Maybe you just have met a great women, she is single, beautiful, and sexy and is deeply in love with you. She's perfect for you but... you are not her first love.
Can she love you more then she loved her first man? Was that guy better than you in bed? Does she think of him when is making love with you? These are the question which crosses your mind over and over again.
Many people think that the first love is most powerful in all life time. All of as have heard the words "you can never forget your first love". Is this true?
I have talked with four women, friends of mine about this subject. All of them are married with a different man than the one they have loved for the first time. I had a great surprise; all of them have told me almost the same things:
First love is mostly passion - second love is much deeper.
When a woman loves for the first time she thinks that that man is the only one on the earth and she has no choice, without him she is lost. When she loves for second time, she knows that there are a lot of other available men but she is CHOOSING to be with the one she loves, because he is the best for her.
First time a woman can love a guy for no reason, just because he was the first no matter how he is treating her. When she loves for the second time she is able to see his qualities and his personality, and love him for who he is.
Second time she loves with all her heart because she knows that he deserves her love. First love can be full of fear and insecurity. Fear can be a fuel for passion but is not a nice filling.
These are good news for guys in your situation, but I didn't answer yet to biggest question: Does she think at him when she is with you in bad?
This answer on this question is the opposite of the one of the next question: "Does she really love you?"
If she loves you she is enjoying every moment that you are together, every touch, every kiss. All that she is thinking is YOU!
It is true, you never forget your first love but over a time it become just like a story of someone else, hided in a corner of your mind.
So if you are the one she has chosen, be THE LOVE OF HER LIFE and forget about her first love. :)
You are the man of her life so enjoy it.
http://www.articleson.com/Article/Can-she-love-you-more-then-she-loved-him-/19628
Friday, November 16, 2007
The Biggest Advantage of Online Dating
All of us are looking to find someone to share the good and bed moments in our lives. But what we have to keep in mind is that our good or bed moments depends on our partners and how much we match with that person.
It is easy to talk yourself into staying with a person, because they are basically a good, decent human being. That is a start, but not always enough to hold a partnership together.
You need to realize, though, that your spouse is not going to be like you in every way. No one will ever be, thank God. But don't marry someone with whom you have a difference on one of yours or their non-compromisable issues.
Everyone has certain things that are important to them.
And ONLINE DATING can help you find the one whose priorities in life are the same with yours, the one whose differences are things that are magnetize you together, not driving you apart, your PERFECT MATCH.
By reading people's profiles closely, you can quickly weed out people whose interests, age, values, religion or whatever else doesn�t appeal to you. Ditto when posting your own profile: describing yourself honestly and being clear about your values and interests makes it more likely that someone compatible will write to you.
There's no question that everyone on the online dating sites is looking to meet someone and there are thousands of singles on this stage of online dating. You have a lot of possibilities to choose, to choose the one which is right for you.
Here you can meet people you wouldn't otherwise meet because your social and/or business circles don't intersect, or because you don't frequent the same places.
Why to waste every day of your life compromising or trying to change a person?
Online dating is one of those things that make me happy that I live in these days, not with years ago when people hadn�t any choices but compromising.
Enjoy of the online dating facilities and find that special person that is the best for you. :)
http://www.articleson.com/Article/The-Biggest-Advantage-of-Online-Dating/19905
It is easy to talk yourself into staying with a person, because they are basically a good, decent human being. That is a start, but not always enough to hold a partnership together.
You need to realize, though, that your spouse is not going to be like you in every way. No one will ever be, thank God. But don't marry someone with whom you have a difference on one of yours or their non-compromisable issues.
Everyone has certain things that are important to them.
And ONLINE DATING can help you find the one whose priorities in life are the same with yours, the one whose differences are things that are magnetize you together, not driving you apart, your PERFECT MATCH.
By reading people's profiles closely, you can quickly weed out people whose interests, age, values, religion or whatever else doesn�t appeal to you. Ditto when posting your own profile: describing yourself honestly and being clear about your values and interests makes it more likely that someone compatible will write to you.
There's no question that everyone on the online dating sites is looking to meet someone and there are thousands of singles on this stage of online dating. You have a lot of possibilities to choose, to choose the one which is right for you.
Here you can meet people you wouldn't otherwise meet because your social and/or business circles don't intersect, or because you don't frequent the same places.
Why to waste every day of your life compromising or trying to change a person?
Online dating is one of those things that make me happy that I live in these days, not with years ago when people hadn�t any choices but compromising.
Enjoy of the online dating facilities and find that special person that is the best for you. :)
http://www.articleson.com/Article/The-Biggest-Advantage-of-Online-Dating/19905
The Internet Dating Rollercoaster: 7 Ways to Even Out The Ride
THE FIRST BIG STEP
You have made the big decision. You have signed up with one of the internet dating sites and are not alone. 80% of people over 38 who are actively seeking relationships are using the internet to meet potential partners. But no one really tells us how to deal with it. It is a new phenomenon in our lives and certainly very different to being introduced by a friend or meeting through shared interests.
You have spent hours pouring over your profile and have even had a couple of friends look at it for you. You have tried to hone every facet of your personality into a few paragraphs, attempted some humour and tried to be open (but not too revealing!) you have tinkered for long enough and have posted yourself along with those thousands of others. Perhaps you have also been brave enough to find a photograph – they say it makes a big difference to the numbers of replies that you receive.
1. Congratulations - this is a bold step. Now stay in charge of the process
ANTICIPATION, ANTICIPATION, ANTICIPATION
However hard you try to be realistic everyone, on registering, will have some level of excitement at the anticipation of meeting someone on-line. We have heard all the stories, perhaps you have a friend or colleague who has met someone special this way and you want it to happen for you, too. You initially scan through the pages of potential people and begin to build up fantasies about who these people might be, and whether they might be interested in you. All this creates quite a head of steam and your rollercoaster ride has begun. Initially you find yourself logging on often to see if you there are any messages.
2. Put some boundaries around the time that you spend on the internet. It can easily become a compulsion.
SHALL I WAIT OR SHALL I POST - SENDING MESSAGES
So are you going to wait to see if people respond to your profile or wait until someone sends a message to you? The halfway house is tagging someone as a “favourite” (or whatever that particular site’s version of this is). Inevitably, and this is particularly difficult for women, you decide to send a message. For some reason there is still, even in this internet age, a notion that the men should make the first approach and women worry about being seen as too pushy/forward if they send the first message. Here is a good moment to pause. Think about it, you have signed up; the purpose is to meet someone. That is the aim of the site so why would you play the role of reluctant flower and wait for someone to choose you?
3. Always be THE CHOOSER, there is a difference between being pro-active on your own behalf and being pushy. Learn the difference and respond to the people who welcome this.
THE WAITING GAME - GETTING/NOT GETTING RESPONSES
Now you may expect it to happen all at once, in fact some people find that when you are new to a site there will be a flurry of activity. Watch this, there are many who scan for new people and will ‘flirt’ with anyone even without reading your profile. Take it slowly in the beginning, yes it is beginning to feel like the rollercoaster is going up at a fast rate. A ‘real person’ has responded to you, so it must mean something. No -unfortunately it doesn’t mean anything at this stage. Here is where you really need to keep the emotional brakes on. It is so easy to build up the fantasies into really big bells and whistles visions of your future together.
On the other hand there might be a giant silence from the other end of the net; can you feel the rollercoaster taking a dive? Above all remember to live a life whilst you are waiting. Don’t stay in all evening next to the computer in the hope that a reply will come through. Isn’t it inevitable that the person you may have sent a message to has a life too and they have not seen your message yet or had the time to consider a response? Just because you have sent a message doesn’t mean that you will get a response. Sad but true, you will soon learn that many people on these sites never respond and are just there to browse. Also not everyone who has a profile is a paid up subscriber to the service.
4. Stay realistic, get on with your life and have the internet site be just one of the things that you are doing to meet possible dates.
I CAN’T BELIEVE IT - INAPPROPRIATE RESPONSES
Yes it happens more often than we all would like, especially to women. That completely inappropriate response to your initial message, either it is over the top sexual innuendos or the other person is in love with you already and wants to meet you immediately. Time for those rollercoaster brakes again. Obviously the sexual innuendo may appear flattering but is this the first expression of interest you would like? Similarly someone who wants to immediately meet is probably erring on the ’too eager‘ side and your antennae should be up.
5. Don’t fall into the trap that any reply is better than no reply at all. If it does not feel appropriate to you for whatever reason do not pursue.
CAN THEY BE BOTHERED – LACKLUSTRE RESPONSES
But much of the time you will probably receive rather lacklustre responses. This can be a disappointment in itself. After all, you have tried to send them an interesting, maybe witty reply with some questions and are hoping to find out more about them. What you get back neither responds to your questions nor asks anything about you. So why would you be interested in someone who is clearly not interested in you?
6. Don’t hope that this person will change. If they are not interested in you right now, when will they be? Ditch the boring ones immediately. Don’t settle for less than you really want.
IS IT ME?
How are you feeling now? I imagine a bit battered. You have been up and down that rollercoaster a number of times, you don’t know how long the ride is and you want to get off. So do give yourself a break. You don’t have to keep going endlessly. In fact when you start out decide how long you are going to subscribe for. In the beginning 3 months might be long enough and then have a break.
More importantly remember that your success with internet dating is not about who you are but about how you approach the whole experience. You can feel vulnerable, after all you have put yourself out there in front of goodness knows how many people. If you have not been successful it is not about you as a person but about the randomness of the whole internet dating process. Because of that it is essential that you hold the process as lightly as you can. By this I mean not allowing the rollercoaster to govern how you feel about yourself.
7. Remember these people don’t know you but just a 10 second impression of who they think you are. Stay bold and authentic to yourself.
HOW TO IRON OUT THE LUMPS & BUMPS
If you want to have a less bumpy ride stay in control of the process. Decide what your boundaries are around the time that you spend online. Focus on the kinds of people that interest you - not just the photographs. Write yourself a list of 5 deal makers and 5 deal breakers for you with internet dating. Ultimately be the one that chooses and remember to take breaks. Remember you are the person your friends know.
http://www.articleson.com/Article/The-Internet-Dating-Rollercoaster--7-Ways-to-Even-Out-The-Ride/19918
You have made the big decision. You have signed up with one of the internet dating sites and are not alone. 80% of people over 38 who are actively seeking relationships are using the internet to meet potential partners. But no one really tells us how to deal with it. It is a new phenomenon in our lives and certainly very different to being introduced by a friend or meeting through shared interests.
You have spent hours pouring over your profile and have even had a couple of friends look at it for you. You have tried to hone every facet of your personality into a few paragraphs, attempted some humour and tried to be open (but not too revealing!) you have tinkered for long enough and have posted yourself along with those thousands of others. Perhaps you have also been brave enough to find a photograph – they say it makes a big difference to the numbers of replies that you receive.
1. Congratulations - this is a bold step. Now stay in charge of the process
ANTICIPATION, ANTICIPATION, ANTICIPATION
However hard you try to be realistic everyone, on registering, will have some level of excitement at the anticipation of meeting someone on-line. We have heard all the stories, perhaps you have a friend or colleague who has met someone special this way and you want it to happen for you, too. You initially scan through the pages of potential people and begin to build up fantasies about who these people might be, and whether they might be interested in you. All this creates quite a head of steam and your rollercoaster ride has begun. Initially you find yourself logging on often to see if you there are any messages.
2. Put some boundaries around the time that you spend on the internet. It can easily become a compulsion.
SHALL I WAIT OR SHALL I POST - SENDING MESSAGES
So are you going to wait to see if people respond to your profile or wait until someone sends a message to you? The halfway house is tagging someone as a “favourite” (or whatever that particular site’s version of this is). Inevitably, and this is particularly difficult for women, you decide to send a message. For some reason there is still, even in this internet age, a notion that the men should make the first approach and women worry about being seen as too pushy/forward if they send the first message. Here is a good moment to pause. Think about it, you have signed up; the purpose is to meet someone. That is the aim of the site so why would you play the role of reluctant flower and wait for someone to choose you?
3. Always be THE CHOOSER, there is a difference between being pro-active on your own behalf and being pushy. Learn the difference and respond to the people who welcome this.
THE WAITING GAME - GETTING/NOT GETTING RESPONSES
Now you may expect it to happen all at once, in fact some people find that when you are new to a site there will be a flurry of activity. Watch this, there are many who scan for new people and will ‘flirt’ with anyone even without reading your profile. Take it slowly in the beginning, yes it is beginning to feel like the rollercoaster is going up at a fast rate. A ‘real person’ has responded to you, so it must mean something. No -unfortunately it doesn’t mean anything at this stage. Here is where you really need to keep the emotional brakes on. It is so easy to build up the fantasies into really big bells and whistles visions of your future together.
On the other hand there might be a giant silence from the other end of the net; can you feel the rollercoaster taking a dive? Above all remember to live a life whilst you are waiting. Don’t stay in all evening next to the computer in the hope that a reply will come through. Isn’t it inevitable that the person you may have sent a message to has a life too and they have not seen your message yet or had the time to consider a response? Just because you have sent a message doesn’t mean that you will get a response. Sad but true, you will soon learn that many people on these sites never respond and are just there to browse. Also not everyone who has a profile is a paid up subscriber to the service.
4. Stay realistic, get on with your life and have the internet site be just one of the things that you are doing to meet possible dates.
I CAN’T BELIEVE IT - INAPPROPRIATE RESPONSES
Yes it happens more often than we all would like, especially to women. That completely inappropriate response to your initial message, either it is over the top sexual innuendos or the other person is in love with you already and wants to meet you immediately. Time for those rollercoaster brakes again. Obviously the sexual innuendo may appear flattering but is this the first expression of interest you would like? Similarly someone who wants to immediately meet is probably erring on the ’too eager‘ side and your antennae should be up.
5. Don’t fall into the trap that any reply is better than no reply at all. If it does not feel appropriate to you for whatever reason do not pursue.
CAN THEY BE BOTHERED – LACKLUSTRE RESPONSES
But much of the time you will probably receive rather lacklustre responses. This can be a disappointment in itself. After all, you have tried to send them an interesting, maybe witty reply with some questions and are hoping to find out more about them. What you get back neither responds to your questions nor asks anything about you. So why would you be interested in someone who is clearly not interested in you?
6. Don’t hope that this person will change. If they are not interested in you right now, when will they be? Ditch the boring ones immediately. Don’t settle for less than you really want.
IS IT ME?
How are you feeling now? I imagine a bit battered. You have been up and down that rollercoaster a number of times, you don’t know how long the ride is and you want to get off. So do give yourself a break. You don’t have to keep going endlessly. In fact when you start out decide how long you are going to subscribe for. In the beginning 3 months might be long enough and then have a break.
More importantly remember that your success with internet dating is not about who you are but about how you approach the whole experience. You can feel vulnerable, after all you have put yourself out there in front of goodness knows how many people. If you have not been successful it is not about you as a person but about the randomness of the whole internet dating process. Because of that it is essential that you hold the process as lightly as you can. By this I mean not allowing the rollercoaster to govern how you feel about yourself.
7. Remember these people don’t know you but just a 10 second impression of who they think you are. Stay bold and authentic to yourself.
HOW TO IRON OUT THE LUMPS & BUMPS
If you want to have a less bumpy ride stay in control of the process. Decide what your boundaries are around the time that you spend online. Focus on the kinds of people that interest you - not just the photographs. Write yourself a list of 5 deal makers and 5 deal breakers for you with internet dating. Ultimately be the one that chooses and remember to take breaks. Remember you are the person your friends know.
http://www.articleson.com/Article/The-Internet-Dating-Rollercoaster--7-Ways-to-Even-Out-The-Ride/19918
3 Tricks When Talking on the Phone with a Woman You Have Met Online
The first telephone call is the most important one. Sure you have her number, but nothing has been won yet.
1. Before you call you should have prepared a list of several topics to talk about. Hopefully your email exchange has provided you with some information to follow up on. Study her profile to think of other topics to talk about. Prepare open ended questions. Start talking about a subject, and give her a chance to speak as well.
2. DON'T: ask her questions about other guys she's seeing, suspiciously interrogate her about how she spends her time, and angrily reprimand her for flaking on you. How she spends her time is her business.
A lot of men sabotage their chances with a woman by don't giving her enough credit and respect.
You know there's trouble if you're doing all the talking and her replies are short or non-existent. If so it either means you haven't hit on the right topic to talk about, or, more likely, she simply isn't interested. Also, if she ends the conversation early or "has to go", leave it up to her to call you again, if she wants to. Usually, she won't.
So, when talking to a woman on the phone DON'T worry about impressing her. Have fun. Enjoy the conversation. Amuse yourself.
3. At first phone conversation is better to stay away of complimenting her. I think giving women compliments can be very powerful. But when you give a woman compliments within the context of trying to win her over, you become a wuss.
Usually women are curious why the men they are talking to online decided to pick them instead of other thousandths of profiles. Most of them will ask you about these "reasons" and by doing this are giving you the opportunity to make her compliments. So, wait the moment. :)
If the conversation flow easily, effortlessly, if you find her fairly responsive and you can keep up the conversation for at least a half hour you can ask her out. Her answer seam to be: "YES".
http://www.articleson.com/Article/3-Tricks-When-Talking-on-the-Phone-with-a-Woman-You-Have-Met-Online/20598
1. Before you call you should have prepared a list of several topics to talk about. Hopefully your email exchange has provided you with some information to follow up on. Study her profile to think of other topics to talk about. Prepare open ended questions. Start talking about a subject, and give her a chance to speak as well.
2. DON'T: ask her questions about other guys she's seeing, suspiciously interrogate her about how she spends her time, and angrily reprimand her for flaking on you. How she spends her time is her business.
A lot of men sabotage their chances with a woman by don't giving her enough credit and respect.
You know there's trouble if you're doing all the talking and her replies are short or non-existent. If so it either means you haven't hit on the right topic to talk about, or, more likely, she simply isn't interested. Also, if she ends the conversation early or "has to go", leave it up to her to call you again, if she wants to. Usually, she won't.
So, when talking to a woman on the phone DON'T worry about impressing her. Have fun. Enjoy the conversation. Amuse yourself.
3. At first phone conversation is better to stay away of complimenting her. I think giving women compliments can be very powerful. But when you give a woman compliments within the context of trying to win her over, you become a wuss.
Usually women are curious why the men they are talking to online decided to pick them instead of other thousandths of profiles. Most of them will ask you about these "reasons" and by doing this are giving you the opportunity to make her compliments. So, wait the moment. :)
If the conversation flow easily, effortlessly, if you find her fairly responsive and you can keep up the conversation for at least a half hour you can ask her out. Her answer seam to be: "YES".
http://www.articleson.com/Article/3-Tricks-When-Talking-on-the-Phone-with-a-Woman-You-Have-Met-Online/20598
Is Speed Dating Hazardous to Your Health?
Have you found your better half yet? If you have not, I wish you luck! Regarding the people I meet every day and the number of the current world population, luck isn't the only thing that can help you. Have you considered speed dating?
If you believe that you have a better half somewhere then you probably believe in destiny. If everyone were destined to meet his or her better half, then you have nothing to worry about? Does it matter where you would start from? After all, are you destined to meet this special someone or not?
Moreover, it will be better if you speed the process a bit. What do you think about speed dating? What is speed dating exactly? Just go out, go wherever you want and point the desired person. The important thing in speed dating is its speed. Do it quickly! Why should you wait? Are you wondering where you can find about the different speed dating options? It is no problem at all. Just check on the World-Wide-Web.
Do you know anything about speed dating? Every time I hear the words “speed dating” I recall of the horror movie “Valentine.” The story was about two beautiful girls who decide to try speed dating.
Don’t you just need to go out of your room? May be it is time to communicate with real persons. Nobody will eat you or even hurt you, I promise. Just try it. Now it is easier than ever. You can find all the needed information on the World-Wide-Web.
When I first heard about the web site, which was used for speed dating, I was burst into laughter. What was this thing? Was this cyberspace convenient speed dating? Oh, come on, are you kidding? However, once I saw him checking the web site and I get rather intrigued. I saw him chatting with women who were thousands of miles away.
This distant friendship made me feel in a strange way. I was surprised how much access we have from our homes. You can contact with people from every place on the world, you just need a personal computer and high speed Internet.
I was amazed how interested he was in speed dating. He even met some girls through speed dating. Speed dating makes it so easy to find your soul mate. Speed dating is not influenced by shyness or prejudices. You can meet also people who are near you. Just choose only to speed date in your current region.
Have you tried speed dating already? If your answer is no, I suggest you to try it right now. It is no more fashionable to date in the bars. May be you do not prefer to spend your precious weekends wandering through the smoky bars, seeking for your mate. Everyone gets bored of the club scenes. After all, you live in the age of the online speed dating!
http://www.articleson.com/Article/Is-Speed-Dating-Hazardous-to-Your-Health-/21470
If you believe that you have a better half somewhere then you probably believe in destiny. If everyone were destined to meet his or her better half, then you have nothing to worry about? Does it matter where you would start from? After all, are you destined to meet this special someone or not?
Moreover, it will be better if you speed the process a bit. What do you think about speed dating? What is speed dating exactly? Just go out, go wherever you want and point the desired person. The important thing in speed dating is its speed. Do it quickly! Why should you wait? Are you wondering where you can find about the different speed dating options? It is no problem at all. Just check on the World-Wide-Web.
Do you know anything about speed dating? Every time I hear the words “speed dating” I recall of the horror movie “Valentine.” The story was about two beautiful girls who decide to try speed dating.
Don’t you just need to go out of your room? May be it is time to communicate with real persons. Nobody will eat you or even hurt you, I promise. Just try it. Now it is easier than ever. You can find all the needed information on the World-Wide-Web.
When I first heard about the web site, which was used for speed dating, I was burst into laughter. What was this thing? Was this cyberspace convenient speed dating? Oh, come on, are you kidding? However, once I saw him checking the web site and I get rather intrigued. I saw him chatting with women who were thousands of miles away.
This distant friendship made me feel in a strange way. I was surprised how much access we have from our homes. You can contact with people from every place on the world, you just need a personal computer and high speed Internet.
I was amazed how interested he was in speed dating. He even met some girls through speed dating. Speed dating makes it so easy to find your soul mate. Speed dating is not influenced by shyness or prejudices. You can meet also people who are near you. Just choose only to speed date in your current region.
Have you tried speed dating already? If your answer is no, I suggest you to try it right now. It is no more fashionable to date in the bars. May be you do not prefer to spend your precious weekends wandering through the smoky bars, seeking for your mate. Everyone gets bored of the club scenes. After all, you live in the age of the online speed dating!
http://www.articleson.com/Article/Is-Speed-Dating-Hazardous-to-Your-Health-/21470
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