Are you looking for opportunities to connect with a girl? Then holding her hand is the perfect means of reaching out to her. Whether you are beginning a relationship or growing it, here are three sure ways to connect and hold her hand.
Gimme Five
Gimme five is a classic opportunity to hold hands. Well, technically, you don’t hold hands, but touch hands, and that should be a good start. Use this technique if you are not entirely sure about your feelings towards a girl, or if you are still testing the waters.
As you go on about your friendship, there will be an opportunity to connect, to feel without committing, to see if sparks will fly. When you share a victorious moment, say winning a foosball game or finishing a project, ask the girl to give you five by holding out your palm facing up and say, “Gimme five!” With such a friendly and risk-free move, she will definitely oblige. As soon as she slaps your hand, momentarily close your eyes and savor the experience. If you felt sparks, then she’s definitely a keeper. If not, then don’t lose hope, there are other opportunities to physically connect with her and test if the relationship is headed somewhere.
I Got You
This opportunity to hold a girl’s hand arises when the girl is about to overcome an obstacle and would need support, say as she alights from a vehicle or flight of stairs or when leaping across a puddle of water. Do the following:
As the girl is about to embark on the activity, look into her eyes and convey, without words, that you are there for her. If she’s looked away and is concentrating on the obstacle in front of her, then bravely declare that you are there by saying, “I got you” or “ here,” and simultaneously hold out your hand with the palms up and fingers slightly cupped. No girl can resist a helping hand and an assured voice.
As she takes your hands, you will feel that she will cup her hands onto your palms, as if securing herself on you and may put on some weight, especially when she’s on her way down.
Respond by securely cupping your fingers and locking your elbows and shoulders to accept the added weight that she will put on you. Just be conscious not to grip too hard, as she may feel a strain if her hands are squeezed too tight.
As she overcomes her obstacle, gently ease the grip, but don’t let go of her hands just yet. This is a decision moment for you, whether to take the opportunity to continue holding her hand, or to let her go and hope for a next time.
If you decide to hold on, then ease into to the next type of holding hands, for a more comfortable connection.
If you decide to let go, then make sure she remembers the experience. As you ease-up the grip, warm up her hands to convey the honor and pleasure you experienced in the opportunity to secure her. Caress her hand by sliding your thumb on top of her hand or sliding you fingers at the side of her hand. At the same time, ask if she’s ok, or if she’s ready to go. Soon as she say’s she’s ok, gently let go and politely bid her to, “take care on your way,” or “have a good walk.”
Locked to Me
If you are in a stable relationship, then you know that physical intimacy is part of fostering your bond. Holding hands is an intricate part of your relationship. Whether you do it in private or public, holding hands does not only connect your emotions but enhances it as well. One of the most common types of holding hands is the “locked to me” way.
This style has to do with interlocking your fingers with hers, as you hold hands. Do this by putting your palms together, as if in prayer.
As your palms align, the fingers will naturally align. However, to be intertwined, pivot your palm slightly sideways and open up the spaces in between your fingers.
As your fingers open up, the girl’s fingers will naturally fall into the spaces in between, so both your fingers alternate with each other. Just curl your gingers to the back of the other’s palms and your fingers and hands become locked to each other.
As your relationship grows, you may discover other ways of holding hands, and those that will suit yours and her hand type. The important thing is never letting go, for as long as your hands are together, you and her become one.
http://www.articles-central.info/Article/How-To-Hold-A-Girl-s-Hands/17900
Wednesday, August 29, 2007
Is She Interested In Me: How To Decode Her Body Language
Women are generally known to be very talkative. Give them a chance to start talking and they will definitely shoot the breeze, unloading several months’ worth of hormonal challenges unto your simple yes-or-no questions.
Hence, you would tend to think that with their knack in lip fluttering, they would find the other mediums of communication completely useless.
However, man’s fine female friends are a “bilingual” to a certain extent, and she is as articulate in body language as she is in the words on paper.
Therefore, when it comes to feelings and relationships, women would use other forms to convey their message. They would use such tools to convey their message without going into trouble. They would literally try to do it on their own little way.
According to some experts, the only problem is that even if women have their own set of language, it is still hard for the amateurs to decode the body language. In fact, body languages are only seen clearly in about 1 out of 1,000 contacts with men.
Hence, the only way to succeed in analyzing if the woman really likes you is to decode the body language that they may have been projecting but were taken for granted because you do not understand its meaning.
So to make certain you do not make a hash of translation, here is a list of definitions that would identify the most common moves that would literally tell you that she is interested in you an dhow to react on the actions.
Self-stroking
You are talking to a chick at a bar, and you notice her slowly running her hand up and down her forearm. It is a rash! It is a twitch!
No! It is a tactile woman!
She loves the feel of things on her hand, and most probably the rest of her body. A simple movement like that speaks pages. It is like telling you, “Look at my hand, pretend it is yours.”
What to do: “Look but do not touch” does not apply here. Give her a few strokes but keep your hands on neutral territory.
A touch on the shoulder, a tap on the top of her hand would be enough. If she is telling you what you hope she is telling you, she will easily focus her tactile fixation on you.
The Hair-Behind-Ear Tuck
Most women have this technique down pat. It may be an affection of the typical and much sought-after demure lady.
For the most part, it shows that your girl is a preneer. She likes to have every strand of hair to be in place; and a single one of them is out of line. That is the ear tuck power.
What to do: Pay her a compliment. Any compliment will do, but a “I like your hair like that” may just be the ticket that she has been waiting from you.
Of course, you have heard that flattery would not get you anywhere, but it will be a good start. Do not start off with it, though, because it is just a damn lame line. But throw it into a crucial part of the conversation, and hopefully, she will soon be doing her preening for you.
Puppy Dog Eyes
Awww! She is so cute. Those big doe eyes are practically begging for assistance. She needs your help and you must willingly give it.
Gotcha!
Although this tactic is used mostly for flat tires and bus seats, it works quite well in the flirting and pick-up scene as well.
What to do: When the puppy dog’s eyes come on, jump into action. Snap your fingers and order a drink for her. Offer her a chair. Do not overdo it though, because women are totally capable of themselves, and the only reason why she appears like a damsel in distress is the fact that she likes you and she is interested to know you better.
The Laugh and Touch Combo
At an appropriate time in the conversation, you whip out your favorite gay bar joke to seal the deal with your date. She laughs unabashedly, leans towards you, and plants an unassuming hand on your thigh, arm, or shoulder.
So she thinks you are funny, right? Wrong. The upside down, though, is that she is into you, downright interested in you, despite the lame-ass joke. This is her way of showing you that she is easy to get along with and open to possibilities that involve you.
What to do: Talk about things that border on the intimate, but end with a self-deprecating joke. This will keep you from going too heavy but at the same time, it sends out the signal that you like her too and that you are comfortable with her.
The bottom line is that men should not be more focused on decoding the body language alone. Trigger the quest by providing appropriate responses in return. That would surely end you both in such an exciting world of “getting-to-know-you-better” stage.
http://www.articles-central.info/Article/Is-She-Interested-In-Me--How-To-Decode-Her-Body-Language/17898
Hence, you would tend to think that with their knack in lip fluttering, they would find the other mediums of communication completely useless.
However, man’s fine female friends are a “bilingual” to a certain extent, and she is as articulate in body language as she is in the words on paper.
Therefore, when it comes to feelings and relationships, women would use other forms to convey their message. They would use such tools to convey their message without going into trouble. They would literally try to do it on their own little way.
According to some experts, the only problem is that even if women have their own set of language, it is still hard for the amateurs to decode the body language. In fact, body languages are only seen clearly in about 1 out of 1,000 contacts with men.
Hence, the only way to succeed in analyzing if the woman really likes you is to decode the body language that they may have been projecting but were taken for granted because you do not understand its meaning.
So to make certain you do not make a hash of translation, here is a list of definitions that would identify the most common moves that would literally tell you that she is interested in you an dhow to react on the actions.
Self-stroking
You are talking to a chick at a bar, and you notice her slowly running her hand up and down her forearm. It is a rash! It is a twitch!
No! It is a tactile woman!
She loves the feel of things on her hand, and most probably the rest of her body. A simple movement like that speaks pages. It is like telling you, “Look at my hand, pretend it is yours.”
What to do: “Look but do not touch” does not apply here. Give her a few strokes but keep your hands on neutral territory.
A touch on the shoulder, a tap on the top of her hand would be enough. If she is telling you what you hope she is telling you, she will easily focus her tactile fixation on you.
The Hair-Behind-Ear Tuck
Most women have this technique down pat. It may be an affection of the typical and much sought-after demure lady.
For the most part, it shows that your girl is a preneer. She likes to have every strand of hair to be in place; and a single one of them is out of line. That is the ear tuck power.
What to do: Pay her a compliment. Any compliment will do, but a “I like your hair like that” may just be the ticket that she has been waiting from you.
Of course, you have heard that flattery would not get you anywhere, but it will be a good start. Do not start off with it, though, because it is just a damn lame line. But throw it into a crucial part of the conversation, and hopefully, she will soon be doing her preening for you.
Puppy Dog Eyes
Awww! She is so cute. Those big doe eyes are practically begging for assistance. She needs your help and you must willingly give it.
Gotcha!
Although this tactic is used mostly for flat tires and bus seats, it works quite well in the flirting and pick-up scene as well.
What to do: When the puppy dog’s eyes come on, jump into action. Snap your fingers and order a drink for her. Offer her a chair. Do not overdo it though, because women are totally capable of themselves, and the only reason why she appears like a damsel in distress is the fact that she likes you and she is interested to know you better.
The Laugh and Touch Combo
At an appropriate time in the conversation, you whip out your favorite gay bar joke to seal the deal with your date. She laughs unabashedly, leans towards you, and plants an unassuming hand on your thigh, arm, or shoulder.
So she thinks you are funny, right? Wrong. The upside down, though, is that she is into you, downright interested in you, despite the lame-ass joke. This is her way of showing you that she is easy to get along with and open to possibilities that involve you.
What to do: Talk about things that border on the intimate, but end with a self-deprecating joke. This will keep you from going too heavy but at the same time, it sends out the signal that you like her too and that you are comfortable with her.
The bottom line is that men should not be more focused on decoding the body language alone. Trigger the quest by providing appropriate responses in return. That would surely end you both in such an exciting world of “getting-to-know-you-better” stage.
http://www.articles-central.info/Article/Is-She-Interested-In-Me--How-To-Decode-Her-Body-Language/17898
8 Types Of Women To Avoid Dating
A recent survey revealed that fifty two percent of men date for intimacy. Men are looking for that “someone” to get romantically involved with and a potential mate for life.
There are women that a man should avoid dating. Here are signs to watch out for:
1. The overly feminist. This type of woman assumes and believes man is the cause of all the pains and suffering of a society. It is her strong belief that women are much more intelligent than men and are capable of doing things “the correct way”.
Men would not want to spend some time with these types of women, anything that a man will do will always be negative to them. They can never be pleased by a man.
2. The material girl. She is just after the money! These types of women are “high maintenance”. They not just expect, but often demand that a man should finance all her luxuries in life. To her, the man has the responsibility to pay for dinners, drinks, trips, jewelry, flowers etc. while she absolutely feels compulsion or guilt to reciprocate.
Simply put, she is a prostitute in disguise. She is a greedy person, having no perception of the feelings of others and her only concern is achieving and obtaining things that she wants. Never be fooled; some appear to be really nice at first, until they know that you would do anything for them. Then the asking for material things starts!
3. The hopeless romantic. These women live inside a perfect world of romance in novels, where love and relationships are perfect and her night and shining armor will always come and they will live happily ever after.
She has always been pampered by her and considered a "princess," thus have no idea that what the real life is. She will expect the man to take care of her constantly and that all her wishes be given; if not, she can turn out to be a screaming nag.
4. The angry girl. Similar to the feminist, she actually hates men. They often look down on men accounting a long list of all the injustice and transgressions of every guy that they shared a relationship with. To her, all men are "creeps", "pigs." and jerks. These women have boiling rage at men that can, at any given moment explode.
5. The insecure Miss. They will seem to be very pleasant, loving and accommodating at first, treating men very well. Later, when all her innermost insecurities go up the surface, she can be annoyingly calling the man she is dating at least ten times a day, asking where are you, or that she just missed your voice.
This woman demands frequent and persistent reassurance that you love her and you find her attractive; because of this insecurity, she worries continuously about her hair, make up, clothes etc. She can be clingy, needing constant attention and insistently torments you with her thoughts that you will leave her soon if you find someone better.
6. The abstract or elusive type. She is romantic but with a mysteriously dark side. She has been hurt in past relationships and has not gone over it. These bad experiences drive her to subconsciously stay way from or damage her new relationship.
She will be very frustrating to deal with, as at first, she will show a lot of interest with the man, however runs away very quickly; she will repeat this cycle again and again. She will date and flirt with the man, but will insist that they both remain as friends.
7. The desperate Miss. She is desperate to get married. She does not even choose to know the man; she just wants to trap him and bring him to the nearest altar!
8. The controlling type. She can be very nasty in a very subtle way, but when given the opportunity, will direct each phase of a man’s life. She will always have a “say” as to what the man wears, where must the man go, who should the man talk to, who can a man have as friends, what a man can and can not eat; as in everything! The man can not insist on his own rights or else, there will be no sex, a lot of crying, screaming, pouting and everything just so the man will give in.
To all men, careful!
http://www.articles-central.info/Article/8-Types-Of-Women-To-Avoid-Dating/15975
There are women that a man should avoid dating. Here are signs to watch out for:
1. The overly feminist. This type of woman assumes and believes man is the cause of all the pains and suffering of a society. It is her strong belief that women are much more intelligent than men and are capable of doing things “the correct way”.
Men would not want to spend some time with these types of women, anything that a man will do will always be negative to them. They can never be pleased by a man.
2. The material girl. She is just after the money! These types of women are “high maintenance”. They not just expect, but often demand that a man should finance all her luxuries in life. To her, the man has the responsibility to pay for dinners, drinks, trips, jewelry, flowers etc. while she absolutely feels compulsion or guilt to reciprocate.
Simply put, she is a prostitute in disguise. She is a greedy person, having no perception of the feelings of others and her only concern is achieving and obtaining things that she wants. Never be fooled; some appear to be really nice at first, until they know that you would do anything for them. Then the asking for material things starts!
3. The hopeless romantic. These women live inside a perfect world of romance in novels, where love and relationships are perfect and her night and shining armor will always come and they will live happily ever after.
She has always been pampered by her and considered a "princess," thus have no idea that what the real life is. She will expect the man to take care of her constantly and that all her wishes be given; if not, she can turn out to be a screaming nag.
4. The angry girl. Similar to the feminist, she actually hates men. They often look down on men accounting a long list of all the injustice and transgressions of every guy that they shared a relationship with. To her, all men are "creeps", "pigs." and jerks. These women have boiling rage at men that can, at any given moment explode.
5. The insecure Miss. They will seem to be very pleasant, loving and accommodating at first, treating men very well. Later, when all her innermost insecurities go up the surface, she can be annoyingly calling the man she is dating at least ten times a day, asking where are you, or that she just missed your voice.
This woman demands frequent and persistent reassurance that you love her and you find her attractive; because of this insecurity, she worries continuously about her hair, make up, clothes etc. She can be clingy, needing constant attention and insistently torments you with her thoughts that you will leave her soon if you find someone better.
6. The abstract or elusive type. She is romantic but with a mysteriously dark side. She has been hurt in past relationships and has not gone over it. These bad experiences drive her to subconsciously stay way from or damage her new relationship.
She will be very frustrating to deal with, as at first, she will show a lot of interest with the man, however runs away very quickly; she will repeat this cycle again and again. She will date and flirt with the man, but will insist that they both remain as friends.
7. The desperate Miss. She is desperate to get married. She does not even choose to know the man; she just wants to trap him and bring him to the nearest altar!
8. The controlling type. She can be very nasty in a very subtle way, but when given the opportunity, will direct each phase of a man’s life. She will always have a “say” as to what the man wears, where must the man go, who should the man talk to, who can a man have as friends, what a man can and can not eat; as in everything! The man can not insist on his own rights or else, there will be no sex, a lot of crying, screaming, pouting and everything just so the man will give in.
To all men, careful!
http://www.articles-central.info/Article/8-Types-Of-Women-To-Avoid-Dating/15975
Workplace Romance Tips: The Best Inter-Office Memo To Remember
For most young career people, they find spending nearly 35% of their time at the workplace than at their respective homes. That accounts to almost 9 hours of work, work, and work.
For this reason, most of the people involved in this kind of situation find themselves out of place in the social world because they simply do not have time to meet other people anymore. In fact, they do not even have time for themselves.
That is why it is not such an appalling revelation when some surveys showed how 67.8% of the respondents, all working but in different companies, are into relationship with their colleagues. This goes to show that because of the time constraint that most professionals have and because of the lack of sociable time that they need, most of them divert to the aspect of getting a romantic partner in the office instead.
Most of those who are involved in this kind of relationship contend that their workplace seemed to be a natural breeding ground for romantic couples since they are together for more than 40 hours within the week.
Also, they asserted that creating a relationship in the office is inevitable because most of them get along with each other well based on the premise that they revolve around the same environment that initiates common interests, beliefs, and backgrounds.
However, because of some professional etiquette around the office, some companies despise the idea of having their employees being involved with each other. The bosses believe that romantic and intimate relationships may bring about negligence on their respective jobs.
Moreover, certain flaws are seen on this kind of relationship. There is a higher probability that the couple might have a conflict of concern with regards to their respective duties in the office and their duties and responsibilities with each other.
Therefore, for those who cannot help but fall in love while doing monthly inventories, here is a list of some workplace romance tips to keep you out of the brink of disaster:
1. Think first before deciding
Before deciding on this matter, it would be better to think first, probably a hundred…no make that a thousand times before deciding on it.
Try to contemplate on the possible consequences and benefits that you can get from the relationship. If the relationship will not work out, will you be ready to face the consequences?
2. Evaluate each prospect
Establishing a worthwhile relationship with your colleagues should primarily be based on its being worthy for a date.
It would be better if you will evaluate on the upshots of dating the person based on his or her position in the company, its value, and the possible corollaries of the separation, if ever.
For instance, if you want to ask your colleague on a date, try to contemplate first on the issue of rivalry between you and your officemate and the rough situation that both of you may be in after the breakup.
Also, try to look the possible angle of biasness for bosses dating their subordinates. The issue of “favoritism” may take place.
3. Be smart
Keep in mind that the reason why God placed our minds above our hearts is for the mind to rule above all. So if you are suddenly being snooped with some seniority in the office, do not be deceived yet. Try to test this person for some reliability quizzes and put him more on hot water.
The point here is that if ever he is trying to establish a good romantic relationship with you, it is better to be assured that his intentions are for real and just because he is looking for some diversion in the office.
4. Friendships as the best foundation
For a budding romantic relationship in the office, it is best to keep focused on creating friendships first. This is because some people believed that friendship, as the core foundation of any relationship, is better than just a break-from-work relationship.
Given all that, workplace romance can be really fun and dreamy. However, one or both of them should realize that office romances are not based on a contract that can expires when the time allotted has elapsed. It would be better to hear these kinds of relationships to last a lifetime, even if both of them have already retired from their jobs.
http://www.articles-central.info/Article/Workplace-Romance-Tips--The-Best-Inter-Office-Memo-To-Remember/15972
For this reason, most of the people involved in this kind of situation find themselves out of place in the social world because they simply do not have time to meet other people anymore. In fact, they do not even have time for themselves.
That is why it is not such an appalling revelation when some surveys showed how 67.8% of the respondents, all working but in different companies, are into relationship with their colleagues. This goes to show that because of the time constraint that most professionals have and because of the lack of sociable time that they need, most of them divert to the aspect of getting a romantic partner in the office instead.
Most of those who are involved in this kind of relationship contend that their workplace seemed to be a natural breeding ground for romantic couples since they are together for more than 40 hours within the week.
Also, they asserted that creating a relationship in the office is inevitable because most of them get along with each other well based on the premise that they revolve around the same environment that initiates common interests, beliefs, and backgrounds.
However, because of some professional etiquette around the office, some companies despise the idea of having their employees being involved with each other. The bosses believe that romantic and intimate relationships may bring about negligence on their respective jobs.
Moreover, certain flaws are seen on this kind of relationship. There is a higher probability that the couple might have a conflict of concern with regards to their respective duties in the office and their duties and responsibilities with each other.
Therefore, for those who cannot help but fall in love while doing monthly inventories, here is a list of some workplace romance tips to keep you out of the brink of disaster:
1. Think first before deciding
Before deciding on this matter, it would be better to think first, probably a hundred…no make that a thousand times before deciding on it.
Try to contemplate on the possible consequences and benefits that you can get from the relationship. If the relationship will not work out, will you be ready to face the consequences?
2. Evaluate each prospect
Establishing a worthwhile relationship with your colleagues should primarily be based on its being worthy for a date.
It would be better if you will evaluate on the upshots of dating the person based on his or her position in the company, its value, and the possible corollaries of the separation, if ever.
For instance, if you want to ask your colleague on a date, try to contemplate first on the issue of rivalry between you and your officemate and the rough situation that both of you may be in after the breakup.
Also, try to look the possible angle of biasness for bosses dating their subordinates. The issue of “favoritism” may take place.
3. Be smart
Keep in mind that the reason why God placed our minds above our hearts is for the mind to rule above all. So if you are suddenly being snooped with some seniority in the office, do not be deceived yet. Try to test this person for some reliability quizzes and put him more on hot water.
The point here is that if ever he is trying to establish a good romantic relationship with you, it is better to be assured that his intentions are for real and just because he is looking for some diversion in the office.
4. Friendships as the best foundation
For a budding romantic relationship in the office, it is best to keep focused on creating friendships first. This is because some people believed that friendship, as the core foundation of any relationship, is better than just a break-from-work relationship.
Given all that, workplace romance can be really fun and dreamy. However, one or both of them should realize that office romances are not based on a contract that can expires when the time allotted has elapsed. It would be better to hear these kinds of relationships to last a lifetime, even if both of them have already retired from their jobs.
http://www.articles-central.info/Article/Workplace-Romance-Tips--The-Best-Inter-Office-Memo-To-Remember/15972
How To Be More Attractive: Gotta Have Sense Of Humor!
Men having great sense of humor ranked number three as being a personality trait that attracts women on survey results conducted by several magazines. Topping the survey is physical appearance and number two, financial stability.
Laughing can be very beneficial to one’s health, according to researchers. And a great sense of humor, which creates laughter, can make a lot of difference specially when dating women.
A lot of women see a guy with a great sense of humor very attractive mainly because it makes the conversation a lot lighter, it makes them laugh and dating a man who is very serious in his outlook in life makes the conversation heavy and can become very boring, according to studies, among two hundred college students.
The same study indicated that women like intelligent men and a great sense of humor is linked to intelligence, as a man with wits can think fast, able to produce a joke instantly that is suitable to the situation is clever indeed and is no “non-sense”.
Indeed, “laughter is the best medicine”. Considerable research and studies have proved that laughter and humor benefits the body as well as the emotion. It boost the “immune system”, reduces stress, relax the muscles, “lowers blood pressure”, increases pain tolerance and hastens the process of healing. No wonder women feel so good being with a man with great sense of humor!
Men having good sense of humor are always cheerful. To them, each day is sunny. Should dark clouds appear, they depend on laughter, confident that all problems will pass and instead of being discouraged, they move on with so much hope.
Even if a man is not really that attractive physically, but with a great sense of humor, women are usually drawn to him. Why? Because according to most women in a survey result, they are more at ease with these types of men, as they make the women laugh and as a result, let them feel that they can open up almost anything; a man with a great sense of humor encourages the woman to be confident.
Generally, men with a sense of humor have so much spunk in life. Not only can they come up with a joke unrehearsed, but also can take a joke.
Here are ways to sharpen and improve your sense of humor:
1. Encourage an environment of laughter and humor in the relationship that you have by concentrating on the comical or funny side of things and delighting in the laughter that they bring to mind. Then, you will soon begin to see humor in things that you do, including the problems that may come and handle them without stress in your relationship.
2. When you feel that you do not laugh that much and you feel that you should correct this, associate yourself with fun loving and humorous people. Try to go to happy places and you and your partner can engage in fun and lively activities.
3. Try laughing at yourself and at the situations around you. Many individuals are not able to laugh because they are insecure of themselves and because of personal fears. Often, they are scared to look silly in front of others and give the impression to be foolish, according to psychiatrists. It is essential to become conscious that all people make or commit mistakes and it is when you put up a pleasant laugh can make such mistake appear human.
4. Read on humorous books and collect clean jokes. Then when the need arises, there is always a joke ready to lighten up someone else’s day!
5. So as to neutralize disagreement in your relationship, use humor. When things in your relationship get uptight, “self deprecating humor” can lighten things. “Self-deprecating humor” encourages humility and nurtures courage, needed to take off the mask that one wears when insecure and uncovers one's weakness to his partner.
Having sense of humor in your relationship will add so much zest, help it become rewarding and can help both partners see life in a different perspective. A more carefree, cheerful and positive relationship will prosper as a result of a happy disposition between couples.
http://www.articles-central.info/Article/How-To-Be-More-Attractive--Gotta-Have-Sense-Of-Humor-/15968
Laughing can be very beneficial to one’s health, according to researchers. And a great sense of humor, which creates laughter, can make a lot of difference specially when dating women.
A lot of women see a guy with a great sense of humor very attractive mainly because it makes the conversation a lot lighter, it makes them laugh and dating a man who is very serious in his outlook in life makes the conversation heavy and can become very boring, according to studies, among two hundred college students.
The same study indicated that women like intelligent men and a great sense of humor is linked to intelligence, as a man with wits can think fast, able to produce a joke instantly that is suitable to the situation is clever indeed and is no “non-sense”.
Indeed, “laughter is the best medicine”. Considerable research and studies have proved that laughter and humor benefits the body as well as the emotion. It boost the “immune system”, reduces stress, relax the muscles, “lowers blood pressure”, increases pain tolerance and hastens the process of healing. No wonder women feel so good being with a man with great sense of humor!
Men having good sense of humor are always cheerful. To them, each day is sunny. Should dark clouds appear, they depend on laughter, confident that all problems will pass and instead of being discouraged, they move on with so much hope.
Even if a man is not really that attractive physically, but with a great sense of humor, women are usually drawn to him. Why? Because according to most women in a survey result, they are more at ease with these types of men, as they make the women laugh and as a result, let them feel that they can open up almost anything; a man with a great sense of humor encourages the woman to be confident.
Generally, men with a sense of humor have so much spunk in life. Not only can they come up with a joke unrehearsed, but also can take a joke.
Here are ways to sharpen and improve your sense of humor:
1. Encourage an environment of laughter and humor in the relationship that you have by concentrating on the comical or funny side of things and delighting in the laughter that they bring to mind. Then, you will soon begin to see humor in things that you do, including the problems that may come and handle them without stress in your relationship.
2. When you feel that you do not laugh that much and you feel that you should correct this, associate yourself with fun loving and humorous people. Try to go to happy places and you and your partner can engage in fun and lively activities.
3. Try laughing at yourself and at the situations around you. Many individuals are not able to laugh because they are insecure of themselves and because of personal fears. Often, they are scared to look silly in front of others and give the impression to be foolish, according to psychiatrists. It is essential to become conscious that all people make or commit mistakes and it is when you put up a pleasant laugh can make such mistake appear human.
4. Read on humorous books and collect clean jokes. Then when the need arises, there is always a joke ready to lighten up someone else’s day!
5. So as to neutralize disagreement in your relationship, use humor. When things in your relationship get uptight, “self deprecating humor” can lighten things. “Self-deprecating humor” encourages humility and nurtures courage, needed to take off the mask that one wears when insecure and uncovers one's weakness to his partner.
Having sense of humor in your relationship will add so much zest, help it become rewarding and can help both partners see life in a different perspective. A more carefree, cheerful and positive relationship will prosper as a result of a happy disposition between couples.
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How To Find A Prom Date
If debut is a girl's introduction to society, then prom night is definitely a senior student's introduction to the world of dating. Most high school students usually go on date groups to avoid being scolded by their parents. Others go on dates without their parents' knowledge.
What makes prom night doubly exciting and a memorable event for highs schools seniors is the fact that dating during the prom is legal from the point of view of parents. Most seniors who are not yet allowed to go on dates are formally given permission by their parents to go out with a date during this time.
The problem is, some seniors who concentrated on their studies and who did not go on secret dates now have the problem of choosing their partners or dates for the prom night.
If you have a steady group of friends whom you have known since first grade then it is easy to get a reference for a date. You can even choose from among your friends. Senior guys find it easier to get prom dates because they can always choose junior girls who think it is an addition to their persona if they out on a date with senior guys. It is more often the girls who have a hard time finding prom dates.
There are numerous boys and girls waiting to be asked for the prom. The problem is; how does one choose a prom date?
Careful planning
Prom night is announced several months ahead of schedule to allow preparation among the seniors, not only in terms of the decoration and the whole event, but also in terms of prom dates. Even before the prom date is announced, you must already prepare a strategy to make your prom night memorable.
If you already have a steady girlfriend or boyfriend then getting a prom date is not a problem with you. If you don't have anyone yet, then look from among you circle of friends. Do you have a friend you feel relaxed with? Then you can choose him. However, it will have to be a friendly date unless you have a secret crush on this friend.
Your girlfriends can also help you get a prom date by recommending some of their buddies or even their brothers. Start looking around for friends who have brothers who may either be your age or older than you. Somebody from a different school would be okay, for as long as you know his family background and you have made sure he is not jack the ripper.
Have a crush on someone? Why not invite him or her for the prom? Who knows, this may be the start of a special friendship between you two. Just make sure that the person you are inviting for the prom does not already have a steady boyfriend or girlfriend as this would lessen the possibility of your invitation being accepted.
You have to prepare a set of criteria for your choice of a prom date. First of all, you must go out with someone whom you already know or someone your friends know. This is to make sure that you are safe in the hands of you date. This should be a primordial consideration due tot eh frequency of date rape nowadays.
Next, you have to choose someone whom you are comfortable with. Prom night is supposed to be fun and you do not want it to turn out a disaster just because you cannot be yourself with the guy or gal you are going out with. If you can relax with your prom date, then you will surely have a nice prom night. Choose somebody you can have fun with and who will make your prom night memorable.
A prom date who is already known to your parents will make the whole night out easy. For starters, he will not be harassed by your parents when he picks you up during the prom night. Your parents will also have a better night waiting up for you if they know that you are going out with someone they know to be a decent person.
You may have the best prom night attire or the best make up but if you do not have a date you are comfortable with, then your prom night will surely be less than fun. And what is prom night except a night to have fun? So go get your checklist now and start choosing your prom date!
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What makes prom night doubly exciting and a memorable event for highs schools seniors is the fact that dating during the prom is legal from the point of view of parents. Most seniors who are not yet allowed to go on dates are formally given permission by their parents to go out with a date during this time.
The problem is, some seniors who concentrated on their studies and who did not go on secret dates now have the problem of choosing their partners or dates for the prom night.
If you have a steady group of friends whom you have known since first grade then it is easy to get a reference for a date. You can even choose from among your friends. Senior guys find it easier to get prom dates because they can always choose junior girls who think it is an addition to their persona if they out on a date with senior guys. It is more often the girls who have a hard time finding prom dates.
There are numerous boys and girls waiting to be asked for the prom. The problem is; how does one choose a prom date?
Careful planning
Prom night is announced several months ahead of schedule to allow preparation among the seniors, not only in terms of the decoration and the whole event, but also in terms of prom dates. Even before the prom date is announced, you must already prepare a strategy to make your prom night memorable.
If you already have a steady girlfriend or boyfriend then getting a prom date is not a problem with you. If you don't have anyone yet, then look from among you circle of friends. Do you have a friend you feel relaxed with? Then you can choose him. However, it will have to be a friendly date unless you have a secret crush on this friend.
Your girlfriends can also help you get a prom date by recommending some of their buddies or even their brothers. Start looking around for friends who have brothers who may either be your age or older than you. Somebody from a different school would be okay, for as long as you know his family background and you have made sure he is not jack the ripper.
Have a crush on someone? Why not invite him or her for the prom? Who knows, this may be the start of a special friendship between you two. Just make sure that the person you are inviting for the prom does not already have a steady boyfriend or girlfriend as this would lessen the possibility of your invitation being accepted.
You have to prepare a set of criteria for your choice of a prom date. First of all, you must go out with someone whom you already know or someone your friends know. This is to make sure that you are safe in the hands of you date. This should be a primordial consideration due tot eh frequency of date rape nowadays.
Next, you have to choose someone whom you are comfortable with. Prom night is supposed to be fun and you do not want it to turn out a disaster just because you cannot be yourself with the guy or gal you are going out with. If you can relax with your prom date, then you will surely have a nice prom night. Choose somebody you can have fun with and who will make your prom night memorable.
A prom date who is already known to your parents will make the whole night out easy. For starters, he will not be harassed by your parents when he picks you up during the prom night. Your parents will also have a better night waiting up for you if they know that you are going out with someone they know to be a decent person.
You may have the best prom night attire or the best make up but if you do not have a date you are comfortable with, then your prom night will surely be less than fun. And what is prom night except a night to have fun? So go get your checklist now and start choosing your prom date!
http://www.articles-central.info/Article/How-To-Find-A-Prom-Date/15970
First Date Weirdness: That Awkward Silence
First dates for some can be intimidating and stressful. Often, one’s mind and emotions are overcome with insecurities and fears.
Conversation normally is a big factor for a positive date outcome as well as a great influence on the failure of your date.
Carrying a conversation during a first date can become difficult and uneasy at times, since you hardly know the individual you are dating (specially on a blind date), making it hard to open up and think of a certain topic to talk about and with slight tension and nervousness, things can be really awkward.
On dates, usually a person is scared of rejection and failure; thus is nervous and conscious on what to say. It has to be the right things; sparking his/her interests as the wrong words may either injure your date’s feelings or make the conversation boring. This is because usually one is very concerned about one’s impression that he/she is able to convey to his/her date.
One’s apprehensions can lead to damaging results, usually paralyzing one’s thoughts and emotions, thus inhibiting one’s capability to behave confidently and normally like one would do when he is in the company of family and friends.
As a result, one ends up in a very humiliating and embarrassing situation, which one describes in dating as "awkward silence".
Almost everyone is capable of carrying on an effortless, enjoyable and easy going conversation with individuals they are familiar with and therefore having the proper approach, so one can do it with the girl/guy on one’s first date.
One solution here is to think ahead of time the things that you can open up or topics that can start a good conversation; ask a common friend of his/her interest, hobbies, sports, career, etc.
Another solution is to relax and be yourself; never pretend to be somebody that you are not. Keep in mind that it’s no use when your date will like for putting up a front; it will be a great feeling to know that your date liked you for what you are.
Never brag, talking constantly of your awards and accomplishments as this would only set arrogant impression on you. Keep your conversation as simple as possible keeping away discussions about politics or religion.
Also, do not intrude or ask personal questions; whatever your date wants to relate to you, he/she will tell you on his/her own. Never too, talk about your experience about past relationships, as this will make your date feel uneasy. Making your date feel at ease with your conversations, for sure there will be a second time around for both of you.
Let your date talk and you have to listen well, as this will allow you to collect ideas of the things that interest your date and make these as topics for your conversation as well as be acquainted with your date much better. Furthermore, being a great listener is one positive feature that any ideal date can possess.
Take note that most often than not, people are tempted or even talk about their life story. Be careful, as this might only bore your date. Instead, loosen up and select an easy topic or general things such as movies, food, or anything that is of interest to your date. Or be funny and joke a little, you do not need to be all that formal.
Basically, when you are listening well to your date, you’ll know what you both have in common, so talk about that, so you can develop a good bond.
Do not let the “awkward silences” worry you, at some point those silences will come, but know that as they embarrass you, they also embarrass your date. Awkward silences are never a basis for you to conclude that your date is not interested in you; he/she just might be in a similar situation as you.
Relax and be yourself. When “silence” do come, break it with a joke, a compliment or a question and remember to be honest; let your date know how nervous you are (when you are). Letting your date know how to feel on this first date will take away the tension on he/she is feeling and will make him/her comfortable and can handle the situation better.
http://www.articles-central.info/Article/First-Date-Weirdness--That-Awkward-Silence/15967
Conversation normally is a big factor for a positive date outcome as well as a great influence on the failure of your date.
Carrying a conversation during a first date can become difficult and uneasy at times, since you hardly know the individual you are dating (specially on a blind date), making it hard to open up and think of a certain topic to talk about and with slight tension and nervousness, things can be really awkward.
On dates, usually a person is scared of rejection and failure; thus is nervous and conscious on what to say. It has to be the right things; sparking his/her interests as the wrong words may either injure your date’s feelings or make the conversation boring. This is because usually one is very concerned about one’s impression that he/she is able to convey to his/her date.
One’s apprehensions can lead to damaging results, usually paralyzing one’s thoughts and emotions, thus inhibiting one’s capability to behave confidently and normally like one would do when he is in the company of family and friends.
As a result, one ends up in a very humiliating and embarrassing situation, which one describes in dating as "awkward silence".
Almost everyone is capable of carrying on an effortless, enjoyable and easy going conversation with individuals they are familiar with and therefore having the proper approach, so one can do it with the girl/guy on one’s first date.
One solution here is to think ahead of time the things that you can open up or topics that can start a good conversation; ask a common friend of his/her interest, hobbies, sports, career, etc.
Another solution is to relax and be yourself; never pretend to be somebody that you are not. Keep in mind that it’s no use when your date will like for putting up a front; it will be a great feeling to know that your date liked you for what you are.
Never brag, talking constantly of your awards and accomplishments as this would only set arrogant impression on you. Keep your conversation as simple as possible keeping away discussions about politics or religion.
Also, do not intrude or ask personal questions; whatever your date wants to relate to you, he/she will tell you on his/her own. Never too, talk about your experience about past relationships, as this will make your date feel uneasy. Making your date feel at ease with your conversations, for sure there will be a second time around for both of you.
Let your date talk and you have to listen well, as this will allow you to collect ideas of the things that interest your date and make these as topics for your conversation as well as be acquainted with your date much better. Furthermore, being a great listener is one positive feature that any ideal date can possess.
Take note that most often than not, people are tempted or even talk about their life story. Be careful, as this might only bore your date. Instead, loosen up and select an easy topic or general things such as movies, food, or anything that is of interest to your date. Or be funny and joke a little, you do not need to be all that formal.
Basically, when you are listening well to your date, you’ll know what you both have in common, so talk about that, so you can develop a good bond.
Do not let the “awkward silences” worry you, at some point those silences will come, but know that as they embarrass you, they also embarrass your date. Awkward silences are never a basis for you to conclude that your date is not interested in you; he/she just might be in a similar situation as you.
Relax and be yourself. When “silence” do come, break it with a joke, a compliment or a question and remember to be honest; let your date know how nervous you are (when you are). Letting your date know how to feel on this first date will take away the tension on he/she is feeling and will make him/her comfortable and can handle the situation better.
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Advices To The Gallant Man When Meeting Her Parents
Is your valor put to the test, when facing (her) Mom and Dad? Is meet-the-parents-day, a dreaded event in the near future? Do you enjoy each other’s company that Mom’s opinion or Dad’s plan is already part of the daily conversation? If things are going good, then you should expect that you would meet her parents sooner or later. But don’t dread the day, and instead welcome it with open arms. For here are sound advices for you, the gallant man, when the day comes to meet her parents.
First of all, not all parents are alike; so don’t assume that they’ll be like Mom and Pop. But, hopefully like her, you would want to impress, respect and not offend your own parents, wouldn’t you? Ask your girlfriend about her family. It would be useful to know any history on her father or mother’s side, her siblings, their work background and major health issues. It would be wise to find out about the parents’ politics, what kind of sense of humor they have, cultural or entertainment preference, if any. Asking these key questions will also show your girlfriend that you’re interested in knowing all about her family and that you attach a lot of importance in meeting her parents.
A careless remark about the latest bloopers by the country’s president may not sit well with her parents if they are staunch republicans from a red state. There are countless of other ways you can go wrong with her parents if you don’t do your homework. The objective is to leave a good impression on her father and mother after the first meeting.
Now, you would think that of the two, the father should be the primary focus. But, no; it is best to get your girlfriend’s mother on your side first. Think about it, she’s actually the one hosting the dinner in the house, isn’t she? Moreover, most mothers would partially judge you according to how happy their daughter looks being with you. When you’re hitting a rough spot in your relationship, your girlfriend would most likely run to her mother. In these times of trouble, her mother might become instrumental in bringing you back together again.
Fathers will generally have a harder time accepting you. Rightly so, because he was the main man in your girlfriend’s life. Now, it will obviously appear to her father that you are taking over that role. In some instances, the father might resent that. In most cases, they will size you up to see if you are really fit to take care of their daughter. So, come to think of it, fathers have a more natural obstacle to get close to you. But this will happen in time, especially if you’re careful in your first meeting.
Now what do you really do during the actual meeting? If it’s a dinner at their house, always bring a gift. You can give them a floral arrangement. Depending on their tastes, traditional items like a bottle of wine or a box of sweets also work.
When you get into a conversation with them, show interest in their family life. Look for common interests, hobbies and expound on them. Politely ask for their opinion and listen. It’s easy to talk about sports, pets and their line of work. Other good topics are your job, your family, movies, and current events. It would be wise to steer the conversation away from jokes, politics, personal matters, religion and money matters.
Flatter your girlfriend’s mother on her cooking, clothes or the home interiors. Compliment her cooking by finishing your plate. After dinner, offer to help clear the table of wash the dishes.
Eventually, your girlfriend’s parents will start to ask you some direct questions. You won’t panic if you’re prepared for this. Relax, look them in the eye and answer as nicely as you can. Try to think about their reason for asking the question and relate to this when answering the parents.
Remember, in the first meeting, be yourself and make sure to always observe good manners. Show respect to your girlfriend and her parents. Your girlfriend has probably told all of them about you and how great you are. So come prepared for the meeting and prove to her parents that you deserve to be with their daughter.
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First of all, not all parents are alike; so don’t assume that they’ll be like Mom and Pop. But, hopefully like her, you would want to impress, respect and not offend your own parents, wouldn’t you? Ask your girlfriend about her family. It would be useful to know any history on her father or mother’s side, her siblings, their work background and major health issues. It would be wise to find out about the parents’ politics, what kind of sense of humor they have, cultural or entertainment preference, if any. Asking these key questions will also show your girlfriend that you’re interested in knowing all about her family and that you attach a lot of importance in meeting her parents.
A careless remark about the latest bloopers by the country’s president may not sit well with her parents if they are staunch republicans from a red state. There are countless of other ways you can go wrong with her parents if you don’t do your homework. The objective is to leave a good impression on her father and mother after the first meeting.
Now, you would think that of the two, the father should be the primary focus. But, no; it is best to get your girlfriend’s mother on your side first. Think about it, she’s actually the one hosting the dinner in the house, isn’t she? Moreover, most mothers would partially judge you according to how happy their daughter looks being with you. When you’re hitting a rough spot in your relationship, your girlfriend would most likely run to her mother. In these times of trouble, her mother might become instrumental in bringing you back together again.
Fathers will generally have a harder time accepting you. Rightly so, because he was the main man in your girlfriend’s life. Now, it will obviously appear to her father that you are taking over that role. In some instances, the father might resent that. In most cases, they will size you up to see if you are really fit to take care of their daughter. So, come to think of it, fathers have a more natural obstacle to get close to you. But this will happen in time, especially if you’re careful in your first meeting.
Now what do you really do during the actual meeting? If it’s a dinner at their house, always bring a gift. You can give them a floral arrangement. Depending on their tastes, traditional items like a bottle of wine or a box of sweets also work.
When you get into a conversation with them, show interest in their family life. Look for common interests, hobbies and expound on them. Politely ask for their opinion and listen. It’s easy to talk about sports, pets and their line of work. Other good topics are your job, your family, movies, and current events. It would be wise to steer the conversation away from jokes, politics, personal matters, religion and money matters.
Flatter your girlfriend’s mother on her cooking, clothes or the home interiors. Compliment her cooking by finishing your plate. After dinner, offer to help clear the table of wash the dishes.
Eventually, your girlfriend’s parents will start to ask you some direct questions. You won’t panic if you’re prepared for this. Relax, look them in the eye and answer as nicely as you can. Try to think about their reason for asking the question and relate to this when answering the parents.
Remember, in the first meeting, be yourself and make sure to always observe good manners. Show respect to your girlfriend and her parents. Your girlfriend has probably told all of them about you and how great you are. So come prepared for the meeting and prove to her parents that you deserve to be with their daughter.
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Scientific Dating Advice For Geeks
You enjoy math, chemistry, and you thrash out algorithms to solve practical problems. You are smart; actually, you’re a geek! But being a geek shouldn’t stop you from actively dating. It would be possible that spending too much time studying, reading, solving problems, and pursuing other “egghead” activities might leave you a little light on social techniques. Here’s a scientific way to solve your dating problem.
Given
Geeks are afraid to date. That’s a given. They are afraid they might come out too nerdy, weird or boring. But believe it or not, girls don’t avoid geeks like the plague. In fact, many people find geeks interesting and even cute. So relax, there’s no “Do Not Date” sign printed on your forehead. Dating is something that everybody does, so there’s no reason that a geek can’t do it well.
Unknown
Your biggest challenge as a geek is to overcome this fright and ask girls out. Fear not, for what is unknown to you, is laid out step by step in the solution below.
Solution
Step 1: Overcoming Communication Issues
Probably the biggest dating problem facing geeks would be communication. Geeks tend to use too much technical jargon. In social settings, this gets worse because they tend to switch to sci-fi mode and lose non-geeks with their references to scenes from Star Wars or names from the planet Tatooine. So there: not everyone is into science fiction and video games.
Step 2: Bridging the communication gap
Quite simply, this issue can be most effectively solved by the techniques of effective communication. Effective communication states that misunderstanding can be avoided if parties try to understand the person they are talking to, and try to picture their conversation from that other person’s point of view.
When you talk to someone, a potential date, imagine if she will appreciate your geeky terms. What is she like, her background? What is she interested in? Try to picture your conversation through her eyes, and visualize how she would receive what you’re saying.
Step 3: Show Your Interest
Be genuinely interested in knowing her. Be aware of where they are coming from when they are talking to you. So, in turn, you can better understand them.
Remember that in most communications, the actual words make up only 7 percent of the message, while the remaining 93% is non-verbal (body language, facial expression, eye contact, voice tone and quality). So be mindful of the messages you send.
Step 4: Take It Slow
Date unhurriedly; take time in meeting people and asking more than one girl out on a date. There’s no need to dive into a deeper relationship with someone unless you have had the time to know each other better and to see if you are emotionally ready.
Step 5: Inject Variety
Don’t confine yourself to the usual dinner in a restaurant. Set up a date where one of you prepares a meal at home. Go outdoors for a picnic, kite flying, shopping for fresh produce, a fairground or carnival. Mix the routine with the adventurous venues, and you will have a wealth of diverse experiences and stories to share with your date.
Don’t confine yourself in dating from school or the neighborhood. There are many online dating services available, even for the geek in you. Visit a dating network for geeks like you interested in science, chemists, and biologists. That’s a good place to find a perfect match.
Step 6: Enjoy!
Date to make yourself happy. Who you date is entirely your choice. Whether she is a fellow geek or not, she must be someone you want to spend time with or you will be happy to go out with.
Enjoy the conversations that you are able to carry. Enjoy the busy weekends with several, interesting girls. Enjoy the places, activities and adventures that you embark in as you go on a date. Enjoy the fact that you are getting good at dating.
Being a geek should not get in the way of dating. You simply have to attack it like a math problem that you happily tackle. Know the givens; understand the unknown; and follow the procedure to solve the unknown; and, “Eureka! Dating problem, solved!”
http://www.articles-central.info/Article/Scientific-Dating-Advice-For-Geeks/15766
Given
Geeks are afraid to date. That’s a given. They are afraid they might come out too nerdy, weird or boring. But believe it or not, girls don’t avoid geeks like the plague. In fact, many people find geeks interesting and even cute. So relax, there’s no “Do Not Date” sign printed on your forehead. Dating is something that everybody does, so there’s no reason that a geek can’t do it well.
Unknown
Your biggest challenge as a geek is to overcome this fright and ask girls out. Fear not, for what is unknown to you, is laid out step by step in the solution below.
Solution
Step 1: Overcoming Communication Issues
Probably the biggest dating problem facing geeks would be communication. Geeks tend to use too much technical jargon. In social settings, this gets worse because they tend to switch to sci-fi mode and lose non-geeks with their references to scenes from Star Wars or names from the planet Tatooine. So there: not everyone is into science fiction and video games.
Step 2: Bridging the communication gap
Quite simply, this issue can be most effectively solved by the techniques of effective communication. Effective communication states that misunderstanding can be avoided if parties try to understand the person they are talking to, and try to picture their conversation from that other person’s point of view.
When you talk to someone, a potential date, imagine if she will appreciate your geeky terms. What is she like, her background? What is she interested in? Try to picture your conversation through her eyes, and visualize how she would receive what you’re saying.
Step 3: Show Your Interest
Be genuinely interested in knowing her. Be aware of where they are coming from when they are talking to you. So, in turn, you can better understand them.
Remember that in most communications, the actual words make up only 7 percent of the message, while the remaining 93% is non-verbal (body language, facial expression, eye contact, voice tone and quality). So be mindful of the messages you send.
Step 4: Take It Slow
Date unhurriedly; take time in meeting people and asking more than one girl out on a date. There’s no need to dive into a deeper relationship with someone unless you have had the time to know each other better and to see if you are emotionally ready.
Step 5: Inject Variety
Don’t confine yourself to the usual dinner in a restaurant. Set up a date where one of you prepares a meal at home. Go outdoors for a picnic, kite flying, shopping for fresh produce, a fairground or carnival. Mix the routine with the adventurous venues, and you will have a wealth of diverse experiences and stories to share with your date.
Don’t confine yourself in dating from school or the neighborhood. There are many online dating services available, even for the geek in you. Visit a dating network for geeks like you interested in science, chemists, and biologists. That’s a good place to find a perfect match.
Step 6: Enjoy!
Date to make yourself happy. Who you date is entirely your choice. Whether she is a fellow geek or not, she must be someone you want to spend time with or you will be happy to go out with.
Enjoy the conversations that you are able to carry. Enjoy the busy weekends with several, interesting girls. Enjoy the places, activities and adventures that you embark in as you go on a date. Enjoy the fact that you are getting good at dating.
Being a geek should not get in the way of dating. You simply have to attack it like a math problem that you happily tackle. Know the givens; understand the unknown; and follow the procedure to solve the unknown; and, “Eureka! Dating problem, solved!”
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9 Irresistible Tips on How to Set The Powerful Mind Set for Dating
The following are 9 irresistible tips & tricks to ensure a powerful mind set for dating. Use them wisely and you will be bound to have fun and triumph in the dating arena.
1. Burn with Curiosity
Be curious about persons you find interesting, discover out what makes them happy! What are their passions! The best way to get to know someone is to be intrigued about life through their eyes. You may be missing out on something altogether.
2. Avoid Setting Inappropriate Expectations
We are all unique individuals, with our own distinctive life purpose. Expecting and convincing others do things your way does not help them with their life lessons or you with yours!
3. It takes time…
It requires an investment of time and effort to get back into the dating game especially if you have not dated for a while and you are looking for an ideal partner. As we get older and learn from our experiences our must-have requirements for an ideal partner may have changed. Some character traits or behavior patterns that were must haves may now be negotiable. Forget how long you think it ought to take in finding your right partner.
4. Work out a ‘Seize and Let Go’ technique
If you are currently dating someone you enjoy being with yet you know that this person is not THE ONE, do yourself a favor and release the person. By keeping this person in your life keeps YOU and them from being open for the real one. Don’t be afraid to let the other person go if you are not perfect for each other. You never know if your ideal mate is just waiting for you to become available!
5. Be the Playful You!
Embrace an expectation of fun when you go out on dates. Every individual’s best surfaces when having fun. There is no greater way to enjoy yourself and time with others, share it with your date – you being at your best!
6. Listen and Discover
Learn to ask questions and be a good listener BUT do not interview you date. Take initiative to know the real person you are sitting across from. Relax, have fun and enjoy hearing about life from another person’s perspective. Listen for cues, let the conversation flow.
7. Be Captivating
People fall in love because they feel they finally know the real you. Start being YOU right now, in every moment. Don’t wait for tomorrow to let others know you, they may just find you distinctly attractive – right this very moment!
8. Accepting for What They Are
Accept people for what they are. This does not mean however that every individual who comes along is a right match for you nor does it mean that you will completely disregard inappropriate behaviors. You have a choice of whether to see this person again or not.
9. I’m sinking… Help!!
Avoid setting expectations that your date or your partner to rescue you from your life. A healthy and fulfilling relationship means both parties come together as a whole and together you become even more amazing. If you are emotionally deprived you may attract exactly what you don’t want and repel what you do want.
http://www.articles-central.info/Article/9-Irresistible-Tips-on-How-to-Set-The-Powerful-Mind-Set-for-Dating/8835
1. Burn with Curiosity
Be curious about persons you find interesting, discover out what makes them happy! What are their passions! The best way to get to know someone is to be intrigued about life through their eyes. You may be missing out on something altogether.
2. Avoid Setting Inappropriate Expectations
We are all unique individuals, with our own distinctive life purpose. Expecting and convincing others do things your way does not help them with their life lessons or you with yours!
3. It takes time…
It requires an investment of time and effort to get back into the dating game especially if you have not dated for a while and you are looking for an ideal partner. As we get older and learn from our experiences our must-have requirements for an ideal partner may have changed. Some character traits or behavior patterns that were must haves may now be negotiable. Forget how long you think it ought to take in finding your right partner.
4. Work out a ‘Seize and Let Go’ technique
If you are currently dating someone you enjoy being with yet you know that this person is not THE ONE, do yourself a favor and release the person. By keeping this person in your life keeps YOU and them from being open for the real one. Don’t be afraid to let the other person go if you are not perfect for each other. You never know if your ideal mate is just waiting for you to become available!
5. Be the Playful You!
Embrace an expectation of fun when you go out on dates. Every individual’s best surfaces when having fun. There is no greater way to enjoy yourself and time with others, share it with your date – you being at your best!
6. Listen and Discover
Learn to ask questions and be a good listener BUT do not interview you date. Take initiative to know the real person you are sitting across from. Relax, have fun and enjoy hearing about life from another person’s perspective. Listen for cues, let the conversation flow.
7. Be Captivating
People fall in love because they feel they finally know the real you. Start being YOU right now, in every moment. Don’t wait for tomorrow to let others know you, they may just find you distinctly attractive – right this very moment!
8. Accepting for What They Are
Accept people for what they are. This does not mean however that every individual who comes along is a right match for you nor does it mean that you will completely disregard inappropriate behaviors. You have a choice of whether to see this person again or not.
9. I’m sinking… Help!!
Avoid setting expectations that your date or your partner to rescue you from your life. A healthy and fulfilling relationship means both parties come together as a whole and together you become even more amazing. If you are emotionally deprived you may attract exactly what you don’t want and repel what you do want.
http://www.articles-central.info/Article/9-Irresistible-Tips-on-How-to-Set-The-Powerful-Mind-Set-for-Dating/8835
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