If you don't know why beautiful Russian and Ukrainian women search for American men, find out the reasons right now...
Here's one of the frequently asked questions: “Why are single Russian ladies so much interested in corresponding with American men? I am an American man and tried the personals in the US. I had little luck with local dating and regional dating sites. However, when I started using the Russian personals, the response was overwhelming. Why?"
Here are the top 6 reasons why pretty Russian brides start searching for foreign husbands.
1. Census, Russia is home to 10 million more women than men. The number of women in their 30s noticeably exceeds the number of men. After the divorce, the woman with a kid (or with no kids) has little chance of getting married again in Russia, according to sociologists. There are no men in Russia to get married to: mortality rate of the working age males is extremely high.
2. Women are overloaded with family responsibilities in Russia: housekeeping, upbringing of children and earning of money. They have to take charge of all everyday problems that are essential for their families. For the sake of truth it should be said, there ARE nice, responsible and sober men in Russia but we don't easily meet them. The unvarnished truth is: most Russian men abuse alcohol and do not provide for their families. According to psychologists, Russian men undervalue the essence of family.
3. Russian ladies are highly educated and want careers. Depending on where she lives in the FSU, she may find that it is impossible for her to have the career she wants and to realize her full potential there. Most educated women have more ambition than to simply function from 9 to 17 for a tiny salary. There's nothing wrong with that, as long as she seeks a loving relationship with the man and his moral support.
4. Some Russian women are looking to live in an economically more stable environment (and I don't just mean the ones who are obviously looking for a 'sugar daddy', although there are some of those as well as you already know). In other words, it’s reasonable to say some want to live in a better economy but we can not assume that is what every Russian woman looking abroad desires. There's nothing wrong with that as well, as long as the woman's feelings toward the man are sincere.
5. The female has an instinct to choose a mate of good genes, to support the family, and defend the children of that union. If the finest Russian women see American men for that basic instinct, than she has made a wise choice, not just about money, but thinking about the future.
6. Sometimes people are just lonely. They either have different standards or just haven't met the right person and have expanded their selection. There is nothing wrong with that. There is something even satisfying about looking abroad. It can be a win-win situation.
"Marriages between Russian women and American men are very successful and harmonious", O. Makhovskaya, the senior research assistant at the Psychology Institute in Russia's Academy of Sciences says. "Families of this kind where husbands are Americans and women are Russians prove to be long-living, as the roles in the family are clearly distributed and the mechanism operates good, although these are mixed families. In such families each of the couple is ready to make concessions and on the whole, wonderfully performs the role."
http://www.articledashboard.com/Article/Pretty-Russian-Women-Still-Want-American-Men--Why-/259068
Tuesday, July 17, 2007
The Simple Guide To Dating Online
In the modern world, it is becoming increasingly difficult to find that perfect person. With the constant hustle and bustle of our 24 hour society, you might be finding you are having to schedule your leisure time, as well as work, simply to make sure that you actually have time for yourself.
As busy as you are, it's probably pretty rare that you get the chance to stop and chat with your friends, much less with someone completely new. Meeting can be hard even if you have the time, and it's more important then ever nowadays that you find a way to meet people beyond your circle of friends or co-workers.
However, there is a solution. You can now date online. Yes, I know it sounds strange at first, but online dating really is the next big thing. It provides all the elements of a traditional chance encounter without, well, the chance. Most modern online dating services are hosted by experienced professionals, who know just how to match you to your perfect partner. Of course, even online dating isn't always easy, and even when you've found someone you can still run into problems.
Enter Anita. A professional relationship consultant, she has years of real-life experience as well as a degree in psychology and a great deal of expertise on all forms of relationships. She now works as a columnist for dateswho.com, a site providing in depth advice on online dating.
She spends her evenings working for one of the most successful matchmaking services in her city, and was recently a profile editor for a popular online dating service. Now she dispenses valuable advice to all who ask, based both on her previous studies, and from her own experience.
Having gone through a huge number of bad dates, as well as three common-law relationships and two more marriages, she knows pretty much everything that can go wrong- and she knows how to fix it. If you have any dating problem at all, just drop her a line through dateswho.com and she'll be happy to help you out.
After deciding to go for online dating, you need to track down a dating site. There are plenty of sites available, either for free or with a membership cost, and it won't take you long to track them down with google. You may have to look through a few, of course, to find the one you want.
You may have difficulty making up your mind as to which site you want to join, but if finding someone is important to you then the best course of action is simply to sign up for as many as you can. You'll have no difficulty in tracking down free sites to join, if you don't want to pay for it, so just have a look around and pick the one that appeals most.
If you need help deciding, or advice on dating online, there are a number of sites that offer that as well. You can just jump to dateswho.com, of course, but you might want to do a search on google as well and find some other places. I doubt you'll have any difficulty finding some friendly tips or reviews of dating sites.
http://www.articledashboard.com/Article/The-Simple-Guide-To-Dating-Online/259105
As busy as you are, it's probably pretty rare that you get the chance to stop and chat with your friends, much less with someone completely new. Meeting can be hard even if you have the time, and it's more important then ever nowadays that you find a way to meet people beyond your circle of friends or co-workers.
However, there is a solution. You can now date online. Yes, I know it sounds strange at first, but online dating really is the next big thing. It provides all the elements of a traditional chance encounter without, well, the chance. Most modern online dating services are hosted by experienced professionals, who know just how to match you to your perfect partner. Of course, even online dating isn't always easy, and even when you've found someone you can still run into problems.
Enter Anita. A professional relationship consultant, she has years of real-life experience as well as a degree in psychology and a great deal of expertise on all forms of relationships. She now works as a columnist for dateswho.com, a site providing in depth advice on online dating.
She spends her evenings working for one of the most successful matchmaking services in her city, and was recently a profile editor for a popular online dating service. Now she dispenses valuable advice to all who ask, based both on her previous studies, and from her own experience.
Having gone through a huge number of bad dates, as well as three common-law relationships and two more marriages, she knows pretty much everything that can go wrong- and she knows how to fix it. If you have any dating problem at all, just drop her a line through dateswho.com and she'll be happy to help you out.
After deciding to go for online dating, you need to track down a dating site. There are plenty of sites available, either for free or with a membership cost, and it won't take you long to track them down with google. You may have to look through a few, of course, to find the one you want.
You may have difficulty making up your mind as to which site you want to join, but if finding someone is important to you then the best course of action is simply to sign up for as many as you can. You'll have no difficulty in tracking down free sites to join, if you don't want to pay for it, so just have a look around and pick the one that appeals most.
If you need help deciding, or advice on dating online, there are a number of sites that offer that as well. You can just jump to dateswho.com, of course, but you might want to do a search on google as well and find some other places. I doubt you'll have any difficulty finding some friendly tips or reviews of dating sites.
http://www.articledashboard.com/Article/The-Simple-Guide-To-Dating-Online/259105
Take A Break From Break-up Blues
Media professional Carolina Fernandez (name changed) was utterly devastated when her boyfriend dumped her for another girl. For Carolina the break-up came as a dead end and left her with dejection and feelings of revenge. 'What went wrong?', 'Why did he do this to me?' and many more questions haunt her every now and then.
There are many people who can relate with Carolina's situation. People who begin to feel that their life has come to a standstill with their relationship break-up. Heartbreak drains them off all emotional and physical energy and they find it very tough to move on with life, leaving the past behind. Insurance agent, Peter Marshall (name changed) shares, "Three years ago my world came crashing down when I broke off a relationship. It was quite hard for me to accept that the girl with whom I was planning to spend the rest of my life did not want to be in the relationship anymore. It took me more than two years to get back on track."
EXPERTS' VIEWS
Grief and anger are natural emotions after a relationship breaks up. However, coming to terms with the fact that the relationship is over resolves the issue to some extend. Before one starts moving ahead in life it is essential to sort out the feelings in one's mind, which means accepting that the relationship is over. At the initial phase of breakup, writing down the upsetting thoughts often help in overcoming the trauma faster. Besides this, talking about your feeling with a non-judgmental person also helps during in getting over the emotional stress. And just in case a person is unable to cope up with his/her routine work and gets suicidal, then professional help should be taken.
After a break-up what you need to change is your attitude. Instead of brooding upon what went wrong or harbouring feelings of revenge, it is better to concentrate on your life ahead.
HOW TO SURVIVE A BREAK-UP
Vent out choked emotions:
It' is better to weep and release the emotions weighing heavily on you, as bottling them can delay the healing process.
Avoid loneliness:
Try to involve yourself in activities that you enjoy doing the most. Try to mingle with friends.
Start afresh:
Make new plans to have a fresh beginning and avoid dwelling on the past.
Give some time:
It took you long to build the relationship so don't expect your heartbreak to be over in a jiffy. For some it takes months while for others it can take years, if the situation is not smartly handled.
http://www.articledashboard.com/Article/Take-A-Break-From-Break-Up-Blues/259256
There are many people who can relate with Carolina's situation. People who begin to feel that their life has come to a standstill with their relationship break-up. Heartbreak drains them off all emotional and physical energy and they find it very tough to move on with life, leaving the past behind. Insurance agent, Peter Marshall (name changed) shares, "Three years ago my world came crashing down when I broke off a relationship. It was quite hard for me to accept that the girl with whom I was planning to spend the rest of my life did not want to be in the relationship anymore. It took me more than two years to get back on track."
EXPERTS' VIEWS
Grief and anger are natural emotions after a relationship breaks up. However, coming to terms with the fact that the relationship is over resolves the issue to some extend. Before one starts moving ahead in life it is essential to sort out the feelings in one's mind, which means accepting that the relationship is over. At the initial phase of breakup, writing down the upsetting thoughts often help in overcoming the trauma faster. Besides this, talking about your feeling with a non-judgmental person also helps during in getting over the emotional stress. And just in case a person is unable to cope up with his/her routine work and gets suicidal, then professional help should be taken.
After a break-up what you need to change is your attitude. Instead of brooding upon what went wrong or harbouring feelings of revenge, it is better to concentrate on your life ahead.
HOW TO SURVIVE A BREAK-UP
Vent out choked emotions:
It' is better to weep and release the emotions weighing heavily on you, as bottling them can delay the healing process.
Avoid loneliness:
Try to involve yourself in activities that you enjoy doing the most. Try to mingle with friends.
Start afresh:
Make new plans to have a fresh beginning and avoid dwelling on the past.
Give some time:
It took you long to build the relationship so don't expect your heartbreak to be over in a jiffy. For some it takes months while for others it can take years, if the situation is not smartly handled.
http://www.articledashboard.com/Article/Take-A-Break-From-Break-Up-Blues/259256
What To Say To Meet Women Anywhere!
No, the real secret of "opening" women is, knowing what to observe, knowing what to notice, and even KNOWING WHAT TO GET CURIOUS ABOUT.
Does that make sense?
Also, the approach to opening her might differ a bit if she is at a coffee house, quietly studying, as opposed to in a loud restaurant or party, right?
Why?
Because the CONTEXT she is in and what you NOTICE about her is going to be different.
If she's studying, and you notice that she's having a hard time; thinking really hard, talking to herself outloud or just thinking "OUTLOUD" in her head, it would NOT make sense to walkup and ask her opinion about the great band that is playing or where she bought her cool bicycle.
So, I will say it again. The most important thing, first and foremost, is NOT what you say, but the context she is in, and what you can observe about her and the setting she is in.
Now, many guys ask me about compliments. Should I give them?Is it a good way to first "open up" talking to a woman? If so,what should I compliment?
Ok. I'll repeat: it depends on the context, where she is,what she is doing, and what you NOTICE and can OBSERVE.
Look: whether it is opening her by using a compliment, or asking her a question about something, or making a comment about something she's doing or something going on in the environment,I will ask myself the same question, "What can I notice about this person that I can use to make a connection?"
Now, let's say I notice something about her that I DO find worth complimenting. My rules for complimenting are as follows:
1. NO sexual content in the compliments. That means I don't compliment on her great boobs, great legs, great butt, etc. No woman (no half-way SANE woman) wants a drooling lecher.
2. All compliments to be delivered with good eye contact (infact, ANY openers are delivered this way) with a smile on my face AND in my eyes ( I sort of make them twinkle a bit) and deliverd with a MATTER of fact voice tone.
This means I don't over do it with my tone of voice. The compliment is delivered, matter of fact, with no concern on my part whether she will accept it, reject it or anything in between.
It is NOT about her accepting or rejecting what I say. It is ONLY about me wanting to say what I have to say, and any response she has is OK WITH ME.
Really, this is about the sub-text. This means, you see, that there is the surface message, the actual words I say. Those can be important.
But the sub-text is the unspoken or implied message I am delivering about me and how I walk through the world; that take full responsibility for how I feel about myself, my situation, the events and circumstances in my life, and I don't need anyone to approve or validate my message.
Now, trust me. When you come from THAT place, and add in a touch of humor....
Almost Anything You Say Will Get A Good Response!
Notice something else. This is a great but different KIND of confidence. It's not the kind of confidence that say, loudly, "I KNOW I AM GOING TO GET WHAT I WANT".
It's more of a, "If I get what I want, that's fine and good, and if not, that's ok too. I'm having fun regardless".
Ok. Back to compliments then.
I prefer to compliment women on the following things:
1. How they carry themselves or how they move. I enjoy awoman who moves beautifully and/or who has great posture. I will tell them so, as follows, "I just wanted to tell....I think you have perfect.......posture. You just carry yourself beautifully."
Notice the ....... This indicates a pause in your speaking. I don't run everythingtogetherintoonesentencelikethis.
No. I take....my....time. I pause, right before I tell them what I am going to tell them, so they will get curious about what I am going to say, and therefore be more receptive.
The pauses in the music are as much a part of the music as the notes, to use a metaphor.
2. How they are dressed. I like to compliment on style. So I will say, "I just wanted to tell you...I admire women with class and style...so I had to say "hi". I'm YOUR NAME HERE."
Note that this is what I call an IMPLIED compliment. I didn't' directly tell her I think SHE has class and style. I said I admire women with class and style, so I had to say "hi".That IMPLIES that I think she has class and style.
Why is this important?
Well, by implying the compliment, she has to use her imagination to interpret what you meant.
Imagination is an ACTIVE process, and so she doesn't resist the message, as she herself has to take an active hand in creating it!
Implied compliments are very useful in slipping past any resistance or skepticism to your message!
3. I will compliment on their "energy". I know this is a New Age, California kind of thing, but women are into "energy" or "vibes". It doesn't matter if you believe in it or not-although I hope one day you will.
The important thing is, MOST women believe in it.
So if I notice a woman has a calm, radiant, happy demeanor, I will say, "I just wanted to tell you.....I think you have..a beautiful....energy about you, and it just made me have to say "hi". I'm YOUR NAME HERE".
Ok. Another major way to meet women is to say something funny; make an observation or comment that is humorous, based on something you can observe.
Now, again, I can't give you a "one line fits all" example, because again, it's based on what you are observing in the actual situation. So you will have to observe her, asking, "What can I notice that I can use to make a connection?".
Next, ask yourself, "How can I phrase that in a clever, funny way that gets attention and makes her laugh?"
This takes some practice. But you can get good at it.
Now, again, I hesitate to give word for word examples, because it depends on what you observe.
Here Are Some Approaches I Do NOT Recommend:
1. Asking her the time, or for directions. It's trite, lame, and then where do you go from there? If you are terribly shy and can't even talk to women, ok, you can start here. But learn to do something else quickly.
2. Being insulting or in any way rude. I don't care what you might have heard. Insulting a woman is stupid. Any woman with choice is just going to move on. If she's kind, she won't insult you back. If she isn't, she just might give a verbal tongue lashing, and that's not the kind of tongue action you want!
3. Invading her space when I meet her. Once I make my initial opening, tell her my name, shake her hand; I then actually take a step back, away from her, to give her back her space.
Women tell me that, to them, it demonstrates respect. It also indicates that, while I am strong enough to come up and meet them, I am also concerned with their safety, and they like that combination. And finally, it indicates a challenge: just because she gave me a good initial response to my opener, doesn't mean she has me! It establishes a challenge, right away.
Peace and piece,
http://www.articledashboard.com/Article/What-To-Say-To-Meet-Women-Anywhere-/259413
Does that make sense?
Also, the approach to opening her might differ a bit if she is at a coffee house, quietly studying, as opposed to in a loud restaurant or party, right?
Why?
Because the CONTEXT she is in and what you NOTICE about her is going to be different.
If she's studying, and you notice that she's having a hard time; thinking really hard, talking to herself outloud or just thinking "OUTLOUD" in her head, it would NOT make sense to walkup and ask her opinion about the great band that is playing or where she bought her cool bicycle.
So, I will say it again. The most important thing, first and foremost, is NOT what you say, but the context she is in, and what you can observe about her and the setting she is in.
Now, many guys ask me about compliments. Should I give them?Is it a good way to first "open up" talking to a woman? If so,what should I compliment?
Ok. I'll repeat: it depends on the context, where she is,what she is doing, and what you NOTICE and can OBSERVE.
Look: whether it is opening her by using a compliment, or asking her a question about something, or making a comment about something she's doing or something going on in the environment,I will ask myself the same question, "What can I notice about this person that I can use to make a connection?"
Now, let's say I notice something about her that I DO find worth complimenting. My rules for complimenting are as follows:
1. NO sexual content in the compliments. That means I don't compliment on her great boobs, great legs, great butt, etc. No woman (no half-way SANE woman) wants a drooling lecher.
2. All compliments to be delivered with good eye contact (infact, ANY openers are delivered this way) with a smile on my face AND in my eyes ( I sort of make them twinkle a bit) and deliverd with a MATTER of fact voice tone.
This means I don't over do it with my tone of voice. The compliment is delivered, matter of fact, with no concern on my part whether she will accept it, reject it or anything in between.
It is NOT about her accepting or rejecting what I say. It is ONLY about me wanting to say what I have to say, and any response she has is OK WITH ME.
Really, this is about the sub-text. This means, you see, that there is the surface message, the actual words I say. Those can be important.
But the sub-text is the unspoken or implied message I am delivering about me and how I walk through the world; that take full responsibility for how I feel about myself, my situation, the events and circumstances in my life, and I don't need anyone to approve or validate my message.
Now, trust me. When you come from THAT place, and add in a touch of humor....
Almost Anything You Say Will Get A Good Response!
Notice something else. This is a great but different KIND of confidence. It's not the kind of confidence that say, loudly, "I KNOW I AM GOING TO GET WHAT I WANT".
It's more of a, "If I get what I want, that's fine and good, and if not, that's ok too. I'm having fun regardless".
Ok. Back to compliments then.
I prefer to compliment women on the following things:
1. How they carry themselves or how they move. I enjoy awoman who moves beautifully and/or who has great posture. I will tell them so, as follows, "I just wanted to tell....I think you have perfect.......posture. You just carry yourself beautifully."
Notice the ....... This indicates a pause in your speaking. I don't run everythingtogetherintoonesentencelikethis.
No. I take....my....time. I pause, right before I tell them what I am going to tell them, so they will get curious about what I am going to say, and therefore be more receptive.
The pauses in the music are as much a part of the music as the notes, to use a metaphor.
2. How they are dressed. I like to compliment on style. So I will say, "I just wanted to tell you...I admire women with class and style...so I had to say "hi". I'm YOUR NAME HERE."
Note that this is what I call an IMPLIED compliment. I didn't' directly tell her I think SHE has class and style. I said I admire women with class and style, so I had to say "hi".That IMPLIES that I think she has class and style.
Why is this important?
Well, by implying the compliment, she has to use her imagination to interpret what you meant.
Imagination is an ACTIVE process, and so she doesn't resist the message, as she herself has to take an active hand in creating it!
Implied compliments are very useful in slipping past any resistance or skepticism to your message!
3. I will compliment on their "energy". I know this is a New Age, California kind of thing, but women are into "energy" or "vibes". It doesn't matter if you believe in it or not-although I hope one day you will.
The important thing is, MOST women believe in it.
So if I notice a woman has a calm, radiant, happy demeanor, I will say, "I just wanted to tell you.....I think you have..a beautiful....energy about you, and it just made me have to say "hi". I'm YOUR NAME HERE".
Ok. Another major way to meet women is to say something funny; make an observation or comment that is humorous, based on something you can observe.
Now, again, I can't give you a "one line fits all" example, because again, it's based on what you are observing in the actual situation. So you will have to observe her, asking, "What can I notice that I can use to make a connection?".
Next, ask yourself, "How can I phrase that in a clever, funny way that gets attention and makes her laugh?"
This takes some practice. But you can get good at it.
Now, again, I hesitate to give word for word examples, because it depends on what you observe.
Here Are Some Approaches I Do NOT Recommend:
1. Asking her the time, or for directions. It's trite, lame, and then where do you go from there? If you are terribly shy and can't even talk to women, ok, you can start here. But learn to do something else quickly.
2. Being insulting or in any way rude. I don't care what you might have heard. Insulting a woman is stupid. Any woman with choice is just going to move on. If she's kind, she won't insult you back. If she isn't, she just might give a verbal tongue lashing, and that's not the kind of tongue action you want!
3. Invading her space when I meet her. Once I make my initial opening, tell her my name, shake her hand; I then actually take a step back, away from her, to give her back her space.
Women tell me that, to them, it demonstrates respect. It also indicates that, while I am strong enough to come up and meet them, I am also concerned with their safety, and they like that combination. And finally, it indicates a challenge: just because she gave me a good initial response to my opener, doesn't mean she has me! It establishes a challenge, right away.
Peace and piece,
http://www.articledashboard.com/Article/What-To-Say-To-Meet-Women-Anywhere-/259413
Dating Tips: Using Storytelling to Attract Women
Today I want to talk to you about a subject thatI feel is very important and powerful when it
comes to meeting and holding the interest of not only women but anyone in your life.
This subject is none other than Storytelling and when used correctly, can make your desirability
with women sky rocket.
Before I jump into the tips and secrets behind successful story telling and how to construct a
powerful story (which will be covered more in depth in Part II) I want to clear up a few myths
when it comes to the matter of story telling.Myth one: My stories have to be true and about me.
Now this is ultimately up for you to decide but as long as you keep the conversation fun, apply
the right story telling techniques, and can keep the conversation moving, then your story does not have to be true.
Even if the women does not believe the story, if you kept it fun, she will be entertained and most
likely run with new conversation topics developed from your stories.
I am not encouraging you to lie though, the most powerful stories are ones that are true and come from a place of emotion.
You can be so over the top with stories where the unbelievably becomes so fun that she gets
involved and becomes part of a newly painted reality that you and the girl get to share and
more importantly create together. (This becomes a key factor in "Role Playing" and by mastering storytelling, your creativity in "Role Play Conversations" raises but sadly, the subject of role playing will have to be saved for a laterissue.)
However I think the biggest misconception is not whether the stories have to be true, but is more about whether or not they have to be about the story teller.One of the main goals of story telling is to communicate to the listener about you.Surprisingly, it is easier to convey things about yourself by HOW you tell a story, not the actual content of it.
Through the power of expressions, energy, and vivid language, you can convey to your listeners
such things as, dominance, humor, interests, and over all personality.
When applying the proper techniques of a story, you should be able to repeat what you heard on
the news but in such a fashion that directly makes you more interesting and displays your
personality.
Myth Two: As you get better with women you become less dependent on story telling.
Now there is some truth to this myth in the sense that you do not go into interactions with
prescripted stories as much as you may starting out. However, it is through the skills that
storytelling develops that make you less dependent.
Instead of going into in interaction with a story you have made up or written down and rehearsed,you are able to share any subject in an interesting fashion that makes people listen.
This skill is enhanced by applying the arts of storytelling and is one of the key reasons
learning and mastering storytelling is a great way to improve not only your skills with women,
but your overall social skills.
What is storytelling and why is it important?
Storytelling is the direct means of communicationwhen highlighting important parts of your life to the listener. Not only through context, but through delivery.
Storytelling plays a very important part in getting to know someone and the great thing about
telling a story, is that it creates so many other subject matters to talk about and that a story is
almost always followed by another story.
If you are familiar with "The Canterbury Tales" by Geoffrey Chaucer, you will see how each story is molded by the one told before it and by who told the story. (Don't worry; your stories don't have to have a rhyme scheme during the interaction like many of Chaucer's do)
There are many reasons storytelling is important and if you are not currently utilizing
storytelling then consider these following facts:
*Storytelling is a great way to save dying conversations
This is one of the most common problems that I see with many guys. An interaction will be going
great, then conversation starts to die and there is that awkward silence. This is a great time to
bust out a story from your arsenal and revive the interaction.
Knowing you are armed with a story creates more approach confidence when entering an interaction.
People are afraid to enter interactions because of the fear of running out of things to say. By
developing a great story or two and keeping them in your back pocket for when you need them
creates a great since of confidence during the initial approach and can really help limit the
anxiety that one gets when approaching a beautiful women. You are guaranteed that the
interaction will last at least the length of your story.
*Storytelling is a great way to display dominance
When you are telling a story the right way, all eyes are on you, you are the center of attention,
and everyone lingers off your next word. Holdingthe attention of the group through storytelling
puts you in a dominant frame of you being the leader of the interaction and everyone else being
the listener, waiting to see where you take thegroup next.
What you convey through your stories is how youwill be remembered.
Unlike most things you say during an interaction, a good story is unforgettable. How many times
have you had someone tell you about some crazy story that one of their friends told them?
Stories have been passed down for ages; it is an old custom and still exists till this day. The
girl should be able to look back on the interaction and be like "Oh yeah, that was the
guy who (did whatever interesting activity that relates to you)."
*Storytelling develops stronger social skills
This is one of the biggest reasons that I like to make sure everyone masters storytelling. Through storytelling you learn to capture the entire attention of the group. Also you directly convey your personality and it gets you accustomed to doing so. The skills that are developed from strong storytelling directly carry over into your social personality that make all conversation with you more exciting and vivid. The expressiveness you show in stories ties into your future interactions and directly improves your social personality.
*You can convey things through storytelling that you normally could not say.
There may be some interesting details of your life that said outside the context of a story may
come off as bragging. But in a story, these little details are never the subject of the story
thus they remain subtle but are powerful when displaying aspects of your identity.
Now that you have an idea of why storytelling is so effective and what you should be aiming for
when telling a story we are going to work on creating your very own powerful stories that
cannot be ignored. All this will be covered in Part II of this newsletter, but there is an
exercise I want you to do right now so you can directly apply all the tips and tactics to create
an amazing story.
Exercise 1: Write down anywhere from seven to ten moments in your life that you feel changed or defined who you are.
If you have a funny story then that is just a humorous time then you can feel free to include
that. But even if the story does not seem major,just entertaining, the fact that you can remember it means it has a bigger effect than you realize.
This can be happy, fun, or even sad (not depressing) but we do learn through negativeexperiences. We will eventually cut these down to just a couple stories in Part II but for now I just want you to get into the habit of taking note of interesting experiences in your life.
Ideas: Vacations, Life/Death Experiences, an unforgettable concert or sporting event, a moment
you succeeded, something funny that happened to you or a friend.
Now I know that there are going to be people that say they have no interesting stories. This is
just not the truth; everyone has something interesting that has shaped who they are. Do not
be modest; even if it's a silly story write it down. You can't be afraid to share a story,
sometimes they are hard to think of and if you really can't think of a past story, starting
paying more attention to your every day life. And if you still can’t think of one then go take a
vacation, you will return with hundreds of them.
So many things happen in one day that people don' t even think would be a story. But every past
event being told is a story. There is no excuse not to have one.
Exercise Two: Write down at least 5 things that you would like people to know about you.
This is going to tie into personality conveying. Think of the things that you would like any
friend or new acquaintance to know about you.These are the things that directly relate to your
identity and make you who you are. Do not be surprised if these things are directly related in
some way to the stories you wrote down in exercise one.
Ideas: Hobbies, Sports you play, instruments you play, your job, your goals, your skills and
achievements.
Now save this list, we are going to use it a lot in Part II of this newsletter to create some
super powerful stories that you can always rely on. Also I will further go into the skills of
storytelling and how to use them to make every story and conversation more interesting.
I am going to do this very exercise along with you guys so you will get to see my story end
product as well.
Till then keep an eye out for the next letter and great ready to really take storytelling to the
next level
http://www.articlecube.com/Article/Dating-Tips--Using-Storytelling-to-Attract-Women/133446
comes to meeting and holding the interest of not only women but anyone in your life.
This subject is none other than Storytelling and when used correctly, can make your desirability
with women sky rocket.
Before I jump into the tips and secrets behind successful story telling and how to construct a
powerful story (which will be covered more in depth in Part II) I want to clear up a few myths
when it comes to the matter of story telling.Myth one: My stories have to be true and about me.
Now this is ultimately up for you to decide but as long as you keep the conversation fun, apply
the right story telling techniques, and can keep the conversation moving, then your story does not have to be true.
Even if the women does not believe the story, if you kept it fun, she will be entertained and most
likely run with new conversation topics developed from your stories.
I am not encouraging you to lie though, the most powerful stories are ones that are true and come from a place of emotion.
You can be so over the top with stories where the unbelievably becomes so fun that she gets
involved and becomes part of a newly painted reality that you and the girl get to share and
more importantly create together. (This becomes a key factor in "Role Playing" and by mastering storytelling, your creativity in "Role Play Conversations" raises but sadly, the subject of role playing will have to be saved for a laterissue.)
However I think the biggest misconception is not whether the stories have to be true, but is more about whether or not they have to be about the story teller.One of the main goals of story telling is to communicate to the listener about you.Surprisingly, it is easier to convey things about yourself by HOW you tell a story, not the actual content of it.
Through the power of expressions, energy, and vivid language, you can convey to your listeners
such things as, dominance, humor, interests, and over all personality.
When applying the proper techniques of a story, you should be able to repeat what you heard on
the news but in such a fashion that directly makes you more interesting and displays your
personality.
Myth Two: As you get better with women you become less dependent on story telling.
Now there is some truth to this myth in the sense that you do not go into interactions with
prescripted stories as much as you may starting out. However, it is through the skills that
storytelling develops that make you less dependent.
Instead of going into in interaction with a story you have made up or written down and rehearsed,you are able to share any subject in an interesting fashion that makes people listen.
This skill is enhanced by applying the arts of storytelling and is one of the key reasons
learning and mastering storytelling is a great way to improve not only your skills with women,
but your overall social skills.
What is storytelling and why is it important?
Storytelling is the direct means of communicationwhen highlighting important parts of your life to the listener. Not only through context, but through delivery.
Storytelling plays a very important part in getting to know someone and the great thing about
telling a story, is that it creates so many other subject matters to talk about and that a story is
almost always followed by another story.
If you are familiar with "The Canterbury Tales" by Geoffrey Chaucer, you will see how each story is molded by the one told before it and by who told the story. (Don't worry; your stories don't have to have a rhyme scheme during the interaction like many of Chaucer's do)
There are many reasons storytelling is important and if you are not currently utilizing
storytelling then consider these following facts:
*Storytelling is a great way to save dying conversations
This is one of the most common problems that I see with many guys. An interaction will be going
great, then conversation starts to die and there is that awkward silence. This is a great time to
bust out a story from your arsenal and revive the interaction.
Knowing you are armed with a story creates more approach confidence when entering an interaction.
People are afraid to enter interactions because of the fear of running out of things to say. By
developing a great story or two and keeping them in your back pocket for when you need them
creates a great since of confidence during the initial approach and can really help limit the
anxiety that one gets when approaching a beautiful women. You are guaranteed that the
interaction will last at least the length of your story.
*Storytelling is a great way to display dominance
When you are telling a story the right way, all eyes are on you, you are the center of attention,
and everyone lingers off your next word. Holdingthe attention of the group through storytelling
puts you in a dominant frame of you being the leader of the interaction and everyone else being
the listener, waiting to see where you take thegroup next.
What you convey through your stories is how youwill be remembered.
Unlike most things you say during an interaction, a good story is unforgettable. How many times
have you had someone tell you about some crazy story that one of their friends told them?
Stories have been passed down for ages; it is an old custom and still exists till this day. The
girl should be able to look back on the interaction and be like "Oh yeah, that was the
guy who (did whatever interesting activity that relates to you)."
*Storytelling develops stronger social skills
This is one of the biggest reasons that I like to make sure everyone masters storytelling. Through storytelling you learn to capture the entire attention of the group. Also you directly convey your personality and it gets you accustomed to doing so. The skills that are developed from strong storytelling directly carry over into your social personality that make all conversation with you more exciting and vivid. The expressiveness you show in stories ties into your future interactions and directly improves your social personality.
*You can convey things through storytelling that you normally could not say.
There may be some interesting details of your life that said outside the context of a story may
come off as bragging. But in a story, these little details are never the subject of the story
thus they remain subtle but are powerful when displaying aspects of your identity.
Now that you have an idea of why storytelling is so effective and what you should be aiming for
when telling a story we are going to work on creating your very own powerful stories that
cannot be ignored. All this will be covered in Part II of this newsletter, but there is an
exercise I want you to do right now so you can directly apply all the tips and tactics to create
an amazing story.
Exercise 1: Write down anywhere from seven to ten moments in your life that you feel changed or defined who you are.
If you have a funny story then that is just a humorous time then you can feel free to include
that. But even if the story does not seem major,just entertaining, the fact that you can remember it means it has a bigger effect than you realize.
This can be happy, fun, or even sad (not depressing) but we do learn through negativeexperiences. We will eventually cut these down to just a couple stories in Part II but for now I just want you to get into the habit of taking note of interesting experiences in your life.
Ideas: Vacations, Life/Death Experiences, an unforgettable concert or sporting event, a moment
you succeeded, something funny that happened to you or a friend.
Now I know that there are going to be people that say they have no interesting stories. This is
just not the truth; everyone has something interesting that has shaped who they are. Do not
be modest; even if it's a silly story write it down. You can't be afraid to share a story,
sometimes they are hard to think of and if you really can't think of a past story, starting
paying more attention to your every day life. And if you still can’t think of one then go take a
vacation, you will return with hundreds of them.
So many things happen in one day that people don' t even think would be a story. But every past
event being told is a story. There is no excuse not to have one.
Exercise Two: Write down at least 5 things that you would like people to know about you.
This is going to tie into personality conveying. Think of the things that you would like any
friend or new acquaintance to know about you.These are the things that directly relate to your
identity and make you who you are. Do not be surprised if these things are directly related in
some way to the stories you wrote down in exercise one.
Ideas: Hobbies, Sports you play, instruments you play, your job, your goals, your skills and
achievements.
Now save this list, we are going to use it a lot in Part II of this newsletter to create some
super powerful stories that you can always rely on. Also I will further go into the skills of
storytelling and how to use them to make every story and conversation more interesting.
I am going to do this very exercise along with you guys so you will get to see my story end
product as well.
Till then keep an eye out for the next letter and great ready to really take storytelling to the
next level
http://www.articlecube.com/Article/Dating-Tips--Using-Storytelling-to-Attract-Women/133446
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