Friday, November 16, 2007

Can she love you more then she loved him?

Maybe you just have met a great women, she is single, beautiful, and sexy and is deeply in love with you. She's perfect for you but... you are not her first love.

Can she love you more then she loved her first man? Was that guy better than you in bed? Does she think of him when is making love with you? These are the question which crosses your mind over and over again.

Many people think that the first love is most powerful in all life time. All of as have heard the words "you can never forget your first love". Is this true?

I have talked with four women, friends of mine about this subject. All of them are married with a different man than the one they have loved for the first time. I had a great surprise; all of them have told me almost the same things:

First love is mostly passion - second love is much deeper.

When a woman loves for the first time she thinks that that man is the only one on the earth and she has no choice, without him she is lost. When she loves for second time, she knows that there are a lot of other available men but she is CHOOSING to be with the one she loves, because he is the best for her.

First time a woman can love a guy for no reason, just because he was the first no matter how he is treating her. When she loves for the second time she is able to see his qualities and his personality, and love him for who he is.

Second time she loves with all her heart because she knows that he deserves her love. First love can be full of fear and insecurity. Fear can be a fuel for passion but is not a nice filling.

These are good news for guys in your situation, but I didn't answer yet to biggest question: Does she think at him when she is with you in bad?

This answer on this question is the opposite of the one of the next question: "Does she really love you?"

If she loves you she is enjoying every moment that you are together, every touch, every kiss. All that she is thinking is YOU!

It is true, you never forget your first love but over a time it become just like a story of someone else, hided in a corner of your mind.

So if you are the one she has chosen, be THE LOVE OF HER LIFE and forget about her first love. :)

You are the man of her life so enjoy it.

The Biggest Advantage of Online Dating

All of us are looking to find someone to share the good and bed moments in our lives. But what we have to keep in mind is that our good or bed moments depends on our partners and how much we match with that person.

It is easy to talk yourself into staying with a person, because they are basically a good, decent human being. That is a start, but not always enough to hold a partnership together.

You need to realize, though, that your spouse is not going to be like you in every way. No one will ever be, thank God. But don't marry someone with whom you have a difference on one of yours or their non-compromisable issues.

Everyone has certain things that are important to them.

And ONLINE DATING can help you find the one whose priorities in life are the same with yours, the one whose differences are things that are magnetize you together, not driving you apart, your PERFECT MATCH.

By reading people's profiles closely, you can quickly weed out people whose interests, age, values, religion or whatever else doesn�t appeal to you. Ditto when posting your own profile: describing yourself honestly and being clear about your values and interests makes it more likely that someone compatible will write to you.

There's no question that everyone on the online dating sites is looking to meet someone and there are thousands of singles on this stage of online dating. You have a lot of possibilities to choose, to choose the one which is right for you.

Here you can meet people you wouldn't otherwise meet because your social and/or business circles don't intersect, or because you don't frequent the same places.

Why to waste every day of your life compromising or trying to change a person?

Online dating is one of those things that make me happy that I live in these days, not with years ago when people hadn�t any choices but compromising.

Enjoy of the online dating facilities and find that special person that is the best for you. :)

The Internet Dating Rollercoaster: 7 Ways to Even Out The Ride


You have made the big decision. You have signed up with one of the internet dating sites and are not alone. 80% of people over 38 who are actively seeking relationships are using the internet to meet potential partners. But no one really tells us how to deal with it. It is a new phenomenon in our lives and certainly very different to being introduced by a friend or meeting through shared interests.

You have spent hours pouring over your profile and have even had a couple of friends look at it for you. You have tried to hone every facet of your personality into a few paragraphs, attempted some humour and tried to be open (but not too revealing!) you have tinkered for long enough and have posted yourself along with those thousands of others. Perhaps you have also been brave enough to find a photograph – they say it makes a big difference to the numbers of replies that you receive.

1. Congratulations - this is a bold step. Now stay in charge of the process


However hard you try to be realistic everyone, on registering, will have some level of excitement at the anticipation of meeting someone on-line. We have heard all the stories, perhaps you have a friend or colleague who has met someone special this way and you want it to happen for you, too. You initially scan through the pages of potential people and begin to build up fantasies about who these people might be, and whether they might be interested in you. All this creates quite a head of steam and your rollercoaster ride has begun. Initially you find yourself logging on often to see if you there are any messages.

2. Put some boundaries around the time that you spend on the internet. It can easily become a compulsion.


So are you going to wait to see if people respond to your profile or wait until someone sends a message to you? The halfway house is tagging someone as a “favourite” (or whatever that particular site’s version of this is). Inevitably, and this is particularly difficult for women, you decide to send a message. For some reason there is still, even in this internet age, a notion that the men should make the first approach and women worry about being seen as too pushy/forward if they send the first message. Here is a good moment to pause. Think about it, you have signed up; the purpose is to meet someone. That is the aim of the site so why would you play the role of reluctant flower and wait for someone to choose you?

3. Always be THE CHOOSER, there is a difference between being pro-active on your own behalf and being pushy. Learn the difference and respond to the people who welcome this.


Now you may expect it to happen all at once, in fact some people find that when you are new to a site there will be a flurry of activity. Watch this, there are many who scan for new people and will ‘flirt’ with anyone even without reading your profile. Take it slowly in the beginning, yes it is beginning to feel like the rollercoaster is going up at a fast rate. A ‘real person’ has responded to you, so it must mean something. No -unfortunately it doesn’t mean anything at this stage. Here is where you really need to keep the emotional brakes on. It is so easy to build up the fantasies into really big bells and whistles visions of your future together.

On the other hand there might be a giant silence from the other end of the net; can you feel the rollercoaster taking a dive? Above all remember to live a life whilst you are waiting. Don’t stay in all evening next to the computer in the hope that a reply will come through. Isn’t it inevitable that the person you may have sent a message to has a life too and they have not seen your message yet or had the time to consider a response? Just because you have sent a message doesn’t mean that you will get a response. Sad but true, you will soon learn that many people on these sites never respond and are just there to browse. Also not everyone who has a profile is a paid up subscriber to the service.

4. Stay realistic, get on with your life and have the internet site be just one of the things that you are doing to meet possible dates.


Yes it happens more often than we all would like, especially to women. That completely inappropriate response to your initial message, either it is over the top sexual innuendos or the other person is in love with you already and wants to meet you immediately. Time for those rollercoaster brakes again. Obviously the sexual innuendo may appear flattering but is this the first expression of interest you would like? Similarly someone who wants to immediately meet is probably erring on the ’too eager‘ side and your antennae should be up.

5. Don’t fall into the trap that any reply is better than no reply at all. If it does not feel appropriate to you for whatever reason do not pursue.


But much of the time you will probably receive rather lacklustre responses. This can be a disappointment in itself. After all, you have tried to send them an interesting, maybe witty reply with some questions and are hoping to find out more about them. What you get back neither responds to your questions nor asks anything about you. So why would you be interested in someone who is clearly not interested in you?

6. Don’t hope that this person will change. If they are not interested in you right now, when will they be? Ditch the boring ones immediately. Don’t settle for less than you really want.


How are you feeling now? I imagine a bit battered. You have been up and down that rollercoaster a number of times, you don’t know how long the ride is and you want to get off. So do give yourself a break. You don’t have to keep going endlessly. In fact when you start out decide how long you are going to subscribe for. In the beginning 3 months might be long enough and then have a break.

More importantly remember that your success with internet dating is not about who you are but about how you approach the whole experience. You can feel vulnerable, after all you have put yourself out there in front of goodness knows how many people. If you have not been successful it is not about you as a person but about the randomness of the whole internet dating process. Because of that it is essential that you hold the process as lightly as you can. By this I mean not allowing the rollercoaster to govern how you feel about yourself.

7. Remember these people don’t know you but just a 10 second impression of who they think you are. Stay bold and authentic to yourself.


If you want to have a less bumpy ride stay in control of the process. Decide what your boundaries are around the time that you spend online. Focus on the kinds of people that interest you - not just the photographs. Write yourself a list of 5 deal makers and 5 deal breakers for you with internet dating. Ultimately be the one that chooses and remember to take breaks. Remember you are the person your friends know.

3 Tricks When Talking on the Phone with a Woman You Have Met Online

The first telephone call is the most important one. Sure you have her number, but nothing has been won yet.

1. Before you call you should have prepared a list of several topics to talk about. Hopefully your email exchange has provided you with some information to follow up on. Study her profile to think of other topics to talk about. Prepare open ended questions. Start talking about a subject, and give her a chance to speak as well.

2. DON'T: ask her questions about other guys she's seeing, suspiciously interrogate her about how she spends her time, and angrily reprimand her for flaking on you. How she spends her time is her business.

A lot of men sabotage their chances with a woman by don't giving her enough credit and respect.

You know there's trouble if you're doing all the talking and her replies are short or non-existent. If so it either means you haven't hit on the right topic to talk about, or, more likely, she simply isn't interested. Also, if she ends the conversation early or "has to go", leave it up to her to call you again, if she wants to. Usually, she won't.

So, when talking to a woman on the phone DON'T worry about impressing her. Have fun. Enjoy the conversation. Amuse yourself.

3. At first phone conversation is better to stay away of complimenting her. I think giving women compliments can be very powerful. But when you give a woman compliments within the context of trying to win her over, you become a wuss.

Usually women are curious why the men they are talking to online decided to pick them instead of other thousandths of profiles. Most of them will ask you about these "reasons" and by doing this are giving you the opportunity to make her compliments. So, wait the moment. :)

If the conversation flow easily, effortlessly, if you find her fairly responsive and you can keep up the conversation for at least a half hour you can ask her out. Her answer seam to be: "YES".

Is Speed Dating Hazardous to Your Health?

Have you found your better half yet? If you have not, I wish you luck! Regarding the people I meet every day and the number of the current world population, luck isn't the only thing that can help you. Have you considered speed dating?

If you believe that you have a better half somewhere then you probably believe in destiny. If everyone were destined to meet his or her better half, then you have nothing to worry about? Does it matter where you would start from? After all, are you destined to meet this special someone or not?

Moreover, it will be better if you speed the process a bit. What do you think about speed dating? What is speed dating exactly? Just go out, go wherever you want and point the desired person. The important thing in speed dating is its speed. Do it quickly! Why should you wait? Are you wondering where you can find about the different speed dating options? It is no problem at all. Just check on the World-Wide-Web.

Do you know anything about speed dating? Every time I hear the words “speed dating” I recall of the horror movie “Valentine.” The story was about two beautiful girls who decide to try speed dating.

Don’t you just need to go out of your room? May be it is time to communicate with real persons. Nobody will eat you or even hurt you, I promise. Just try it. Now it is easier than ever. You can find all the needed information on the World-Wide-Web.

When I first heard about the web site, which was used for speed dating, I was burst into laughter. What was this thing? Was this cyberspace convenient speed dating? Oh, come on, are you kidding? However, once I saw him checking the web site and I get rather intrigued. I saw him chatting with women who were thousands of miles away.

This distant friendship made me feel in a strange way. I was surprised how much access we have from our homes. You can contact with people from every place on the world, you just need a personal computer and high speed Internet.

I was amazed how interested he was in speed dating. He even met some girls through speed dating. Speed dating makes it so easy to find your soul mate. Speed dating is not influenced by shyness or prejudices. You can meet also people who are near you. Just choose only to speed date in your current region.

Have you tried speed dating already? If your answer is no, I suggest you to try it right now. It is no more fashionable to date in the bars. May be you do not prefer to spend your precious weekends wandering through the smoky bars, seeking for your mate. Everyone gets bored of the club scenes. After all, you live in the age of the online speed dating!

Thursday, November 15, 2007

4 Key Steps Of Approaching Women With Confidence And Swagger

Women like men who exhibit confidence and self-assuredness. That should really go without saying. However, many guys run head-first into a problem when they try to convey those attributes in the presence of a hot woman. So, with that said, how can you learn the elusive art of approaching women without stumbling over words or, worse, looking like one of the previous thirty-eight losers she shot down prior to your arrival? Well, it's pretty simple... we'll call our plan the Four D's of Approach: Develop, Display, Discern, and Direct.

#1) Develop...You can't show a female something you don't have. Your first order of business is to build your confidence and self esteem. There are plenty of self-help books and free content on the Web that can help you with that, so there's no need in regurgitating that information here.
#2) Display... What good is getting something if you don't show it off? People don't collect expensive art to keep it in their cellar. Now that you have your swagger, let people know about it. But keep in mind, there is a very fine line between exuding confidence naturally and looking like an overcompensating prick. The best way to avoid the latter is to constantly remind yourself of how great you are while at the same time acknowledging your many shortcomings (we all have them). Think of it as being humbly cocky.

#3) Discern... When you're in a bar, or wherever, and you spot a hot chick, don't just run up on her without evaluating the situation first. Is she with her boyfriend? Her homegirls? What does the situation look like? Take some time to analyze things first (but do not use this as an attempt to cop out). For instance, don't approach women when they're being bombarded by men left and right. As far as she is concerned, you're no better than the other losers who just tried to talk with her. Separate yourself from the pack by making some kind of brief communication (a smile or quick glance will do). She'll notice this and your chances of having a favorable conversation with her will increase exponentially.

#4) Direct... This is where you get to show off most of your confidence and self esteem. After approaching a woman, direct the conversation. You're supposed to be in control and more than likely, the female will appreciate your assertiveness - not pushiness. Do not try to be the jerk you think women are attracted to. Instead, be comfortable in your own skin... Know what you want and don't be afraid to say it. (warning: that does mean saying you want her body right now).

Remember, the art of approaching women is just that... an art! You can't paint a masterpiece if you don't learn how to draw first. As with anything else that has substantial rewards, you will have to work at this - some more than others. But regardless of the time it takes, the outcome can be achieved by practically any and everyone. If you've ever wondered how that scruffy looking dude who works at Kinko's managed to snag the hot girl next door, now you know... It's all in the approach.

Adult Webcam Personals: Dating And Fun Live On Video

It used to be that dating on the internet was a dry, impersonal affair. Then along comes the webcam and the online dating scene will never be the same again.

Adult webcam personals are hot right now. After all, living your wildest dreams live before your computer screen is the next best thing to the real thing.

This is the reason for the growing popularity of adult video dating: live interaction. Live adult webcam personals allow you to see other adult singles (or non-singles if that's what you like) live, be they next door or in another continent.

Another reason, it appears, for the popularity of adult live video personals can be traced to the origins of webcam chatting. The first industry to utilize this technology was the adult industry. Others are just beginning to catch up.

Indeed, there are many advantages of adult webcam dating over “old school” adult internet dating, which include:

1. Learning curve is much shorter, as most of the details involving internet dating are eliminated. In most cases, writing personal ads – something most internet daters hate – is not even required.

2. You can be sure that the person(s) you're dealing are whom they say they are. This includes age and looks, two of the things that people dating on the internet lie about most. Since the images are transmitted in real-time, they cannot be faked. Compare this to traditional chatting, where teenagers have been known to pull all type of pranks.

3. Scam artists who use stolen photos and fake profiles cannot pull a fast one on you, as the images are transmitted live.

4. You get a more accurate feel about the person you are chatting with. Where audio is used (as opposed to text messaging), you even get a good idea about how they act and talk: almost like a face-to-face meeting.

5. Webcam personals help create the feeling of being closer to the other person(s), even if other(s) are miles away.

6. You can live and explore your fantasies without limit, right from the privacy of your own home, and away from prying eyes.

How do you get started with adult webcam personals?

Well, Getting started is easy. You don't even need a web camera (webcam) if you don't have one, though it helps for increased interactivity. In fact, if you all you want is to watch the guys or gals doing the things that turn you on, you don't need a webcam at all.

But perhaps the most important thing is choice of personals site. Why?

The adult webcam personals site is what brings people together. It is what you make it possible for you to meet others of similar interests. If you're interest is fulfilling certain visual fantasies, an adult webcam service is what brings this to you.

But though it's tempting to sign up with a free site, you could end up paying in other ways, including compromised privacy.

Some disreputable webcam sites have been known to sneak Trojan horse software into your computer. This software can start your webcam without your knowledge, possibly capturing images of you in compromising situation(s) and broadcasting it worldwide.

It is therefore important that you sign up with a reputable adult webcam personals service. Most reputable sites do offer free basic memberships or a free trial.