Flirting Tips for Men: Mastering the Art of Online Flirting

Flirting online can be difficult. This mainly is because flirting has always been physical, involving body language such as eye-contact, smiling etc. Flirting through a modem therefore poses a certain challenge. But it can be done.

Flirting is an art that requires oozing confidence without being OTT (Over The Top). Many of the same things work for online flirting as in "brick and mortar" flirting. A delicate balance born of insight as well as experience is still required. Why?

Well, go too far and she will label you "slimy". Don't go far enough and she will label you "wimpy". So how do you achieve that point half way between slimy and wimpy and do it online without using eye contact or body language?

1. Have fun! Flirting is playful. Be light-hearted, funny and entertaining. But, don't go too far with humor at the beginning. Try to gauge what kind of humor you can get away with.

2. Keep it simple. Use short emails or messages, and day to day conversational language.

3. Ooze confidence. Successful flirts have a positive outlook on life, which is often infectious. You need to transmit the "feel good" factor. Women have always been attracted to confident, optimistic men.

4. Listen to her. Pay attention to what she says and ask appropriate questions. Successful flirts often use their "third ear". What is that? It is listening beyond what is spoken, or in our case, reading between the lines of her messages. Make her feel like she is interesting and that you are interested in her.

5. Compliment her. And be sincere. Nothing opens doors like making her feel good about herself. Look for something unique or subtle to compliment her about. Beautiful women often grow tired of being told they are beautiful.

6. Avoid sexual overtones. Flirting does not have to include being sexual suggestions and innuendos: this might actually turn her.

7. Send an email after you chat. This ranks right up there with sending a thank you note for a gift and it is vital to successful online flirting.

Take it slow. Don't try to go too fast. Remember you are only a click away from being shut out. Done right, online flirting can be the first step to a successful and long-lasting relationship.



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Pickup that girl at the bar

Simple scenario: You walk into the bar with your friends, survey the crowd and decide to get a beer. As you lounge around talking with friends you look to the far side of the bar. There she is, the most beautiful girl in the place, with not another man in sight. You say to yourself, “I just have to go talk to her”. You grab another beer and decide its time, so you walk over to her. Just before you get to her, your heart starts pounding, you can’t think of what to say, you panic and forget your name. You back off at the last minute and tell yourself you’ll try again in a little bit when you calm down. The night passes on a whim and you never see the girl again.

Does this sound familiar? Do you have trouble coming up with another lame pickup line or for a way to impress a girl? Don’t be afraid, it has happened to the best of us. But don’t worry; I have a couple of solutions and pointers for you, some which have worked with a very good success rate. This way next time you walk in the bar, you’ll score the girl(s).
Simple scenario: You walk into the bar with your friends, survey the crowd and decide to get a beer. As you lounge around talking with friends you look to the far side of the bar. There she is, the most beautiful girl in the place, with not another man in sight. You say to yourself, “I just have to go talk to her”. You grab another beer and decide its time, so you walk over to her. Just before you get to her, your heart starts pounding, you can’t think of what to say, you panic and forget your name. You back off at the last minute and tell yourself you’ll try again in a little bit when you calm down. The night passes on a whim and you never see the girl again.

Does this sound familiar? Do you have trouble coming up with another lame pickup line or for a way to impress a girl? Don’t be afraid, it has happened to the best of us. But don’t worry; I have a couple of solutions and pointers for you, some which have worked with a very good success rate. This way next time you walk in the bar, you’ll score the girl(s).

Don’t be
cheesy
Lousy pickup lines create a sense of, “Oh my god what is this guy saying to me?” You make yourself look like a fool. Naturally you will not get the girl. You know the cheesy lines you use: “I lost my number, can I get yours?”, “I don't know what you think of me, but I hope it's X-rated”, etc. How often do they work? Probably not too much, and if you don’t know, check your black book for all the numbers you’ve scored. Kind of small, isn’t it?

Skip the beer
Beer breath doesn’t smell like mouthwash. You might not realize it because you caught a buzz, but old stinky beer breath is not attractive to women at all. Unless you’re Brad Pitt, beer breath will not land you a date, phone number, or even a name for that matter. Stick to something that doesn’t leave an aftertaste, like wine or a mixed cocktail. Not only will it improve your breath, but it’ll also improve your chances of going home with her tonight. Save the beer nights for Monday night football.

Be genuine
A simple introduction is the only one necessary when meeting with a woman for the first time. Women like guys that can be themselves and not ramble about their days as a star quarterback in high school or that 50 pound bass they caught last week. You wont impress her with an ego-centric attitude. Also, be sure to look her straight in the eyes the whole time.

Smile, Smile, Smile
Like a good salesman, you’ll learn that throwing on a winning smile can land you the sale. Women feel more comfortable with a guy that has a sense of humor and can get the most out of life. Don’t just stand there like an 800 lb. gorilla and think your biceps are going to win her over. Does Tom Cruise or Brad Pitt have a huge chest…no, but they all have that winning smile.

By becoming comfortable around women using these tips, you’ll be sure to spend more with the ladies, and less staring at your TV with a bag of chips. Unless of course your into that sort of thing.
Lousy pickup lines create a sense of, “Oh my god what is this guy saying to me?” You make yourself look like a fool. Naturally you will not get the girl. You know the cheesy lines you use: “I lost my number, can I get yours?”, “I don't know what you think of me, but I hope it's X-rated”, etc. How often do they work? Probably not too much, and if you don’t know, check your black book for all the numbers you’ve scored. Kind of small, isn’t it?

Skip the beer
Beer breath doesn’t smell like mouthwash. You might not realize it because you caught a buzz, but old stinky beer breath is not attractive to women at all. Unless you’re Brad Pitt, beer breath will not land you a date, phone number, or even a name for that matter. Stick to something that doesn’t leave an aftertaste, like wine or a mixed cocktail. Not only will it improve your breath, but it’ll also improve your chances of going home with her tonight. Save the beer nights for Monday night football.

Be genuine
A simple introduction is the only one necessary when meeting with a woman for the first time. Women like guys that can be themselves and not ramble about their days as a star quarterback in high school or that 50 pound bass they caught last week. You wont impress her with an ego-centric attitude. Also, be sure to look her straight in the eyes the whole time.

Smile, Smile, Smile
Like a good salesman, you’ll learn that throwing on a winning smile can land you the sale. Women feel more comfortable with a guy that has a sense of humor and can get the most out of life. Don’t just stand there like an 800 lb. gorilla and think your biceps are going to win her over. Does Tom Cruise or Brad Pitt have a huge chest…no, but they all have that winning smile.

By becoming comfortable around women using these tips, you’ll be sure to spend more with the ladies, and less staring at your TV with a bag of chips. Unless of course your into that sort of thing.



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Disarming the Drag-Away Girl

The arrogance is appalling. How could this happen to you? Why now??

You’re with your friends at the club, and suddenly a total bombshell of a woman catches your eye. Maybe it’s the silkiness of her hair, or her shimmering makeup, but you know she’s the one for you … for tonight, at least. With quiet courage, you begin your path towards her.

Oops…. Nature calls. Better take a trip to the bathroom first…

5 unnecessary minutes later, you are back and ready to go. You walk up and … well the bar’s right there, might as well get another beer.

3 more even more unnecessary minutes later, you gulp down some of that liquid courage, tap her on the shoulder, and say “Hi.”

For some reason, she opens right up. She’s laughing at everything you say and the conversation is flowing effortlessly. You wish you had a recorder wired to you, because tonight you are clearly at your wittiest. She’s even beginning to touch your chest when you say something she likes, and doesn’t mind you putting your hand on her shoulder or side as you get to know her. All of a sudden, a third party suddenly enters your space.

“BECKY!!! We need to go dance!”

Gone.

You didn’t even see it coming. She didn’t see it coming. Yet within seconds, she is off dancing to “Hips don’t lie” as you stand there alone with your beer, wondering where your potential girlfriend went.

This is called the “drag-away girl.” There’s one in every girl’s social circle. Her job is so important that when she has the flu, or is out of town, all of her friends fall into the catastrophes of setting dates, getting make-outs, or having one night stands. How crucial her assignment is.

Ok, so it’s not that formal, but in order to diffuse the drag-a-way girl’s powers, you need to understand why she creates all this madness in the first place.

Women want sex. They love sex; probably more than we do. Left to their own devices, they’d probably be having sex all the time. Who wouldn’t be tempted, with attractive people hitting on them left and right?

The problem is that there are social and personal ramifications for women who are promiscuous. They are called “sluts,” and can feel “dirty,” afterwards. Because of this, girlfriends vow to limit each others’ sexual encounters as much as possible. In fact, women will often explicitly ask each other to cockblock for them and make sure they don’t give their numbers out or go home with a guy. This is taken so far that when a girl does actually decide she wants to get laid, she’ll have to go out of her way to tell her friends not to block, just so she can act how she normally would without societal restrictions.

Of course, there are other reasons why girls drag their friends away from potential suitors. One reason could be that she is simply jealous and hating on her friend for getting hit on all the time. If a girl is overweight or unattractive in general, this is probably the main reason.

How do we solve this? The solution is simple.

As soon as the friend comes, engage her and bring her into the conversation. This will bring her into the new world you two share, instead of snapping your lady back into the other world she shares with her girlfriend. The three of you will be talking about how cool your trip to Maui was, instead of their dinner plans on their big night out next week — without you, of course. You need to stay prominent in your honey’s universe, and for that moment, lower her friend from a focal point to just a guest in the vibe that you two share.

If you do this early enough, and hold a strong frame, her friend will notice that you two are getting along, and just might respect that. What will more likely happen, though, is that she’ll still try to make an attempt to drag her friend away by saying “We’re going to go dance,” but it will be noticeably weaker. She’ll speak more softly, and her voice may quiver. Because her friend has a weaker frame than you, you will win. She just won’t sound as cool as you, and will be turned down. Your girl will just reply “I’m good,” and nod for her to go away. You may not even be able to tell that the drag-away girl has lost her confidence in her control of her friend, but it’s there if you look for it.

Now sometimes you won’t be able to the engage the friend before she tries to pull your object of interest away. She might just show up and say “We gotta go dance…now!” before you can even make eye contact with her. This situation is actually a lot easier than you would expect. Pat the drag-a-way girl on the shoulder and say, “You’re cool, you’re cool,” then turn to face your girl and resume conversation. The friend will be confused and will lose power as she stands there as you two talk. Whoever is standing on the edge, boxed out, looks less and less cool with each passing second.

She will try to reinitiate and move your lady away. Do the same thing again: pat her on the shoulder and quickly say, “You’re cool, you’re cool.” Turn your body completely to face your girl again and resume conversation. It’s as easy as shampooing your hair: Wash, rinse, repeat. You can do this over and over again until the friend just leaves; and believe me, she will leave.

In short, don’t get too reactive when an obstacle like the drag-away girl crosses your path. Be friendly if you can; and if not, blow her out of the interaction. It’s actually deceptively simple dealing with female cockblocks, once you get the hang of it. Above all, have a good time with it, and that girl will be yours.


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Dating Tips for Christian Single Men

Christian single men who date are prone to making dating mistakes somewhere down the road. But yo, Christian Men! Can we talk? A lot of you Christian Men out there keep making the same stupid dating mistakes. In fact, I'm really tired of single Christian men whining about not being able to meet any nice girls, when it's their own goofs that are driving away the promising possibilities.

Our simple piece of dating advice is that many Christian men can avoid making dating mistakes in the future by simply learning what they are, and taking appropriate steps to sincerely change.

Being Out Of Touch With Her Needs

Every woman has heart needs. Not understanding or caring about what Christain Girls Want in a Guy means you're probably in the group of whiners we already spoke about. All I'll say is: If you don't know your playbook, how can you play?

Failing to Communicate Your True Feelings

Many guys, including Christian men, have a difficult time expressing their feeling. This happens for a variety of reasons. Some Christian men suffer from low self-esteem, so their fears of rejection hold them from sharing their heart with a woman. Other Christian men never learned how to converse with the opposite sex.

Acting Too Meek and Needy

Can anybody say milquetoast? A whole lot of Christian men make this boo boo by over exaggerating their sense of Christian meekness in order to win a girl's heart. Yeah, girls love sensitive guys, but not weasels who pander to their every whim as an over pleasing "yes man."

By the way, the Biblical meaning of meekness actually means "controlled power", the exact quality women find irresistible. For better or worse, most women are attracted to men who are perceived as being powerful. Ever wondered why a lot of good girls date bad guys? It's connected to this phenomenon. Christian men, do you think you can strike a balance here somewhere?

Yacking About The Ex

My brother did this last week while we were having dinner with his new girlfriend. I tried to kick his leg under the table, but I missed. Bottom line: Nothing soaks the kindling flames of a budding romance more. Too much talk about the ex, and she may think you're taking her as a rebound relationship.

Compromising Your Spiritual Walk to Get the Girl

Are you doing things you would not normally do only to impress a girl? That's not a sign of a healthy Christian dating relationship, and you'll end up regretting it when the relationship ends. Read chapter 5 and 6 in Proverbs if you don't believe me.

Overall, no dating relationship is perfect. However, Christian men can improve their chances at at having a satisfying experience if they avoid the above mistakes.Christian single men who date are prone to making dating mistakes somewhere down the road. But yo, Christian Men! Can we talk? A lot of you Christian Men out there keep making the same stupid dating mistakes. In fact, I'm really tired of single Christian men whining about not being able to meet any nice girls, when it's their own goofs that are driving away the promising possibilities.

Our simple piece of dating advice is that many Christian men can avoid making dating mistakes in the future by simply learning what they are, and taking appropriate steps to sincerely change.

Being Out Of Touch With Her Needs

Every woman has heart needs. Not understanding or caring about what Christain Girls Want in a Guy means you're probably in the group of whiners we already spoke about. All I'll say is: If you don't know your playbook, how can you play?

Failing to Communicate Your True Feelings

Many guys, including Christian men, have a difficult time expressing their feeling. This happens for a variety of reasons. Some Christian men suffer from low self-esteem, so their fears of rejection hold them from sharing their heart with a woman. Other Christian men never learned how to converse with the opposite sex.

Acting Too Meek and Needy

Can anybody say milquetoast? A whole lot of Christian men make this boo boo by over exaggerating their sense of Christian meekness in order to win a girl's heart. Yeah, girls love sensitive guys, but not weasels who pander to their every whim as an over pleasing "yes man."

By the way, the Biblical meaning of meekness actually means "controlled power", the exact quality women find irresistible. For better or worse, most women are attracted to men who are perceived as being powerful. Ever wondered why a lot of good girls date bad guys? It's connected to this phenomenon. Christian men, do you think you can strike a balance here somewhere?

Yacking About The Ex

My brother did this last week while we were having dinner with his new girlfriend. I tried to kick his leg under the table, but I missed. Bottom line: Nothing soaks the kindling flames of a budding romance more. Too much talk about the ex, and she may think you're taking her as a rebound relationship.

Compromising Your Spiritual Walk to Get the Girl

Are you doing things you would not normally do only to impress a girl? That's not a sign of a healthy Christian dating relationship, and you'll end up regretting it when the relationship ends. Read chapter 5 and 6 in Proverbs if you don't believe me.

Overall, no dating relationship is perfect. However, Christian men can improve their chances at at having a satisfying experience if they avoid the above mistakes.



http://www.articleson.com/Article/Dating-Tips-for-Christian-Single-Men/28990

How To Be Safe On Adult Sites

Adult sites are a source of infection to a user�s computer. A person must not necessarily be searching for an adult site in order to end up being infected by one. The main reason for this is the fact that hijacking programs routinely redirect browsers to adult sites, where they are exposed to spyware, adware and other malware, which can harm your computer. As a result, whether it is an unexpected or an intentional visit to an adult site, what you can get is everything from annoying popup ads to rootkit installation, to key loggers installation and even to identity theft. Not to speak about the unintentional exposure to pornography, that can occur at any time.

In order to better protect yourself against the threats of adult websites, you can start by choosing one of the internet browsers that claim to just this. For instance, Heatseek is an adult site specific browser that claims to be both secure and easy to use. The Mozilla Firefox browser is a browser that says it will help visitors to adult websites hide their online activity. This browser is considered to be a safe and convenient browser for all types of surfing, be it adult-oriented or not.

The Firefox browser gives the user control over popups and windows. It is also known for being secure and not allowing automatic spyware downloads. By its tabbed browsing feature, which supplies the user with a faster alternative to multi-window browsing, lets pages in different tabs remain accessible while the user views other pages and lets the user open new links instantly instead of waiting for a separate window to load. Users who value their online privacy are easily able to clear their cookies, cache, download history, and browsing history. Last but not least, the various downloading features give the user control over how and where to save files.

Besides using a safe browser there are a few other things you must keep in mind in order to avoid problems. The most important element in thin fight is having a firewall and an anti spyware software program installed on your computer. When visiting any adult site, never agree to a thing they might ask you! You must never open any mail form adult websites, especially those having attachments and this should be your main rule for any other type of sites you may consider as unknown sources.



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Latin Loving With Online Dating

Latin Dating offers many opportunities to experience the passion and romance often associated with this culture. Getting started can be especially challenging and here are some useful tips that will make your romantic ventures into the latin community easier and more enjoyable.

If you are interested in forming a relationship with a man or woman of Latin descent, you can take advantage of the facilities offered with an online community which is dedicated to helping singles meet Latinos in a comfortable online atmosphere. This offers the chance to meet your perfect match or simply find friendship. A community such as this is an excellent place to begin relationships, whether your interest is in marriage, companionship, or lasting friendship.

Naturally, these Latin communities also provide opportunities for you to set up the perfect romantic dating experience. Initially, one that both you and your date can enjoy without strings attached.

Latin online dating sites will normally include a number of features to help clients get to know other clients fairly well. For instance, you might expect to find presented in these sites:

Online profiles and photographs of Latin singles

Online chat rooms and an instant messenger that will allow communication in real time

An online private email box that allows participants to send and receive personal messages

An online forum that allows participants to post messages and exchange information

An FAQ section which makes it easier to get started by providing answers to common questions.

Once you've made contact, creating romance on your dates is greatly facilitated if you enjoy taking part in one, or more, of the following activities:

DINNER: The perfect choice for Latin dating. You can make this experience as casual or romantic as you want it to be. Make sure that you listen intently to your date, as the way you act during the meal can establish - or ruin - your new relationship. You might even take his or her hand across the dinner table. Make sure there is plenty of eye contact, and be open and honest, yet tactful, when you express yourself.

However, keep in mind that the other person may prefer the relationship to develop slowly and could be wary of early sexual overtures. If you sense discomfort in your date, back off. Good taste in romance means knowing when to draw the line. If you want the relationship to develop further - to become a Latin Lover - your date needs to feel relaxed and comfortable with you.

DANCING: At the heart of all good Latin dating is music - and dancing. Not only does dancing serve to stir the passions, it is also a tremendous icebreaker. It allows you and your date to touch and respond seductively to each other without any sense of commitment. And it's great fun!

If you're unfortunate enough to have two left feet, before you despondently buy a dog as a possible lifelong companion, consider:

WALKING: Nature's everlasting standby for the romantically inclined. Of course, it helps if you have magnificent settings, such as beaches, parks, waterfronts, mountains and valleys. But the real advantage is being able to just hold hands and talk on an evening stroll; perhaps admiring the sunset in silence, or gazing up at the stars. There's something about simple, natural beauty that evokes positive feelings and a romantic atmosphere, and Latins are by no means immune!

Whatever your dating intentions, keep in mind that traditions are an important part of Latin culture. So it's usually an advantage to be of the same ethnic background when it comes to understanding family relations - and being accepted by family members.

Nevertheless, the online Latin community is a fine place to start and allows you to explore possibilities you might otherwise not have considered. The facilities offered by these dating sites make it easy for you to set up a truly enjoyable experience, even romance.



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How to Approach Women Without Fear

Indisputably, the biggest problem that faces the new pick-up artist is anxiety that comes from approaching a woman he desires. There have been quite a few explanations for this, ranging from tribal history that has been implanted in our genes, to societal programming on what is right and wrong for us to do.

Put simply, we just happen to desire social acceptance more than anything else that does not physically keep us alive. We want our family to be proud of us, our friends and acquaintances to respect and include us, and the rest of the world to desire us.

What’s the opposite of acceptance? Rejection. And that’s what we’re afraid of.

I’m going to give you some powerful techniques to eradicate this fear’s hold on your life, but before that, I want to discuss the root of this in depth for you.

We’re going to call a girl or group not being interested as something other than “rejection” or “getting rejected.” After all, you didn’t get rejected. Your approach did. If you went in differently, the reaction would have been different. We’re going to call it “getting blown out” or a “blow-out.” This is because while the set didn’t know enough about you to reject you personally, they did express that they wanted to end the interaction.

Your use of words is very important. A good friend of mine is fond of saying, “The first set of the night is always murder.” Now if you’re equating talking to a girl with someone ending your life, of course you will be more than a little hesitant to make that first approach! Anthony Robbins has set up a whole system on how to use your word choice to better your life. I won’t get into it here, but in short, minimize your negative word usage, especially if you’re describing something that’s necessary for you. If you say “Going to the gym is a royal pain in the ass,“ you probably won’t make it there very often. However, if you say “Getting to the gym consistently is a challenge,” it’s a lot more likely you’ll rise to the occasion. So to sum up, I NEVER want to hear you say “I got rejected.”

While word choice is important, a bigger issue that holds
the outcome of the set. In other words, you are giving two girls thirty seconds to give a full evaluation of your value as a person and judge you accordingly. That’s a lot of power to give someone you’ve never met before.

There’s only three reasons an approach might not go well for me:

1) My game wasn’t good enough at this point to handle this particular situation

2) My game was good enough, but I made a mistake in this particular situation

3) There were extenuating circumstances that prevented success, despite that I ran a good set.

That’s it. There are no possibilities for why it can go wrong.

In my years in the game, I’ve met plenty of people that make their living teaching men how to pick-up women. These men pick-up beautiful women right in front of their students, sometimes on video-tape. Some of these guys, if you saw them, would blow your mind because they are not attractive by any standards. They have huge guts, often are balding, sometimes pasty white, and sometimes pretty short and frail. This is a hard thing to accept until you’re actually seen this, but you definitely do not need to be good looking to attract women. The point I’m trying to make is:

YOUR LOOKS ARE NOT WHAT GETS YOU BLOWN OUT.

Your game is the problem; not your looks, not your value. It’s completely dependent on your social skill-set.

When Tyler Durden makes an approach that doesn’t go well (which does happen even for the masters), he says it affects him as emotionally as if he was shooting hoops and had his hand crooked on the basketball and missed.

So you have basically three options to consider. You may have been socially miscalibrated and messed up a set you could have done well. So you learn from your mistake. It also might have been a too difficult set for you to win at this point in your learning curve. You still get mad props for going for it and you are no doubt better because you did go for it. The people that get great at pick-up constantly approach sets out of their comfort zones, where instant success is unlikely. It might be a go-go dancer swinging around a pole. It may be a beautiful girl surrounded by 7 guys. It may be a celebrity. When you’re higher in your learning curve, you’ll be able to own that set.

Until then, it’s only practice.

A great PUA named Hoobie once said that “Every failure is a brick in my palace.” I would change that to “Every approach is a brick in my palace.” The latter is more accurate, because every attempt you make at a pickup, it adds to your cumulative experience.

And of course there are situations where the set-up is precarious at best and it is near impossible to actually win the set. If a group of girls are having a girl’s night out for a friend who’s husband just cheated on her, they’re going to be giving her 100% of their attention and putting guys to the side for the night. There’s no way you would ever know that, so just be open to the possibility. This is not to say you should excuse yourself every time a set doesn’t go well. You can’t always say “She must have been married.” You still have personal accountability. Just let the possibility that it was an impossible set be open in the back of your mind.

Now here are some specific techniques for consistently getting approaches done each night:

· Make it a MUST that you approach a minimum of 6 sets for the night. That you literally can't leave til you do it. Make it your goal to get blown out 6 times. Yes, no numbers, no lays, just get blown out. That way when you get blown out you're closer to your goal.

· If you have a wing, give him 100 dollars. Have him give you 10 dollars back for each approach you do. At the end of the night, he keeps the leftover cash.

· Make it a point to say some outrageous stuff in approaches, stuff you KNOW won't work. Every third approach or so, I will sometimes use a “fun” approach that I don't’ expect to work like going up to a group of girls and saying “Are you ready for the big time?”

· A good exercise from Ross Jeffries is to go to a place like a shopping mall or busy street downtown and stop a girl and say "Excuse me, forgive the interruption. I'm Manny Martian. What is your favorite flavored bowling ball?" Now that's not a pickup attempt, because you were not trying to seduce her. Go do that about 20 times and it should be easier. It may be better to do that one in a major city an hour or so away from where you live for that one.

You have to go BEYOND what a typical approach is before you feel comfortable with a normal approach. Once you say something ridiculous and realize you're still alive and breathing afterwards, you can laugh it off and it’s a heck of a lot easier to ask a couple women what their opinion is on something.

· FOR NEWBIES ONLY: When you approach, touch the girls before you start talking. Like tap a shoulder. That instigates the "point of no return" signal that let’s you know you're already in the interaction. When you see a set, go 3-2-1, TAP, and then they're looking at you and you have to speak. After doing this for a few weeks though, quickly phase it out since it is NOT solid game for a proper pickup.

· Practice seeing women for as they are and not as the demi-gods we make them out to be in the field. If you see a woman in sexy bitch boots, sparkling eye shadow, and shimmering lipstick, of course all you can think of how absolutely wonderful it would be to kiss her. Now look at her and in your head take the lipstick off, as well as the rest of the make-up, and think of how she looks on laundry day. You don’t have to imagine her ugly, but just a bit plainer. That should take it down a notch.

· Lastly, be social in general with women of all shapes and sizes. The more often you talk to women outside of a pick-up session, the more natural it will be to start a conversation with any girl at a bar. Talk to fat, older and unattractive women as well.

You may always feel some jitters your first set of the night, and I know pros who feel that way after 10 years of picking up the most beautiful women. They just plow through despite the initial unpleasant feeling. And thats what a real man does: act in spite of fear, and act in spite of discomfort.



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Search: Online Adult Dating

People look for love and romance on the internet in an online adult dating site. Others look for sex and only sex it may be straight or alternate sex. The search is about people and not peanuts or rugs, hence it is people search.

People come in all shape and size, age and type. Name it and they are their-singles, swinger couples, lesbians, gays; straight, bisexual and heterosexual; interracial, interfaith…all. People with weirdest sexual preference are there on the net looking for someone of the same type to satisfy their sexual urge. An online adult dating site with a large number of listings is split into these very categories for an easy and efficient search. There site dedicated to a specific category, say an online adult site for gay personals, a site for lesbians.

People are into match making to find their life partners, single parents, divorcees, seniors, widows-these portals are called Match Making sites although they may offer many options.

The word dating is prominent in the tile of all the adult dating sites on the web lest they may be taken for porn sites which carry explicit adult content. Unlike porn sites offering amateur and hardcore visuals, online adult dating sites are a friend finder and relation ship building sites The search for a sexual encounters and adult sex personals is the most common on dating sites but they by no means are x rated.

Sex is not a forbidden fruit any more. Couples searching other couples, partner swapping couples, couples looking for singles; singles looking for singles or couples, alternate sex seekers lesbian personals and gay personals looking for their type are common searches on the internet. Seniors have also joined the fray…Thanks to internet they are also rediscovering their sex lives.

Online adult dating sites are user friendly which can be visited from the safe confines of once home. They offer privacy, anonymity and discreet options for those who do not wish to reveal their identities. The chance of meeting your type is an exceptional probability which is not possible in public life. Hence the popularity of these portals is an ever increasing phenomenon.



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Building Internet Dating Relationships: Personal Safety First

Internet dating can be fun. But while establishing internet dating relationships, you can only ignore safety and common sense at your peril. Always keep in mind that you are dealing with strangers and at minimum, take caution in the following areas.

Protect Your Computer

Your personal safety comes first. But when dating online, there is a chance of someone grabbing you by the neck through your computer. How?

Well, spy-ware, Trojan horses and other malicious software can (and do) sneak into your computer without your knowledge. Before long, some stranger knows more about you and your internet surfing habits than you would dare to think.

Not only that but, your computer could experience a system crash or start acting funny (and not in a humorous way).

Taking care of your equipment and systems should therefore be the first step towards your safety while establishing internet dating relationships.

At the bare minimum, you need two forms of protective software:

1. A Firewall: Helps keep destructive or malicious wares from entering your system or network

2. Anti-Virus: Helps to stop and/or clean computer viruses

Protect Yourself

The next step in safety in establishing internet dating relationships is your personal safety. Always keep in mind that you are dealing with strangers. So, how do you protect yourself?

Begin by choosing appropriate dating sites. Seek and choose a reputable dating service. How?

You could start by asking around with friends, relatives, co-workers and others you may know who have tried internet dating for recommendations. But, be aware that dating sites tend to be tailored to meet specific needs, and what may be right for your friend may not necessarily be so for you.

Alternatively, you could do your own research. Do a search for "internet dating services", or “online dating services” with your favorite search engine. And do take notes.

Among the things to look for are addresses or website links, the fees, rules and regulations, complete contact information of each and any other useful information that spikes your interest. Then compare each site. This might turn end up being tedious and time-consuming work.

An easier way around this is to read objective dating site reviews on the internet. These will give you, at least, an overview of what to expect.

When researching dating sites you will be tempted with offers for free services. Don't. Why?

You see, there is a price to pay, even for free services. For one, you will likely be bombarded with advertisements and pop-up windows. The second, reason is the very subject of this article: safety.

If a site is not charging for services, it is like that they may be selling information to other sites. Also, its membership may not be of the best quality. What type of person would not part with a small fee for the sake of establishing quality internet dating relationships?

A person who is ready to part with a small fee to find a date is already proving commitment. Better still, she/he can be tracked and therefore less likely to be twisted.

Your success in internet dating relationships should be taken seriously- while still having fun- and should never be left to chance. Neither should your personal safety.


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Christian Online Dating: Worth a Try?

In this day and age, as people get more content at letting the internet play matchmaker, Christian online dating continues to gain acceptance and popularity. But is it worth trying?

The internet is one of the safest portals for meeting other people for dating or a serious relationship. And with online dating trends gravitating towards specialty and community-based dating, we see an increase in the number of sites catering to Christian online dating.

There are advantages to this phenomenon. Some of the advantages include:

1. Wide net: You can search thousands of profiles of people sharing the same faith. There's a vast Christian network that has varied interests, hobbies, likes and dislikes. The big number gives you a better chance of finding one that you like.

2. Christian online dating provides a very comfortable environment and- though you still must exercise caution and commonsense- is considered safe. The online dating community is a place where you can create lasting relationships for acquaintance, friendship, companionship, romance, and can even lead to a permanent commitment.

3. In a Christian online dating site, the center is spirituality. People here believe they have filtered out the dates with people who may not share the same set of values. If you are joining a Christian online dating site, you'll know what you can expect.

4. You can narrow the field even farther down to an even more specific faith such as Catholic, Latter Day Saints (Mormon), Seventh Day Adventists etc.

5. You can be specific as to the level of religious commitment, to match your own. To some people going to church every Sunday may be deemed "Christian" enough; for others it could be more or less.

A Christian online dating website should include chat rooms where you can have fun discussions, both personal and biblical. In most sites, you can also post memos and notes on message boards and share pictures with photo galleries. And of course, you can send personal messages to private mail boxes.

Many dating websites also feature instant messaging and voice introductions for a more personal touch. Some of the Christian websites even offer Christian dating services aside from online matching.

Indeed, dating a stranger sharing your beliefs would be more reassuring than starting with somebody who does not share the same principles.

And as implied, the online society is Christ-centered. And by association, Christ is all pure love and kindness. If you join the group, this indicates you support Christian values and standards. Meeting the love of your life could be a possibility!

The Christian community now utilizes this current trend of communication to widen their reach and to create a fun-loving environment. Christian online dating has proved to be very effective for most people who participate with friendships and often blooms into serious relationships.



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