In this life, isn't everything about attitude towards things?
And here comes your attitude: simply say "yes" to online dating!
Obviously you cannot meet people from nowhere, you have to start from a certain spot. I guess you've already done some research in the neighborhood and there was nothing fit for you as the matter we are here talking about it, right?
Thus you have the great opportunity to find singles worth dating with all the websites offering dating services and dating tools to meet and talk to people that match the criteria you are looking for.
The enormous reasons that online dating is the most popular media for meeting single people are:
1. the easy access to a wide variety of profiles
2. its safety (many dating sites focus on this requirement, by implementing a Member Code of Ethics, Single Certification, and also a criminal background screening as compulsory)
3. you are in control with whom you want to meet and when
4. its increased accuracy in providing you the best match by offering profile set-ups, personality tests and photo uploads
5. it is cheap and fast
Whatever your aims in finding love are, Internet will always be a great affordable source for dating women and men for friendship, romance and possible marriage.
http://www.singlefiesta.com/articles/online_dating.htm
Friday, November 2, 2007
7 Great Online Dating Safety Tips
Online dating is truly a very new and fundamental change in the way that we are able to look for a partner, friendships or even sexual pleasure. Never ever in human history did we have such strong and efficient matchmaking opportunities. Online dating as we know it, is the fastest and easiest way that we can meet new people whenever and wherever we want in modern society. It is straight-forward, direct and simple. It is not bound to your city borders or local single-café or pup. Gone are the days of blind dateing somebody that you could never lay an eye on. Many of us still remember the bad experiences we have made with blind dates that collegues or family members have sent us on.
Online dating removes lots of these negative unknowns whilst allowing you to meet some phantastic people which you would never have a chance to meet or even contact with in former times, before the internet flash-conquered our planet.
Online dating has become so popular, especially during the past 10 years or so, that almost everybody of the young and middle-age generation within industrialized countries as well as numerous TV shows and news reports deals with the subject of internet dating communities.
After spending some time in front of your PC screen, communicating with a person far away that attract kind of your attention, sounds sympathic and fits into your desired dating profile checklist, you may finally - at one stage want to meet him or her face to face. But remember. Even though you have spent numerous hours or even days communicating with the person of choice, and even after exchanging photos or videos with each other it is important to make it very clear to your mind that YOU STILL DO NOT KNOW FOR SURE WHOM YOU REALLY WILL MEET IN THE END !!! You do not know his or her complete history, and even if he or she sounds pretty sympatic and reliable - you do not know if this behaviour is true or false. You do not and cannot know, if he´s the desired lover you dream of - or simply a fool - or maybe even a madman!
I do not intend to scare you away from online dating, because it really is a fantastic way to meet exactly the match of your desire. And usually, chances that you will get confronted with a madman, marriage swindler, rapist or murderer are near to zero. However it should be in your interest to protect yourself, just in case... Observing the following simple online dating safety rules will help you make your online dating dreams not to end up in a nightmare:
1. The very first rule in safe online dating is to meet in a public place. Do not let him pick you up at home. Never. Besides, you should also not unveal your home or work address before or at this point of time. If possible, try to arrange for some kind of double date or have somebody whom you can trust, a good friend or relative for example, sitting around nearby. You will not only feel more secure, you will be!
2. It is much more safe to use your own vehicle or a taxi and not to depend on the car of your dating partner. This way you will be fully independent, either way your date comes out.
3. If you are a female and you don´t want to feel to be under any obligation, consider paying half of the bill. If you are a male, it is of course a matter of good manners, that you pay for the complete bill. Even, if you have been disappointed and your dating partner is not the kind of girl or woman of your imagination. Some may think this is a little outdated, but really it still is a matter of decency and fair play and it won´t hurt.
4. Stay away from alcohol. Remember that alcohol can affect your judgment about the person in question. Until now, you know the person that you meet from your online dating sessions only. You do not have a single clue or proof what type of character he or she is in real life. Especially for the first dates you should be able to build yourself an uninfluenced opinion. You should be clear minded in order to be able to estimate what kind of person your dating partner really is. If you like and to feel more relaxed and less inhibited, you can have one or two welcome drinks with him, but that´s it. Never ever go for hard drinks. Better take a glass of wine or so. Be insistant on that!
5. Online dating is a great way to meet very interesting people. But always remember that what you see on the screen of your computer can be very different from reality. For example, if your online date has written that he is a very religious person, that does not mean that you can trust him. As in any other flirt or dating relationship it takes time, before you come next to really know each other.
6. If you really like the person that you have met, you may be very lucky. But even now do always stay alert and cautious. Some awkward or even dangerous people are perfect pretenders! You never know what can happen.
7. This brings us to the last, but as I think most important rule for secure online dating. ALWAYS LET SOMEONE ELSE KNOW WHERE YOU ARE AND WITH WHOM YOU MEET. If possible make the name and address of the person available to your best friend or another person that you can trust. Always let him or her know, where you are going to meet with the person. For the first meeting, do not go elsewhere with the other person. Always take your mobile phone with you. If at some further meeting you go elsewhere, let the person of trust know about and tell him or her exactly where you are going. It is also a good idea, that your friend will call you at pre-set times, in order that he or she asures everything is all right. So, if something bad happens, there is at least someone that knows where to look for you.
Online dating is one of the greatest social developments the internet has enabled. You can make use of it to find your ideal match with an anonymous distance at first, to filter out the ones you don´t like the easy way and finally meet with the ones on your short-list. Most of the people, weather you like them or not, will be decent and harmless. But do not forget, that there are also some idiots out there. And some of them can be dangerous. So have fun, but always remember to be cautious and responsible.
And next time your aunt tries to tie you up with somebody of her church group, tell her that you already have a boyfriend... in France!
http://www.singlefiesta.com/at-dating/9999-1_online-dating-safety-tips.htm
Online dating removes lots of these negative unknowns whilst allowing you to meet some phantastic people which you would never have a chance to meet or even contact with in former times, before the internet flash-conquered our planet.
Online dating has become so popular, especially during the past 10 years or so, that almost everybody of the young and middle-age generation within industrialized countries as well as numerous TV shows and news reports deals with the subject of internet dating communities.
After spending some time in front of your PC screen, communicating with a person far away that attract kind of your attention, sounds sympathic and fits into your desired dating profile checklist, you may finally - at one stage want to meet him or her face to face. But remember. Even though you have spent numerous hours or even days communicating with the person of choice, and even after exchanging photos or videos with each other it is important to make it very clear to your mind that YOU STILL DO NOT KNOW FOR SURE WHOM YOU REALLY WILL MEET IN THE END !!! You do not know his or her complete history, and even if he or she sounds pretty sympatic and reliable - you do not know if this behaviour is true or false. You do not and cannot know, if he´s the desired lover you dream of - or simply a fool - or maybe even a madman!
I do not intend to scare you away from online dating, because it really is a fantastic way to meet exactly the match of your desire. And usually, chances that you will get confronted with a madman, marriage swindler, rapist or murderer are near to zero. However it should be in your interest to protect yourself, just in case... Observing the following simple online dating safety rules will help you make your online dating dreams not to end up in a nightmare:
1. The very first rule in safe online dating is to meet in a public place. Do not let him pick you up at home. Never. Besides, you should also not unveal your home or work address before or at this point of time. If possible, try to arrange for some kind of double date or have somebody whom you can trust, a good friend or relative for example, sitting around nearby. You will not only feel more secure, you will be!
2. It is much more safe to use your own vehicle or a taxi and not to depend on the car of your dating partner. This way you will be fully independent, either way your date comes out.
3. If you are a female and you don´t want to feel to be under any obligation, consider paying half of the bill. If you are a male, it is of course a matter of good manners, that you pay for the complete bill. Even, if you have been disappointed and your dating partner is not the kind of girl or woman of your imagination. Some may think this is a little outdated, but really it still is a matter of decency and fair play and it won´t hurt.
4. Stay away from alcohol. Remember that alcohol can affect your judgment about the person in question. Until now, you know the person that you meet from your online dating sessions only. You do not have a single clue or proof what type of character he or she is in real life. Especially for the first dates you should be able to build yourself an uninfluenced opinion. You should be clear minded in order to be able to estimate what kind of person your dating partner really is. If you like and to feel more relaxed and less inhibited, you can have one or two welcome drinks with him, but that´s it. Never ever go for hard drinks. Better take a glass of wine or so. Be insistant on that!
5. Online dating is a great way to meet very interesting people. But always remember that what you see on the screen of your computer can be very different from reality. For example, if your online date has written that he is a very religious person, that does not mean that you can trust him. As in any other flirt or dating relationship it takes time, before you come next to really know each other.
6. If you really like the person that you have met, you may be very lucky. But even now do always stay alert and cautious. Some awkward or even dangerous people are perfect pretenders! You never know what can happen.
7. This brings us to the last, but as I think most important rule for secure online dating. ALWAYS LET SOMEONE ELSE KNOW WHERE YOU ARE AND WITH WHOM YOU MEET. If possible make the name and address of the person available to your best friend or another person that you can trust. Always let him or her know, where you are going to meet with the person. For the first meeting, do not go elsewhere with the other person. Always take your mobile phone with you. If at some further meeting you go elsewhere, let the person of trust know about and tell him or her exactly where you are going. It is also a good idea, that your friend will call you at pre-set times, in order that he or she asures everything is all right. So, if something bad happens, there is at least someone that knows where to look for you.
Online dating is one of the greatest social developments the internet has enabled. You can make use of it to find your ideal match with an anonymous distance at first, to filter out the ones you don´t like the easy way and finally meet with the ones on your short-list. Most of the people, weather you like them or not, will be decent and harmless. But do not forget, that there are also some idiots out there. And some of them can be dangerous. So have fun, but always remember to be cautious and responsible.
And next time your aunt tries to tie you up with somebody of her church group, tell her that you already have a boyfriend... in France!
http://www.singlefiesta.com/at-dating/9999-1_online-dating-safety-tips.htm
Online Dating and Internet Dating Communities - Imagination - An Easy Way to Find New Love !
Have you ever noticed that it is much easier to attract a potential partner or lover, if you already have one? Have you noticed that if you are not really looking for a relationship a lot more of people show an interest in you, but if you get desperate and show you are looking for someone, they run away!
At least this has happened to me more than once and I have talked to other people, that do confirm the same. It seems to be quite common. If you have a partner, others want to partner with you, if you are actively and obviously looking around, nobody cares, but if you don´t even think about a mate, they come to you all by themselves. But before we put this down to some bizarre quirk of human nature, lets look a little at the cause of this behavior and see if we can make it work for us.
A key thing in finding a mate is to not really need one. This sounds odd, but it seems to be the plain truth. I found out, that if you need or desire to look for a partner too much, it can drift them away. But now, you say, what do I do if I really feel desparate? What can I do if I am really looking for my match or mate?
Another tricky thing of human nature is that our nervous system finds it difficult to tell the difference in between imagined experience and a real one. Just think about watching an exciting or very scary movie to see how easy it is to fool ourselves. And now, here we go. This is the key to never feel desperate about finding a partner.
And this is the key rule of this article, and the key rule to your success:
If we want to find a partner, then the best thing is to imagine that we have one already...!!!
Imagining that we already have the perfect partner and get into the feeling on how it would be to have him or her right now calms down and pacifies our complete nervous system. It gives us a feeling of fulfillment and takes away feelings of desperation. This comes into effect particularly when you go let your imagination dive into details. What you will do together, what you will say, where you will go and so on...
This does not mean you should change your mind to become a hopeless day dreamer. It is just meant to be what it´s meant for (funny sentence, is it...?). This is, helping you to make your charisma more attractive and to provide you with a personal appearance open to help you to find your desired match in real life.
So please bear in mind that I am not talking about yearning for someone. Sitting around depressivly yearning for someone is absolutely different from imagining you already have them. Yearning is a feeling of not having. It is a negative feeling and makes us even more desparate. What we need to do is to discourage ourselves from cultivationg such feelings. We shall rather encourage ourselves to cultivate feelings from having and success. You can easily tell the difference, because such feelings are loaded with positve energies and really can make us feel much better.
Now you can say, this is just a trick of the mind. And I will tell you - so what? It is more or less a trick of the mind. But a trick that will really help you in your real search for your mate in your real life! So - what? It is somewhat scientific and logic, and this is why it works! Negative feelings of failure or resignative feelings that we will never find anyone are also all part of imagination. Such feelings will almost certainly prevent you from finding your match. Negative imaginations can go as far as to prevent you from success in life. This is using our mind and imagination against us. You all know such negative feelings. And we all know how they can harm our lifes. But they are just feelings and imagination. So, as we know such feelings and imaginations are so powerful, why not using them to our benefit, instead of our disadvantage? This is why it is true, that positive feelings and positive imagination can help us not only to find a partner for us, but in our complete life as well. They will definitely make you more successful. It is only a question to control your imagination as far as possible. And this can be very far!
If all this still sounds strange and odd to you, remember what top athlets do if they want to improve their abilities. They imagine achieving better times in a race, jumping higher, lifting heavier weights and so on. They imagine how it will feel to achieve their goals. Athlets do not have the time to mess around with tactics that don´t work. Successful business people do not either. But both use positive imagination to help them succeed and come at least mcuh closer to their targets. And this is what you can do, too. You can use this effect in any aspect of your private or business life. And you can use it in terms of dating and matchfinding.
By simply imagining that we do have the perfect partner already, and how this will feel like, we train our subconscious mind to start making that happen. And because we are more calm and relaxed about it, chances are high that we make the best out of it when the next opportunity, say a good looking man or woman, comes along. If you are actively going to try this and you are willing to spend a few minutes on it every day, e.g. when you are sitting in the train, the subway, the airport or wherever, you will move a nice step forward to your real life dating success.
http://www.singlefiesta.com/at-dating/9998-1_dating-love-imagination.htm
At least this has happened to me more than once and I have talked to other people, that do confirm the same. It seems to be quite common. If you have a partner, others want to partner with you, if you are actively and obviously looking around, nobody cares, but if you don´t even think about a mate, they come to you all by themselves. But before we put this down to some bizarre quirk of human nature, lets look a little at the cause of this behavior and see if we can make it work for us.
A key thing in finding a mate is to not really need one. This sounds odd, but it seems to be the plain truth. I found out, that if you need or desire to look for a partner too much, it can drift them away. But now, you say, what do I do if I really feel desparate? What can I do if I am really looking for my match or mate?
Another tricky thing of human nature is that our nervous system finds it difficult to tell the difference in between imagined experience and a real one. Just think about watching an exciting or very scary movie to see how easy it is to fool ourselves. And now, here we go. This is the key to never feel desperate about finding a partner.
And this is the key rule of this article, and the key rule to your success:
If we want to find a partner, then the best thing is to imagine that we have one already...!!!
Imagining that we already have the perfect partner and get into the feeling on how it would be to have him or her right now calms down and pacifies our complete nervous system. It gives us a feeling of fulfillment and takes away feelings of desperation. This comes into effect particularly when you go let your imagination dive into details. What you will do together, what you will say, where you will go and so on...
This does not mean you should change your mind to become a hopeless day dreamer. It is just meant to be what it´s meant for (funny sentence, is it...?). This is, helping you to make your charisma more attractive and to provide you with a personal appearance open to help you to find your desired match in real life.
So please bear in mind that I am not talking about yearning for someone. Sitting around depressivly yearning for someone is absolutely different from imagining you already have them. Yearning is a feeling of not having. It is a negative feeling and makes us even more desparate. What we need to do is to discourage ourselves from cultivationg such feelings. We shall rather encourage ourselves to cultivate feelings from having and success. You can easily tell the difference, because such feelings are loaded with positve energies and really can make us feel much better.
Now you can say, this is just a trick of the mind. And I will tell you - so what? It is more or less a trick of the mind. But a trick that will really help you in your real search for your mate in your real life! So - what? It is somewhat scientific and logic, and this is why it works! Negative feelings of failure or resignative feelings that we will never find anyone are also all part of imagination. Such feelings will almost certainly prevent you from finding your match. Negative imaginations can go as far as to prevent you from success in life. This is using our mind and imagination against us. You all know such negative feelings. And we all know how they can harm our lifes. But they are just feelings and imagination. So, as we know such feelings and imaginations are so powerful, why not using them to our benefit, instead of our disadvantage? This is why it is true, that positive feelings and positive imagination can help us not only to find a partner for us, but in our complete life as well. They will definitely make you more successful. It is only a question to control your imagination as far as possible. And this can be very far!
If all this still sounds strange and odd to you, remember what top athlets do if they want to improve their abilities. They imagine achieving better times in a race, jumping higher, lifting heavier weights and so on. They imagine how it will feel to achieve their goals. Athlets do not have the time to mess around with tactics that don´t work. Successful business people do not either. But both use positive imagination to help them succeed and come at least mcuh closer to their targets. And this is what you can do, too. You can use this effect in any aspect of your private or business life. And you can use it in terms of dating and matchfinding.
By simply imagining that we do have the perfect partner already, and how this will feel like, we train our subconscious mind to start making that happen. And because we are more calm and relaxed about it, chances are high that we make the best out of it when the next opportunity, say a good looking man or woman, comes along. If you are actively going to try this and you are willing to spend a few minutes on it every day, e.g. when you are sitting in the train, the subway, the airport or wherever, you will move a nice step forward to your real life dating success.
http://www.singlefiesta.com/at-dating/9998-1_dating-love-imagination.htm
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