Homely women have been cornered in a culture that worships physical beauty. They have tried all paths in their search for an acceptable man and have not had a date in years. They have tried going out on blind dates, many of the guys were perfect for them but they never returned. There is no hope for these homely women ever finding a man and they have no choice but to accept final rejection. There is no fury like a woman that is scorned. Many women take alcohol or drugs to quiet the pain of their loneliness, others have swallowed a bottle of sleeping pills and said goodbye to a cruel world. The brave woman does not tear herself apart but becomes a prime fighter against her loneliness and finds other interests.
Men and women are not as compatible as is generally thought. Most single men find women useful only as a means to satisfy their sexual needs, but if the woman is the mother of his children she is needed for many other things. Women on the other hand need men for financial reasons and little else. It is surprising that so few men and women accept the fact that they are psychologically unfit for each other.
A heterosexual man will not date the most beautiful or intelligent women for more than a few times unless he is sexually rewarded. I have observed this fact to be true after witnessing thousands of breakups after the man was denied sexual satisfaction. Of cause there are exceptions to the rule but that does not alter my assertion. Most single men after being sexually satisfied find something else to do which leaves the woman alone. It is a rare man that hangs around a woman after she gave him what he was after. It is no different after watching a good movie. When it is over it is time to leave. A man who shares his children with a woman is bound by responsibility. His relationship to her is more complex but his psychological incompatibility remains. More than half of married couples break up before ten years of marriage. They wisely go their own ways. The others remain for financial security or other factors that rarely have anything to do with love.
A single woman spends a lot of her time searching for a husband. The type of husband she is looking for hopefully can give her the financial security she needs to live like a queen. There are not that many wealthy guys available so she compromises and accepts a middle income husband. After having a few children and working like a slave to rear them, she comes to the realization that she does not need him at all. With his child support payments and her job she can have a better lifestyle without his annoyance. After a long court battle for their assets she finally is rid of him. Her house is now her castle and she and the children are happier without him dictating to them. Her phone is now alive with divorcees that want to meet her for dinner or dancing. She is free at last and she will never return to the type of life she just gave up.
The homely women are no longer lonely. They have found lots of girlfriends and spend quality time with them. The community center is not far from their homes and is open all the time. The art classes have taught them how to paint in oils and they are there every evening. Board games are available and women love them. After hearing all the heartbreaking stories from the divorced and sometimes battered women at the center the homely women are happy that they never got involved with a man. It comes to their mind that their homeliness might have served as a blessing.
There is nothing evil about a single man that enjoys sex with a woman. Most men do, and it is programmed into their genes. Men seek out women for the sole purpose of having sexual pleasure. But due to the mindset of women men must not disclose this secret to anyone but trusted male friends. It is against a women’s financial interest to date a guy that is only focused on having sex with her. She wants a man that enjoys only expensive things, and places his sexual desires in a secondary position. Men have interests that are not hers and he does not need the company of a woman to share them.
Men and women should be honest with each other and disclose their real purpose in dating. But if they did they would never date. If a guy told a woman all he wanted from her is sexual pleasure she might slap him and walk away. That is why a man has to lie and tell her that he is interested in theatre and traveling---if he does a love session will soon follow. If a woman told the truth and said all she needs from the guy is financial security or a free vacation in Europe he will be insulted. It is obvious that some sort of give and take values have to be accepted if men and women will be able to get along.
There are sex toys available to women and they work perfectly. Woman that try them never give them up. There is no sexual advantage for a woman having a man. The dildo does a much better job. Men that ask women for a date should be ready to spend enough money to give the lady a great time. If they are broke they are absolutely useless to a woman with a sex toy.
I am a man and understand men’s needs. We all enjoy making love to attractive women. Some men are more fortunate and have a better sex life than others but we all get our hugs and kisses. I think it is wrong to lie to a woman about your real needs. Tell her the truth after you have taken her out nicely. If she thinks you are worth keeping you will get what you are after. Guys that are cheap or broke should stay out of the dating game. They are causing harm to women by their lies. Men and women can get along but only if they are honest with each other.
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