Can you say from your heart that your passion for making love is saturated? You would definitely say a big ‘NO’. Yes, the yearning for fulfilling love does not stop till human beings lose the pulsation of life. Do not thrive on the stinking experience of your past; rather try hard tailoring your future and earn utmost fun and pleasure from life. Keeping these ideas in mind, you can make a balance in your personal life too. After all…past is history and future is mystery, so be with the present for enlightening your future and also to erase painful experiences of your past.
I know a girl, who got immensely benefited by listening to my words. She was just like you, who had several relationships but none of them gave her assurance to carry further. She got frustrated and decided not to go for any other relationship with her male friends. I told her that to end up relationships is to end up life and also asked her why she had taken such steps. She described her whole story to me. She had fallen in love with a boy much older to her. They had physical relation for several times. Each time my friend asked him to marry, he used to get rid off that situation by saying something else. With the passage of time, they got separated and that boy got married to another girl. Three other boys also cheated my friend thereafter. Having understood her situation very well, I suggested her not to give up in her pursuit of finding love and do not stop looking for men until you are truly happy with someone. She searched out a new friend and they began their romance. Now, they are married with two children.
There are several reasons behind winning in the battle of love affair. You would get to know what the male populace prefers and why they change relationship very often. Once you learn the art of realizing their mind, you would be able to mould yourself to fulfill all their desires and thus, you will be able to make your way to success. As you are experienced, you can add more fun in their life. Think it properly – a man moves to other place when he is not satisfied with what he has. If he gets satisfaction, fun, entertainment from his life partner, he would definitely stay with her till the end.
As you have been in quite a few relationships earlier, you would probably have the idea of how to win hearts of men. Be confident and look around for a match for you. I am sure that you would be able to find out you partner very soon. Do not hasten, move slowly to reach your end. This has to be kept in mind well to get success in life. You should also realize that compared to women, the minds of men are built from an entirely different blueprint. Men hurt their wives' feelings without understanding them properly and then get baffled when their women counterpart are upset with them without any specific reason.
The saying goes - "To meet her handsome prince, a girl has to kiss a lot of frogs." So, you will have to play intelligently. Even if you are experienced and financially self-sufficient, this adage is much more appropriate for men aspiring for marriage than it is for women.
Apart from all these things, you need to get a male partner because of quenching your thirst for sex. Spend a little time in thinking - can any women satisfy you by entering their organ into yours? NO! It is not physically possible. You can get pleasure by pushing artificial limb into yours. But that would not be as satisfactory as the organ of your male counterpart. For getting hands free penetration, you also need the help of a male partner. Male-female pair is recognized as ideal. They are just like the two halves of a ball, if you consider only one part and neglect the other, you would not be able to form a complete sphere. Thus, you need to make a lifelong relationship with a male counterpart.
It may happen that you want desperately making friendship with a woman because of your preference. Never mind making friendship with her. It is better to have a girl friend than having none at all. Decide what do you want to have in life first. Do you want a male partner or want to get enjoyment from a girl partner. The ultimate thing is to get pleasure…it does not matter in what way you are getting them. So, decide first in which direction you want to move and march forward. Never stay alone in life.
http://www.articlecube.com/Article/I-Have-Been-Hurt-By-Men-Too-Many-Times--Should-I-Start-Dating-Women-/144660
Friday, August 17, 2007
I Love Him, But What Can I Do To Turn Him Gay?
You spot the good-looking Adonis at a friend’s party and fell head over heels in love with him. But alas! Gorgeous girls have already surrounded him and he seems to be enjoying every bit of the attention showered on him by the members of fairer sex. Now what can you do? Will you leave the party midway with a broken heart? … ‘Hope I had a magic wand whose touch could make him my man’ – you utter these words to yourself…
This is, of course, a tricky situation. Turning a straight guy into gay is something next to impossible. It largely depends on your luck. Still, our suggestions can definitely be of great help…
If he is an unknown guy, try to make friendship with him. If he is already your friend, then make an effort to take your friendship to a higher level. Don’t run after something impossible; instead opt for a more practical solution.
After becoming friends with him, you can ask him his opinions on various gay issues. Thus, you can get a, somehow, clear picture of his attitude towards gay people. If his reactions seem positive, then you can ask him directly whether he has same-sex preference, or to be more precise, whether he harbors sexual feelings for you.
Take your time to come out. Let your friendship blossom first. If you really find him worth of you, then other things may wait for sometimes. Earning his trust as a friend is crucial. Don’t disclose your intimate desires and innermost feelings for him hastily. If he is a genuine guy, he will never let your friendship go, in spite of knowing that you are gay.
Give him enough time and space to think over your sexuality. Maybe, this is for the first time in his life he has heard a man professing love for him. So, he will definitely need some time to get over with the confusion. He can even become very much scared.
Never force him to fall in love with you. Instead, get closer to him gradually. Try not to have sex forcefully with him by any means. Too much of queer persuasion can have tragic consequences. So, be careful.
If you are successful in developing a strong bond of friendship with him, then your process of seducing him gets easier. Once, your friendship reaches such a level that you two cannot live without each other, then attracting him sexually won’t be that difficult. Remember the tagline of the awesome cowboy-romance ‘Brokeback Mountain’ that says ‘Love is a force of nature’. The movie depicts a deep and passionate love affair between two cowboys. One of them, though straight, could not control himself from falling in love with another man. The force called love is so powerful that it can make one person fall in love with any other individual; sometimes even the gender of the person becomes inconsequential.
Though you cannot turn a straight guy gay, you can make someone aware of his true sexuality. As heterosexuality is perceived to be ‘normal’ in our society, many gay guys grow up thinking that they are straight, which they are actually not. In these situations, you can help him to discover his preferences through your love, affection and power of seduction.
As per the Kinsey Scale of the Kinsey Report, sexual orientations of different people are divided into seven levels. Exclusive heterosexuals are labeled as ‘0’ whereas the number ‘6’ is used to signify exclusive homosexuals. So, if your guy has a higher number (say, 4 or 5), the possibility of making him aroused with your sexual foreplay increases.
Some straight people are pretty curious about gay people and love to experiment. If your guy falls under this category, then you can get him easily.
Try to read his sexuality from his behaviors and gestures. Give fleeting touches to his various body parts. Caress his hairs and forehead with your fingers if he has got a headache. You may just ask him whether he wants his back rubbed by you while bathing. Asking for a satisfying oil massage too is not a bad idea at all.
Give him hugs regularly and occasional kisses too! Watch his expressions during and after these activities. If he is not trying to prevent you much, then you can be sure that he has developed feelings for you.
Join a gym or swimming club together. Then, you can have the chance to see each other’s bare bodies. Try to notice whether he is staring at you while working out or swimming.
Tell him that you have a great choice of clothes, especially underwear. Make him dress in front of you. It can provide you an opportunity to touch his private parts. If you are fortunate enough, he will get excited right away. Now, he will let your hands play all over his body.
But, keep in mind - never ever lose your precious self-esteem just for the sake of a guy.
Be patient. Sometimes, letting things unfold in their natural course of action is the best possible way. Keep your hopes alive, maybe he is not gay, but that doesn’t mean he is 100% straight. Still, there are chances left of being at least bi-sexual. If he is destined to be yours, then, someday you will surely be in his arms!
http://www.articlecube.com/Article/I-Love-Him--But-What-Can-I-Do-To-Turn-Him-Gay-/144662
This is, of course, a tricky situation. Turning a straight guy into gay is something next to impossible. It largely depends on your luck. Still, our suggestions can definitely be of great help…
If he is an unknown guy, try to make friendship with him. If he is already your friend, then make an effort to take your friendship to a higher level. Don’t run after something impossible; instead opt for a more practical solution.
After becoming friends with him, you can ask him his opinions on various gay issues. Thus, you can get a, somehow, clear picture of his attitude towards gay people. If his reactions seem positive, then you can ask him directly whether he has same-sex preference, or to be more precise, whether he harbors sexual feelings for you.
Take your time to come out. Let your friendship blossom first. If you really find him worth of you, then other things may wait for sometimes. Earning his trust as a friend is crucial. Don’t disclose your intimate desires and innermost feelings for him hastily. If he is a genuine guy, he will never let your friendship go, in spite of knowing that you are gay.
Give him enough time and space to think over your sexuality. Maybe, this is for the first time in his life he has heard a man professing love for him. So, he will definitely need some time to get over with the confusion. He can even become very much scared.
Never force him to fall in love with you. Instead, get closer to him gradually. Try not to have sex forcefully with him by any means. Too much of queer persuasion can have tragic consequences. So, be careful.
If you are successful in developing a strong bond of friendship with him, then your process of seducing him gets easier. Once, your friendship reaches such a level that you two cannot live without each other, then attracting him sexually won’t be that difficult. Remember the tagline of the awesome cowboy-romance ‘Brokeback Mountain’ that says ‘Love is a force of nature’. The movie depicts a deep and passionate love affair between two cowboys. One of them, though straight, could not control himself from falling in love with another man. The force called love is so powerful that it can make one person fall in love with any other individual; sometimes even the gender of the person becomes inconsequential.
Though you cannot turn a straight guy gay, you can make someone aware of his true sexuality. As heterosexuality is perceived to be ‘normal’ in our society, many gay guys grow up thinking that they are straight, which they are actually not. In these situations, you can help him to discover his preferences through your love, affection and power of seduction.
As per the Kinsey Scale of the Kinsey Report, sexual orientations of different people are divided into seven levels. Exclusive heterosexuals are labeled as ‘0’ whereas the number ‘6’ is used to signify exclusive homosexuals. So, if your guy has a higher number (say, 4 or 5), the possibility of making him aroused with your sexual foreplay increases.
Some straight people are pretty curious about gay people and love to experiment. If your guy falls under this category, then you can get him easily.
Try to read his sexuality from his behaviors and gestures. Give fleeting touches to his various body parts. Caress his hairs and forehead with your fingers if he has got a headache. You may just ask him whether he wants his back rubbed by you while bathing. Asking for a satisfying oil massage too is not a bad idea at all.
Give him hugs regularly and occasional kisses too! Watch his expressions during and after these activities. If he is not trying to prevent you much, then you can be sure that he has developed feelings for you.
Join a gym or swimming club together. Then, you can have the chance to see each other’s bare bodies. Try to notice whether he is staring at you while working out or swimming.
Tell him that you have a great choice of clothes, especially underwear. Make him dress in front of you. It can provide you an opportunity to touch his private parts. If you are fortunate enough, he will get excited right away. Now, he will let your hands play all over his body.
But, keep in mind - never ever lose your precious self-esteem just for the sake of a guy.
Be patient. Sometimes, letting things unfold in their natural course of action is the best possible way. Keep your hopes alive, maybe he is not gay, but that doesn’t mean he is 100% straight. Still, there are chances left of being at least bi-sexual. If he is destined to be yours, then, someday you will surely be in his arms!
http://www.articlecube.com/Article/I-Love-Him--But-What-Can-I-Do-To-Turn-Him-Gay-/144662
Delving the Realm of Boston Personals
There's a problem with window shopping: you begin to dwell on all the things you can't have or can't afford. But there's a bigger problem than that: we will begin focusing on the fact that can't have or afford the item in question, and that little obsession can actually cause more harm than the other.
Let us compare this behavior to online dating and exploring Boston personals. It's easy to sign up on free online dating sites or take free trials on pay sites and then start browsing the lists of available singles. And – just like window shopping – we stay out of the store and look through a small window at a nice, prettied-up and posed person. Then we just as often declare them unattainable or impractical and, just like regular shopping, it's not the items or the Boston personals that we focus on, but our ability or likelihood to meet those people.
Actually going inside and, in the case of online dating, making a commitment to a serious relationship or just trying to meet someone great, can be a little daunting. Much easier to just stand outside and look in.
But, just like with regular shopping, sometimes we find ourselves with a little extra courage or some new means that make going in the store or making contact with some of the people behind the Boston personals a valid possibility. But now we've spent so long convincing ourselves that there wasn't even a possibility that when one presents itself this is where we can make our biggest mistakes.
When a door stands invitingly open to us after so much time sealing us out we risk two major mistakes. The first is to maintain our stance and try to ignore the door and all the wonderful things that might be on the other side. The other choice is to go barreling through the doors at the first sign that it might give way.
But aren't you supposed to take a chance? Aren't you supposed to take any and every opportunity? Isn't this exactly what we've been standing around this whole time waiting for?
Not exactly.
What could be worse than barging through a door just to be confronted with what's really waiting for you?
Boston has one of the most active online dating communities in the country. Singles are more willing to try this form of meeting new people because they're getting tired of the more traditional means of finding compatible singles. There is a wide variety of Boston personals out there to see, but how do you know which one is right for you?
As you search through different sites and the different Boston personals on those sites, you can learn different things, and by paying attention to the entire personal ad – in other words, doing more than just basic window shopping – we can discern whether to take door number one, two, or the mystery prize.
There are a number of ways people can express themselves in Boston personals these days. We can write up quick and, hopefully, pithy little paragraphs, we can select a number of multiple choice answers, or we can use a personality profile to try and find people who are a good match for us. All these methods are a great way to delve further than just a nice picture.
Don't get me wrong, pictures are an integral part of good Boston personals, but now online dating sites provide tools that allow us to step out of the shallow pool and start focusing on the more meaningful parts of a potential relationship.
And when we stop focusing on our own problems, when we're ready to move past the window shopping phase, we can finally do so knowing we're making the best choice possible. We're not going to go into the store that is only interested in ripping you off, or presenting something that may be beautiful on the outside and nothing but rotten bits on the inside.
Take the time to explore Boston personals and look, read, and understand the things presented there to start your relationship off in the right direction.
http://www.articlecube.com/Article/Delving-the-Realm-of-Boston-Personals/144773
Let us compare this behavior to online dating and exploring Boston personals. It's easy to sign up on free online dating sites or take free trials on pay sites and then start browsing the lists of available singles. And – just like window shopping – we stay out of the store and look through a small window at a nice, prettied-up and posed person. Then we just as often declare them unattainable or impractical and, just like regular shopping, it's not the items or the Boston personals that we focus on, but our ability or likelihood to meet those people.
Actually going inside and, in the case of online dating, making a commitment to a serious relationship or just trying to meet someone great, can be a little daunting. Much easier to just stand outside and look in.
But, just like with regular shopping, sometimes we find ourselves with a little extra courage or some new means that make going in the store or making contact with some of the people behind the Boston personals a valid possibility. But now we've spent so long convincing ourselves that there wasn't even a possibility that when one presents itself this is where we can make our biggest mistakes.
When a door stands invitingly open to us after so much time sealing us out we risk two major mistakes. The first is to maintain our stance and try to ignore the door and all the wonderful things that might be on the other side. The other choice is to go barreling through the doors at the first sign that it might give way.
But aren't you supposed to take a chance? Aren't you supposed to take any and every opportunity? Isn't this exactly what we've been standing around this whole time waiting for?
Not exactly.
What could be worse than barging through a door just to be confronted with what's really waiting for you?
Boston has one of the most active online dating communities in the country. Singles are more willing to try this form of meeting new people because they're getting tired of the more traditional means of finding compatible singles. There is a wide variety of Boston personals out there to see, but how do you know which one is right for you?
As you search through different sites and the different Boston personals on those sites, you can learn different things, and by paying attention to the entire personal ad – in other words, doing more than just basic window shopping – we can discern whether to take door number one, two, or the mystery prize.
There are a number of ways people can express themselves in Boston personals these days. We can write up quick and, hopefully, pithy little paragraphs, we can select a number of multiple choice answers, or we can use a personality profile to try and find people who are a good match for us. All these methods are a great way to delve further than just a nice picture.
Don't get me wrong, pictures are an integral part of good Boston personals, but now online dating sites provide tools that allow us to step out of the shallow pool and start focusing on the more meaningful parts of a potential relationship.
And when we stop focusing on our own problems, when we're ready to move past the window shopping phase, we can finally do so knowing we're making the best choice possible. We're not going to go into the store that is only interested in ripping you off, or presenting something that may be beautiful on the outside and nothing but rotten bits on the inside.
Take the time to explore Boston personals and look, read, and understand the things presented there to start your relationship off in the right direction.
http://www.articlecube.com/Article/Delving-the-Realm-of-Boston-Personals/144773
How To Get Over A Break Up
One of the worst things in life is breaking up with a companion in a relationship. However difficult it is to move on with your life after a breakup, it is something that it seems almost all of us have to go through at least once in our lives. Avoiding the break up is not always in our control. The best thing to do, since it is not in our hands to avoid breaking up, is to know how to handle and get over a break up. Though getting over a breakup will never be an easy thing to do, with a few helpful things to keep in mind, breaking up can be something that will not ruin your life. Making a clean break, expressing your feelings, and taking charge of your life are tools to make breaking up easier.
The first thing to getting over a break up is making a clean break with your ex-mate. Many people try to leave a relationship mutually and stay friends. This rarely works and makes for a difficult time for the exes in the relationship to move on in a healthy way. If you are constantly running into each other and trying to be friends, the ex-partners always have to be linked with each other. If there is a clean break, eventually starting over will be easier because of it. Another part of making a clean break is to get rid of old emails, love letters, pictures, and mementos. This helps people move on as well, not having a constant reminder of the other person.
Another way to move on with your life quicker after separating with your partner is to express your feelings. It helps to have a journal in which you write down thoughts and feelings that you are experiencing during this difficult time. Journaling can help provide an outlet for feelings that are being bottled up and not released. When having negative feelings, it can be easy for someone to get wrapped up in them. Try to keep these negative feelings and thoughts out of your mind. Dwelling on them will not help, and will ultimately harm your efforts to move on.
The last step that will help you move on from your past relationship is to take charge of your own life. Decide who and what deserves your attention. Catching someone on the rebound after you’ve just left a serious relationship is not the way to find a lasting bond. Also, take the time to spoil yourself. You will sometimes feel lonely and depressed. This is completely normal. Take some time to yourself and go to a movie, a fancy dinner, or just go hang with your friends. Sometimes you have to pamper yourself to believe in your self worth. Simply focus on you. Another great thing to do to alter your mood is to change your bedding, and your surroundings. This can help you make a fresh start in your own house. Making a fresh start is key to finding a way to get over a broken relationship.
There is no magic word or magic wand that exists to make the hurt and feeling of betrayal go away. There are, however, ways to make the pain easier. Making sure you make a clean break, never lie to yourself about your feelings, to focus on yourself and take charge of your own life. This will help you move on after a break up. There is no set guide on how to get over a break up for every person, but knowing some basics can help you seek new things in life and leave your old life and memories behind.
http://www.articlecube.com/Article/How-To-Get-Over-A-Break-Up/145045
The first thing to getting over a break up is making a clean break with your ex-mate. Many people try to leave a relationship mutually and stay friends. This rarely works and makes for a difficult time for the exes in the relationship to move on in a healthy way. If you are constantly running into each other and trying to be friends, the ex-partners always have to be linked with each other. If there is a clean break, eventually starting over will be easier because of it. Another part of making a clean break is to get rid of old emails, love letters, pictures, and mementos. This helps people move on as well, not having a constant reminder of the other person.
Another way to move on with your life quicker after separating with your partner is to express your feelings. It helps to have a journal in which you write down thoughts and feelings that you are experiencing during this difficult time. Journaling can help provide an outlet for feelings that are being bottled up and not released. When having negative feelings, it can be easy for someone to get wrapped up in them. Try to keep these negative feelings and thoughts out of your mind. Dwelling on them will not help, and will ultimately harm your efforts to move on.
The last step that will help you move on from your past relationship is to take charge of your own life. Decide who and what deserves your attention. Catching someone on the rebound after you’ve just left a serious relationship is not the way to find a lasting bond. Also, take the time to spoil yourself. You will sometimes feel lonely and depressed. This is completely normal. Take some time to yourself and go to a movie, a fancy dinner, or just go hang with your friends. Sometimes you have to pamper yourself to believe in your self worth. Simply focus on you. Another great thing to do to alter your mood is to change your bedding, and your surroundings. This can help you make a fresh start in your own house. Making a fresh start is key to finding a way to get over a broken relationship.
There is no magic word or magic wand that exists to make the hurt and feeling of betrayal go away. There are, however, ways to make the pain easier. Making sure you make a clean break, never lie to yourself about your feelings, to focus on yourself and take charge of your own life. This will help you move on after a break up. There is no set guide on how to get over a break up for every person, but knowing some basics can help you seek new things in life and leave your old life and memories behind.
http://www.articlecube.com/Article/How-To-Get-Over-A-Break-Up/145045
How To Pick Up Women At A Party.
Parties are a great place to meet women. The combination of alcohol and the nice atmosphere gives you good opportunities to take advantage of many different types of females. But how exactly are you to manipulate these women into having sex with you? You are reading the right article! Using this information, you can trick any woman into your bed.
The first step when you are at your party is your entrance and your first impression. Before you go to the party, please freshen up. Shower up boy. But on some nice deodorant and some cologne too (nothing strong or fancy, just casual and good, see the cologne section). Make sure your hair looks good too. I normally put gel in my hair and mess with it for a while, but you do what works for you. When my hair isn’t agreeing with me, I pick out a hat THAT MATCHES what I’m wearing and put that on. Speaking of what you are wearing, make sure that you have that covered. Depending on how I feel, I could show up to a party in a t-shirt, polo, or even a wife beater. Make sure it fits well, and if you got a bad body, skip on wife beater. Ok you look good man, time to go to the party.
You now have entered, and of course all of the babes are making first impressions of you. Are you smiling, do you know people, are you dressed well and cleaned up? Hopefully you can always say yes. Make sure you are in a good mood. Talk to people you know, talk to people you don’t know. Shmooze around and drink to loosen up. Don’t get trashed though. From the minute you show up, you should be scoping out the chicks. Make conversation with a lot of different girls.
“Man Kemo, you make it sound so easy! But how exactly do I do that?” Kids, many famous seasoned pickup artists will tell you in articles “make conversation” or “talk to that hottie” without even saying how. Honestly, the best type of openers are situational. Something happens and you make a funny comment about it to a girl. When she laughs you can introduce yourself and start talking. Or you can go over to where a group of people are talking where you know some of them, and then join in (meeting the people that you don’t know). I actually think it is pretty hard to NOT meet a girl when you are at a party. If you see a girl that looks bored, just go up and start talking. She will be happy that someone is saying something. Something like “so you come to parties to stand against the wall?” and she’ll probably smile and try to defend herself (waiting for a friend, feeling tired, etc.). Introduce yourself and start talking! If you have NO way to do an opener, the easiest one that always works is “hey”. Hasn’t failed me yet.
So it is midnight. Everyone is getting pretty sloppy. You have created a small social circle web at the party meeting (hopefully) a good amount of prospects for the end of the night (also depends on the amount of people there and girls in general). Now there have been 2 options. You could have either hooked up with a girl IN the party (isolating her) or you are hoping to hook up with one AFTER the party. The first one is simple; if it comes along I usually take it. Most house parties have bedrooms, and if not there are always other options. Be creative. With the amount of alcohol that should be in these girl’s systems. this type of thing can happen a lot without you even trying.
If you are instead going for a hookup after the party, the time to start looking for the chick is when the party reaches its peak and starts slowing down. You need to find a girl that A)Has given you good signs, B)Seems like you have a good chance with, and C)You find attractive (optional in some cases). Since you haven’t been hanging around her all night, you have not yet become boring to her. You can go chat her up for a while. It is time to really work in your kino. Hopefully you had been doing this all night (kino is more important than legendary techniques like cocky and funny). If you are sitting with her, get your arm around her or something. Make sure you are touching. She’ll get the message, and if she kinos back, that’s a good time. The rest should come naturally, and if you get that far, you don’t need any of my help afterwards. Seriously, well I wrote this article kind of drunk, hope it didn’t jump around too much. There is a girl sleeping on my bed from a party I was at hours ago. This stuff WORKS!
http://www.articlecube.com/Article/How-To-Pick-Up-Women-At-A-Party-/145185
The first step when you are at your party is your entrance and your first impression. Before you go to the party, please freshen up. Shower up boy. But on some nice deodorant and some cologne too (nothing strong or fancy, just casual and good, see the cologne section). Make sure your hair looks good too. I normally put gel in my hair and mess with it for a while, but you do what works for you. When my hair isn’t agreeing with me, I pick out a hat THAT MATCHES what I’m wearing and put that on. Speaking of what you are wearing, make sure that you have that covered. Depending on how I feel, I could show up to a party in a t-shirt, polo, or even a wife beater. Make sure it fits well, and if you got a bad body, skip on wife beater. Ok you look good man, time to go to the party.
You now have entered, and of course all of the babes are making first impressions of you. Are you smiling, do you know people, are you dressed well and cleaned up? Hopefully you can always say yes. Make sure you are in a good mood. Talk to people you know, talk to people you don’t know. Shmooze around and drink to loosen up. Don’t get trashed though. From the minute you show up, you should be scoping out the chicks. Make conversation with a lot of different girls.
“Man Kemo, you make it sound so easy! But how exactly do I do that?” Kids, many famous seasoned pickup artists will tell you in articles “make conversation” or “talk to that hottie” without even saying how. Honestly, the best type of openers are situational. Something happens and you make a funny comment about it to a girl. When she laughs you can introduce yourself and start talking. Or you can go over to where a group of people are talking where you know some of them, and then join in (meeting the people that you don’t know). I actually think it is pretty hard to NOT meet a girl when you are at a party. If you see a girl that looks bored, just go up and start talking. She will be happy that someone is saying something. Something like “so you come to parties to stand against the wall?” and she’ll probably smile and try to defend herself (waiting for a friend, feeling tired, etc.). Introduce yourself and start talking! If you have NO way to do an opener, the easiest one that always works is “hey”. Hasn’t failed me yet.
So it is midnight. Everyone is getting pretty sloppy. You have created a small social circle web at the party meeting (hopefully) a good amount of prospects for the end of the night (also depends on the amount of people there and girls in general). Now there have been 2 options. You could have either hooked up with a girl IN the party (isolating her) or you are hoping to hook up with one AFTER the party. The first one is simple; if it comes along I usually take it. Most house parties have bedrooms, and if not there are always other options. Be creative. With the amount of alcohol that should be in these girl’s systems. this type of thing can happen a lot without you even trying.
If you are instead going for a hookup after the party, the time to start looking for the chick is when the party reaches its peak and starts slowing down. You need to find a girl that A)Has given you good signs, B)Seems like you have a good chance with, and C)You find attractive (optional in some cases). Since you haven’t been hanging around her all night, you have not yet become boring to her. You can go chat her up for a while. It is time to really work in your kino. Hopefully you had been doing this all night (kino is more important than legendary techniques like cocky and funny). If you are sitting with her, get your arm around her or something. Make sure you are touching. She’ll get the message, and if she kinos back, that’s a good time. The rest should come naturally, and if you get that far, you don’t need any of my help afterwards. Seriously, well I wrote this article kind of drunk, hope it didn’t jump around too much. There is a girl sleeping on my bed from a party I was at hours ago. This stuff WORKS!
http://www.articlecube.com/Article/How-To-Pick-Up-Women-At-A-Party-/145185
Signs That Your Friendship With A Girl Is Something More
What she wants is to give you the opportunity to ask her out. It is her indirect way of indicating she has interest in you. Why doesn't she just tell you she's interested? That's not how it works. Men are direct. Women aren't. So turn up your sensors and see if you don't spot a woman who just happens to get within your proximity range frequently.
Another “non-verbal” sign she is interested in you has to do with her body language. Do the pupils of her eyes widen when she sees you? Does she seem to toss her hair a lot when you are near? Or does she lean closer to you when you are talking? Where are her feet? Do they seem to be pointed at you often?
One or two of these things occurring is not that important. If a lot of these body language cues occur continually, there's a good chance she's telling you with her body that she wants you to ask her out.
Onward.
If you are communicating with her by phone, email or on the Internet, how available is she? If a women wants to get together with a man, the details will work themselves out. In other words, no matter how busy she is... she will make herself available to you. She will quickly return your phone calls. She will even give you her work email.
Ask yourself this: how readily does she make herself available to me? It's a good indicator that she's interested in you.
When you talk to her, does she ask you a lot of questions? A women who is into you will be like a talk show host – she will quiz you on everything from family, work, your taste in the cultural arts and entertainment. What she is doing is fact finding what you like, so she can be in harmony with your tastes. Get it?
There are some other good signs to observe, too. Is she nervous around you, but otherwise a calm person? Does she talk about you and her in the future tense? These usually mean one thing: a green light to ask her out.
Everything we've discussed in this article has been obvious, but you'd be surprised how easy these signals are to miss. Be on your toes and remember – just noticing one of these signs does not guarantee she isinterested in you. But seeing a cluster of them gives you a pretty good bet she wants you.
http://www.articlecube.com/Article/Signs-That-Your-Friendship-With-A-Girl-Is-Something-More/145194
Another “non-verbal” sign she is interested in you has to do with her body language. Do the pupils of her eyes widen when she sees you? Does she seem to toss her hair a lot when you are near? Or does she lean closer to you when you are talking? Where are her feet? Do they seem to be pointed at you often?
One or two of these things occurring is not that important. If a lot of these body language cues occur continually, there's a good chance she's telling you with her body that she wants you to ask her out.
Onward.
If you are communicating with her by phone, email or on the Internet, how available is she? If a women wants to get together with a man, the details will work themselves out. In other words, no matter how busy she is... she will make herself available to you. She will quickly return your phone calls. She will even give you her work email.
Ask yourself this: how readily does she make herself available to me? It's a good indicator that she's interested in you.
When you talk to her, does she ask you a lot of questions? A women who is into you will be like a talk show host – she will quiz you on everything from family, work, your taste in the cultural arts and entertainment. What she is doing is fact finding what you like, so she can be in harmony with your tastes. Get it?
There are some other good signs to observe, too. Is she nervous around you, but otherwise a calm person? Does she talk about you and her in the future tense? These usually mean one thing: a green light to ask her out.
Everything we've discussed in this article has been obvious, but you'd be surprised how easy these signals are to miss. Be on your toes and remember – just noticing one of these signs does not guarantee she isinterested in you. But seeing a cluster of them gives you a pretty good bet she wants you.
http://www.articlecube.com/Article/Signs-That-Your-Friendship-With-A-Girl-Is-Something-More/145194
Mystery the Pick-Up Artist uses Storytelling on VH1
The next story telling technique is very powerful and ties back into displaying your personality and bringing your characters to life.
This technique is adding TOUCH to your stories.
This really helps paint the picture and get your audience more involved.
An example of this would be like "My friend and I were walking over there like this... (lock arm in arm)."
Only hold whatever touch you are displaying for the appropriate part of the story. If you are using something like the arm and arm example, you would only do it for that short instance, not tell the rest of the story arm and arm.
An example I would use in my story is when describing his weirdness would be "I would be talking with some of my friends and he would come up from behind me, stick his arm around me like this (put arm on girls shoulder and pull her in, give her a little shake, showing exactly what he did to me).
The key to not making this look obvious is to continue telling your story while initiating the touch, and not looking at where you are touching or pausing and waiting for any form of reaction.
Another fun thing to sprinkle into your stories is subtle hints that raise your desirability.
These include mentioning other women in your life, having special social privileges, being the leader of your group, and doing things that make you stand out.
These are all essentially tasteful ways to brag in your stories... without actually bragging. Now you don't need these but in some cases can add a special flare to your stories.
I do this often by mentioning other women in my stories. You can do this by changing the word "friend" to "girlfriend" or name dropping by saying "my friends Lisa and Sarah" anything along those lines.
They need to be subtle and never the subject of your story. They are just minor details.
To make them theme authentic, do not provide an explanation for them. If part of your story involves you hooking up with multiple people, don't provide an explanation for it, instead just keep talking, it's not the focus on the story and by not providing an explanation, it comes off as a perfectly natural thing that is no big deal.
Once you have thrown in all these fun storytelling tactics it time to give it the once over.
Eliminate all unnecessary content and make sure your story is moving along and does not drag out. That is the biggest problem people make, they drag their stories out too long about things that don't affect the overall story. Be sure to eliminate redundancies.
For now...you should be aiming for about 2 mins stories.
How much you share all depends on how your storytelling skills develop. A masterful storyteller could captivate the audience for 20 mins. But for now, focus on getting 2-3 solid mins of your audiences attention.
Remember to look for clues of people fading out so you know when to speed things up and get to the punch line.
Always make sure you are keeping eye contact, this will help hold the audiences attention.
Here is the FINAL revised version of my story. Enjoy:
Me: "Hey guys...how do you deal with people when you just caaaaannt get them to leave you alone?!"
Group: "blah blah"
Me: "Yeah that's interesting so check this out...the other day I am at Club Voodoo, you ever been? (Check in point)...Cool, anyway I walk in with a group of my friend Lisa and some friends she brought along. There is a decent amount of people in the club, we are all having a great time and meeting lots of cool new people.
Well this one guy somehow works his into my "group" and he just has this annoying vibe. Like he is so out of place, he was walking around with a Harley Davison Motorcycle hat on and like this tainted banana colored polo. You know when someone just clearly does not belong and seems out of place... kind of like that guy (Put arm on person from audiences shoulder and point to someone else outside the audience)
So my friends and I keep trying to avoid him but he just won't back down, he would just follow us everywhere we went, buzzing around like a mosquito...with a really bad taste in clothing...like you have no idea how bad it was, I would be talking to some of Lisa's friends and he would come up, stick his head between us and wrap us both in his arms and give us a little shake like this...(Do exactly what he did on them) And the worst part is he had this nasty...thick breath....oh it was terrible.
(Random Story Telling Tip: Appeal to the senses, especially the smell, it is the least addressed and most memorable.) Anyway... my friends and I try to get away by going to the VIP floor and we have been drinking the free energy drinks all night and made a super tall pyramid out of cans. (Illustrate structure with arms).
Then all of a sudden, the creepy guy weasels his way onto the floor and sits down at our table... and like a jackass he tries to add a can to the structure. (Start slowing things down for the punch line)
Little did he know... that although the Red Bull on the top of the structure was opened... it was full... so this guy tries to add his can to the top then BAM!...................the whole structure falls right into his lap and the filled soda can pours all over his crotch!
(Create dramatic spill scene around your crotch, getting the girl to look there, although sneaky, creates lots of subtle sensual messages)
It looked like he wet his pants!
His face turns beat red and he just runs downstairs and we assume he left the club cause we didn't see him again... I don't know what the big deal is...I thought it was hilarious!
(Share a good laugh with your audience, initiate more touch if you so please, initiating touch during laughter is very powerful)
If we look back at the original example of...
"So the other day I am at club voodoo with my friends and I am going around making some new friends and having a good time. Well this one guy somehow works his way into my group but then ends up not leaving us alone all night, and he was a really annoying person that you just don't want to talk to. He kept making every interaction in the club awkward and would not leave until he actually gets a hint and goes home."
You can see the dramatic changes these steps can make to any story.
Before I conclude this oh so long newsletter....I want to leave you with a couple advanced story telling tips.
-If you are telling the same story, increase vocabulary in it, use powerful verbs and adjectives to bring the story to life/
-Always be painting a picture, appeal to all the senses when possible.
-Start your stories at the end. If you ever saw the movie Fight Club you will notice how you are caught up into the story right from the beginning because you are curious to see how Edward Norton's character got himself in such a dangerous situation. You can start your story at the end then build up to really captivate your audience.
-The more emotion you put into a story the better, the more emotion you show in a story, the more mistakes you can make because your emotion and commitment to the story covers all that up.
-Avoid pauses like "ummmm and ugghhh" everyone has a bad habit when they stumble in there stories.
-Do not memorize your stories. You don't want to sound like you are reading from a script, you want it to seem natural. It is possible to be too good at telling your stories and then it is almost like the listener is watching a scripted play. Just understand the concepts and events of your story, there should always be some slight differences when you tell your story. Practice telling it...but don't become a scripted narrator.
-Lastly and most important to sum things up....
Do not tell your stories AT your audience...tell your stories TO your audience.
Make sure they are always getting involved and as you are telling your story, keep your eyes open for cues in the interaction you do not always have time to look for.
Use these cues to find what points of your stories get certain reactions, and use them to move the story along. You pick up on different things if you are telling a story you know well, this is another way storytelling continues to improve your game.
http://www.articlecube.com/Article/Mystery-the-Pick-Up-Artist-uses-Storytelling-on-VH1/145228
This technique is adding TOUCH to your stories.
This really helps paint the picture and get your audience more involved.
An example of this would be like "My friend and I were walking over there like this... (lock arm in arm)."
Only hold whatever touch you are displaying for the appropriate part of the story. If you are using something like the arm and arm example, you would only do it for that short instance, not tell the rest of the story arm and arm.
An example I would use in my story is when describing his weirdness would be "I would be talking with some of my friends and he would come up from behind me, stick his arm around me like this (put arm on girls shoulder and pull her in, give her a little shake, showing exactly what he did to me).
The key to not making this look obvious is to continue telling your story while initiating the touch, and not looking at where you are touching or pausing and waiting for any form of reaction.
Another fun thing to sprinkle into your stories is subtle hints that raise your desirability.
These include mentioning other women in your life, having special social privileges, being the leader of your group, and doing things that make you stand out.
These are all essentially tasteful ways to brag in your stories... without actually bragging. Now you don't need these but in some cases can add a special flare to your stories.
I do this often by mentioning other women in my stories. You can do this by changing the word "friend" to "girlfriend" or name dropping by saying "my friends Lisa and Sarah" anything along those lines.
They need to be subtle and never the subject of your story. They are just minor details.
To make them theme authentic, do not provide an explanation for them. If part of your story involves you hooking up with multiple people, don't provide an explanation for it, instead just keep talking, it's not the focus on the story and by not providing an explanation, it comes off as a perfectly natural thing that is no big deal.
Once you have thrown in all these fun storytelling tactics it time to give it the once over.
Eliminate all unnecessary content and make sure your story is moving along and does not drag out. That is the biggest problem people make, they drag their stories out too long about things that don't affect the overall story. Be sure to eliminate redundancies.
For now...you should be aiming for about 2 mins stories.
How much you share all depends on how your storytelling skills develop. A masterful storyteller could captivate the audience for 20 mins. But for now, focus on getting 2-3 solid mins of your audiences attention.
Remember to look for clues of people fading out so you know when to speed things up and get to the punch line.
Always make sure you are keeping eye contact, this will help hold the audiences attention.
Here is the FINAL revised version of my story. Enjoy:
Me: "Hey guys...how do you deal with people when you just caaaaannt get them to leave you alone?!"
Group: "blah blah"
Me: "Yeah that's interesting so check this out...the other day I am at Club Voodoo, you ever been? (Check in point)...Cool, anyway I walk in with a group of my friend Lisa and some friends she brought along. There is a decent amount of people in the club, we are all having a great time and meeting lots of cool new people.
Well this one guy somehow works his into my "group" and he just has this annoying vibe. Like he is so out of place, he was walking around with a Harley Davison Motorcycle hat on and like this tainted banana colored polo. You know when someone just clearly does not belong and seems out of place... kind of like that guy (Put arm on person from audiences shoulder and point to someone else outside the audience)
So my friends and I keep trying to avoid him but he just won't back down, he would just follow us everywhere we went, buzzing around like a mosquito...with a really bad taste in clothing...like you have no idea how bad it was, I would be talking to some of Lisa's friends and he would come up, stick his head between us and wrap us both in his arms and give us a little shake like this...(Do exactly what he did on them) And the worst part is he had this nasty...thick breath....oh it was terrible.
(Random Story Telling Tip: Appeal to the senses, especially the smell, it is the least addressed and most memorable.) Anyway... my friends and I try to get away by going to the VIP floor and we have been drinking the free energy drinks all night and made a super tall pyramid out of cans. (Illustrate structure with arms).
Then all of a sudden, the creepy guy weasels his way onto the floor and sits down at our table... and like a jackass he tries to add a can to the structure. (Start slowing things down for the punch line)
Little did he know... that although the Red Bull on the top of the structure was opened... it was full... so this guy tries to add his can to the top then BAM!...................the whole structure falls right into his lap and the filled soda can pours all over his crotch!
(Create dramatic spill scene around your crotch, getting the girl to look there, although sneaky, creates lots of subtle sensual messages)
It looked like he wet his pants!
His face turns beat red and he just runs downstairs and we assume he left the club cause we didn't see him again... I don't know what the big deal is...I thought it was hilarious!
(Share a good laugh with your audience, initiate more touch if you so please, initiating touch during laughter is very powerful)
If we look back at the original example of...
"So the other day I am at club voodoo with my friends and I am going around making some new friends and having a good time. Well this one guy somehow works his way into my group but then ends up not leaving us alone all night, and he was a really annoying person that you just don't want to talk to. He kept making every interaction in the club awkward and would not leave until he actually gets a hint and goes home."
You can see the dramatic changes these steps can make to any story.
Before I conclude this oh so long newsletter....I want to leave you with a couple advanced story telling tips.
-If you are telling the same story, increase vocabulary in it, use powerful verbs and adjectives to bring the story to life/
-Always be painting a picture, appeal to all the senses when possible.
-Start your stories at the end. If you ever saw the movie Fight Club you will notice how you are caught up into the story right from the beginning because you are curious to see how Edward Norton's character got himself in such a dangerous situation. You can start your story at the end then build up to really captivate your audience.
-The more emotion you put into a story the better, the more emotion you show in a story, the more mistakes you can make because your emotion and commitment to the story covers all that up.
-Avoid pauses like "ummmm and ugghhh" everyone has a bad habit when they stumble in there stories.
-Do not memorize your stories. You don't want to sound like you are reading from a script, you want it to seem natural. It is possible to be too good at telling your stories and then it is almost like the listener is watching a scripted play. Just understand the concepts and events of your story, there should always be some slight differences when you tell your story. Practice telling it...but don't become a scripted narrator.
-Lastly and most important to sum things up....
Do not tell your stories AT your audience...tell your stories TO your audience.
Make sure they are always getting involved and as you are telling your story, keep your eyes open for cues in the interaction you do not always have time to look for.
Use these cues to find what points of your stories get certain reactions, and use them to move the story along. You pick up on different things if you are telling a story you know well, this is another way storytelling continues to improve your game.
http://www.articlecube.com/Article/Mystery-the-Pick-Up-Artist-uses-Storytelling-on-VH1/145228
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