Five Crucial Points Of Attraction

I was thinking about some of the most IMPORTANT points that make a SERIOUS difference in getting results with women.

Points that most guys don't realize or that they tend to gloss over without understanding their full meaning and impact.

Here they are:

1. For most guys who are new to learning these skills, one of the challenges is that the states of mind they need to be in for the interaction are THE EXACT OPPOSITE of the states they actually feel in that moment.

So, to be precise, the state of being in a GREAT MOOD, and being PLAYFUL, and being COCKY in a GOOD NATURED SENSE, and being SEXUAL, well it all seems not only very DIFFICULT to be in that state when they are starting an interaction with a woman, but also, there is this wrong assumption that you have to ALWAYS be in this state, and so the guy feels he's not being HIMSELF.

And that can lead a guy to feel resentment, because he feels as if these girls are all LIGHT-HEADED and as if the ONLY thing they can think about is FUN, because when he goes in "serious" it never works very well at all.

This leads to more negativity, and more thinking of women as being "different" and crazy, bad, etc. Which makes him even MORE serious and makes him more bitter, etc. And so when he finally does make some effort at "playful", it's TOTALLY FORCED, totally not congruent, and his own bitterness and anger seeps through.

Which turns her off, and gives the guy more negative feedback, hurting his inner game even more.

So, for any guys out there that are in that situation right now, let me immediately say that IT'S NOT THAT WOMEN ARE ALWAYS LIKE THIS, it's that HUMAN SOCIALIZING AND HUMAN SEXUALITY is most COMPATIBLE with this type of state of mind.

Look, the reality is that I am many DIFFERENT things. I can be deadly serious. I like serious stuff. One of my favourite movies of all time is The Sixth Sense. I'm not only all about the laughs, to say the least. There are a lot of other emotions that appeal to me besides playfulness and sexuality.

And sometimes, in some environments, going in for pure intrigue for the pickup can work fantastic. I use this sometimes as well.

However, what's CRUCIAL to understand is that you can't get turned on if you are feeling FEAR. So if you are chatting to a woman, getting her laughing is a great way to overcome the fact you are a stranger.

Also, even in general, the better a person is feeling, the more joy they will get out of EVERYTHING, including sex.

So for that reason as well, you want to put a woman into a BETTER STATE than the state she was in before she met you.

It leads to her more easily transitioning into a sexual vibe with you even from the GET GO of your conversation, interaction, etc.

So you see, you are not FAKING your personality by being playful, fun, sexual, etc, you are doing the only thing that makes SENSE for ANYONE.

To NOT be in the playful state is simply to be acting very strange indeed. Also, the truth is, you probably ARE a playful guy in OTHER situations, so it IS a dimension of your personality, it's just not coming across from you in your interactions with women right now, and you want to change that asap in order to get results.

Remember, this is PICK UP and ATTRACTION, so your interaction must be geared for THAT.

If this was about asking girls to teach you Einstein's Theory of Relativity, then you could go in all serious if you wanted. But this is about sexual stuff, attraction stuff, human emotion stuff.

VIBES are everything.

Next:

2. The point of learning TACTICS and lines is to HELP YOU GET ON YOUR FEET so you can pass the sticking points in your game. This way, once you pass the sticking points, once you get the result several times, you will start to see how all the infinite subtle details gel together as part of the big picture, and you will then no longer need specific "lines" or "tactics".

You will then be able to FAR EASIER get the SAME result instinctively. But the tactics helped you in the beginning.

There is nothing WRONG with tactics per se. My book and CD and even my live programs include many useful tactics as well as all the BIGGER PICTURE insights as well.

Regarding the "tactics" you will see from the way they are presented in the larger context of the program that they are meant only as a tool to get you to a realization of the bigger picture so that you will NOT need the "tactics" anymore.

It's a bit like working out with weights and "cheating" or getting a spotter to help you squeeze out a rep. You get some outside HELP to finish the rep of that exercise. But because you managed to finish the rep, your body gets the benefit of the exercise, and you grow to the point you don't need the spot or the cheat.

Of course, most people TOTALLY abuse the "cheating" or "spotting" principle, and similarly, most guys TOTALLY abuse the "tactics" for improving your skills with dating and attracting the kind of women you want.

When I first started out, I remember I thought there was only one way to kiss a girl that was reliable. The reality is that there are MILLIONS, but having a basic game plan in the beginning allowed me to GET to the whole kissing thing and beyond enough times that I realized that the truth is, a girl will kiss you as soon as she's attracted, period.

But in the beginning, your ego is fragile, so you make a big deal about creating a method to avoid any chance of rejection. But the funny thing is, after a while you get so good at this stuff that you realize that MAKING A BIG DEAL ABOUT THE KISS is in ITSELF A PROBLEM and is not attractive. It's needy, it's being too attached to the outcome of it all.

So you learn to totally stop thinking about that kind of thing and you basically are constantly escalating, and if you happen to escalate too fast a bit, you just chill out and let her catch up to that stage, and you go for it later.

But that doesn't mean learning "tactics" are useless, because as I said, they are a way to help prevent rejection which is something that a beginner cares more about since he doesn't have enough successes yet behind him to not care about it.

Similarly, from having so many interactions, I now have a cache of "lines" that I could use at any time that are virtually GUARANTEED to elicit certain emotional responses from attraction to bonding, etc. Because I am familiar with the delivery of them and the state of mind I said them in and because I know when to say it.

But the reality is that I don't NEED them, and in fact, I don't think about using them much except when I might be so exhausted and am running a pick up when I really should be sleeping. Or for example, if I want to play around with the internet and get girls to respond to ads and don't want to bother with much effort, I will just send out certain responses or messages to a bunch of girls and get a pretty good batting average off of that.

Again, though, it's more FUN to actually BE in the game, and not just be running it robotically, and of course your game runs even better when you are in the zone, for sure, because you can calibrate better to the exact specifications of the situation and of the girl's state.

3. This leads me to another REALLY important point:

THIS STUFF TAKES PRACTICE

A lot of guys who are not prepared to SERIOUSLY put some EFFORT into this, they want to get results from PURELY BEING A ROBOT.

They think there is some perfect, "How to get all chicks in a single bound of memorized tactic and lines".

That is simply RIDICULOUS. It's trying to oversimplify a very dynamic process.

What I DO believe in is TEACHING these skills using various approaches to learning, INCLUDING the use of models and paradigms to view attraction and the pick up process.

So yes, I do definitely use these models as PART of my instruction, but they are just one small tool. The models help give a guy a view of attraction and the pick up process, but no model can perfectly capture the INFINITE VARIETY of variables that can play out in an interaction between you and a woman.

However, the model CAN give you a beginner a useful VIEW of attraction, but being able to see many of the elements of attraction and the pick up process all at once as part of one model.

But that's all it is, a model.

FOR FULL INSIGHT AND EXCELLENCE, you have to understand and apply ALL THE PRINCIPLES.

To an extent, the answer to the "HOW" of pickup is in the "WHY". For example, let's say a guy wants to know how to kiss a girl.

Well, if he understands that, among many other things, that DOMINANCE is key, and he knows that her ANTI SLUT DEFENSE forbids her from taking responsibility for full escalation, and he knows that sexuality is unleashed when she is not thinking but rather FEELING, feeling GOOD, then he will understand that teasing her and getting her laughing and then escalating from holding hands to caressing her cheek to kissing is ONE good way of accomplishing that.

Obviously, understanding the FULL picture on dominance, the anti-slut defense shield, female culture and sexuality, sense of humor, etc, are KEY. THIS is the way to go for success in ALL situations with women, rather than trying to come up with a word-for-word SCRIPT for every situation. That would be ABSURD and not even EFFECTIVE as it would not allow for all the UNIQUE THINGS about that specific situation that you could work in SPONTANEOUSLY once you UNDERSTAND THIS STUFF.

So understanding the "WHY" is very important indeed in order to understand the HOW.

Of course, you want to make sure that you are getting the WHY explained by a guy who actually DOES THIS FOR REAL, WEEK AFTER WEEK, WITH REAL CLIENTS, IN THE REAL WORLD.

Otherwise, you may be getting a messed up picture that will ruin your results in the real world.

4. The fourth point I want to make clear here is the MASSIVE IMPORTANCE of having a life that you are passionate about BESIDES your dating life.

As passionate as you must be for success with women, you need to be JUST AS PASSIONATE about your OTHER goals in life.

Far too many guys get so swept up with the whole women thing, that they soon end up basing their SELF-ESTEEM on it, which opens them up to becoming vulnerable to depression, neediness, obsession, and other nasties, including kissing all the other good things in your life good bye. Such is the need for self-esteem, that if you base it on women, women will rule your life, and that can includes messed up women as well.

So, no matter what, you must MAINTAIN your sense of direction in life, and not let ANY woman, or women in general, affect that. Your direction, your path, your other passions, are what keep you grounded, and keep you strong.

This doesn't mean to not spend time on women, it just means not to lose your IDENTITY along the way.

And if you quit everything else about your life besides the women thing, then that other part of you ceases to exist.

The ironic thing about all this is that having an unshakeable sense of direction is actually VERY ATTRACTIVE to women. So in the end, this only helps your results with women as well.

Which leads me to the fifth point:

5. NEVER, EVER FORGET THE SEXUAL DIMENSION OF YOUR INTERACTION WITH WOMEN.

Remember, this is about leading to SEX. Other things too, perhaps, like a great relationship, but even that is still a SEXUAL thing, otherwise it would just be a friendship, right?

So what this means is that you have to MANHANDLE the interaction. Not in a caveman way, but in a dominant, yet upbeat and smooth way.

Women feel weird about leading the show towards sex. That's how they have been cultured, so it's up to YOU. Besides, do you really want women to take on that role? It's your privilege as a man. It's also your DUTY.

So if you act too anti-septic, too "nice" in that stereotypical way, to non-sexual, if you wait for HER to escalate, if you are afraid to ESCALATE even when the interaction is going well, because you care too much about her possible reaction and her rejecting the escalation, you will get NOWHERE.

It WON'T ESCALATE on it's OWN.

YOU have to make it happen, and you have to make it smooth as well. If you act like you are trying to accomplish something HARD, you are going to be giving off the wrong vibes.

So the idea is to act as if all this is NOT a big deal. If you make it seem like a big deal, it will make HER feel nervous and uncomfortable with you.

Finally, I'd like to say that ultimately, it's really all up to you. You have to WANT this to get good at it. Personally, I think that women, sex, and especially meeting the RIGHT woman and being with her, is an emotional experience that is INSANELY POWERFUL and enriching and well worth the effort.

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This Program includes over 11 hours of perfectly organized advanced material that is the result of my last 3 YEARS of total dedication to it. It includes 10 CDs as well as a special book to help ensure you retain and understand what you learn.

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Reports From The Real World Of Dating

When it comes to attracting a woman, and especially picking up women from COLD approaches from SCRATCH, there is a cold hard reality: IT TAKES SKILL.

There are bunch of things going on, and at times, many things going on at ONCE: Humor, dominance, leadership, bonding, trust, dealing with her friends or with the logistics of the environment, dealing with your own internal blocks, sexual escalation, changing her state, being able to decode what a woman REALLY means by her words to you when she is speaking to you in the presence of her friends, and finding the right accessories for you as well as sexualizing your wardrobe tastefully, and much MUCH more.

Unless you are a big name movie star or in luck of having model-level looks, it takes SKILL in all these areas and of course a healthy degree of guts as well to GET the girl.

This is the coolest thing, how SKILL can over-ride things like looks and wealth etc.

If you ever watch those tv dating shows, and you see a guy who is not particularly great looking, and he is getting a hottie all into him, observe closely. See, usually the guy TANKS, but it's because the guy has LAME-ASS skills and a weak vibe that is NOT attractive. Not his fault, of course, as society doesn't exactly breed guys properly for success with women, but the fact remains, he fails because of a lack of SKILLS.

You gotta realize that this stuff is very circular as well. See, the guy who is super good looking is not just good looking, he often ALSO benefits from a LIFETIME of being validated and a lifetime of experience with women. The "halo" effect where people think that good looking people are better, smarter, etc etc.

That often helps him develop the other aspects of his personality that actually lead to more experiences with women and all this stuff adds up to a VIBE that counts FAR MORE than looks alone! This is why if a guy is "good looking" but for some reason did NOT get the lifetime of validation, all his looks will still not help him with girls much. The other stuff counts MORE than looks.

And the guy who HASN'T had this validation stuff and tons of experience has a double hill to climb. But he CAN develop these skills and he can SURPASS the guys who were born lucky. But it's gonna take WORK and it's gonna take LEARNING.

But I SWEAR to you, it CAN be done. I've seen it happen in clients. It's a very proud moment for me to watch these guys.

And it doesn't have to take FOREVER.

Here's a letter from a guy who recently downloaded and read my eBook and put it into ACTION. It's not any of that "miracle" hogwash, it's just some SERIOUS progress.

***LETTER FROM A READER***
His First Breakthrough

"Hey Mike,

I am way behind in my studies right now, but I had such a great time last night at a party, I feel as though I have to write you my feedback right now to get it off my chest. I wanted to wait until I closed a deal to write you, but, I had such a great time, I couldn't wait. I purchased your eBook about 5 weeks ago, but I am hoping you'll share my breakthrough with everyone in your newsletters.

Though it took six weeks, it's finally coming together. After gaining the insight, I did have an epiphany as you explained would happen. I spent most of that time rearranging my mentality, observing people, questioning them, building up courage, focusing on my goals, and beginning openers. I also realized how miserable my low self-esteem was making my life-especially when it came to women.

The more I realized how miserable I was though, the more focused I was on breaking out of the terrible slump. I was such a nice guy. My openers were horrible at first. It's very difficult to articulate, but, though my openers didn't necessarily get better, they became more natural (and are becoming).

Anyways, so I'm at the party. I am talking with my friends, and I see two girls at the laptop choosing music, but they were there for quiet awhile. They walked away and this horrible song came on, so I put another song on. I didn't know it at the time, but they had spent about 20 minutes filtering through 500 songs to create their own playlist and I had just deleted it. This girl who is gorgeous walks up to me and says, "hey, you deleted our playlist." LOL, All I was thinking to myself was, "I better effing say something, and it better not be a damn apology or some gaping smile."

So I looked at her and said, "yah, I didn't like it, and don't change my song" and walked away. Even though it wasn't my dream opener, it was so natural-it's as if I didn't even really try to say anything. LOL, you should have seen the expression on her face, like "wow, this guy actually has a nut or two to stand up for himself."

And she didn't change the song. As the night went on, she would get close to me, and I'd tease her, and she'd tease me. It was really a fun time. I had so much fun, not with the teasing so much as her rebuttals-I enjoyed the challenges she gave me, it was so attractive-I wanted her more every time she came back with something. Though my game was weak, there was some kind of connection, and we kept it up most of the time.

Also, lol, I was teasing other girls as much as I could. It became so easy. I fell into this zone where I didn't care what my friends thought (mostly because they are so apologetic). I had difficulty keeping focus because I was having so much fun with her and also the party in general. It was her trying to make eye contact with me--looking to see if I was looking.

For the first time in LONG TIME I was truly enjoying every minute that passed. Everybody was celebrating, and no one was hurting each other (I know, I know-I should be enjoying every minute anyhow, and I work on that, but you know what I mean). Like I said, I didn't seal the deal, but I didn't try to seal it for a reason; I wanted to wake up early to study and get my chores done. What a great night.

When I see a girl now, I don't think, "Man, I hope this girl gives me the time of day," but rather, I say to myself "I gottah give this gurl a tease, I want her challenge, I want to see if she's worth the time of day (I am only awake for about 16 of them). And yes, it has only been one day. Thanks for the newsletters. It's great to have those reminders.

I read the ebook mostly in one night. The next night, I finished it. And I had the epiphany, and I couldn't sleep for two days. The epiphany had more to do with how I see humans in general and my life more than it had to do with women. It was truly a good piece, and it made me think and challenge my thoughts. It was a very worthwhile investment.

I am graduating in May (that's the plan anyways), and I have to drop a lot of money on graduation. I will most likely purchase your CD's in the future. I also have a lot more to work when it comes to women. (Regarding the eBook) I thought it had a very nice flow. It's obvious that you carefully crafted your chapters. Great examples.

Craig T.

***MY RESPONSE*** Okay, first of all CONGRATS on making some SERIOUS progress. And thanks for the genuine props on the eBook.

And CONGRATS on the EPIPHANY.
Get ready for the dominos to start falling, one after another, as from this epiphany each realization leads to further massive realizations. And if you think the eBook is awesome, just wait till you get to the CD set!!!!!

Let's first go over what you did RIGHT in your interaction at the party:

1. You GOT your butt OUT of the house. Seriously, this IS a huge thing. If you're used to NOT taking action, it can take huge inertia to draw up the wherewithal to overcome all the negative voices in your mind telling you to continue to do nothing so that you avoid any potential emotional pain.

(Even though of course, not taking action leads to more emotional pain, but the brain has a funny way of not thinking long term and wanting to just avoid the short term pain, so this is why I say congrats on overcoming that.)

2. You TOOK the ball and RAN with it. When she came to you and essentially OPENED YOU UP, (which by the way could be an interesting strategy of opening up girls at a party if they ever choose a song you didn't freak out but rather SAW OPPORTUNITY and showed DOMINANCE and VALUE in a way that wasn't mean but was just COOL and made sense.

You were THE MAN!

As you know, of course, it could have been FUNNIER, but it was still SOLID stuff and in fact this was the way I used to run my own game, it was pure dominance and less playful. And it worked really well too, but not as great in clubs/parties where the vibe is pure fun.

But that was years ago when I was still a bit pissed about women, so I wasn't congruent with the playful stuff right off the bat.

However, the sooner you get the playful vibe CONGRUENT to your personality, the better. Out with the chips on our shoulders, they do nothing for us or the chicks in our lives. Use the past as useful lessons, not as misery fuel.

Dominance should be MIXED with playfulness.

3. You teased her and built up the FUN vibes AND the tension (not giving into her, keeping things challenging but in a fun way), (although let us know next time the exact teases you gave!)

4. You ENJOYED her challenges, you didn't get offended or insecure, you "GOT IT" as they say. You have developed to the point that you are internally strong enough to ENJOY this. Good stuff, and a very attractive trait to the super hottest of women who "get it" too.

5. You enjoyed the party in general and socialized with plenty of other girls too. You were doing what you SHOULD be doing at a party- having fun by being in the right state. Otherwise, what the heck is a guy doing at a party. If he is ONLY there desperately looking for chicks, it's faar from the best vibe. It's like the guy has no sense of FUN, it's also like he is a pure taker. He is not adding to the vibe, he just is all too serious looking for chicks.

Okay, now, here's where you could IMPROVE:

1. Even though you did a good job of running with the ball when it was presented to you, you don't want to RELY on women opening YOU up for ANY reason. Yes, women open up guys for various reasons, and there are things you can do to help increase the chances of that like wearing certain crazy types of clothing and accessories as conversation pieces, but you want to be a man of ACTION and not rely on that.

I'm not saying you would rely on that, but I want to make SURE you don't develop a weakness in APPROACHING by looking for ways out of it where women will approach you instead.

The reasons for this are not only practical in the sense of increasing your options of women to choose from, but also internally as well, you don't want to send the message to your brain that you are passive. So take action.

Okay, the next thing to improve:

2. STOP the teasing earlier. Even though it's GREAT to get to that point where you "get" how to tease and enjoy that vibe, you have to TAKE THINGS TO THE NEXT LEVEL by getting "real" as they say.

As I explain in the eBook as well, if you are going to ever proceed to getting physical, you have to develop some TRUST and more solid CONNECTION. A woman can't open up PHYSICALLY usually until she feels there is a much more solid "getting to know you" going on.

This is what comes after teasing. And by the way, teasing is not the ONLY way to establish vibe, but at parties it is usually the best way to go, since the vibe is fun.

The key is to make emotional impact, and fun teasing vibes are very sexual and also fun is very close to pleasure, and that's all close to sex, so it makes sense. But just to prevent any confusion, I want to make it clear that teasing is not the only way to open girls up, what counts is being EMOTIONALLY COMPELLING to her. But that's a whole other story, and I deal with that as well as a TON of other important topics in my CD Mastery Apprenticeship Program.

The next thing to IMPROVE on:

3. You mention you "had difficulty keeping focus because I was having so much fun with her and also the party in general. It was her trying to make eye contact" etc, etc.

Man, you HAVE to focus. What happened is NORMAL when you start. There is so much stimulation happening, and it feels so good, and also you don't want to see it all go down the toilet with a "disappointment" in case you TRY to push to the next level and you get resistance from her. So it gets harder to think, and also you don't want to LOSE that happy state by LOSING.

But what you have to do is REALIZE that success can ONLY be yours if you DO keep pushing. Of course, you do this WISELY, SMOOTHLY, but it will never GET smooth and perfect until you first GET IN THERE and do it not perfectly a few times.

DON'T GET IT PERFECT.
JUST GET IN THERE and WORK IT.

The reality is that most girls are not going to "blow you off" and be rude to you, they are just going to give you some resistance, which is FINE. You can DEAL with that too, as you will learn to finely calibrate your connection building and physical escalation with experience, and with help of the insights, strategies, and tips you get from having the Wizard here as your secret weapon.

And this leads me to the next thing you can improve on:

4. ALWAYS try to take your interaction as far as possible. You mention you had chores and studies, and I believe you, but something tells me that if you knew you could have that fine chicka with you even if it would just be for one hour, you would do it that night.

And the adrenaline rush would be so awesome that you'd have tons of energy for your chores even with less sleep, and then the next night you'd sleep like a baby. Of course, I could be wrong, and also, I DEFINITELY am against any kind of DRIVING when fatigued. So if you were going to have to drive and you would be fatigued, then I totally am with ya there in calling it quits for the night.

I have to point this stuff out because otherwise it's too easy to rationalize to ourselves out of taking full action. I'm giving you the tough love, yo. Because I wanna see you GET the girl next time.

But again, overall, congrats, you are a man of ACTION, especially when you are in an environment of friends who DON'T take action, it takes extra OOMPH to go against the tide.

And if you are reading this right now, and would like to take YOUR results with women to a WHOLE NEW LEVEL, then you ought to download my eBook, The Dating Wizard: Secrets to Success with Women, IMMEDIATELY.

It's at:

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The guy right here in this email got the epiphany after completing the book in two nights. It's real, the kind of thing that charges you up so massively, you can't SLEEP for a couple of nights. Yup, sorry, but that's how powerful it is. In 6 weeks, he was already "getting it" and clearly women who are HOTTIES are seriously INTERESTED in him.

We're talking changing around an entirely wrong way of BEING and thinking that was entrenched into him over his entire LIFE, and yet in 6 weeks, major positive change has already occured.

Now, he just has to learn exactly how to PUSH it farther to the next stage to SEAL THE DEAL. And if it's cool with him, he'll let us know how he's doing soon and let us know his next stage of progress.

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3 Things Men Can't Resist in a Woman

1) A Woman Who Smiles (More powerful than you might realize)

A woman who smiles makes it easier for a man to approach her by conveying an attitude of confidence and playfulness. Since many women are fearful of giving men the "wrong impression" they frequently guard their smiles. While that approach is safer, it inadvertently sends the message of being someone who is overly cautious.

In addition, smiling is a sign of acceptance. Men often need some signal that it is safe to approach a woman before there're willing to a risk introduction themselves (unless they are intoxicated).

2) A Woman who Listens (and doesn't dominate the conversation)

Men rarely get listened to, at least not beyond a few minutes. Most of the time that is all men really need, but since most men hate to be rejected, it is easier for them to keep conversations superficial. They expect most women to want to talk rather than be willing to listen.

If they happen to meet a woman who listens with her eyes (looks at him while he's talking) as well as her ears, they are intrigued. Then, if she continues to listen and not take over the conversation, well, that's the kind of woman that men can't resist, and eventually marry.

3) A Woman who dresses Feminine (Men are REALLY visual)

Everyone knows that men are visual but women often forget just how helpless guys are to what they see. The right visual stimulation can hypnotize a man. Women hear this and often become fearful because the mistakenly believe that men only notice perfect women.

Forget Perfect! If you really want to be noticed by men think colors, dresses and curves. Men basically like any woman who has that soft and cuddly quality. It isn't that men don't find women attractive in pants or when they are dressed comfortably, it's that they don't notice them as easily. It doesn't catch their eye like earrings or long hair does.

Conversely, a powerfully dressed woman (think lots of red) makes most men think of sex, or not notice her at all. She may have a soft side, but if men can't see it, they often don't know it exist. The more feminine (softer) a woman dresses; the more men she will attract.

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Flirting Tips For Guys

Most women are really good at flirting and know how to do it, but when it comes to guys, they usually have no clue. Here are 16 different flirting tips for guys that will help you get the girl.

The key is that you want to be competitive with women, but playfully competitive. If you can manage this, you will be more successful with women than you ever thought you could be.

16 Flirting Tips to Memorize

1. When she says that she is a good girl, tell her you only like bad girls.
2. When you are playing a game, make a bet on the outcome. Cheat if you have to win!
3. When you are watching a movie, throw popcorn at her.
4. When she is lying down, tickle her arms, legs and stomach.
5. When she tells you she likes a shirt, tell her that you think it looks terrible.
6. When she says she wants to go home, tell her that you don't want to go home with her, because you hardly know her. Imply that she is a bad girl.
7. When she says something is cool, give her a weird look.
8. When she is sitting next to you on the bed, give her a push off of it.
9. When she sits down next to you, scoot away from her.
10. When she is talking to you, take the hat right off of her head, and don't give it back.
11. When she tries to convince you that she is cool, call her a dork.
12. When she does something (anything!), stick your tongue out at her.
13. When she says something is ugly, tell her how much you like it.
14. When she says that she likes a particular actor, claim that she has a crush on him.
15. When she puts her hand on your leg, give her a strange look like she is coming on to you.
16. When she does something embarrassing, act like you are going to walk away.

Why These Tips Work

If you are confused, don't worry! Here's why these tips work.

Women communicate indirectly. This means that when she hits you or teases you, it actually means that she likes you and wants to learn more about you.

Don't stop being competitive with her. You can't do too much of this, so don't worry. If you keep up this emotion, you'll have her interested in your mystery.

Don't say that you are sorry. If you tell her that she looks dorky in that shirt one minute and then apologize for it a second later, you are going to lose the interest she is giving you really quickly.

Why shouldn't you apologize? The second that you say you are sorry, you lose a bit of the interest and intrigue that she had for you. If she starts wanting you to compliment her by asking you if her hair looks good, don't act impressed. She's testing you to see if you are just putting on an act.

What to Say?

Another of the important flirting tips for guys is that there is nothing that is right to say. Every guy has a different style, and it is up to you to find out what your style is.

When you are talking to her, a woman is looking for some of the personality traits that she wants in a man. When you realize this, you will be able to come up with great conversations. Remember, that you want to show your confidence of what you are saying when you are talking to a woman.

Don't forget that there are many other factors that will determine if a girl is interested in you or not. Here are some of the reasons a girl may not be interested in guys:

• Has just gotten out of a bad relationship
• Be sick of dating, and want a break from everyone.
• Be dating someone else
• Not be attracted to guys

Believe me when I say that you really learn a lot more when a conversation or flirting attempt on a beautiful woman goes wrong. What you need to do is get a journal and write down how each interaction went, so you can learn from your mistakes and track your progress.

The best of the flirting tips for guys is to always act playfully competitive when you are talking to women. If you can manage this, you will be able to get women to be attracted to you.

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How To Get a Girl To Fall in Love With You

If you can't stop thinking about her, her name gives you chills and your heart pounds every time you see her, you are in love. Now, it is important to ensure that you know how to get a girl to fall in love with you and keep her. There are some important steps in making sure that you get her and keep her. Consider this article your wake up call.

Connecting With People

It is important to build healthy relationships with others. Especially the girl of your dreams. There is a little thing called rapport and you should take the definition very seriously. Rapport is an open, positive and healthy way of communicating with another person. This type of relationship is not only important with your girl, but also everyone else in your life as well.

Those that are good at building rapport will have an excellent relationship with others. The way that you establish this kind of relationship with your love is to keep a playful flirtation going while you share information with her. This way you are making her feel good and enhancing the sexual attraction as well as letting her into your heart. This is important to women, you have to share secrets with them.

The Biggest Mistake Guys In Love Make

Most men develop a rapport with a woman based on a friendship first, which often times fails miserably. You want to capitalize on that sexual attraction, then work on being friends as well. Never start as "just friends" it sends the wrong message and then the woman does not want to lose her friend by becoming your girlfriend. So, avoid this deadly trap at all costs.

How to get a girl to fall in love with you is simple. It is a mix of flirting, sharing and staying with it. Another common mistake is that men will give up at the first sign of any problem. Do not give up. Lay on the flirting tactfully, but heavily. Make sure that she knows you are interested and build that attraction.

Another common mistake is that men will have a lack of words and conversation pieces so they turn to demographics, which is a conversation killer. Share personal information with her such as hobbies, interests, dreams and what you are hoping for in 5 years, but never bore her. Keep her enticed by showing her your playful personality, great communication skills and best of all your indulgence in her. So to recap, keep the flirting, keep the personal conversation and lose the demographics.

Getting A Women Fall In Love With You

Hopefully you have already established a flirtation that has led to a sexual attraction on her part. If not, you may need to try something new. If she is unresponsive, it may be because she is desirable and you have lots of competition with other men. You may need to move on to dating someone else, learning the ropes in the mean time. By dating other women that have similar qualities you are learning. This will help and also it will make you look more desirable, and that is what women like. They want something that is in demand, so don't be too easy or answering her every beck and call.

When you have moved on, she will feel as if she has lost you. This will spark her interest and she may begin pursuing you. This will let her know that you are much more than someone's friend. You are a hot guy that others desire!

The Skill Of Attracting Women

Attracting a woman is an ongoing process. It is a building process and does not happen over night. First, establishing a good solid flirty relationship, let her know that you are interested. Flirting peaks sexual desire! Second, keep the interest by sharing personal information with her, let her in a bit. And, lastly do not run at the first thing, keep trying, hang in there. Soon you will find that you have mastered how to get a girl to fall in love with you.

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Tips On How To Talk To Girls

If men think that sucking up is the best tips on how to talk to girls, they have another thing coming. Most men will take on a flat effect leaving their conversation dull. The woman will assume that the man is only making conversation and not truly interested in her. In worse cases she may think that you are kissing up, which is even more detrimental.

Approaching a woman can be hard enough, but to keep the conversation going can be harder. But, there are things that can make it easier. Read on to find out how to have a good time which is the key to talking with girls.

Conversation Mistakes

When men are around their friends they almost always have a good time. Why is this? Because when they are around other men they cut up and have a good time. They tell jokes and don't worry about saying or doing the wrong thing.

When men are around women they often become more serious and begin taking the situation very seriously. Laughing and joking stops out of the fear of saying the wrong thing or looking stupid to the woman. This causes the man to lose his creativity and become boring. This reservation makes the man seem not interesting at all.

When men stop the laughing and joking so does the flirtation, which is not a good thing. Flirting is a very important part of the tips on how to talk to girls. Playing around is a part of keeping her interested.

Why Do Men Act Differently Around Women?

A mans behavior changes around women because they are afraid of saying the wrong thing. This can cause their creativity and flirtation to end resulting in a "boring" male.

When men are nervous they generally can't even think of what to say. It is hard to have a good and interesting conversation if you can not find some common ground to talk about. Those that are watching everything they say find it difficult to have a good conversation. It is best to pay attention to your words and comments, but the most important thing is to be yourself and have a good time. Remember these tips:

It is acceptable to be cautious, but do not watch your every word. If you are too cautious you become boring and risk losing the girl anyway. Keep a light hearted attitude and have a good time. Try not to worry so much that you don't know what to say. BE YOURSELF!

The Media Is Sending the Wrong Message

There is always a Mr. Right in the movies that does everything wrong in the beginning. But, quickly redeems himself with roses, a love song and some quirky actions. Basically he begs her back or serenades her until she falls in love with him. How accurate is this?

Not very effective at all, as everyday people we can not go around singing to each other or skipping down the street. The break out singing at the restaurant is great in fantasy land, but not true to real life. Though these actions will get a response from her you must be careful about it also. You don't want her to feel that you are childish or manipulative. Women have radars for manipulative men.

Talking To Women Effectively

If you can remember back to childhood you will remember good times. That is because those were the times that you were allowed to play, horse around and not worry with it. It did not matter if you said or did something silly, that was the point. You may have hide toys, called names or wrestled in the floor, anything to get a good laugh.

Many times after growing up people stop playing around for fear of others looking at them negatively. What many do not realize is that this play attitude is a form of flirting and is very important in any relationship. This builds sexual tension and allows for you to appear confident and fun to be around.

Worry more about finding that playful side of yourself then tips on how to talk to girls will come easy. If you find this area of your personality the rest will come naturally. Creativity and ability comes from that uninhibited area of your person, find it!

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Meeting Older Women

If you're a guy looking to have a good time with women, and you've been focusing on the "younger generation" of females out there, you might be surprised to find that you're actually missing out on a LOT of great potential relationships.

In these modern times, older women are becoming more and more an option for guys looking to enter the dating scene. Whether the girl is a couple years older than you, or a full blown "cougar" looking for a hot stud, you have some great, un-tapped options.

See, there are lots of very "career-focused" women out there nowadays who have achieved some level of success with their businesses and are now looking to find love. There are also women who have gotten divorces and now find themselves open to meeting new men. Whatever the case, the number of available older women is growing.

And for the typical man who's open to dealing with more "experienced" women, this couldn't be better news.

So here's the real question...

Are you interested in dating a woman who's older than you are?

Do you find older women more attractive than their younger counterparts?

Well, my friend, you are not alone!

Older women are much more "mature" and experienced in the ways of love. They've usually had a lot of practice dealing with men, and know their way around the bedroom.

They can also be MUCH easier to deal with than younger women, who can tend to be a little "high maintenance."

If you're a man in your mid-to-late 20s who's mostly been with women in their late teens and early 20s, dating a woman in her 40s can be a real treat for you!

They tend to be more mature and less selfish - sexually, and in just about every other way - than the women you're used to dating. And if you're not looking for anything serious, the chances are higher that they're not either, if they're just past child-bearing age.

In that way, they're kind of like a lot of women in their mid-20s and younger, who don't feel compelled to start a family in the way that single women who've hit 28 or 29 do. By the time a single woman reaches that age range, she's more likely to feel that now's the time to act if she's ever going to have children.

That's because she's not getting any younger, and she feels less attractive than she was when she was in her early 20s. In her mind, it's only going to get harder to find a great man she can settle down with.

(By the way, a lot of women at this stage make a mistake that a lot of men make their entire lives: they get desperate. Some women actually repel men because of their desire to get into a serious relationship sooner than the man is comfortable with. And a lot of women at this stage will settle for a man who they're not compatible with, but who will end up fulfilling their need to have a family.)

So how can you start meeting older women?

The first place I'd start looking to meet older women is on the internet.

Yes, it's true. I didn't stutter. I'd say that 90% of the older women you'd like to meet are online.

Understand that many single, older women either have kids or work (or both).

This means that they don't really have time to go to "traditional" places to meet men, like bars or clubs.

So hitting up websites like Match.com, eHarmony, and even MySpace can be a great way to meet these older women, since they tend to use these sites often.

Other good ways of meeting older women are to go to places you'd know to find them! So avoid that trendy bar or club, because you'd usually find these women at more laid back places.

Coffee shops in the morning and afternoon are good places to meet older women, simply because there are the places women stop on their way to and from work.

You can also meet older women just going throughout your day - be it at lunch, at the mall, shopping for groceries, or whatever it may be.

But there are problems with dating older women. You may not be as mature as she is, which can be a problem for both of you. And the age difference can become rather awkward should you decide to get married: If there's a 15-year age difference between you, then she'll be 50 when you're 35!

But that's not to say that you shouldn't meet and date an older woman. It can be a great experience for you, if you're aware of the potential issues that can arise in the relationship.

Honestly, the art of meeting and dating older women could fill a book, and unfortunately, I just don't have the time to go as much into detail with this as I would like.

So if you're interested in learning more about how to meet and date older women (or just women in general), then I would highly recommend you sign up for my free How To Meet Women crash course.

No where else on the internet will you find such a detailed and comprehensive resource - for free, no less - on how to meet and date the women of your dreams.

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