For the senior single, negotiating through the minefields of the dating scene can be scary. This need not be, as dating for seniors can be as much fun as any other age group. Plus mature dating brings forth a richness borne of maturity that's largely lacking in the younger generation.
One big challenge faced by the older single is that of lack of avenues geared towards dating for seniors. Night clubs and singles bars are particularly designed with this age-group in mind.
Actually, lack of places to meet other seniors may not be problem. There are plenty of places for this. The problem is getting to meet compatible senior singles who are actively looking for a date.
The internet offers perhaps the best chance for the senior single to meet like-minded mature singles for the purpose of dating. There are services that are dedicated to dating for seniors, where younger people are not allowed. Depending on the service, you must be at least 40 or 50 years old to join. These services are very active and vibrant.
Providing a place for seniors to gather and communicate, they offer superb matching services and a dozen ways to connect. Group or individual chat forums, email relay and other now-standard tools make safe, anonymous communication easy. Until the point you choose not to have it remain anonymous!
The number of people who might be referred to as, "mature", "prime", "middle aged", "third agers", or senior citizens and who are dating online is booming. Career demands, early retirement, rising divorce rates, and longer life expectancy mean that more people than ever before are single in their later years.
This has created a growing pool of older singles on online: you can be a total beginner to online dating and go from no date to lots of dates in a very short time.
And, online dating is cheaper and brings quicker results than traditional ways of meeting people.
However there are pitfalls to look out for. Safety is on top of concerns for senior singles dating online. Scam artists, both foreign and domestic, have been known to prey on this age-group. The presumption, right or wrong, is that this age-group is desperate and vulnerable. Don't lose your heart as well as your money.
One way of protecting yourself from being scammed is by signing up with a reputable senior singles dating service.
You also need to be careful how you interact with others online. Avoid revealing personal information such as your real name, work place or home address until you're pretty sure that your date is for real. Even then take it slow - don't tell too much too soon.
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Tuesday, July 10, 2007
The third/final choice of online dating sites for singles. [Dating]
Why People Try Online
Online dating is different than trying to meet someone at the bar, bookstore or library. Plus, you're exposing yourself to a larger pool of potential dates.
When you cut out all those people you wouldn't date, online dating gives you access to thousands of people you wouldn't have met otherwise. Online dating works for everyone," said Evan Mark Katz, author of "I Can't Believe I'm Buying This Book.
Whatever you want, it's out there. If you're looking for a relationship or something short-term, it's out there.
Free or Paid Dating Site
There are numerous free & paid dating sites online. which one is better?
The answer is not exclusive. Free sites are attractive to most people since no credit card information is required. The shortage is that almost everyone can access it. Many scammers & players can try it because they don't need to pay, and they will not be deleted if the website do not provide customer service. Since the service is free, you will get no support from the website.
Paid sites are much better since they have customer service department to monitor the profile quality, to communicate with users, to deal with all kinds of unexpected things happened on their sites. Serious people prefer paid dating sites because they want to find someone with the same idea and they can get necessary support from the website. The only shortage is that you need to pay for a monthly membership.
The Third Choice
Can we find a website which combines the advantages of free dating sites and paid dating sites?
The answer is YES if you are on millionairecupid.com. Millionairecupid is one of the first and most popular dating sites for wealthy singles and pretty singles. The site is mainly for successful people and wealthy singles, but everyone(including you) is welcome to be a member there.
millionairecupid.com doesn't provide a free service until recently. With the free membership service, you do not need to pay a monthly membership which is $29.95 as before. You just need to invite several people to register at this site, you will get a full membership automatically. After this, you will be treated as a full member who has paid a monthly membership.
Seems this is the first attempt for online dating sites to open a completely free membership. Don't hesitate to try this site if you are planning to join in a paid dating site.
http://www.articlealley.com/article_183321_39.html
Online dating is different than trying to meet someone at the bar, bookstore or library. Plus, you're exposing yourself to a larger pool of potential dates.
When you cut out all those people you wouldn't date, online dating gives you access to thousands of people you wouldn't have met otherwise. Online dating works for everyone," said Evan Mark Katz, author of "I Can't Believe I'm Buying This Book.
Whatever you want, it's out there. If you're looking for a relationship or something short-term, it's out there.
Free or Paid Dating Site
There are numerous free & paid dating sites online. which one is better?
The answer is not exclusive. Free sites are attractive to most people since no credit card information is required. The shortage is that almost everyone can access it. Many scammers & players can try it because they don't need to pay, and they will not be deleted if the website do not provide customer service. Since the service is free, you will get no support from the website.
Paid sites are much better since they have customer service department to monitor the profile quality, to communicate with users, to deal with all kinds of unexpected things happened on their sites. Serious people prefer paid dating sites because they want to find someone with the same idea and they can get necessary support from the website. The only shortage is that you need to pay for a monthly membership.
The Third Choice
Can we find a website which combines the advantages of free dating sites and paid dating sites?
The answer is YES if you are on millionairecupid.com. Millionairecupid is one of the first and most popular dating sites for wealthy singles and pretty singles. The site is mainly for successful people and wealthy singles, but everyone(including you) is welcome to be a member there.
millionairecupid.com doesn't provide a free service until recently. With the free membership service, you do not need to pay a monthly membership which is $29.95 as before. You just need to invite several people to register at this site, you will get a full membership automatically. After this, you will be treated as a full member who has paid a monthly membership.
Seems this is the first attempt for online dating sites to open a completely free membership. Don't hesitate to try this site if you are planning to join in a paid dating site.
http://www.articlealley.com/article_183321_39.html
Dating In the Shadow of the Ex-Spouse or Ex-Partner
Ever begin dating someone new who’s just ended a long-term relationship? Then you know that the person is probably wounded in the self-esteem department and very well could be pining for “what was” because that was what they knew and could feel secure with. The relationship might have been a type of shitty relationship, but they understood and and knew the boundaries.
There are times you’ll swear you’re on a date with both of them and you’re competing with the ex-spouse and all the history that they shared. That person knows your date better than you do and they’ve created and shared many good memories and it’s going to be tough to let go of all of that and be ready to create new memories with you.
If you’ve had date number three and your date is always talking about the ex when there is clearly no reason to, they’re probably not over that relationship and certainly not ready to make a commitment to a new relationship with you. The best way to handle this is to be prepared to end things between you and explain how you feel. Tell the date that you really enjoy their company and like being with them but you don’t think they’re over the ex and that’s not fair to either of you. They’ll say that it’s not true but you know in your heart that they’re still thinking about that other person and there will be no room for you. Say that you’re going to date others but you’d like to keep in touch. This does not mean meeting weekly for a hot sexual encounter! Don’t fall for that in any way. You’ll be used, abused and eventually discarded and you’re worth so much more than that. There are lots of other people who want to treat you in the way you want to be treated.
At some point, even if the date goes back to the ex, they’ll be back. There is a reason that other person is an ex and those reasons won’t go away. If you’re available and sincerely like this person, give it a try but initially be ready to step back for the final time if the ex is still alive in most everything they say or do. You’ve given this person the time and space to explore all those feelings and to come back to you as a new person. It’s the best gift you could give because they will be able to move on with full closure.
Maureen is the author of the book how to win the dating game, “Do you know how to get lucky online?” She does. She didn't always know. It took her several years of watching how other people got lucky and now you can learn it for yourself.
You can also vist also her blog Feeling Flirty?Get a Date!, autumnal confessions and Sexy Advice by Maureen. You can also visit the site http://www.howtowinthedatinggame.com for her book. And http://www.feelingflirty.com for her blog
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There are times you’ll swear you’re on a date with both of them and you’re competing with the ex-spouse and all the history that they shared. That person knows your date better than you do and they’ve created and shared many good memories and it’s going to be tough to let go of all of that and be ready to create new memories with you.
If you’ve had date number three and your date is always talking about the ex when there is clearly no reason to, they’re probably not over that relationship and certainly not ready to make a commitment to a new relationship with you. The best way to handle this is to be prepared to end things between you and explain how you feel. Tell the date that you really enjoy their company and like being with them but you don’t think they’re over the ex and that’s not fair to either of you. They’ll say that it’s not true but you know in your heart that they’re still thinking about that other person and there will be no room for you. Say that you’re going to date others but you’d like to keep in touch. This does not mean meeting weekly for a hot sexual encounter! Don’t fall for that in any way. You’ll be used, abused and eventually discarded and you’re worth so much more than that. There are lots of other people who want to treat you in the way you want to be treated.
At some point, even if the date goes back to the ex, they’ll be back. There is a reason that other person is an ex and those reasons won’t go away. If you’re available and sincerely like this person, give it a try but initially be ready to step back for the final time if the ex is still alive in most everything they say or do. You’ve given this person the time and space to explore all those feelings and to come back to you as a new person. It’s the best gift you could give because they will be able to move on with full closure.
Maureen is the author of the book how to win the dating game, “Do you know how to get lucky online?” She does. She didn't always know. It took her several years of watching how other people got lucky and now you can learn it for yourself.
You can also vist also her blog Feeling Flirty?Get a Date!, autumnal confessions and Sexy Advice by Maureen. You can also visit the site http://www.howtowinthedatinggame.com for her book. And http://www.feelingflirty.com for her blog
http://www.articlealley.com/article_183529_39.html
Why So Many Relationships?
Hi Dennis,
I read your books, and like their practicality. I have one question of theoretical nature: why is it that woman usually do have had more previous relationships than men, although they are 'supposed' to be the more monogamous gender? Are they just trying a lot more short-term relationships? As you said, men usually focus on one at a time. This seems counter-intuitive to me as I understand woman.
Along the line, you mentioned their 'monkey-like' 'tree-hopping'; quickly moving on to the next relationship; again counter-intuitive to me what else I know about women. Could you please explain?
Hello!
Thanks for the comments on the book and for your support! We're constantly getting great reviews and if you'll excuse my arrogance, I've never seen a more complete, practical guide about dating, sex and relationships anywhere else!
I know exactly what you're asking here - and you're right on the damn money! This DOES seem counter-intuitive! In fact, there are a number of reasons why it's true:
1) Women have more opportunities than men.
More men approach women than the other way around. Thus, women have more access to relationships than men do. All a woman has to do is say "yes" - she doesn't have to approach anyone or risk getting rejected.
2) They comfortably overlap relationships.
As you pointed out from the book, women will rarely leave one relationship without having another firmly in place. Thus, as a relationship starts to wither, they will actually seek out another - even if it's not exactly what they want. They might not call this a "relationship", (even though it is) and they honestly think they're just being "strategic".
3) Women define themselves by their relationships unlike us guys that define ourselves by our careers.
Women are under much more self-inflicted pressure to be in relationships. When they're not, they believe they're "losers" and something is wrong with them. Thus, they'll easily move between multiple relationships in trying to find one they want to be in. This causes problems of course in that many women lie about dating multiple men, but as you also know, women are far better liars than men are for this very reason - they have to be!
4) Women will define even minor dating experiences as "relationships" whereas guys don't do this.
When women start dating a guy, they instantly think of themselves as already "with" him. They imagine how their names will look with his last name on a wedding invitation, or how it would be to be addressed as "Mrs. Whatever", etc. Thus, this very act solidifies the relationship in their minds.
This also leads to some nasty breakups where women build the fantasy only later to find out it wasn't true - and they blame the guy for it! Women don't even know they're doing this to themselves!
5) Women also define their male friendships as "relationships".
Many women have guys hanging around them and actually collect these "friends". They intuitively know that these guys only hang around them because they want something more, but since the women control how far things go, they're not motivated to prevent it in the first place. They see this as "gaining experience" or "studying men" and actually believe that these horny guys represent a cross section of most men.
You and I know they don't, but this is exactly where the idea that "men are dogs" comes from - these guys that are always ready to hump their legs!
By the way, as I mention in the book, women won't admit to the real number of relationships they've had! Thus, when a woman tells you that she's had "2" or "3" or whatever, multiply that by at least 2 - and you're still probably short!
Best regards...
Have a love, dating, relationship, sex or man/woman question? You can write to me by going to: http://beingaman.com/ask_question.asp for answers. For more information about my books, "Being a Man in a Woman's Worldtm" (volumes I and II), and other products visit: www.beingaman.com. Check out the discussion group at: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/beingaman.
http://www.articlealley.com/article_184004_39.html
I read your books, and like their practicality. I have one question of theoretical nature: why is it that woman usually do have had more previous relationships than men, although they are 'supposed' to be the more monogamous gender? Are they just trying a lot more short-term relationships? As you said, men usually focus on one at a time. This seems counter-intuitive to me as I understand woman.
Along the line, you mentioned their 'monkey-like' 'tree-hopping'; quickly moving on to the next relationship; again counter-intuitive to me what else I know about women. Could you please explain?
Hello!
Thanks for the comments on the book and for your support! We're constantly getting great reviews and if you'll excuse my arrogance, I've never seen a more complete, practical guide about dating, sex and relationships anywhere else!
I know exactly what you're asking here - and you're right on the damn money! This DOES seem counter-intuitive! In fact, there are a number of reasons why it's true:
1) Women have more opportunities than men.
More men approach women than the other way around. Thus, women have more access to relationships than men do. All a woman has to do is say "yes" - she doesn't have to approach anyone or risk getting rejected.
2) They comfortably overlap relationships.
As you pointed out from the book, women will rarely leave one relationship without having another firmly in place. Thus, as a relationship starts to wither, they will actually seek out another - even if it's not exactly what they want. They might not call this a "relationship", (even though it is) and they honestly think they're just being "strategic".
3) Women define themselves by their relationships unlike us guys that define ourselves by our careers.
Women are under much more self-inflicted pressure to be in relationships. When they're not, they believe they're "losers" and something is wrong with them. Thus, they'll easily move between multiple relationships in trying to find one they want to be in. This causes problems of course in that many women lie about dating multiple men, but as you also know, women are far better liars than men are for this very reason - they have to be!
4) Women will define even minor dating experiences as "relationships" whereas guys don't do this.
When women start dating a guy, they instantly think of themselves as already "with" him. They imagine how their names will look with his last name on a wedding invitation, or how it would be to be addressed as "Mrs. Whatever", etc. Thus, this very act solidifies the relationship in their minds.
This also leads to some nasty breakups where women build the fantasy only later to find out it wasn't true - and they blame the guy for it! Women don't even know they're doing this to themselves!
5) Women also define their male friendships as "relationships".
Many women have guys hanging around them and actually collect these "friends". They intuitively know that these guys only hang around them because they want something more, but since the women control how far things go, they're not motivated to prevent it in the first place. They see this as "gaining experience" or "studying men" and actually believe that these horny guys represent a cross section of most men.
You and I know they don't, but this is exactly where the idea that "men are dogs" comes from - these guys that are always ready to hump their legs!
By the way, as I mention in the book, women won't admit to the real number of relationships they've had! Thus, when a woman tells you that she's had "2" or "3" or whatever, multiply that by at least 2 - and you're still probably short!
Best regards...
Have a love, dating, relationship, sex or man/woman question? You can write to me by going to: http://beingaman.com/ask_question.asp for answers. For more information about my books, "Being a Man in a Woman's Worldtm" (volumes I and II), and other products visit: www.beingaman.com. Check out the discussion group at: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/beingaman.
http://www.articlealley.com/article_184004_39.html
Online Dating: Use Your Common Sense
If you’ve been around the internet dating scene for more than the last couple of years, you’ve witnessed the industry grow from a kind of sleazy, underground entity into a multi-billion dollar a year behemoth of wonderfully engaging and classy websites.
Of course, some areas of the dating services on the web continue a sleaze factor, but after all, the internet does imitate the actual world, doesn’t it?
The one quality everyone needs to possess in this wild, roller-coaster world of ours and in the world of the internet remains constant: common sense! And, in the world of internet dating, this common sense approach is mandatory.
A number of common sense approaches to internet dating are simple and easy to remember and easy to put into practice.
1. Don’t identify yourself in an online dating environment. Get yourself one of the many free email accounts offered on the web. Do not release your real name, your address or telephone number in any way. If you feel a contact you make can be trusted…wait! Time is on your side. The urge to be impatient and hook-up with someone quickly is inevitable, but wait.
2. When you’re composing a personal ad or when you’re in a chat room or instant message, be honest about yourself and make your intentions easy to understand. Want to just flirt? Make it known that you are just flirting! Don’t give anyone a reason to think you’re someone you’re not.
3. “Listen” and “watch” what is going on with the person you are communicating with. Again…common sense is the rule. If something seems to be amiss with the other person, if a feeling of uneasiness with the direction of the conversation, gracefully bow out. Your intuition is almost never wrong! Never let your emotions pour out of you…even if you think you may have found the “right” match…wait until you meet in person. Then, you’ll really find out what’s up with them!
4. If the other person seems to be pushing the idea of talking on the phone, wait until it feels right for you. You are in control over everything that transpires, remember that. When you do start a telephone “meeting”, ask for their number if it makes you feel more secure. Then you can call when you want to, not at the whim of the other contact. Again, listen to everything in that call…the contact’s voice: sincere or somewhat demanding? The sounds in the background: kids yelling, baby crying, any instance that doesn’t seem right to you…the person may not have been truthful in what they have told you about themselves. Common sense!
5. When and if you decide to meet face to face, tell your family (yikes!) or a friend or trusted co-worker about the plans. Tell them exactly what your time-frame regarding the date will be and where you are going. If plans change, like going from a meeting in a coffee shop to a walk in a park, let someone know! It would be a good idea beforehand to let the person you are going to meet that you only want an “open” date…..with people around. If they act rebuffed or a little miffed at that, they aren’t interested in you feeling secure. Don’t agree to go any further!
And…maybe the most important aspect of this first, maybe second or even third meeting with this person…have your own transportation! Do not depend on them to pick you up. Observing the obvious…it also gives you a way out of you are least bit uncomfortable. If you are…leave! No car of your own? Call friends immediately or grab a cab…you are in control!
Internet dating can be a lot of fun, but as with anything in life, it only takes one bad apple to spoil everything. Be cautious, use every ounce of your intuition and common sense and enjoy yourself! All three can work together…you have all the control!
Ted Denton has been watching the evolution of online dating services, offering tips and advice about online dating and recommending some of the top internet dating sites for a number of websites. Find my tips and techniques for safe dating site-surfing and reviews of great services here: Internet Dating Reviews
http://www.articlealley.com/article_184121_39.html
Of course, some areas of the dating services on the web continue a sleaze factor, but after all, the internet does imitate the actual world, doesn’t it?
The one quality everyone needs to possess in this wild, roller-coaster world of ours and in the world of the internet remains constant: common sense! And, in the world of internet dating, this common sense approach is mandatory.
A number of common sense approaches to internet dating are simple and easy to remember and easy to put into practice.
1. Don’t identify yourself in an online dating environment. Get yourself one of the many free email accounts offered on the web. Do not release your real name, your address or telephone number in any way. If you feel a contact you make can be trusted…wait! Time is on your side. The urge to be impatient and hook-up with someone quickly is inevitable, but wait.
2. When you’re composing a personal ad or when you’re in a chat room or instant message, be honest about yourself and make your intentions easy to understand. Want to just flirt? Make it known that you are just flirting! Don’t give anyone a reason to think you’re someone you’re not.
3. “Listen” and “watch” what is going on with the person you are communicating with. Again…common sense is the rule. If something seems to be amiss with the other person, if a feeling of uneasiness with the direction of the conversation, gracefully bow out. Your intuition is almost never wrong! Never let your emotions pour out of you…even if you think you may have found the “right” match…wait until you meet in person. Then, you’ll really find out what’s up with them!
4. If the other person seems to be pushing the idea of talking on the phone, wait until it feels right for you. You are in control over everything that transpires, remember that. When you do start a telephone “meeting”, ask for their number if it makes you feel more secure. Then you can call when you want to, not at the whim of the other contact. Again, listen to everything in that call…the contact’s voice: sincere or somewhat demanding? The sounds in the background: kids yelling, baby crying, any instance that doesn’t seem right to you…the person may not have been truthful in what they have told you about themselves. Common sense!
5. When and if you decide to meet face to face, tell your family (yikes!) or a friend or trusted co-worker about the plans. Tell them exactly what your time-frame regarding the date will be and where you are going. If plans change, like going from a meeting in a coffee shop to a walk in a park, let someone know! It would be a good idea beforehand to let the person you are going to meet that you only want an “open” date…..with people around. If they act rebuffed or a little miffed at that, they aren’t interested in you feeling secure. Don’t agree to go any further!
And…maybe the most important aspect of this first, maybe second or even third meeting with this person…have your own transportation! Do not depend on them to pick you up. Observing the obvious…it also gives you a way out of you are least bit uncomfortable. If you are…leave! No car of your own? Call friends immediately or grab a cab…you are in control!
Internet dating can be a lot of fun, but as with anything in life, it only takes one bad apple to spoil everything. Be cautious, use every ounce of your intuition and common sense and enjoy yourself! All three can work together…you have all the control!
Ted Denton has been watching the evolution of online dating services, offering tips and advice about online dating and recommending some of the top internet dating sites for a number of websites. Find my tips and techniques for safe dating site-surfing and reviews of great services here: Internet Dating Reviews
http://www.articlealley.com/article_184121_39.html
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