck. Men rarely want to admit that are not completely successful with women. If a man approaches a woman at a bar and gets rejected, he comes back to his friends and says she was ugly up close or a bitch or any other excuse. This helps him not feel rejected, especially in front of his friends. However, the best thing he could have done would have been to divorce his ego from the process and then figure out why the rejection occurred. The ego issue is crucial – she wasn’t rejecting him, she was rejecting his approach. How could she possibly be rejecting him when she only talked to him for 30 seconds? He just needs to get better at those 30 seconds, then the next 30 seconds, then the 30 seconds after that, and so on. Then he can invest emotional energy in her. Well guess what? Starting with a few brave souls, there is a community of men who have been learning from each other what works and what doesn’t in the real world. A recent bestselling book, The Game, by Neil Strauss documented how he, as a shy and balding 30something man (5’6, 120lbs) became recognized as the world’s #1 Pickup Artist after working with the top experts in the field from Mystery Method, the premier dating coaching resource for men worldwide. It’s a trend. Your friends, your neighbors, your competition are all among the estimated 3 million men worldwide who have learned from one of these real world dating/seduction schools. It’s like better shampoo for women, except it has a far more dramatic impact, and still not everyone knows about it.Magic Bullets. 202-pages of step-by-step instructions, examples and stories for attracting beautiful women.
http://www.articlefair.com/Article/How-do-You-Get-a-Great-Girl----and-How-Do-You-Keep-Her-/31815
Guys don’t talk about this stuff. Sure maybe once in a while your best friend might tell you that you’re being too nice or your clothes are out of style, but we are not bombarded with information and advice on how to succeed with women. That’s normal. In general, men are valued, and value themselves, on their accomplishments. It’s different for women. In general, women are valued, or value themselves, on their relationships. You probably know this, but the implications are important. Have you ever heard women talking in great detail about their hair? Where they get it cut, how they get it cut, what shampoo, what conditioner, what highlights, it goes on and on. Not just about hair either, but about clothes, makeup, shoes, skin care, etc. For most of my life, I thought this meant women were unusually vain, superficial, and obsessed with minutia. Now look at it from a woman’s perspective. That stuff is pretty darn important. Even in today’s world, women are judged, especially by other women, on how they look and what kind of man they have. After a certain age, ranging from early 20s in small conservative towns to about 30 in some big cities, a single woman around her married or committed friends is an object of pity, even if they pretend to envy her to make her feel better. So women’s magazines focus on this: how to look good, how to find a man, how to get a man, how to keep a man. This doesn’t mean I endorse that view or see women that way, but as we often tell men on our weekend workshops - we didn’t make the world; we just live in it. So let’s talk about this world – the real world - as it pertains to dating Most people get their subconscious mental map of how dating works from movies and TV shows. These do not accurately portray reality. The audience wants the shy and lovable man to get the girl. In real life he goes home alone, while she goes to a party with the challenging man who has an edge to him. Most women do not know, or do not want to admit to themselves, what really attracts them, so their advice is not always helpful There are no magic bullets – no “pickup lines” or pheromones or other shortcuts. If you don’t intuitively understand the psychology behind dating, you either learn it or you hope for luck. Men rarely want to admit that are not completely successful with women. If a man approaches a woman at a bar and gets rejected, he comes back to his friends and says she was ugly up close or a bitch or any other excuse. This helps him not feel rejected, especially in front of his friends. However, the best thing he could have done would have been to divorce his ego from the process and then figure out why the rejection occurred. The ego issue is crucial – she wasn’t rejecting him, she was rejecting his approach. How could she possibly be rejecting him when she only talked to him for 30 seconds? He just needs to get better at those 30 seconds, then the next 30 seconds, then the 30 seconds after that, and so on. Then he can invest emotional energy in her. Well guess what? Starting with a few brave souls, there is a community of men who have been learning from each other what works and what doesn’t in the real world. A recent bestselling book, The Game, by Neil Strauss documented how he, as a shy and balding 30something man (5’6, 120lbs) became recognized as the world’s #1 Pickup Artist after working with the top experts in the field from Mystery Method, the premier dating coaching resource for men worldwide. It’s a trend. Your friends, your neighbors, your competition are all among the estimated 3 million men worldwide who have learned from one of these real world dating/seduction schools. It’s like better shampoo for women, except it has a far more dramatic impact, and still not everyone knows about it.Magic Bullets. 202-pages of step-by-step instructions, examples and stories for attracting beautiful women.
http://www.articlefair.com/Article/How-do-You-Get-a-Great-Girl----and-How-Do-You-Keep-Her-/31815
Pick-Up Artist Tips: Storytelling in Action on VH1
Okay guys, this is "Part II" of the storytelling newsletter.
In "Part I" we covered why storytelling is important and how it can improve your game dramatically.
Now that you are all excited to start using storytelling and understand why it is so powerful we are going to work on constructing your very own epics!
In "Part I" there were two things I asked of you
One was to create a list of 7-10 moments in your life worth sharing, and the other was to write down 5 things about your identity that you want people to know about you.
We are going to start out working with these things.
First lets take out the 7-10 story ideas and cut them down to 5 solid ideas, cross off ones that you think may not seem to interesting to other people or ones that were "you kind of had to be there" stories.
Now that you got 5 solid ideas down we are going to just focus on constructing 3 solid stories so you can go out and start using them immediately.
To narrow it down, reflect on these 5 stories, which ones do you have the most emotional connection too, which ones do you feel the most interested in sharing with other people and which ones do you think could captivate and relate to your audience.
For now, your main demographic with these stories is women, so focus on which ones you think a woman is more interested in hearing. (Any women can become interested in any story if delivered properly, but if you have a good story about you watching dirty videos and eating pizza, it may be better left for the guys)
Also feel free to ask your friends about which story subjects they would be more interested in hearing to help narrow it down to 3 solid concepts.
And of course I'm sure there were still some of you out there that were to modest to come up with 10 ideas and only got around three, so I guess that makes your job easier.
I said I would do this exercise along with you, however, critiquing all 3 of my stories will take too long so we are just going to use one of my story concepts and build it from the ground up through the techniques I show you.
Now I am going to try to discard all the information on storytelling that I know and jot this story down from scratch (This actually happened to me the other day, so I figure this is a prime example)
"So the other day I am at club voodoo with my friends and I am going around making some new friends and having a good time. Well this one guy somehow works his way into my group but then ends up not leaving us alone all night, and he was a really annoying person that you just don't want to talk to. He kept making every interaction in the club awkward and would not leave until he actually gets a hint and goes home."
Okay, pretty annoying story...I know, but we can turn this into something awesome.
First we need to understand the 3 components of a good story.
The first component, is "The Hook Question"
The object of the hook question is to make sure everyone in the group you are telling the story gets involved.
You use the hook question to captivate the group and the hook question is the line you deliver to introduce your story.
When using the hook question make sure you have the attention of EVERYONE in the group before you start going into the story, if one person is not paying attention and they tune in halfway through your story, they are going to have no idea what is going and potentially pull the entire group away.
Make eye contact and get a response or at least a nod from every member of the group before beginning your story.
There are two different types of hook questions.
An open ended hook question and a yes or no hook question.
I feel open ended hook question are better because it gets your audience more involved with the story you are about to tell, but a yes or no one is good cause it gets you right into the story.
So a possible open ended hook question for my story would be "How do you deal with people who you just want to leave you alone?"
A possible yes or no hook question would be "Have you ever been to club voodoo?"
So let's add this to the story... (Find a hook question for your example stories as well)
I like open ended hook questions more so to start my story in the interaction I would say
Me: "Hey guys...how do you deal with people when you just can't get them to leave you alone?!"
Group: "blah blah"
Me: "Yeah that's interesting so check this out...the other day I am at club voodoo...(rest of story)
Now that you have the hook question down, we are going to rewrite our stories to demonstrate aspects of identity because the next step is to demonstrate personality.
There are a number of ways of doing this but for now lets go to our list of 5 things that you want to convey in your identity. Try to fit as many into the story as you can.
My 5 things were:
I am a musician
I am a very social person
I have a high and fun energy
I have a good sense of humor
I am interested in video and photography
Now you want to try to at least fit 3 of your 5 things into the story, but if its awkward and seems out of place then just get at least 1 or 2 in. You need one though, but the very manner you deliver the story may convey a lot about yourself.
Other ways to convey personality is to act out your characters. Bring them to life in your stories.
Another important aspect to expressing personality in your stories is by speeding up your voice during moments of excitement and slowing it down during more intense moments to create tension.
You should always have tension build up to excitement or your audience will have a feeling of lack of resolution but that is the last component of a story that I will get into shortly.
Speeding up, pauses, and slowing your voice down is hard for me to sow you through a newsletter, but when you recite your stories out loud you will gain a natural since of where each belongs and will improve through reactions with your audience.
So now I am going to rewrite my story as it stands to convey my personality...
Me: "Hey guys...how do you deal with people when you just caaaaannt (exaggerated can't to show frustration with the situation and convey more personality) get them to leave you alone?!"
Group: "blah blah"
Me: "Yeah that's interesting so check this out...the other day I am at club voodoo and I walk in with a group of my friends and random people we met on the way (social) and there is a decent amount of people in the club, we are all having a great time (fun) and meeting lots of cool new people (social).
Well this one guy somehow works his into my "group" (putting finger quotes around it) and he just has this vibe. Like he is so out of place, he was walking around with a Harley Davison Motorcycle hat on and like this tainted banana colored polo (Painting this scene gets them laughing and displays humor and some understand of social norms and fashion.)
So my friends and I keep trying to away from him but he just won't back down, he would just follow us everywhere we went, buzzing around like a mosquito..(pause)..with a really bad taste in clothing (humor)...you would think he could get the hint when we were practically jogging away (act out slight jogging motion).
Eventually he finally goes away and we start to have a fun night again.
As you can see, the story starts to build up but it has no resolution, it just kind of ends.
The last component of story is the punch line. A punch line is often used for humor and ties up the story. Its biggest importance is to let the audience know it's over. It can be one line or much more...
To successfully deliver the punch line to your story, you need to create a dramatic build up by slowing down your words and then once the comic relief or resolution comes, you speed the conversation back up.
The punch line can be a small extension of the story to bring further resolution to the issue. This is where you can get creative and give some lamer stories a much cooler ending.
The actual ending to my story involves the creepy guy going into the bathroom, some guy that was annoyed by him jokingly bumping into him while the creepy was using the urinal, and the creepy guy pissed on the front of his pants, got embarrassed and left.
Now, first off, it was kind of rude on that one guy's part and I don't want to associate myself with friends like that. Also...a guy pissing on himself is an odd thing to share during the initial interaction.
So I am going to do a little story morphing by combining a similar, less gross incident that happened that night.
Nothing wrong with changing up some incidents if it makes things more entertaining...after all...it's a "STORY"
So the updated story with the new punch line now goes:
Me: "Hey guys...how do you deal with people when you just caaaaannt get them to leave you alone?!"
Group: "blah blah"
Me: "Yeah that's interesting so check this out...the other day I am at Club Voodoo and I walk in with a group of my friends and random people we met on the way and there is a decent amount of people in the club, we are all having a great time and meeting lots of cool new people. Well this one guy somehow works his into my "group" and he just has this vibe. Like he is so out of place, he was walking around with a Harley Davison Motorcycle hat on and like this tainted banana colored polo. So my friends and I keep trying to avoid him but he just won't back down, he would just follow us everywhere we went, buzzing around like a mosquito...with a really bad taste in clothing...you would think he could get the hint when we were practically jogging away. Anyway...my friends and I get away from him and are on the top floor and we make a super tall pyramid out of energy drink cans. (Illustrate structure with arms). Then all of a sudden, the creepy guy weasels his way onto the floor and sits down at our table...and like a jackass he tries to add a can to the structure. (Start slowing things down for the punch line) Little did he know...that although the Red Bull on the top of the structure was opened...it was full...so this guy tries to add his can to the top then BAM!...................the whole structure falls right into his lap and the filled soda can pours all over his crotch! It looked like he wet his pants! His face turns beat red and he just runs downstairs and we assume he left the club cause we didn't see him again...I don't know what the big deal is...I thought it was hilarious! (Final punch line, they know the story is over)
Now if you have done these three steps to your stories, you got some great stuff on your hands.
HOWEVER....there is still a few more sprinkles you are going to want to add to your story sunday.
These things are the secret little tips of successful storytelling.
The first and most important is creating check in points.
Check in points are mini questions you throw into your story throughout to make sure you have the audiences full attention. It gets them more involved.
Examples are "That ever happen to you?" "Don't you hate when that happens?" "You know what I mean?"
Just make sure they are not obvious and sounding like you are taking time out for them to go into detail about your check in point question.
Another good way to check in is to compare aspects of your story to the current situation you are in. ex. "Kind of like that over there" "Reminds me of her (point to person)."
You should at least have two check in points near the start and in the middle. If you are doing everything right, your audience will be captivated and waiting for the build up of the punch line so you won't need one near the end.
If you start to see someone looking away, throw one out to regain focus.
An example in a passage of my story would be:
"Like he is so out of place, he was walking around with a Harley Davison Motorcycle hat on and like this tainted banana colored polo. You know when someone is clearly just lost and not sure what he or she is doing....kind of like that guy over there (point to someone similar)."
You don't always need a full response with your check in points. A nod is perfectly okay when regaining focus of the audience.
http://www.articlefair.com/Article/Pick-Up-Artist-Tips--Storytelling-in-Action-on-VH1/31693
In "Part I" we covered why storytelling is important and how it can improve your game dramatically.
Now that you are all excited to start using storytelling and understand why it is so powerful we are going to work on constructing your very own epics!
In "Part I" there were two things I asked of you
One was to create a list of 7-10 moments in your life worth sharing, and the other was to write down 5 things about your identity that you want people to know about you.
We are going to start out working with these things.
First lets take out the 7-10 story ideas and cut them down to 5 solid ideas, cross off ones that you think may not seem to interesting to other people or ones that were "you kind of had to be there" stories.
Now that you got 5 solid ideas down we are going to just focus on constructing 3 solid stories so you can go out and start using them immediately.
To narrow it down, reflect on these 5 stories, which ones do you have the most emotional connection too, which ones do you feel the most interested in sharing with other people and which ones do you think could captivate and relate to your audience.
For now, your main demographic with these stories is women, so focus on which ones you think a woman is more interested in hearing. (Any women can become interested in any story if delivered properly, but if you have a good story about you watching dirty videos and eating pizza, it may be better left for the guys)
Also feel free to ask your friends about which story subjects they would be more interested in hearing to help narrow it down to 3 solid concepts.
And of course I'm sure there were still some of you out there that were to modest to come up with 10 ideas and only got around three, so I guess that makes your job easier.
I said I would do this exercise along with you, however, critiquing all 3 of my stories will take too long so we are just going to use one of my story concepts and build it from the ground up through the techniques I show you.
Now I am going to try to discard all the information on storytelling that I know and jot this story down from scratch (This actually happened to me the other day, so I figure this is a prime example)
"So the other day I am at club voodoo with my friends and I am going around making some new friends and having a good time. Well this one guy somehow works his way into my group but then ends up not leaving us alone all night, and he was a really annoying person that you just don't want to talk to. He kept making every interaction in the club awkward and would not leave until he actually gets a hint and goes home."
Okay, pretty annoying story...I know, but we can turn this into something awesome.
First we need to understand the 3 components of a good story.
The first component, is "The Hook Question"
The object of the hook question is to make sure everyone in the group you are telling the story gets involved.
You use the hook question to captivate the group and the hook question is the line you deliver to introduce your story.
When using the hook question make sure you have the attention of EVERYONE in the group before you start going into the story, if one person is not paying attention and they tune in halfway through your story, they are going to have no idea what is going and potentially pull the entire group away.
Make eye contact and get a response or at least a nod from every member of the group before beginning your story.
There are two different types of hook questions.
An open ended hook question and a yes or no hook question.
I feel open ended hook question are better because it gets your audience more involved with the story you are about to tell, but a yes or no one is good cause it gets you right into the story.
So a possible open ended hook question for my story would be "How do you deal with people who you just want to leave you alone?"
A possible yes or no hook question would be "Have you ever been to club voodoo?"
So let's add this to the story... (Find a hook question for your example stories as well)
I like open ended hook questions more so to start my story in the interaction I would say
Me: "Hey guys...how do you deal with people when you just can't get them to leave you alone?!"
Group: "blah blah"
Me: "Yeah that's interesting so check this out...the other day I am at club voodoo...(rest of story)
Now that you have the hook question down, we are going to rewrite our stories to demonstrate aspects of identity because the next step is to demonstrate personality.
There are a number of ways of doing this but for now lets go to our list of 5 things that you want to convey in your identity. Try to fit as many into the story as you can.
My 5 things were:
I am a musician
I am a very social person
I have a high and fun energy
I have a good sense of humor
I am interested in video and photography
Now you want to try to at least fit 3 of your 5 things into the story, but if its awkward and seems out of place then just get at least 1 or 2 in. You need one though, but the very manner you deliver the story may convey a lot about yourself.
Other ways to convey personality is to act out your characters. Bring them to life in your stories.
Another important aspect to expressing personality in your stories is by speeding up your voice during moments of excitement and slowing it down during more intense moments to create tension.
You should always have tension build up to excitement or your audience will have a feeling of lack of resolution but that is the last component of a story that I will get into shortly.
Speeding up, pauses, and slowing your voice down is hard for me to sow you through a newsletter, but when you recite your stories out loud you will gain a natural since of where each belongs and will improve through reactions with your audience.
So now I am going to rewrite my story as it stands to convey my personality...
Me: "Hey guys...how do you deal with people when you just caaaaannt (exaggerated can't to show frustration with the situation and convey more personality) get them to leave you alone?!"
Group: "blah blah"
Me: "Yeah that's interesting so check this out...the other day I am at club voodoo and I walk in with a group of my friends and random people we met on the way (social) and there is a decent amount of people in the club, we are all having a great time (fun) and meeting lots of cool new people (social).
Well this one guy somehow works his into my "group" (putting finger quotes around it) and he just has this vibe. Like he is so out of place, he was walking around with a Harley Davison Motorcycle hat on and like this tainted banana colored polo (Painting this scene gets them laughing and displays humor and some understand of social norms and fashion.)
So my friends and I keep trying to away from him but he just won't back down, he would just follow us everywhere we went, buzzing around like a mosquito..(pause)..with a really bad taste in clothing (humor)...you would think he could get the hint when we were practically jogging away (act out slight jogging motion).
Eventually he finally goes away and we start to have a fun night again.
As you can see, the story starts to build up but it has no resolution, it just kind of ends.
The last component of story is the punch line. A punch line is often used for humor and ties up the story. Its biggest importance is to let the audience know it's over. It can be one line or much more...
To successfully deliver the punch line to your story, you need to create a dramatic build up by slowing down your words and then once the comic relief or resolution comes, you speed the conversation back up.
The punch line can be a small extension of the story to bring further resolution to the issue. This is where you can get creative and give some lamer stories a much cooler ending.
The actual ending to my story involves the creepy guy going into the bathroom, some guy that was annoyed by him jokingly bumping into him while the creepy was using the urinal, and the creepy guy pissed on the front of his pants, got embarrassed and left.
Now, first off, it was kind of rude on that one guy's part and I don't want to associate myself with friends like that. Also...a guy pissing on himself is an odd thing to share during the initial interaction.
So I am going to do a little story morphing by combining a similar, less gross incident that happened that night.
Nothing wrong with changing up some incidents if it makes things more entertaining...after all...it's a "STORY"
So the updated story with the new punch line now goes:
Me: "Hey guys...how do you deal with people when you just caaaaannt get them to leave you alone?!"
Group: "blah blah"
Me: "Yeah that's interesting so check this out...the other day I am at Club Voodoo and I walk in with a group of my friends and random people we met on the way and there is a decent amount of people in the club, we are all having a great time and meeting lots of cool new people. Well this one guy somehow works his into my "group" and he just has this vibe. Like he is so out of place, he was walking around with a Harley Davison Motorcycle hat on and like this tainted banana colored polo. So my friends and I keep trying to avoid him but he just won't back down, he would just follow us everywhere we went, buzzing around like a mosquito...with a really bad taste in clothing...you would think he could get the hint when we were practically jogging away. Anyway...my friends and I get away from him and are on the top floor and we make a super tall pyramid out of energy drink cans. (Illustrate structure with arms). Then all of a sudden, the creepy guy weasels his way onto the floor and sits down at our table...and like a jackass he tries to add a can to the structure. (Start slowing things down for the punch line) Little did he know...that although the Red Bull on the top of the structure was opened...it was full...so this guy tries to add his can to the top then BAM!...................the whole structure falls right into his lap and the filled soda can pours all over his crotch! It looked like he wet his pants! His face turns beat red and he just runs downstairs and we assume he left the club cause we didn't see him again...I don't know what the big deal is...I thought it was hilarious! (Final punch line, they know the story is over)
Now if you have done these three steps to your stories, you got some great stuff on your hands.
HOWEVER....there is still a few more sprinkles you are going to want to add to your story sunday.
These things are the secret little tips of successful storytelling.
The first and most important is creating check in points.
Check in points are mini questions you throw into your story throughout to make sure you have the audiences full attention. It gets them more involved.
Examples are "That ever happen to you?" "Don't you hate when that happens?" "You know what I mean?"
Just make sure they are not obvious and sounding like you are taking time out for them to go into detail about your check in point question.
Another good way to check in is to compare aspects of your story to the current situation you are in. ex. "Kind of like that over there" "Reminds me of her (point to person)."
You should at least have two check in points near the start and in the middle. If you are doing everything right, your audience will be captivated and waiting for the build up of the punch line so you won't need one near the end.
If you start to see someone looking away, throw one out to regain focus.
An example in a passage of my story would be:
"Like he is so out of place, he was walking around with a Harley Davison Motorcycle hat on and like this tainted banana colored polo. You know when someone is clearly just lost and not sure what he or she is doing....kind of like that guy over there (point to someone similar)."
You don't always need a full response with your check in points. A nod is perfectly okay when regaining focus of the audience.
http://www.articlefair.com/Article/Pick-Up-Artist-Tips--Storytelling-in-Action-on-VH1/31693
Magic Bullets Handbook by Mystery REVIEW
We recently discovered a great book called "Magic Bullets" written by Savoy, CEO of Mystery Method. This company is no joke; the methods taught have been featured on ABC Primetime, The New York Times, and are the techniques used in a New York Times bestselling memoir. Savoy recently completed this fundamental instructional guide for guys who want to become dramatically more successful with women and dating.
We're really excited about it, because these days it's definitely not easy for a guy to find dating advice that works.
So what makes this book different than everything else out there?
Well, mainly the step-by-step easy to learn principles found inside.
You see, Savoy is a smart, educated regular guy. A regular guy who for the longest time, like so many others, couldn't figure out why he didn't have the success with women he wanted.
Several years ago, he made the decision in his life to do whatever it takes to get this whole "pickup" thing down, no matter what the cost.
Savoy met a bunch of these “pickup artists” where he started to learn the hidden secrets of the dating game that had been lost to him. He was surprised to find that many of these guys he was learning from weren't rich or handsome. In fact, several of them were down right broke and ugly! But they definitely had some kind of "conversation and presence power" that other guys didn't, and after hanging out with these guys for a while, Savoy started to figure out even more than them.
He got to a point in his life where he could walk into any bar or club and strike up interesting conversations and escalate into a physical connection extremely quickly.
In his book, Savoy explains this step-by-step process for meeting and attracting women. Once you know it and master it, you can attract any woman you want, any time you want. And you don't have to be rich or handsome to do it. Savoy has finally revealed the "secrets" and explains exactly why some guys "get all the chicks". More importantly, he explains how to develop yourself into the man that drive women wild, and why you don't have to be a bad boy or a jerk to be successful with women.
He covers specific strategies and techniques for starting conversations with women and women in groups with guys, getting their phone numbers and email addresses, inexpensive and cheap date ideas, eliminating flaking, establishing a strong emotional connection and how to take things to a "physical" level smoothly and easily.
Savoy writes an interesting piece on storytelling and how to captivate your audience in the right way. He gives you point by point to-do list so that any guy can make meeting and attracting women easier – tonight.
The techniques in the book are practical and easy to use, and you can start using what you learn right away.
We really cannot recommend this book enough. "Magic Bullets" is an essential must read for any man aspiring to be better with women, no matter where you're at in the dating game.
http://www.articlefair.com/Article/Magic-Bullets-Handbook-by-Mystery-REVIEW/31817
We're really excited about it, because these days it's definitely not easy for a guy to find dating advice that works.
So what makes this book different than everything else out there?
Well, mainly the step-by-step easy to learn principles found inside.
You see, Savoy is a smart, educated regular guy. A regular guy who for the longest time, like so many others, couldn't figure out why he didn't have the success with women he wanted.
Several years ago, he made the decision in his life to do whatever it takes to get this whole "pickup" thing down, no matter what the cost.
Savoy met a bunch of these “pickup artists” where he started to learn the hidden secrets of the dating game that had been lost to him. He was surprised to find that many of these guys he was learning from weren't rich or handsome. In fact, several of them were down right broke and ugly! But they definitely had some kind of "conversation and presence power" that other guys didn't, and after hanging out with these guys for a while, Savoy started to figure out even more than them.
He got to a point in his life where he could walk into any bar or club and strike up interesting conversations and escalate into a physical connection extremely quickly.
In his book, Savoy explains this step-by-step process for meeting and attracting women. Once you know it and master it, you can attract any woman you want, any time you want. And you don't have to be rich or handsome to do it. Savoy has finally revealed the "secrets" and explains exactly why some guys "get all the chicks". More importantly, he explains how to develop yourself into the man that drive women wild, and why you don't have to be a bad boy or a jerk to be successful with women.
He covers specific strategies and techniques for starting conversations with women and women in groups with guys, getting their phone numbers and email addresses, inexpensive and cheap date ideas, eliminating flaking, establishing a strong emotional connection and how to take things to a "physical" level smoothly and easily.
Savoy writes an interesting piece on storytelling and how to captivate your audience in the right way. He gives you point by point to-do list so that any guy can make meeting and attracting women easier – tonight.
The techniques in the book are practical and easy to use, and you can start using what you learn right away.
We really cannot recommend this book enough. "Magic Bullets" is an essential must read for any man aspiring to be better with women, no matter where you're at in the dating game.
http://www.articlefair.com/Article/Magic-Bullets-Handbook-by-Mystery-REVIEW/31817
Asian Playboy : Conveying Personality
Let’s get something straight, girls judge by looks. If you are NOT good looking, your only recourse is to have a hella tight VERBAL GAME.
Let’s get something straight, girls judge by looks. No ifs ands or buts about it, they simply do. They want someone tall, dark, and handsome with a huge cock. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH THIS. They ALSO want someone that can fill an emotional vacuum as well as PROVIDE THEM with an emotional stimulus.
Honestly, I wouldn’t want to be a chick because guys judge almost exclusively by ONE CRITERIA. Which is looks. Now girls, judge by TWO CRITERIA (well, actually more, but for the sake of simplicity…) which are looks and YOUR ABILITY TO AFFECT THEIR EMOTIONS. Or, in lay man’s terms, your “personality.”
In order to exude confidence, fun, cool, and a host of other emotions, you must CONVEY that you have all these personality traits. This can range from peacocking in wild, outlandish, cool clothes showing that you are fun and unconventional to the VERBAL GAME
IF you have VERBAL GAME, then you can convey your personality, show the girl who you are, as well as push all those attraction buttons in a girl.
Some key elements of VERBAL GAME:
PROJECTION - If you cannot PROJECT and be VOCAL above the loud noise, sounding confident and engaging the group, then you are not conveying your personality. They cannot HEAR you and thusly will judge you simply on looks.
STORY TELLING - Girls communicate by story telling. They are emotional beings. Do not recite facts. Do not ask inane questions, but CONVEY YOUR PERSONALITY by telling multiple stories from your life that range from the funny, to the exciting, to the vulnerable. Role playing, future projection, and just being damn funny. Singing. Yes, I said singing.
KINO - Girls affect others (male & female) by touch. They know they can affect a man’s emotions and state by touching you. This also applies vice versa. You CAN touch girls without fear. You CAN caress them without fear. You CAN push them around without fear. You CAN kiss them without fear. BECAUSE GIRLS ENJOY KINO AND THEY ENJOY YOUR TOUCH.
SEXUAL STATE - By being in a sexual state, by being WILLING to phase shift into a sexual state and force HER into a sexual state, you are CONVEYING that you are a SEXUAL MAN. You WANT her and SHE wants you. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH THIS.
ENERGY - This is ESSENTIAL for interrupting large sets AND mixed sets. You must be willing to EXUDE and GIVE your energy to others. You must ENJOY the process of partying, sarging, and socializing with total strangers and NOT GIVE A SHIT.
PHYSICAL SPACE - Physical space is AN ILLUSION. You can invade her physical space, get closer to her, and FORCE her to look at you. On the flip side, you can act INDIFFERENT and make her insecure in her ability to attract YOU because you are keeping a certain amount of physical space.
INTERACTION - This is mostly for those who are heavily routine dependent. If you are simply reciting routine after routine, the girl will feel LESS INVESTED in the moment. You must PULL HER IN and interact with her.
FRAME CONTROL - You MUST control the frame, whatever that may be. You can treat her as a CHILD and she MUST accept it. She will be PULLED into YOUR reality and be fully concentrated on YOU. You cannot let HER control the frame or otherwise she will have NO EMOTIONAL CONNECTION WITH YOU.
QUALIFICATION - You MUST qualify her in order to create and maintain an emotional connection with her. Otherwise you will come off as either an ENTERTAINMENT, DANCING MONKEY or a PLAYER who simply takes her number and leaves, leaving her feeling cold, used, and impersonal. You MUST state at some point what about HER that YOU like. DIRECT GAME depends on this the MOST (ie You are BEAUTIFUL and I’d like to get to KNOW you better).
BODY LANGUAGE - While this is not exclusively VERBAL, the fact is, your body language SUBCOMMUNCIATES to others what YOUR status and value is. If you LOOK like you are uncomfortable in a social setting, your value, coolness, and overall personality GOES DOWN. If you LOOK and ACT like someone COMFORTABLE in his skin, then your value goes up. This can include the way you hold yourself, react to girls touching and talking with you, to dancing.
If you are NOT good looking, your only recourse is to have a hella tight VERBAL GAME. Mysterious, brooding, silent and sexy only works for Naturals who ARE naturally good looking and can get away without any kind of game.
So, to make a long story short, if you are NOT good looking (8 and above), then you MUST convey your personality to a girl in order for HER to find YOU attractive beyond just the physical aspects. You can think of yourself as the most fun, exciting, intellectual, sensitive guy, but if you cannot CONVEY it, if you are some wallflower that sticks to the shadows, then you cannot DEPLOY your verbal game and CREATE the attraction in her. Then you are depending on LUCK and HOPING that she somehow magically SEES those amazing aspects of you based on no observational, supporting data.
http://www.articlefair.com/Article/Asian-Playboy---Conveying-Personality/32429
Let’s get something straight, girls judge by looks. No ifs ands or buts about it, they simply do. They want someone tall, dark, and handsome with a huge cock. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH THIS. They ALSO want someone that can fill an emotional vacuum as well as PROVIDE THEM with an emotional stimulus.
Honestly, I wouldn’t want to be a chick because guys judge almost exclusively by ONE CRITERIA. Which is looks. Now girls, judge by TWO CRITERIA (well, actually more, but for the sake of simplicity…) which are looks and YOUR ABILITY TO AFFECT THEIR EMOTIONS. Or, in lay man’s terms, your “personality.”
In order to exude confidence, fun, cool, and a host of other emotions, you must CONVEY that you have all these personality traits. This can range from peacocking in wild, outlandish, cool clothes showing that you are fun and unconventional to the VERBAL GAME
IF you have VERBAL GAME, then you can convey your personality, show the girl who you are, as well as push all those attraction buttons in a girl.
Some key elements of VERBAL GAME:
PROJECTION - If you cannot PROJECT and be VOCAL above the loud noise, sounding confident and engaging the group, then you are not conveying your personality. They cannot HEAR you and thusly will judge you simply on looks.
STORY TELLING - Girls communicate by story telling. They are emotional beings. Do not recite facts. Do not ask inane questions, but CONVEY YOUR PERSONALITY by telling multiple stories from your life that range from the funny, to the exciting, to the vulnerable. Role playing, future projection, and just being damn funny. Singing. Yes, I said singing.
KINO - Girls affect others (male & female) by touch. They know they can affect a man’s emotions and state by touching you. This also applies vice versa. You CAN touch girls without fear. You CAN caress them without fear. You CAN push them around without fear. You CAN kiss them without fear. BECAUSE GIRLS ENJOY KINO AND THEY ENJOY YOUR TOUCH.
SEXUAL STATE - By being in a sexual state, by being WILLING to phase shift into a sexual state and force HER into a sexual state, you are CONVEYING that you are a SEXUAL MAN. You WANT her and SHE wants you. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH THIS.
ENERGY - This is ESSENTIAL for interrupting large sets AND mixed sets. You must be willing to EXUDE and GIVE your energy to others. You must ENJOY the process of partying, sarging, and socializing with total strangers and NOT GIVE A SHIT.
PHYSICAL SPACE - Physical space is AN ILLUSION. You can invade her physical space, get closer to her, and FORCE her to look at you. On the flip side, you can act INDIFFERENT and make her insecure in her ability to attract YOU because you are keeping a certain amount of physical space.
INTERACTION - This is mostly for those who are heavily routine dependent. If you are simply reciting routine after routine, the girl will feel LESS INVESTED in the moment. You must PULL HER IN and interact with her.
FRAME CONTROL - You MUST control the frame, whatever that may be. You can treat her as a CHILD and she MUST accept it. She will be PULLED into YOUR reality and be fully concentrated on YOU. You cannot let HER control the frame or otherwise she will have NO EMOTIONAL CONNECTION WITH YOU.
QUALIFICATION - You MUST qualify her in order to create and maintain an emotional connection with her. Otherwise you will come off as either an ENTERTAINMENT, DANCING MONKEY or a PLAYER who simply takes her number and leaves, leaving her feeling cold, used, and impersonal. You MUST state at some point what about HER that YOU like. DIRECT GAME depends on this the MOST (ie You are BEAUTIFUL and I’d like to get to KNOW you better).
BODY LANGUAGE - While this is not exclusively VERBAL, the fact is, your body language SUBCOMMUNCIATES to others what YOUR status and value is. If you LOOK like you are uncomfortable in a social setting, your value, coolness, and overall personality GOES DOWN. If you LOOK and ACT like someone COMFORTABLE in his skin, then your value goes up. This can include the way you hold yourself, react to girls touching and talking with you, to dancing.
If you are NOT good looking, your only recourse is to have a hella tight VERBAL GAME. Mysterious, brooding, silent and sexy only works for Naturals who ARE naturally good looking and can get away without any kind of game.
So, to make a long story short, if you are NOT good looking (8 and above), then you MUST convey your personality to a girl in order for HER to find YOU attractive beyond just the physical aspects. You can think of yourself as the most fun, exciting, intellectual, sensitive guy, but if you cannot CONVEY it, if you are some wallflower that sticks to the shadows, then you cannot DEPLOY your verbal game and CREATE the attraction in her. Then you are depending on LUCK and HOPING that she somehow magically SEES those amazing aspects of you based on no observational, supporting data.
http://www.articlefair.com/Article/Asian-Playboy---Conveying-Personality/32429
What Women Think When Are Reading Your Online Profiles?
The biggest "quality" of men is their commodity,am I right? And when they are online they want to relax and are forgetting to be efficient. They only want to stay there, in front of the computer and wait for women to make the first step. Even worse, they don’t bother to completely fill their profiles or just spill out a few words. Are you one of these types?
So let’s see what women believe when they are reading your online profile. The frequent sentences what you can find in men’s profiles are:
-"Just contact me and you won’t regret." and now what she thinks when she’s reading this: "What???Next!!!"
-"I am the best and I am waiting for you." she thinks "Yeah sure, next!"
-"Who wants to know more about me just ask." or "If you want me just try your chance." she thinks "Why I would like to know more about you? You are nobody to me." The problem is that you are not giving her any reason, any impulse to contact YOU.
She is browsing profiles, why should she stop from doing that? - "You will find more about me later." she is thinking "Really? Just wait for me!
Next."
The key of attracting attention to a woman is to talk about her. You can do this from the very beginning by making a profile that is addressed to HER.
So be specific saying what you are really looking for. Say the things that are most important for you, the area where you would like to live with
your next girlfriend, the age etc. Writing something like: "I am a serious guy, looking for a blond haired woman, living in Pennsylvania, aged 30 - 42 years. I love children so it doesn’t bother me if you are a mother." you will make all the difference. All women that accomplish these criteria will stop browsing another profiles thinking: "Wow, he is looking for me. I am the
best for him". You can say something about you too, but something positive and interesting. Something that would make her STOP searching. "I want three things in my life: to love, to be loved and a real family." Keep in mind that it is more important what you are looking for than who you are. It is sad but true (excepting if you are a doomy, alcoholic, unclean, crazy guy).
So, improve your profile today if you want a full of messages inbox, tomorrow!
http://www.articlefair.com/Article/What-Women-Think-When-Are-Reading-Your-Online-Profiles-/32120
So let’s see what women believe when they are reading your online profile. The frequent sentences what you can find in men’s profiles are:
-"Just contact me and you won’t regret." and now what she thinks when she’s reading this: "What???Next!!!"
-"I am the best and I am waiting for you." she thinks "Yeah sure, next!"
-"Who wants to know more about me just ask." or "If you want me just try your chance." she thinks "Why I would like to know more about you? You are nobody to me." The problem is that you are not giving her any reason, any impulse to contact YOU.
She is browsing profiles, why should she stop from doing that? - "You will find more about me later." she is thinking "Really? Just wait for me!
Next."
The key of attracting attention to a woman is to talk about her. You can do this from the very beginning by making a profile that is addressed to HER.
So be specific saying what you are really looking for. Say the things that are most important for you, the area where you would like to live with
your next girlfriend, the age etc. Writing something like: "I am a serious guy, looking for a blond haired woman, living in Pennsylvania, aged 30 - 42 years. I love children so it doesn’t bother me if you are a mother." you will make all the difference. All women that accomplish these criteria will stop browsing another profiles thinking: "Wow, he is looking for me. I am the
best for him". You can say something about you too, but something positive and interesting. Something that would make her STOP searching. "I want three things in my life: to love, to be loved and a real family." Keep in mind that it is more important what you are looking for than who you are. It is sad but true (excepting if you are a doomy, alcoholic, unclean, crazy guy).
So, improve your profile today if you want a full of messages inbox, tomorrow!
http://www.articlefair.com/Article/What-Women-Think-When-Are-Reading-Your-Online-Profiles-/32120
Fun Florida Dating and Matchmaking with MateMakers.com
Aren’t we all looking for that honest, fun-loving, spontaneous partner, who can take a chance on love and life? Can’t seem to find that special someone? Well…Cupid is now working his magic on the internet; all you need to do is dare to try!
Using the internet to find nearby singles for dating in Florida has never been faster or easier! MateMakers.com welcomes you to Florida’s easiest, most enjoyable way to meet other singles. In a short span of time you can mingle with other eligible Florida singles, and decide who you want to see again. So why waste time with blind dates? Try online Florida dating, and know each other before you go out.
MateMakers.com is a safe and easy-to-use website that enhances your chance of dating success in Florida. Whether you are looking for serious relationships, friendship, girlfriend, boyfriend, lover or even pen pals, you’re sure to find it here. The website strives to introduce like-minded people whether interested in sports, cultural events or social activities, and singles who want to add romance to their lives. Join MateMakers.com, meet local singles, and start having the kind of first dates that lead to second dates... and beyond.
With new members joining everyday, MateMakers continues to grow as an online dating community that has new and fresh personals looking to meet people just like you! Upload a quality photo and you’re all set to join a bunch of interesting people from Florida and around the world. You may browse by any of the four categories offered or conduct an advanced search by listing the qualities you would like your partner to have. MateMakers is committed to treat this process of finding dates, and matchmaking with mutual trust, reputability, and effectiveness.
Florida has thousands of singles looking for love, and you can find your match today! Become a member and create your profile on MateMakers.com with that you’ll be on your way to a fun, exciting and productive way to meet quality matches. All you have to do is relax and have fun. You really have nothing to lose…except for your single life!
If you’re still not sure about taking the plunge, read the success stories of couples who came together, all thanks to this online Florida dating service. These thank you notes will remove any traces of doubt in your mind about trying MateMakers . So sign up today and start dating and chatting the Florida way!
Communication here is easy and fun too! An in-house messenger allows you to send a message to someone in real-time. To enhance your online dating experience, go through the free online dating and safety tips. Access new dating advice, relationship advice or dating tips article every month, and also find answers to frequently asked questions.
Florida has thousands of singles looking for love, and you can find your match today! Become a member and create your profile on MateMakers.com with that you’ll be on your way to a fun, exciting and productive way to meet quality matches. All you have to do is relax and have fun. You really have nothing to lose…except for your single life!
http://www.articlefair.com/Article/Fun-Florida-Dating-and-Matchmaking-with-MateMakers-com/32109
Using the internet to find nearby singles for dating in Florida has never been faster or easier! MateMakers.com welcomes you to Florida’s easiest, most enjoyable way to meet other singles. In a short span of time you can mingle with other eligible Florida singles, and decide who you want to see again. So why waste time with blind dates? Try online Florida dating, and know each other before you go out.
MateMakers.com is a safe and easy-to-use website that enhances your chance of dating success in Florida. Whether you are looking for serious relationships, friendship, girlfriend, boyfriend, lover or even pen pals, you’re sure to find it here. The website strives to introduce like-minded people whether interested in sports, cultural events or social activities, and singles who want to add romance to their lives. Join MateMakers.com, meet local singles, and start having the kind of first dates that lead to second dates... and beyond.
With new members joining everyday, MateMakers continues to grow as an online dating community that has new and fresh personals looking to meet people just like you! Upload a quality photo and you’re all set to join a bunch of interesting people from Florida and around the world. You may browse by any of the four categories offered or conduct an advanced search by listing the qualities you would like your partner to have. MateMakers is committed to treat this process of finding dates, and matchmaking with mutual trust, reputability, and effectiveness.
Florida has thousands of singles looking for love, and you can find your match today! Become a member and create your profile on MateMakers.com with that you’ll be on your way to a fun, exciting and productive way to meet quality matches. All you have to do is relax and have fun. You really have nothing to lose…except for your single life!
If you’re still not sure about taking the plunge, read the success stories of couples who came together, all thanks to this online Florida dating service. These thank you notes will remove any traces of doubt in your mind about trying MateMakers . So sign up today and start dating and chatting the Florida way!
Communication here is easy and fun too! An in-house messenger allows you to send a message to someone in real-time. To enhance your online dating experience, go through the free online dating and safety tips. Access new dating advice, relationship advice or dating tips article every month, and also find answers to frequently asked questions.
Florida has thousands of singles looking for love, and you can find your match today! Become a member and create your profile on MateMakers.com with that you’ll be on your way to a fun, exciting and productive way to meet quality matches. All you have to do is relax and have fun. You really have nothing to lose…except for your single life!
http://www.articlefair.com/Article/Fun-Florida-Dating-and-Matchmaking-with-MateMakers-com/32109
Tips For Seducing A Woman
You must have felt many a times to rock in the rhythm of sexual action with your desired one but could not end up due to your lack of confidence and inappropriate way of approaching your woman. There are many people who browse through several pages of books or consult their friends about the exact way of seducing their partners. While some of them get satisfied in their pursuit others keep on searching for a secured solution that can help them in seducing a lady. Here is a bunch of solutions ready for you, which can definitely bring certain changes in your personal life. Within a few days you will be able to attract women and add more color to your life.
It is sure that your approach towards women should change for betterment of yourself. It is true to the fact that satisfaction would only come if you have a sincere relationship. Therefore you must develop some qualities within yourself so that you can become attractive to the world of women and become the most desired man for them.
Be sincere to the core of your heart and never get distracted by the complications of life. Whenever you meet your lover try to compliment her if she deserves; hollow compliment may earn misfortune for you. So, always try to act professionally. You cannot expect that all of your compliment would be valued by your woman and every time your praise her she would agree to pull off her dresses for you! Try to praise her real beauty – her natural eyes, smooth skin, intimate behavior, and sense of humor, intelligence and something in that same line. But, it is definitely true that too much compliment can put you in the basket of insincerity and can make you a butt of ridicule.
Pay heed to her words – you would find many interesting things about her likes and dislikes, hobbies, past times; you can easily use those information later and prove yourself how much you care for her. This would make a huge difference and would definitely earn big points for you. Do not interrupt her in the middle of her speech – allow her to tell you whatever she wishes to deliver. This is a sign of importance that you are paying her.
It is utterly important to be real with your girlfriend at any situation; do not try to exaggerate to establish you as a hero because ultimately the truth will come out one day and you would have to face the consequences of it. Once you tell her lie, be prepared to get back in multiplied proportion, so avoid telling lies for always. This is the surest way to earn faith for you and it would work in the long run too. It is better not to give her any advice if she does not really utter for it. If you do so, it would sound as if you are telling her to act according to your wish. So, be attentive to her words and support her in all circumstances. Never do anything desperately – let the things roll on naturally. Try not to interrupt her or force her to do any work that may ruin your relationship. It is because nobody in this world likes to get subdued by others.
Start conversation with fresh thoughts and never with stale incidents that had happened with you long ago. You should let the conversation start by your lover and gradually pave the way for you to say something of yourself. If you try to romanticize the conversation let her speak whatever she wishes to. But a long drawn silence would not work for you. If you try a little bit, you will definitely find something to talk about. When you are with your present girlfriend you would have make her realize that you love none other than her. This is the proper way to earn her heart for you. Do not stare unnecessarily at other young girls whenever you stay with your girlfriend; it is because your girlfriend wants complete attention from you. If you can show sign that you love her from your heart it will definitely kill the bird for you.
Treat her with due respect and do not call her back unless you have been together for a while. If she is a good woman she would not like to have sex in the first meet; be aware of that and behave accordingly. If you have settled your mind to play with her for one day; never mind to ask her to have sex at the first meet, otherwise not. Try to play with her emotion at the beginning of the relationship, and this is how you can get everything including several nights’ stay with her too. Talk and interact with her in such a way that she could not realize your intention of sleeping with her. You should, of course, value your money that you have spent for her but never try to reveal openly. Roll the incidents naturally and look for an opportunity to prove that you are worthy of her. If you can do so, she would definitely shed off her dresses for you very soon.
http://www.articlefair.com/Article/Tips-For-Seducing-A-Woman/32105
It is sure that your approach towards women should change for betterment of yourself. It is true to the fact that satisfaction would only come if you have a sincere relationship. Therefore you must develop some qualities within yourself so that you can become attractive to the world of women and become the most desired man for them.
Be sincere to the core of your heart and never get distracted by the complications of life. Whenever you meet your lover try to compliment her if she deserves; hollow compliment may earn misfortune for you. So, always try to act professionally. You cannot expect that all of your compliment would be valued by your woman and every time your praise her she would agree to pull off her dresses for you! Try to praise her real beauty – her natural eyes, smooth skin, intimate behavior, and sense of humor, intelligence and something in that same line. But, it is definitely true that too much compliment can put you in the basket of insincerity and can make you a butt of ridicule.
Pay heed to her words – you would find many interesting things about her likes and dislikes, hobbies, past times; you can easily use those information later and prove yourself how much you care for her. This would make a huge difference and would definitely earn big points for you. Do not interrupt her in the middle of her speech – allow her to tell you whatever she wishes to deliver. This is a sign of importance that you are paying her.
It is utterly important to be real with your girlfriend at any situation; do not try to exaggerate to establish you as a hero because ultimately the truth will come out one day and you would have to face the consequences of it. Once you tell her lie, be prepared to get back in multiplied proportion, so avoid telling lies for always. This is the surest way to earn faith for you and it would work in the long run too. It is better not to give her any advice if she does not really utter for it. If you do so, it would sound as if you are telling her to act according to your wish. So, be attentive to her words and support her in all circumstances. Never do anything desperately – let the things roll on naturally. Try not to interrupt her or force her to do any work that may ruin your relationship. It is because nobody in this world likes to get subdued by others.
Start conversation with fresh thoughts and never with stale incidents that had happened with you long ago. You should let the conversation start by your lover and gradually pave the way for you to say something of yourself. If you try to romanticize the conversation let her speak whatever she wishes to. But a long drawn silence would not work for you. If you try a little bit, you will definitely find something to talk about. When you are with your present girlfriend you would have make her realize that you love none other than her. This is the proper way to earn her heart for you. Do not stare unnecessarily at other young girls whenever you stay with your girlfriend; it is because your girlfriend wants complete attention from you. If you can show sign that you love her from your heart it will definitely kill the bird for you.
Treat her with due respect and do not call her back unless you have been together for a while. If she is a good woman she would not like to have sex in the first meet; be aware of that and behave accordingly. If you have settled your mind to play with her for one day; never mind to ask her to have sex at the first meet, otherwise not. Try to play with her emotion at the beginning of the relationship, and this is how you can get everything including several nights’ stay with her too. Talk and interact with her in such a way that she could not realize your intention of sleeping with her. You should, of course, value your money that you have spent for her but never try to reveal openly. Roll the incidents naturally and look for an opportunity to prove that you are worthy of her. If you can do so, she would definitely shed off her dresses for you very soon.
http://www.articlefair.com/Article/Tips-For-Seducing-A-Woman/32105
Tips For Overcoming Fear Of Rejection
Feeling humiliated? Hopeless? Wretched? … WHY??? … ‘Because she has not accepted my proposal’!!! What can I do now! I am devastated…
The mere fear of getting rejected often puts a large chunk of men in shell and the very thought of getting closer to a lady and asking her for going out on a date paralyses them. These sorts of inhibitions sometimes become so ridiculous that you end up regretting for the rest of your life. But you have to overcome your crippling fear, otherwise how can you enjoy the thrill of meeting and dating beautiful women?
‘It will lower my self-esteem’ – this is one of the prime reasons why men are so much afraid of rejection. A woman saying ‘no’ to you in the past does not indicate that you are the most disgusting creature in the world. Maybe she was engaged or married, perhaps she was not exactly in a mood to date or flirt, possibly she was too conservative to say ‘yes’ to a man instantly - the causes are as varied as they can be.
Remember, the taste and preferences vary from women to women. It is not necessary that you will be equally appealing to each and every woman. Maybe you are not the dream man of a plain Jane, but in the eyes of another gorgeous woman, you can turn out to be the guy with irresistible charm. So, the best solution is to approach several women and try your luck. Who knows who are going to click with whom and how! And the more you open up and meet people, the more you rise above your apprehensions.
‘You spot a lady at a park or bar and request her to go out for a date right away and then she refuses your proposal’ – this is not true rejection. So, you are not supposed to lose heart over this. But, if someone rejects you after spending substantial amount of time, then it can be labeled as true rejection. These refusals can sometimes become really painful, as she has snubbed you after knowing you well enough. But, you have to learn to get over of these situations too. Some men have said that if one becomes able to cope with the ultimate rejection, then the fear of refusal goes away completely from their minds. For them, approaching a new woman everyday becomes cakewalk.
If you don’t want to get rebuffed by a woman, you must know how to kick-start a conservation with a perfect stranger. Sexually suggestive pickup lines make most women pissed off. Exuding honesty and genuineness through conversations is essential. Otherwise, you may find yourself lamenting.
If overcoming the fear of rejections becomes too difficult for you, engage yourself into some other activities like concentrate more on your career, start reading a best seller or listen to some good music for a whole day.
Opting for a dancing or acting class is not a bad idea.
Read on books that act as good motivational force.
Tell yourself again and again that you possess all the qualities that make a woman turned on. Always try to think positives about yourself, because no one is going to fall in love with you if you lack faith in yourself.
Though it may sound a bit bitter, the truth is that you won’t succeed in the game everyday. Failures are part and parcel of our lives. Instead of being bogged down by disappointments, you have to learn to accept the reality. Failures are the stepping-stones to success. You must take them in your stride and get a cue on how to handle analogous circumstances in future.
You should be comfortable in dealing with uncertainties of life. That can bring you the true excitement in the adventure of dating and help you to come in terms with the negative responses from a girl.
Always keep yourself enlivened by uttering certain trigger phrases like ‘It’s now or never’ and ‘let me face it’ before approaching a woman. Try to remember how you have faced the challenges boldly in the past.
Take a few deep breathes before initiating the action. Take each action as a trial and tell yourself, ‘If I pass, it’s great and even if I don’t, there’s nothing to worry about, because I am not giving up easily and going for more such tests in future’.
Keeping other options open is certainly a good idea. Don’t get too much emotionally involved with any particular incident. Branch out your interests and possibilities as far as possible. Make your social calendar busy by scheduling meetings at regular intervals, so that little time remains left for feeling bad and the chance of getting your gal is kept wide-open.
After a few unsuccessful attempts, take a break and go out for a vacation. Thus, when you come back, you can approach more girls with a refreshed spirit.
Never blame your appearance or your personality after hearing a ‘NO’ and try to turn each ‘NO’ to a ‘NEXT’. Learn the necessity of moving on in life. Carry on refining your way of approaching various women, until you strike the right chord.
Giving up completely is a big no-no, instead be determined to make love bloom in your life. Bouncing back after each failure is the way of life.
Never be too self-conscious. Always put forward your actual self. Wear a ‘don’t care’ attitude.
You are always free to get in touch with a good counselor.
Take baby steps in developing future relationships.
Learn to read the body languages of the person. That will give you an idea whether she is going to dump you in near future.
Psychotherapists often advise people to put themselves intentionally into certain situations where they are bound to get rejected. This process has its positive aftereffects.
Be mentally strong, try to build up your level of confidence and always keep the competitive spirit alive. Being rejected once does not mean the end of the world.
So, what have you learnt? Are you seeing the world with a changed perspective or still having butterflies in your stomach? Don’t be afraid, just spring into the action…
http://www.articlefair.com/Article/Tips-For-Overcoming-Fear-Of-Rejection/32103
The mere fear of getting rejected often puts a large chunk of men in shell and the very thought of getting closer to a lady and asking her for going out on a date paralyses them. These sorts of inhibitions sometimes become so ridiculous that you end up regretting for the rest of your life. But you have to overcome your crippling fear, otherwise how can you enjoy the thrill of meeting and dating beautiful women?
‘It will lower my self-esteem’ – this is one of the prime reasons why men are so much afraid of rejection. A woman saying ‘no’ to you in the past does not indicate that you are the most disgusting creature in the world. Maybe she was engaged or married, perhaps she was not exactly in a mood to date or flirt, possibly she was too conservative to say ‘yes’ to a man instantly - the causes are as varied as they can be.
Remember, the taste and preferences vary from women to women. It is not necessary that you will be equally appealing to each and every woman. Maybe you are not the dream man of a plain Jane, but in the eyes of another gorgeous woman, you can turn out to be the guy with irresistible charm. So, the best solution is to approach several women and try your luck. Who knows who are going to click with whom and how! And the more you open up and meet people, the more you rise above your apprehensions.
‘You spot a lady at a park or bar and request her to go out for a date right away and then she refuses your proposal’ – this is not true rejection. So, you are not supposed to lose heart over this. But, if someone rejects you after spending substantial amount of time, then it can be labeled as true rejection. These refusals can sometimes become really painful, as she has snubbed you after knowing you well enough. But, you have to learn to get over of these situations too. Some men have said that if one becomes able to cope with the ultimate rejection, then the fear of refusal goes away completely from their minds. For them, approaching a new woman everyday becomes cakewalk.
If you don’t want to get rebuffed by a woman, you must know how to kick-start a conservation with a perfect stranger. Sexually suggestive pickup lines make most women pissed off. Exuding honesty and genuineness through conversations is essential. Otherwise, you may find yourself lamenting.
If overcoming the fear of rejections becomes too difficult for you, engage yourself into some other activities like concentrate more on your career, start reading a best seller or listen to some good music for a whole day.
Opting for a dancing or acting class is not a bad idea.
Read on books that act as good motivational force.
Tell yourself again and again that you possess all the qualities that make a woman turned on. Always try to think positives about yourself, because no one is going to fall in love with you if you lack faith in yourself.
Though it may sound a bit bitter, the truth is that you won’t succeed in the game everyday. Failures are part and parcel of our lives. Instead of being bogged down by disappointments, you have to learn to accept the reality. Failures are the stepping-stones to success. You must take them in your stride and get a cue on how to handle analogous circumstances in future.
You should be comfortable in dealing with uncertainties of life. That can bring you the true excitement in the adventure of dating and help you to come in terms with the negative responses from a girl.
Always keep yourself enlivened by uttering certain trigger phrases like ‘It’s now or never’ and ‘let me face it’ before approaching a woman. Try to remember how you have faced the challenges boldly in the past.
Take a few deep breathes before initiating the action. Take each action as a trial and tell yourself, ‘If I pass, it’s great and even if I don’t, there’s nothing to worry about, because I am not giving up easily and going for more such tests in future’.
Keeping other options open is certainly a good idea. Don’t get too much emotionally involved with any particular incident. Branch out your interests and possibilities as far as possible. Make your social calendar busy by scheduling meetings at regular intervals, so that little time remains left for feeling bad and the chance of getting your gal is kept wide-open.
After a few unsuccessful attempts, take a break and go out for a vacation. Thus, when you come back, you can approach more girls with a refreshed spirit.
Never blame your appearance or your personality after hearing a ‘NO’ and try to turn each ‘NO’ to a ‘NEXT’. Learn the necessity of moving on in life. Carry on refining your way of approaching various women, until you strike the right chord.
Giving up completely is a big no-no, instead be determined to make love bloom in your life. Bouncing back after each failure is the way of life.
Never be too self-conscious. Always put forward your actual self. Wear a ‘don’t care’ attitude.
You are always free to get in touch with a good counselor.
Take baby steps in developing future relationships.
Learn to read the body languages of the person. That will give you an idea whether she is going to dump you in near future.
Psychotherapists often advise people to put themselves intentionally into certain situations where they are bound to get rejected. This process has its positive aftereffects.
Be mentally strong, try to build up your level of confidence and always keep the competitive spirit alive. Being rejected once does not mean the end of the world.
So, what have you learnt? Are you seeing the world with a changed perspective or still having butterflies in your stomach? Don’t be afraid, just spring into the action…
http://www.articlefair.com/Article/Tips-For-Overcoming-Fear-Of-Rejection/32103
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