Maybe you just have met a great women, she is single, beautiful, and sexy and is deeply in love with you. She's perfect for you but... you are not her first love.
Can she love you more then she loved her first man? Was that guy better than you in bed? Does she think of him when is making love with you? These are the question which crosses your mind over and over again.
Many people think that the first love is most powerful in all life time. All of as have heard the words "you can never forget your first love". Is this true?
I have talked with four women, friends of mine about this subject. All of them are married with a different man than the one they have loved for the first time. I had a great surprise; all of them have told me almost the same things:
First love is mostly passion - second love is much deeper.
When a woman loves for the first time she thinks that that man is the only one on the earth and she has no choice, without him she is lost. When she loves for second time, she knows that there are a lot of other available men but she is CHOOSING to be with the one she loves, because he is the best for her.
First time a woman can love a guy for no reason, just because he was the first no matter how he is treating her. When she loves for the second time she is able to see his qualities and his personality, and love him for who he is.
Second time she loves with all her heart because she knows that he deserves her love. First love can be full of fear and insecurity. Fear can be a fuel for passion but is not a nice filling.
These are good news for guys in your situation, but I didn't answer yet to biggest question: Does she think at him when she is with you in bad?
This answer on this question is the opposite of the one of the next question: "Does she really love you?"
If she loves you she is enjoying every moment that you are together, every touch, every kiss. All that she is thinking is YOU!
It is true, you never forget your first love but over a time it become just like a story of someone else, hided in a corner of your mind.
So if you are the one she has chosen, be THE LOVE OF HER LIFE and forget about her first love. :)
You are the man of her life so enjoy it.
http://www.articleson.com/Article/Can-she-love-you-more-then-she-loved-him-/19628
Friday, November 16, 2007
The Biggest Advantage of Online Dating
All of us are looking to find someone to share the good and bed moments in our lives. But what we have to keep in mind is that our good or bed moments depends on our partners and how much we match with that person.
It is easy to talk yourself into staying with a person, because they are basically a good, decent human being. That is a start, but not always enough to hold a partnership together.
You need to realize, though, that your spouse is not going to be like you in every way. No one will ever be, thank God. But don't marry someone with whom you have a difference on one of yours or their non-compromisable issues.
Everyone has certain things that are important to them.
And ONLINE DATING can help you find the one whose priorities in life are the same with yours, the one whose differences are things that are magnetize you together, not driving you apart, your PERFECT MATCH.
By reading people's profiles closely, you can quickly weed out people whose interests, age, values, religion or whatever else doesn�t appeal to you. Ditto when posting your own profile: describing yourself honestly and being clear about your values and interests makes it more likely that someone compatible will write to you.
There's no question that everyone on the online dating sites is looking to meet someone and there are thousands of singles on this stage of online dating. You have a lot of possibilities to choose, to choose the one which is right for you.
Here you can meet people you wouldn't otherwise meet because your social and/or business circles don't intersect, or because you don't frequent the same places.
Why to waste every day of your life compromising or trying to change a person?
Online dating is one of those things that make me happy that I live in these days, not with years ago when people hadn�t any choices but compromising.
Enjoy of the online dating facilities and find that special person that is the best for you. :)
http://www.articleson.com/Article/The-Biggest-Advantage-of-Online-Dating/19905
It is easy to talk yourself into staying with a person, because they are basically a good, decent human being. That is a start, but not always enough to hold a partnership together.
You need to realize, though, that your spouse is not going to be like you in every way. No one will ever be, thank God. But don't marry someone with whom you have a difference on one of yours or their non-compromisable issues.
Everyone has certain things that are important to them.
And ONLINE DATING can help you find the one whose priorities in life are the same with yours, the one whose differences are things that are magnetize you together, not driving you apart, your PERFECT MATCH.
By reading people's profiles closely, you can quickly weed out people whose interests, age, values, religion or whatever else doesn�t appeal to you. Ditto when posting your own profile: describing yourself honestly and being clear about your values and interests makes it more likely that someone compatible will write to you.
There's no question that everyone on the online dating sites is looking to meet someone and there are thousands of singles on this stage of online dating. You have a lot of possibilities to choose, to choose the one which is right for you.
Here you can meet people you wouldn't otherwise meet because your social and/or business circles don't intersect, or because you don't frequent the same places.
Why to waste every day of your life compromising or trying to change a person?
Online dating is one of those things that make me happy that I live in these days, not with years ago when people hadn�t any choices but compromising.
Enjoy of the online dating facilities and find that special person that is the best for you. :)
http://www.articleson.com/Article/The-Biggest-Advantage-of-Online-Dating/19905
The Internet Dating Rollercoaster: 7 Ways to Even Out The Ride
THE FIRST BIG STEP
You have made the big decision. You have signed up with one of the internet dating sites and are not alone. 80% of people over 38 who are actively seeking relationships are using the internet to meet potential partners. But no one really tells us how to deal with it. It is a new phenomenon in our lives and certainly very different to being introduced by a friend or meeting through shared interests.
You have spent hours pouring over your profile and have even had a couple of friends look at it for you. You have tried to hone every facet of your personality into a few paragraphs, attempted some humour and tried to be open (but not too revealing!) you have tinkered for long enough and have posted yourself along with those thousands of others. Perhaps you have also been brave enough to find a photograph – they say it makes a big difference to the numbers of replies that you receive.
1. Congratulations - this is a bold step. Now stay in charge of the process
ANTICIPATION, ANTICIPATION, ANTICIPATION
However hard you try to be realistic everyone, on registering, will have some level of excitement at the anticipation of meeting someone on-line. We have heard all the stories, perhaps you have a friend or colleague who has met someone special this way and you want it to happen for you, too. You initially scan through the pages of potential people and begin to build up fantasies about who these people might be, and whether they might be interested in you. All this creates quite a head of steam and your rollercoaster ride has begun. Initially you find yourself logging on often to see if you there are any messages.
2. Put some boundaries around the time that you spend on the internet. It can easily become a compulsion.
SHALL I WAIT OR SHALL I POST - SENDING MESSAGES
So are you going to wait to see if people respond to your profile or wait until someone sends a message to you? The halfway house is tagging someone as a “favourite” (or whatever that particular site’s version of this is). Inevitably, and this is particularly difficult for women, you decide to send a message. For some reason there is still, even in this internet age, a notion that the men should make the first approach and women worry about being seen as too pushy/forward if they send the first message. Here is a good moment to pause. Think about it, you have signed up; the purpose is to meet someone. That is the aim of the site so why would you play the role of reluctant flower and wait for someone to choose you?
3. Always be THE CHOOSER, there is a difference between being pro-active on your own behalf and being pushy. Learn the difference and respond to the people who welcome this.
THE WAITING GAME - GETTING/NOT GETTING RESPONSES
Now you may expect it to happen all at once, in fact some people find that when you are new to a site there will be a flurry of activity. Watch this, there are many who scan for new people and will ‘flirt’ with anyone even without reading your profile. Take it slowly in the beginning, yes it is beginning to feel like the rollercoaster is going up at a fast rate. A ‘real person’ has responded to you, so it must mean something. No -unfortunately it doesn’t mean anything at this stage. Here is where you really need to keep the emotional brakes on. It is so easy to build up the fantasies into really big bells and whistles visions of your future together.
On the other hand there might be a giant silence from the other end of the net; can you feel the rollercoaster taking a dive? Above all remember to live a life whilst you are waiting. Don’t stay in all evening next to the computer in the hope that a reply will come through. Isn’t it inevitable that the person you may have sent a message to has a life too and they have not seen your message yet or had the time to consider a response? Just because you have sent a message doesn’t mean that you will get a response. Sad but true, you will soon learn that many people on these sites never respond and are just there to browse. Also not everyone who has a profile is a paid up subscriber to the service.
4. Stay realistic, get on with your life and have the internet site be just one of the things that you are doing to meet possible dates.
I CAN’T BELIEVE IT - INAPPROPRIATE RESPONSES
Yes it happens more often than we all would like, especially to women. That completely inappropriate response to your initial message, either it is over the top sexual innuendos or the other person is in love with you already and wants to meet you immediately. Time for those rollercoaster brakes again. Obviously the sexual innuendo may appear flattering but is this the first expression of interest you would like? Similarly someone who wants to immediately meet is probably erring on the ’too eager‘ side and your antennae should be up.
5. Don’t fall into the trap that any reply is better than no reply at all. If it does not feel appropriate to you for whatever reason do not pursue.
CAN THEY BE BOTHERED – LACKLUSTRE RESPONSES
But much of the time you will probably receive rather lacklustre responses. This can be a disappointment in itself. After all, you have tried to send them an interesting, maybe witty reply with some questions and are hoping to find out more about them. What you get back neither responds to your questions nor asks anything about you. So why would you be interested in someone who is clearly not interested in you?
6. Don’t hope that this person will change. If they are not interested in you right now, when will they be? Ditch the boring ones immediately. Don’t settle for less than you really want.
IS IT ME?
How are you feeling now? I imagine a bit battered. You have been up and down that rollercoaster a number of times, you don’t know how long the ride is and you want to get off. So do give yourself a break. You don’t have to keep going endlessly. In fact when you start out decide how long you are going to subscribe for. In the beginning 3 months might be long enough and then have a break.
More importantly remember that your success with internet dating is not about who you are but about how you approach the whole experience. You can feel vulnerable, after all you have put yourself out there in front of goodness knows how many people. If you have not been successful it is not about you as a person but about the randomness of the whole internet dating process. Because of that it is essential that you hold the process as lightly as you can. By this I mean not allowing the rollercoaster to govern how you feel about yourself.
7. Remember these people don’t know you but just a 10 second impression of who they think you are. Stay bold and authentic to yourself.
HOW TO IRON OUT THE LUMPS & BUMPS
If you want to have a less bumpy ride stay in control of the process. Decide what your boundaries are around the time that you spend online. Focus on the kinds of people that interest you - not just the photographs. Write yourself a list of 5 deal makers and 5 deal breakers for you with internet dating. Ultimately be the one that chooses and remember to take breaks. Remember you are the person your friends know.
http://www.articleson.com/Article/The-Internet-Dating-Rollercoaster--7-Ways-to-Even-Out-The-Ride/19918
You have made the big decision. You have signed up with one of the internet dating sites and are not alone. 80% of people over 38 who are actively seeking relationships are using the internet to meet potential partners. But no one really tells us how to deal with it. It is a new phenomenon in our lives and certainly very different to being introduced by a friend or meeting through shared interests.
You have spent hours pouring over your profile and have even had a couple of friends look at it for you. You have tried to hone every facet of your personality into a few paragraphs, attempted some humour and tried to be open (but not too revealing!) you have tinkered for long enough and have posted yourself along with those thousands of others. Perhaps you have also been brave enough to find a photograph – they say it makes a big difference to the numbers of replies that you receive.
1. Congratulations - this is a bold step. Now stay in charge of the process
ANTICIPATION, ANTICIPATION, ANTICIPATION
However hard you try to be realistic everyone, on registering, will have some level of excitement at the anticipation of meeting someone on-line. We have heard all the stories, perhaps you have a friend or colleague who has met someone special this way and you want it to happen for you, too. You initially scan through the pages of potential people and begin to build up fantasies about who these people might be, and whether they might be interested in you. All this creates quite a head of steam and your rollercoaster ride has begun. Initially you find yourself logging on often to see if you there are any messages.
2. Put some boundaries around the time that you spend on the internet. It can easily become a compulsion.
SHALL I WAIT OR SHALL I POST - SENDING MESSAGES
So are you going to wait to see if people respond to your profile or wait until someone sends a message to you? The halfway house is tagging someone as a “favourite” (or whatever that particular site’s version of this is). Inevitably, and this is particularly difficult for women, you decide to send a message. For some reason there is still, even in this internet age, a notion that the men should make the first approach and women worry about being seen as too pushy/forward if they send the first message. Here is a good moment to pause. Think about it, you have signed up; the purpose is to meet someone. That is the aim of the site so why would you play the role of reluctant flower and wait for someone to choose you?
3. Always be THE CHOOSER, there is a difference between being pro-active on your own behalf and being pushy. Learn the difference and respond to the people who welcome this.
THE WAITING GAME - GETTING/NOT GETTING RESPONSES
Now you may expect it to happen all at once, in fact some people find that when you are new to a site there will be a flurry of activity. Watch this, there are many who scan for new people and will ‘flirt’ with anyone even without reading your profile. Take it slowly in the beginning, yes it is beginning to feel like the rollercoaster is going up at a fast rate. A ‘real person’ has responded to you, so it must mean something. No -unfortunately it doesn’t mean anything at this stage. Here is where you really need to keep the emotional brakes on. It is so easy to build up the fantasies into really big bells and whistles visions of your future together.
On the other hand there might be a giant silence from the other end of the net; can you feel the rollercoaster taking a dive? Above all remember to live a life whilst you are waiting. Don’t stay in all evening next to the computer in the hope that a reply will come through. Isn’t it inevitable that the person you may have sent a message to has a life too and they have not seen your message yet or had the time to consider a response? Just because you have sent a message doesn’t mean that you will get a response. Sad but true, you will soon learn that many people on these sites never respond and are just there to browse. Also not everyone who has a profile is a paid up subscriber to the service.
4. Stay realistic, get on with your life and have the internet site be just one of the things that you are doing to meet possible dates.
I CAN’T BELIEVE IT - INAPPROPRIATE RESPONSES
Yes it happens more often than we all would like, especially to women. That completely inappropriate response to your initial message, either it is over the top sexual innuendos or the other person is in love with you already and wants to meet you immediately. Time for those rollercoaster brakes again. Obviously the sexual innuendo may appear flattering but is this the first expression of interest you would like? Similarly someone who wants to immediately meet is probably erring on the ’too eager‘ side and your antennae should be up.
5. Don’t fall into the trap that any reply is better than no reply at all. If it does not feel appropriate to you for whatever reason do not pursue.
CAN THEY BE BOTHERED – LACKLUSTRE RESPONSES
But much of the time you will probably receive rather lacklustre responses. This can be a disappointment in itself. After all, you have tried to send them an interesting, maybe witty reply with some questions and are hoping to find out more about them. What you get back neither responds to your questions nor asks anything about you. So why would you be interested in someone who is clearly not interested in you?
6. Don’t hope that this person will change. If they are not interested in you right now, when will they be? Ditch the boring ones immediately. Don’t settle for less than you really want.
IS IT ME?
How are you feeling now? I imagine a bit battered. You have been up and down that rollercoaster a number of times, you don’t know how long the ride is and you want to get off. So do give yourself a break. You don’t have to keep going endlessly. In fact when you start out decide how long you are going to subscribe for. In the beginning 3 months might be long enough and then have a break.
More importantly remember that your success with internet dating is not about who you are but about how you approach the whole experience. You can feel vulnerable, after all you have put yourself out there in front of goodness knows how many people. If you have not been successful it is not about you as a person but about the randomness of the whole internet dating process. Because of that it is essential that you hold the process as lightly as you can. By this I mean not allowing the rollercoaster to govern how you feel about yourself.
7. Remember these people don’t know you but just a 10 second impression of who they think you are. Stay bold and authentic to yourself.
HOW TO IRON OUT THE LUMPS & BUMPS
If you want to have a less bumpy ride stay in control of the process. Decide what your boundaries are around the time that you spend online. Focus on the kinds of people that interest you - not just the photographs. Write yourself a list of 5 deal makers and 5 deal breakers for you with internet dating. Ultimately be the one that chooses and remember to take breaks. Remember you are the person your friends know.
http://www.articleson.com/Article/The-Internet-Dating-Rollercoaster--7-Ways-to-Even-Out-The-Ride/19918
3 Tricks When Talking on the Phone with a Woman You Have Met Online
The first telephone call is the most important one. Sure you have her number, but nothing has been won yet.
1. Before you call you should have prepared a list of several topics to talk about. Hopefully your email exchange has provided you with some information to follow up on. Study her profile to think of other topics to talk about. Prepare open ended questions. Start talking about a subject, and give her a chance to speak as well.
2. DON'T: ask her questions about other guys she's seeing, suspiciously interrogate her about how she spends her time, and angrily reprimand her for flaking on you. How she spends her time is her business.
A lot of men sabotage their chances with a woman by don't giving her enough credit and respect.
You know there's trouble if you're doing all the talking and her replies are short or non-existent. If so it either means you haven't hit on the right topic to talk about, or, more likely, she simply isn't interested. Also, if she ends the conversation early or "has to go", leave it up to her to call you again, if she wants to. Usually, she won't.
So, when talking to a woman on the phone DON'T worry about impressing her. Have fun. Enjoy the conversation. Amuse yourself.
3. At first phone conversation is better to stay away of complimenting her. I think giving women compliments can be very powerful. But when you give a woman compliments within the context of trying to win her over, you become a wuss.
Usually women are curious why the men they are talking to online decided to pick them instead of other thousandths of profiles. Most of them will ask you about these "reasons" and by doing this are giving you the opportunity to make her compliments. So, wait the moment. :)
If the conversation flow easily, effortlessly, if you find her fairly responsive and you can keep up the conversation for at least a half hour you can ask her out. Her answer seam to be: "YES".
http://www.articleson.com/Article/3-Tricks-When-Talking-on-the-Phone-with-a-Woman-You-Have-Met-Online/20598
1. Before you call you should have prepared a list of several topics to talk about. Hopefully your email exchange has provided you with some information to follow up on. Study her profile to think of other topics to talk about. Prepare open ended questions. Start talking about a subject, and give her a chance to speak as well.
2. DON'T: ask her questions about other guys she's seeing, suspiciously interrogate her about how she spends her time, and angrily reprimand her for flaking on you. How she spends her time is her business.
A lot of men sabotage their chances with a woman by don't giving her enough credit and respect.
You know there's trouble if you're doing all the talking and her replies are short or non-existent. If so it either means you haven't hit on the right topic to talk about, or, more likely, she simply isn't interested. Also, if she ends the conversation early or "has to go", leave it up to her to call you again, if she wants to. Usually, she won't.
So, when talking to a woman on the phone DON'T worry about impressing her. Have fun. Enjoy the conversation. Amuse yourself.
3. At first phone conversation is better to stay away of complimenting her. I think giving women compliments can be very powerful. But when you give a woman compliments within the context of trying to win her over, you become a wuss.
Usually women are curious why the men they are talking to online decided to pick them instead of other thousandths of profiles. Most of them will ask you about these "reasons" and by doing this are giving you the opportunity to make her compliments. So, wait the moment. :)
If the conversation flow easily, effortlessly, if you find her fairly responsive and you can keep up the conversation for at least a half hour you can ask her out. Her answer seam to be: "YES".
http://www.articleson.com/Article/3-Tricks-When-Talking-on-the-Phone-with-a-Woman-You-Have-Met-Online/20598
Is Speed Dating Hazardous to Your Health?
Have you found your better half yet? If you have not, I wish you luck! Regarding the people I meet every day and the number of the current world population, luck isn't the only thing that can help you. Have you considered speed dating?
If you believe that you have a better half somewhere then you probably believe in destiny. If everyone were destined to meet his or her better half, then you have nothing to worry about? Does it matter where you would start from? After all, are you destined to meet this special someone or not?
Moreover, it will be better if you speed the process a bit. What do you think about speed dating? What is speed dating exactly? Just go out, go wherever you want and point the desired person. The important thing in speed dating is its speed. Do it quickly! Why should you wait? Are you wondering where you can find about the different speed dating options? It is no problem at all. Just check on the World-Wide-Web.
Do you know anything about speed dating? Every time I hear the words “speed dating” I recall of the horror movie “Valentine.” The story was about two beautiful girls who decide to try speed dating.
Don’t you just need to go out of your room? May be it is time to communicate with real persons. Nobody will eat you or even hurt you, I promise. Just try it. Now it is easier than ever. You can find all the needed information on the World-Wide-Web.
When I first heard about the web site, which was used for speed dating, I was burst into laughter. What was this thing? Was this cyberspace convenient speed dating? Oh, come on, are you kidding? However, once I saw him checking the web site and I get rather intrigued. I saw him chatting with women who were thousands of miles away.
This distant friendship made me feel in a strange way. I was surprised how much access we have from our homes. You can contact with people from every place on the world, you just need a personal computer and high speed Internet.
I was amazed how interested he was in speed dating. He even met some girls through speed dating. Speed dating makes it so easy to find your soul mate. Speed dating is not influenced by shyness or prejudices. You can meet also people who are near you. Just choose only to speed date in your current region.
Have you tried speed dating already? If your answer is no, I suggest you to try it right now. It is no more fashionable to date in the bars. May be you do not prefer to spend your precious weekends wandering through the smoky bars, seeking for your mate. Everyone gets bored of the club scenes. After all, you live in the age of the online speed dating!
http://www.articleson.com/Article/Is-Speed-Dating-Hazardous-to-Your-Health-/21470
If you believe that you have a better half somewhere then you probably believe in destiny. If everyone were destined to meet his or her better half, then you have nothing to worry about? Does it matter where you would start from? After all, are you destined to meet this special someone or not?
Moreover, it will be better if you speed the process a bit. What do you think about speed dating? What is speed dating exactly? Just go out, go wherever you want and point the desired person. The important thing in speed dating is its speed. Do it quickly! Why should you wait? Are you wondering where you can find about the different speed dating options? It is no problem at all. Just check on the World-Wide-Web.
Do you know anything about speed dating? Every time I hear the words “speed dating” I recall of the horror movie “Valentine.” The story was about two beautiful girls who decide to try speed dating.
Don’t you just need to go out of your room? May be it is time to communicate with real persons. Nobody will eat you or even hurt you, I promise. Just try it. Now it is easier than ever. You can find all the needed information on the World-Wide-Web.
When I first heard about the web site, which was used for speed dating, I was burst into laughter. What was this thing? Was this cyberspace convenient speed dating? Oh, come on, are you kidding? However, once I saw him checking the web site and I get rather intrigued. I saw him chatting with women who were thousands of miles away.
This distant friendship made me feel in a strange way. I was surprised how much access we have from our homes. You can contact with people from every place on the world, you just need a personal computer and high speed Internet.
I was amazed how interested he was in speed dating. He even met some girls through speed dating. Speed dating makes it so easy to find your soul mate. Speed dating is not influenced by shyness or prejudices. You can meet also people who are near you. Just choose only to speed date in your current region.
Have you tried speed dating already? If your answer is no, I suggest you to try it right now. It is no more fashionable to date in the bars. May be you do not prefer to spend your precious weekends wandering through the smoky bars, seeking for your mate. Everyone gets bored of the club scenes. After all, you live in the age of the online speed dating!
http://www.articleson.com/Article/Is-Speed-Dating-Hazardous-to-Your-Health-/21470
Thursday, November 15, 2007
4 Key Steps Of Approaching Women With Confidence And Swagger
Women like men who exhibit confidence and self-assuredness. That should really go without saying. However, many guys run head-first into a problem when they try to convey those attributes in the presence of a hot woman. So, with that said, how can you learn the elusive art of approaching women without stumbling over words or, worse, looking like one of the previous thirty-eight losers she shot down prior to your arrival? Well, it's pretty simple... we'll call our plan the Four D's of Approach: Develop, Display, Discern, and Direct.
#1) Develop...You can't show a female something you don't have. Your first order of business is to build your confidence and self esteem. There are plenty of self-help books and free content on the Web that can help you with that, so there's no need in regurgitating that information here.
#2) Display... What good is getting something if you don't show it off? People don't collect expensive art to keep it in their cellar. Now that you have your swagger, let people know about it. But keep in mind, there is a very fine line between exuding confidence naturally and looking like an overcompensating prick. The best way to avoid the latter is to constantly remind yourself of how great you are while at the same time acknowledging your many shortcomings (we all have them). Think of it as being humbly cocky.
#3) Discern... When you're in a bar, or wherever, and you spot a hot chick, don't just run up on her without evaluating the situation first. Is she with her boyfriend? Her homegirls? What does the situation look like? Take some time to analyze things first (but do not use this as an attempt to cop out). For instance, don't approach women when they're being bombarded by men left and right. As far as she is concerned, you're no better than the other losers who just tried to talk with her. Separate yourself from the pack by making some kind of brief communication (a smile or quick glance will do). She'll notice this and your chances of having a favorable conversation with her will increase exponentially.
#4) Direct... This is where you get to show off most of your confidence and self esteem. After approaching a woman, direct the conversation. You're supposed to be in control and more than likely, the female will appreciate your assertiveness - not pushiness. Do not try to be the jerk you think women are attracted to. Instead, be comfortable in your own skin... Know what you want and don't be afraid to say it. (warning: that does mean saying you want her body right now).
Remember, the art of approaching women is just that... an art! You can't paint a masterpiece if you don't learn how to draw first. As with anything else that has substantial rewards, you will have to work at this - some more than others. But regardless of the time it takes, the outcome can be achieved by practically any and everyone. If you've ever wondered how that scruffy looking dude who works at Kinko's managed to snag the hot girl next door, now you know... It's all in the approach.
http://www.articledashboard.com/Article/4-Key-Steps-of-Approaching-Women-with-Confidence-and-Swagger/332271
#1) Develop...You can't show a female something you don't have. Your first order of business is to build your confidence and self esteem. There are plenty of self-help books and free content on the Web that can help you with that, so there's no need in regurgitating that information here.
#2) Display... What good is getting something if you don't show it off? People don't collect expensive art to keep it in their cellar. Now that you have your swagger, let people know about it. But keep in mind, there is a very fine line between exuding confidence naturally and looking like an overcompensating prick. The best way to avoid the latter is to constantly remind yourself of how great you are while at the same time acknowledging your many shortcomings (we all have them). Think of it as being humbly cocky.
#3) Discern... When you're in a bar, or wherever, and you spot a hot chick, don't just run up on her without evaluating the situation first. Is she with her boyfriend? Her homegirls? What does the situation look like? Take some time to analyze things first (but do not use this as an attempt to cop out). For instance, don't approach women when they're being bombarded by men left and right. As far as she is concerned, you're no better than the other losers who just tried to talk with her. Separate yourself from the pack by making some kind of brief communication (a smile or quick glance will do). She'll notice this and your chances of having a favorable conversation with her will increase exponentially.
#4) Direct... This is where you get to show off most of your confidence and self esteem. After approaching a woman, direct the conversation. You're supposed to be in control and more than likely, the female will appreciate your assertiveness - not pushiness. Do not try to be the jerk you think women are attracted to. Instead, be comfortable in your own skin... Know what you want and don't be afraid to say it. (warning: that does mean saying you want her body right now).
Remember, the art of approaching women is just that... an art! You can't paint a masterpiece if you don't learn how to draw first. As with anything else that has substantial rewards, you will have to work at this - some more than others. But regardless of the time it takes, the outcome can be achieved by practically any and everyone. If you've ever wondered how that scruffy looking dude who works at Kinko's managed to snag the hot girl next door, now you know... It's all in the approach.
http://www.articledashboard.com/Article/4-Key-Steps-of-Approaching-Women-with-Confidence-and-Swagger/332271
Adult Webcam Personals: Dating And Fun Live On Video
It used to be that dating on the internet was a dry, impersonal affair. Then along comes the webcam and the online dating scene will never be the same again.
Adult webcam personals are hot right now. After all, living your wildest dreams live before your computer screen is the next best thing to the real thing.
This is the reason for the growing popularity of adult video dating: live interaction. Live adult webcam personals allow you to see other adult singles (or non-singles if that's what you like) live, be they next door or in another continent.
Another reason, it appears, for the popularity of adult live video personals can be traced to the origins of webcam chatting. The first industry to utilize this technology was the adult industry. Others are just beginning to catch up.
Indeed, there are many advantages of adult webcam dating over “old school” adult internet dating, which include:
1. Learning curve is much shorter, as most of the details involving internet dating are eliminated. In most cases, writing personal ads – something most internet daters hate – is not even required.
2. You can be sure that the person(s) you're dealing are whom they say they are. This includes age and looks, two of the things that people dating on the internet lie about most. Since the images are transmitted in real-time, they cannot be faked. Compare this to traditional chatting, where teenagers have been known to pull all type of pranks.
3. Scam artists who use stolen photos and fake profiles cannot pull a fast one on you, as the images are transmitted live.
4. You get a more accurate feel about the person you are chatting with. Where audio is used (as opposed to text messaging), you even get a good idea about how they act and talk: almost like a face-to-face meeting.
5. Webcam personals help create the feeling of being closer to the other person(s), even if other(s) are miles away.
6. You can live and explore your fantasies without limit, right from the privacy of your own home, and away from prying eyes.
How do you get started with adult webcam personals?
Well, Getting started is easy. You don't even need a web camera (webcam) if you don't have one, though it helps for increased interactivity. In fact, if you all you want is to watch the guys or gals doing the things that turn you on, you don't need a webcam at all.
But perhaps the most important thing is choice of personals site. Why?
The adult webcam personals site is what brings people together. It is what you make it possible for you to meet others of similar interests. If you're interest is fulfilling certain visual fantasies, an adult webcam service is what brings this to you.
But though it's tempting to sign up with a free site, you could end up paying in other ways, including compromised privacy.
Some disreputable webcam sites have been known to sneak Trojan horse software into your computer. This software can start your webcam without your knowledge, possibly capturing images of you in compromising situation(s) and broadcasting it worldwide.
It is therefore important that you sign up with a reputable adult webcam personals service. Most reputable sites do offer free basic memberships or a free trial.
http://www.articledashboard.com/Article/Adult-Webcam-Personals--Dating-and-Fun-Live-On-Video/332605
Adult webcam personals are hot right now. After all, living your wildest dreams live before your computer screen is the next best thing to the real thing.
This is the reason for the growing popularity of adult video dating: live interaction. Live adult webcam personals allow you to see other adult singles (or non-singles if that's what you like) live, be they next door or in another continent.
Another reason, it appears, for the popularity of adult live video personals can be traced to the origins of webcam chatting. The first industry to utilize this technology was the adult industry. Others are just beginning to catch up.
Indeed, there are many advantages of adult webcam dating over “old school” adult internet dating, which include:
1. Learning curve is much shorter, as most of the details involving internet dating are eliminated. In most cases, writing personal ads – something most internet daters hate – is not even required.
2. You can be sure that the person(s) you're dealing are whom they say they are. This includes age and looks, two of the things that people dating on the internet lie about most. Since the images are transmitted in real-time, they cannot be faked. Compare this to traditional chatting, where teenagers have been known to pull all type of pranks.
3. Scam artists who use stolen photos and fake profiles cannot pull a fast one on you, as the images are transmitted live.
4. You get a more accurate feel about the person you are chatting with. Where audio is used (as opposed to text messaging), you even get a good idea about how they act and talk: almost like a face-to-face meeting.
5. Webcam personals help create the feeling of being closer to the other person(s), even if other(s) are miles away.
6. You can live and explore your fantasies without limit, right from the privacy of your own home, and away from prying eyes.
How do you get started with adult webcam personals?
Well, Getting started is easy. You don't even need a web camera (webcam) if you don't have one, though it helps for increased interactivity. In fact, if you all you want is to watch the guys or gals doing the things that turn you on, you don't need a webcam at all.
But perhaps the most important thing is choice of personals site. Why?
The adult webcam personals site is what brings people together. It is what you make it possible for you to meet others of similar interests. If you're interest is fulfilling certain visual fantasies, an adult webcam service is what brings this to you.
But though it's tempting to sign up with a free site, you could end up paying in other ways, including compromised privacy.
Some disreputable webcam sites have been known to sneak Trojan horse software into your computer. This software can start your webcam without your knowledge, possibly capturing images of you in compromising situation(s) and broadcasting it worldwide.
It is therefore important that you sign up with a reputable adult webcam personals service. Most reputable sites do offer free basic memberships or a free trial.
http://www.articledashboard.com/Article/Adult-Webcam-Personals--Dating-and-Fun-Live-On-Video/332605
Dating: Why Are People Rejecting Me?
Aidan decided to consult with me because he wanted to get married and have a family. A handsome man in his mid-30s, it was certainly not obvious at first glance why he could not find a partner.
However, it didn't take me long to understand why relationships were not working for Aidan. Being with Aidan felt like being alone. He was so not present as to practically be invisible.
"Aidan," I asked, "What are you feeling right now?"
"I don't know."
"Aidan, please move your focus out of your head and focus inside your body. Breathe into your body. Notice any sensations in your body."
Aidan breathed. A few moments later he told me that he felt nervous.
"Aidan, imagine that the nervousness is a child inside you - your feeling self. I'd like you to notice what you are telling this child that is causing him to feel nervous."
"I'm telling him that he has to say the right thing so that you will like him."
"So when you tell yourself that you have to perform right in order to get my approval, you end up feeling nervous. What are you telling yourself about why is it so important to get my approval?"
"I guess I'm telling myself that if you like me and approve of me, I'm okay."
"Aidan, I'd like you to imagine that your inner child - your feeling self - is an actual child. Imagine that you have a little boy who is just like you were as a child. How would this little boy feel if you kept telling him that others had to like him for him to be okay? How would he feel if you kept handing him away to someone else for acceptance and approval?"
"I think he would feel rejected and abandoned by me. I think he would not feel very good about himself if I kept rejecting him."
"Yes, and that is exactly what is happening on the inner level. You are handing away your inner child for others to define as okay. But the very act of handing him away is causing low-self esteem. And how attractive do you think a woman finds you when you are approaching her from this neediness - this need for her to approve of you for you to feel okay?"
"Well, obviously, women don't find this attractive. But I didn't know I was doing this, and I don't know what to do about it."
"The first thing you need to do is practice moving your focus out of your head and into your body - into your feelings. Your inner child feels valued by you when you pay attention to him, which means paying attention to your feelings. Your anxious, nervous, fearful feelings are letting you know that you are abandoning yourself and telling yourself that you have to perform right to be okay. Your happy and peaceful feelings are telling you that you are connecting with yourself and taking care of yourself. When you keep your focus in your mind rather than your body, you don't know when you are abandoning yourself."
Aidan started to practice noticing his feelings, and noticing what he was telling himself that was causing his anxiety. The more he noticed and shifted his thinking about himself, the better he started to feel. Within a few months of practicing defining himself and taking care of himself, instead of handing himself over to others to define, Aidan found himself dating two women that he liked. The last time I spoke with him, he was in an exclusive relationship with one of the women, much to the dismay of the other woman!
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However, it didn't take me long to understand why relationships were not working for Aidan. Being with Aidan felt like being alone. He was so not present as to practically be invisible.
"Aidan," I asked, "What are you feeling right now?"
"I don't know."
"Aidan, please move your focus out of your head and focus inside your body. Breathe into your body. Notice any sensations in your body."
Aidan breathed. A few moments later he told me that he felt nervous.
"Aidan, imagine that the nervousness is a child inside you - your feeling self. I'd like you to notice what you are telling this child that is causing him to feel nervous."
"I'm telling him that he has to say the right thing so that you will like him."
"So when you tell yourself that you have to perform right in order to get my approval, you end up feeling nervous. What are you telling yourself about why is it so important to get my approval?"
"I guess I'm telling myself that if you like me and approve of me, I'm okay."
"Aidan, I'd like you to imagine that your inner child - your feeling self - is an actual child. Imagine that you have a little boy who is just like you were as a child. How would this little boy feel if you kept telling him that others had to like him for him to be okay? How would he feel if you kept handing him away to someone else for acceptance and approval?"
"I think he would feel rejected and abandoned by me. I think he would not feel very good about himself if I kept rejecting him."
"Yes, and that is exactly what is happening on the inner level. You are handing away your inner child for others to define as okay. But the very act of handing him away is causing low-self esteem. And how attractive do you think a woman finds you when you are approaching her from this neediness - this need for her to approve of you for you to feel okay?"
"Well, obviously, women don't find this attractive. But I didn't know I was doing this, and I don't know what to do about it."
"The first thing you need to do is practice moving your focus out of your head and into your body - into your feelings. Your inner child feels valued by you when you pay attention to him, which means paying attention to your feelings. Your anxious, nervous, fearful feelings are letting you know that you are abandoning yourself and telling yourself that you have to perform right to be okay. Your happy and peaceful feelings are telling you that you are connecting with yourself and taking care of yourself. When you keep your focus in your mind rather than your body, you don't know when you are abandoning yourself."
Aidan started to practice noticing his feelings, and noticing what he was telling himself that was causing his anxiety. The more he noticed and shifted his thinking about himself, the better he started to feel. Within a few months of practicing defining himself and taking care of himself, instead of handing himself over to others to define, Aidan found himself dating two women that he liked. The last time I spoke with him, he was in an exclusive relationship with one of the women, much to the dismay of the other woman!
http://www.articledashboard.com/Article/Dating--Why-Are-People-Rejecting-Me-/332665
Will You Date Women With Children?
Recent survey showed that a good number of men favor to date single mothers. Out of five thousand men, forty eight percent find single mothers more motivated and mature in nurturing a relationship.
Twenty-five percent want or choose to date single mothers for the reason that single mothers are faced with a demanding and hectic schedule which is why they recognize the value of sacrifice single moms had to go through, making them a stronger person and the type to value a relationship.
Seventeen percent said that when they dated a single mom, it was an opportunity seeing the woman care for her children and that is such a wonderful sight.
Here are reasons why men love dating single moms:
1. Men look up to their mothers; therefore they see the single mom as a person who is more focused and responsible in life. She already knows what are her priorities and definitely will not let go of her children’s happiness for a man. Therefore, when she chooses to date a man, the man must be real special.
2. Single moms are strong, having had gone through raising her children alone.
3. They are independent, have a direction in life and very confident.
4. They value the quality of time, and this sets them apart. When they date a man or in a relationship, they often make the most out of that moment, and value their time spent together.
5. Single mothers give importance and cherish lasting relationships. They do not just fill time when dating, as they need to decide on doing something for them at the same time accomplishing the task of being a father and a mother to her kids. To the man searching for a lasting and true relationship, the single mom is perfect.
6. They approach dating with sincerity and not just a segment of a sequence of worthless dates or that which sprouts from one’s fear of loneliness.
7. Single moms relish their time when alone on a date and appreciate a simple evening, giving more importance of your time spent together, and not on how grand it is. This makes them fun to date.
Here are guidelines in dating single moms:
1. When she wants you to give her time before you meet her kids, be patient and realize that this is not because she does not like you, instead, she wants to become acquainted with you, at the same time that you will have a chance to become acquainted with her first “as a woman”, before you know her as a mom.
She still wants to know for sure how your relationship develops before introducing the kids to you.
2. Understand that she is a mom, her first priority being her children, so as much as she wants to, she can not make spur-of-the-moment plans with you. However romantic unplanned dinner dates may seem, understand that they are simply unworkable for single moms.
3. Know your part and never try to discipline her kids. Leave the disciplining to the mom and never be a father to her kids. They already have one, and will only feel bitter towards you if and when you take their father’s place.
Just be their friend whom they can trust and count on. This way, they will accept you and appreciate you more.
4. After a while of dating together and you know that you both are on your way to a lasting relationship, including the kids in your plans can be a great idea, wherein her children and you can spend time and get to know each other better. Plan your outings that kids will love and enjoy.
Dating women with children would entail so much than dating single women. However, should you really like a single mom and is willing to give the relationship a shot, then go for it. The single mom has many good qualities worth knowing and she has many good values worth your time. Let her kids be not of hindrance to you. As long as there is understanding, patience, dedication and love, you will both have a lasting relationship that you both will enjoy in the coming years.
http://www.articledashboard.com/Article/Will-You-Date-Women-With-Children-/332675
Twenty-five percent want or choose to date single mothers for the reason that single mothers are faced with a demanding and hectic schedule which is why they recognize the value of sacrifice single moms had to go through, making them a stronger person and the type to value a relationship.
Seventeen percent said that when they dated a single mom, it was an opportunity seeing the woman care for her children and that is such a wonderful sight.
Here are reasons why men love dating single moms:
1. Men look up to their mothers; therefore they see the single mom as a person who is more focused and responsible in life. She already knows what are her priorities and definitely will not let go of her children’s happiness for a man. Therefore, when she chooses to date a man, the man must be real special.
2. Single moms are strong, having had gone through raising her children alone.
3. They are independent, have a direction in life and very confident.
4. They value the quality of time, and this sets them apart. When they date a man or in a relationship, they often make the most out of that moment, and value their time spent together.
5. Single mothers give importance and cherish lasting relationships. They do not just fill time when dating, as they need to decide on doing something for them at the same time accomplishing the task of being a father and a mother to her kids. To the man searching for a lasting and true relationship, the single mom is perfect.
6. They approach dating with sincerity and not just a segment of a sequence of worthless dates or that which sprouts from one’s fear of loneliness.
7. Single moms relish their time when alone on a date and appreciate a simple evening, giving more importance of your time spent together, and not on how grand it is. This makes them fun to date.
Here are guidelines in dating single moms:
1. When she wants you to give her time before you meet her kids, be patient and realize that this is not because she does not like you, instead, she wants to become acquainted with you, at the same time that you will have a chance to become acquainted with her first “as a woman”, before you know her as a mom.
She still wants to know for sure how your relationship develops before introducing the kids to you.
2. Understand that she is a mom, her first priority being her children, so as much as she wants to, she can not make spur-of-the-moment plans with you. However romantic unplanned dinner dates may seem, understand that they are simply unworkable for single moms.
3. Know your part and never try to discipline her kids. Leave the disciplining to the mom and never be a father to her kids. They already have one, and will only feel bitter towards you if and when you take their father’s place.
Just be their friend whom they can trust and count on. This way, they will accept you and appreciate you more.
4. After a while of dating together and you know that you both are on your way to a lasting relationship, including the kids in your plans can be a great idea, wherein her children and you can spend time and get to know each other better. Plan your outings that kids will love and enjoy.
Dating women with children would entail so much than dating single women. However, should you really like a single mom and is willing to give the relationship a shot, then go for it. The single mom has many good qualities worth knowing and she has many good values worth your time. Let her kids be not of hindrance to you. As long as there is understanding, patience, dedication and love, you will both have a lasting relationship that you both will enjoy in the coming years.
http://www.articledashboard.com/Article/Will-You-Date-Women-With-Children-/332675
How The Shy Guy Can Start Dating
Many people have to overcome their shyness before starting to date. If you are a very shy person, you should be encouraged by the fact that a lot of persons like you have learned to have active dating lifestyles.
However, shy guys could not get themselves to make the first move or ask someone out on a date without considerable struggle or pain. This could block your chance of introducing yourself to someone you find very interesting.
There is a double-edge sword for shy people. Most times they belong to their own group of friends or family that provides them support. These groups know the person, understand the shyness and accept him or her, and often enjoy their company. This sense of refuge in your own group could work against the shy person and prevent them from venturing out to meet new people with different backgrounds and personalities. So what could a lonely shy person do besides curl up in front of the TV with the remote control?
The first thing to do is to recognize that being shy prevents you from dating and that you should overcome it. Sit yourself down and relax and start thinking of dating someone you like. Focus on the feelings, fears and apprehensions that develop as you start working yourself through the imaginary date. It is very helpful to have a clear understanding of your thoughts and feelings so you can confront the things that cause that paralyzing dread, that overwhelming shyness that could stop you dead on your tracks.
If you have great difficulty in isolating your thoughts, it would be a good idea to consider visiting a therapist for a few sessions of personal counseling. Only a few could be needed because the idea is for the therapist to help you identify the real causes of your shyness for dating. Once the process helps in isolating these causes, you would need little help in confronting or overcoming them. The counselor would also help build your confidence in facing these issues.
With or without the counselor, you could try to enact an imaginary date in your mind. Moving in precise steps: from meeting a woman, talking to her, calling her on the phone to set a date, choosing a place, picking her up, and so on. In your mind, walk yourself through each stage in as much detail as you can. Try to begin in a way or situation that is most comfortable with you. Then, at each stage, confront any tension or panic that you feel could prevent you from going to the next step. Repeat the “date” through each imaginary step until you can picture the entire dating sequence without feeling stressed out or petrified with shyness.
Once you understand your shyness and have a little idea of how to face it, it is time to go out with another person for a “test date”. Every person has persons from the opposite sex that is close to them. For guys, they would be a sister, a cousin, a good friend, colleague, or teammate. Make sure that the person is someone close to you and there is no chance of getting intimate with them. This friend should understand your dating (or more appropriately, “non-dating”) situation and be prepared to help you through some practice night outs or dates.
Depending on how close you are to this practice date partner, you can go through all the motions of a real date. Contact or call them and do all the steps we identified earlier in your “imaginary date” in these practice nights out. Act out a role as if the other person is a potential romantic date.
As practice runs go, a shy person is bound to mess up some of the steps. So it’s good to have a good friend playing practice date. Both of them can laugh off all the bloopers during the exercise, and may even make up good funny stories in the future. More importantly, they could talk about what went wrong, or when some sudden shyness acted up again. Remember, shyness not only affects how you relate to your date, but probably all people that the person will meet while he or she is with the said date (like the bartender, waiter, other guests in the restaurant, etc…). Having test dates will help call out potential “shy” traps.
Often, shyness comes from having feelings of low self-esteem. If it is something like being self-conscious of one’s weight or clothes, it could be remedied. Going on a fitness training program or changing your wardrobe will solve those two problems. And you should know that regular exercise gives you a slight feeling of exhilaration. So although you may not have lost all the extra pounds, you feel healthier, fitter and more comfortable around other people. The important thing is you did something to remove that feeling of inadequacy and made yourself feel better about yourself.
The pick-up lines, choice of date places, and seduction come a little later. What a shy guy should remember is overcoming the hurdle of meeting other people for a date is the key to starting off an active dating life.
http://www.articledashboard.com/Article/How-The-Shy-Guy-Can-Start-Dating/332703
However, shy guys could not get themselves to make the first move or ask someone out on a date without considerable struggle or pain. This could block your chance of introducing yourself to someone you find very interesting.
There is a double-edge sword for shy people. Most times they belong to their own group of friends or family that provides them support. These groups know the person, understand the shyness and accept him or her, and often enjoy their company. This sense of refuge in your own group could work against the shy person and prevent them from venturing out to meet new people with different backgrounds and personalities. So what could a lonely shy person do besides curl up in front of the TV with the remote control?
The first thing to do is to recognize that being shy prevents you from dating and that you should overcome it. Sit yourself down and relax and start thinking of dating someone you like. Focus on the feelings, fears and apprehensions that develop as you start working yourself through the imaginary date. It is very helpful to have a clear understanding of your thoughts and feelings so you can confront the things that cause that paralyzing dread, that overwhelming shyness that could stop you dead on your tracks.
If you have great difficulty in isolating your thoughts, it would be a good idea to consider visiting a therapist for a few sessions of personal counseling. Only a few could be needed because the idea is for the therapist to help you identify the real causes of your shyness for dating. Once the process helps in isolating these causes, you would need little help in confronting or overcoming them. The counselor would also help build your confidence in facing these issues.
With or without the counselor, you could try to enact an imaginary date in your mind. Moving in precise steps: from meeting a woman, talking to her, calling her on the phone to set a date, choosing a place, picking her up, and so on. In your mind, walk yourself through each stage in as much detail as you can. Try to begin in a way or situation that is most comfortable with you. Then, at each stage, confront any tension or panic that you feel could prevent you from going to the next step. Repeat the “date” through each imaginary step until you can picture the entire dating sequence without feeling stressed out or petrified with shyness.
Once you understand your shyness and have a little idea of how to face it, it is time to go out with another person for a “test date”. Every person has persons from the opposite sex that is close to them. For guys, they would be a sister, a cousin, a good friend, colleague, or teammate. Make sure that the person is someone close to you and there is no chance of getting intimate with them. This friend should understand your dating (or more appropriately, “non-dating”) situation and be prepared to help you through some practice night outs or dates.
Depending on how close you are to this practice date partner, you can go through all the motions of a real date. Contact or call them and do all the steps we identified earlier in your “imaginary date” in these practice nights out. Act out a role as if the other person is a potential romantic date.
As practice runs go, a shy person is bound to mess up some of the steps. So it’s good to have a good friend playing practice date. Both of them can laugh off all the bloopers during the exercise, and may even make up good funny stories in the future. More importantly, they could talk about what went wrong, or when some sudden shyness acted up again. Remember, shyness not only affects how you relate to your date, but probably all people that the person will meet while he or she is with the said date (like the bartender, waiter, other guests in the restaurant, etc…). Having test dates will help call out potential “shy” traps.
Often, shyness comes from having feelings of low self-esteem. If it is something like being self-conscious of one’s weight or clothes, it could be remedied. Going on a fitness training program or changing your wardrobe will solve those two problems. And you should know that regular exercise gives you a slight feeling of exhilaration. So although you may not have lost all the extra pounds, you feel healthier, fitter and more comfortable around other people. The important thing is you did something to remove that feeling of inadequacy and made yourself feel better about yourself.
The pick-up lines, choice of date places, and seduction come a little later. What a shy guy should remember is overcoming the hurdle of meeting other people for a date is the key to starting off an active dating life.
http://www.articledashboard.com/Article/How-The-Shy-Guy-Can-Start-Dating/332703
Dating Shyness - How To Overcome Your Shyness When Dating
Dating shyness can be an obstacle for people who are timid or introverted. Aside from the natural “players” who circle the dating game as if it’s a carnival ride, some people just aren’t born lucky. Let’s figure out if you have dating shyness or if you’re the ultimate natural at the dating scene. Ask yourself these questions.
Do you end up being your most boring self on a date? Do you get tongue-tied and out of words? Do you simply sit there and mumble your answers for fear of saying something silly? Then, congratulations! This article is undeniably the one for you.
Below are tips on overcoming your dating shyness. I hope you learn enough to get past those first-dates only category.
Being naturally shy isn’t supposed to be your fault. If you are uncomfortable opening up or sharing too much of yourself too soon, this can work to your advantage. For the opposite sex, you can be mistaken as somebody quite “mysterious”. And mystery breeds its own sort of anticipation.
Instead of talking about yourself on a date, focus instead on the other person. Don’t feign interest; be genuine by being eager to know more about your date. That way, you can remain your shy self, without ruining the date.
Ask questions. Be nice and polite. Dating shyness can’t be that bad, you don’t have to be the Extrovert-of-the-Year to score points on that first date!
Figure out what makes you shy. Deal with provoking situations as you would a math problem. Do it a step at a time. If you feel tense being on blind dates and having dinner with a complete stranger, then don’t. Why not go into cyber romance first?
Get to know somebody by emailing, chatting or even text messaging. If you feel comfortable enough, you can meet up later on, right? That way you wouldn’t be too shy once you see him/her up close.
So you see, being shy doesn’t mean you should miss out on the dating opportunities at your feet. All you have to do is to work your way around dating shyness until it works to your advantage. It’s nothing really harmful as long as it’s a natural part of your personality. Besides if your date really does like you for who you are, it won’t matter if you’re outgoing or extremely shy.
http://www.articledashboard.com/Article/Dating-Shyness---How-to-Overcome-Your-Shyness-When-Dating/333018
Do you end up being your most boring self on a date? Do you get tongue-tied and out of words? Do you simply sit there and mumble your answers for fear of saying something silly? Then, congratulations! This article is undeniably the one for you.
Below are tips on overcoming your dating shyness. I hope you learn enough to get past those first-dates only category.
Being naturally shy isn’t supposed to be your fault. If you are uncomfortable opening up or sharing too much of yourself too soon, this can work to your advantage. For the opposite sex, you can be mistaken as somebody quite “mysterious”. And mystery breeds its own sort of anticipation.
Instead of talking about yourself on a date, focus instead on the other person. Don’t feign interest; be genuine by being eager to know more about your date. That way, you can remain your shy self, without ruining the date.
Ask questions. Be nice and polite. Dating shyness can’t be that bad, you don’t have to be the Extrovert-of-the-Year to score points on that first date!
Figure out what makes you shy. Deal with provoking situations as you would a math problem. Do it a step at a time. If you feel tense being on blind dates and having dinner with a complete stranger, then don’t. Why not go into cyber romance first?
Get to know somebody by emailing, chatting or even text messaging. If you feel comfortable enough, you can meet up later on, right? That way you wouldn’t be too shy once you see him/her up close.
So you see, being shy doesn’t mean you should miss out on the dating opportunities at your feet. All you have to do is to work your way around dating shyness until it works to your advantage. It’s nothing really harmful as long as it’s a natural part of your personality. Besides if your date really does like you for who you are, it won’t matter if you’re outgoing or extremely shy.
http://www.articledashboard.com/Article/Dating-Shyness---How-to-Overcome-Your-Shyness-When-Dating/333018
Wednesday, November 14, 2007
Dating After Being Ditched
Dating after being ditched differs from individual to individual, their measure of heart-break, measure of damage to their self-esteem and the length of time indulge in their relationship. A heart-break for sure could completely devastate and ruin the mental stability of a person no matter how long you stay in your relationship.
Casual dating is a great way to maintain the understanding on how to date and it prevents severe heart ache. There are many methods available to individuals to deal with the hard time. It is recommended not to jump back into a serious relationship right away instead work on the lost self-esteem and re-evaluate your styles and conduct. It is also necessary to work on the reason behind the unsuccessful dating because if the individual does not know exactly why they were ditched in the first place then it will be difficult to continue with dating in the future.
Though dating varies for individual it mostly depends on how involved and attached to someone this person was. Some people can bounce back may be because their relationship lasted after a few weeks, and the pain may be easier to deal with whereas others consider themselves unfortunate and feel reluctant for another date or dump themselves in one dark corner of a room not allowing happiness penetrate their gloomy world. It is understood that people fall on their face with a great thud when they are ditched and the pain and sorrow may linger indefinitely, and the time to revive over a lost love and stepping back in the world of dating in search of a reliable new date is unpredictable but it is suggested to stop brooding on the past events, because the more you think of sad past the more you will get entangle which will create a problem in future in building a new relationship.
Wait for the depression to subsides and go out but remember to give a limited time and indulge yourself in making new forceless connections with the support of your friends and family. It is vital not to dwell on the past instead get out and do something to your heart and mind satisfaction. Find a new activity that is enjoyed, take classes or go on a camping trip with a social group because the longer an individual sits at home the more uncomfortable they are in their new surroundings. Dust all the negative cobwebs in your mind and get ready for a new start.
http://www.articlesuniverse.com/Article/Dating-After-Being-Ditched/70814
Casual dating is a great way to maintain the understanding on how to date and it prevents severe heart ache. There are many methods available to individuals to deal with the hard time. It is recommended not to jump back into a serious relationship right away instead work on the lost self-esteem and re-evaluate your styles and conduct. It is also necessary to work on the reason behind the unsuccessful dating because if the individual does not know exactly why they were ditched in the first place then it will be difficult to continue with dating in the future.
Though dating varies for individual it mostly depends on how involved and attached to someone this person was. Some people can bounce back may be because their relationship lasted after a few weeks, and the pain may be easier to deal with whereas others consider themselves unfortunate and feel reluctant for another date or dump themselves in one dark corner of a room not allowing happiness penetrate their gloomy world. It is understood that people fall on their face with a great thud when they are ditched and the pain and sorrow may linger indefinitely, and the time to revive over a lost love and stepping back in the world of dating in search of a reliable new date is unpredictable but it is suggested to stop brooding on the past events, because the more you think of sad past the more you will get entangle which will create a problem in future in building a new relationship.
Wait for the depression to subsides and go out but remember to give a limited time and indulge yourself in making new forceless connections with the support of your friends and family. It is vital not to dwell on the past instead get out and do something to your heart and mind satisfaction. Find a new activity that is enjoyed, take classes or go on a camping trip with a social group because the longer an individual sits at home the more uncomfortable they are in their new surroundings. Dust all the negative cobwebs in your mind and get ready for a new start.
http://www.articlesuniverse.com/Article/Dating-After-Being-Ditched/70814
Dating: A Unique Human Experience
Dating consists of sequence of events in one's life that reveals a lot about the people themselves. As viewed from different angles by the wide population around the world, for some dating is a bitter experience and for others it is a sort of sports, where the winner will be awarded the best lifetime achievement award with an understanding life partner. Whatever good or bad reasons it might be, dating holds a unique place in a human experience that most people participate in during their lives.
Dating is an amusing way to enter into a new kinship where you get the chance to taste the different flavor of a relationship and it also ensure you to spice up your relationship with your own taste-maker. You can also learn how to act in a relationship and the impact of dating on the course of a relationship by following the rules of dating. Among the existing variety of code of correct conduct in terms of dealing with one another within the general rules of dating, some of the issues like the experience of the "first kiss" are up for some debate. According to many the first kiss should take place after three dates, while still others insist that in such cases time and location does not matter.
Culturally definition of dating differs widely. For example people with Indian or Asian origin, believe in a concept called "arranged marriage", which effectively go against conventional dating altogether. An arranged marriage is best way to skip the demanding job of dating, actually having to impress someone and which is also time consuming whereas in other cultures, dating seems to be taken as an unnecessary and purposeless in getting someone ready for marriage. Again for many people in the Western culture, dating is a prospect that agitates the spring chicken of the countries, to date in their young age as they cannot wait until they are old enough.
Whatever might be the definitions and motivations, nowadays for many people dating serves as a form of marriage preparation and for others it serves as a form of entertainment in which people date for years without any commitment. Where marriage, is considered settling down with a single person for years and many people view that as being undesirable and reserved for later years, there dating seems to be mostly preferred by those who do not want to go for any commitment.
http://www.articlesuniverse.com/Article/Dating--A-Unique-Human-Experience/70823
Dating is an amusing way to enter into a new kinship where you get the chance to taste the different flavor of a relationship and it also ensure you to spice up your relationship with your own taste-maker. You can also learn how to act in a relationship and the impact of dating on the course of a relationship by following the rules of dating. Among the existing variety of code of correct conduct in terms of dealing with one another within the general rules of dating, some of the issues like the experience of the "first kiss" are up for some debate. According to many the first kiss should take place after three dates, while still others insist that in such cases time and location does not matter.
Culturally definition of dating differs widely. For example people with Indian or Asian origin, believe in a concept called "arranged marriage", which effectively go against conventional dating altogether. An arranged marriage is best way to skip the demanding job of dating, actually having to impress someone and which is also time consuming whereas in other cultures, dating seems to be taken as an unnecessary and purposeless in getting someone ready for marriage. Again for many people in the Western culture, dating is a prospect that agitates the spring chicken of the countries, to date in their young age as they cannot wait until they are old enough.
Whatever might be the definitions and motivations, nowadays for many people dating serves as a form of marriage preparation and for others it serves as a form of entertainment in which people date for years without any commitment. Where marriage, is considered settling down with a single person for years and many people view that as being undesirable and reserved for later years, there dating seems to be mostly preferred by those who do not want to go for any commitment.
http://www.articlesuniverse.com/Article/Dating--A-Unique-Human-Experience/70823
Soft Hair And Skin Au Naturelle
Just picture this, your walking down the beach front, its a warm sunny day, a light breeze in from the sea is gently blowing through your hair gives it more waves than the ocean. People look at you, men admire your hair and the women are jealous, some ask how come your hair is so soft and shiny. At the same time they notice how baby soft your skin looks, you look at them with a knowing smile and tell them your secret, 'I use Urine Therapy' you say.
Hold on, stop the boat, get the nose clip out, 'you use urine therapy' they say, 'yes, it's amazing' with that you gently glide into the sunset with your hair bouncing for joy.
Ok, its seems a little like a hair spray commercial, that is all except the urine therapy part, but its true, your OWN urine is one of natures gifts.
First of all lets dispense with a few myths about natures finest.
Urine smells !!
Well actually urine does smell, about 20 minutes after leaving the body a certain amount of oxidation takes place and a ammonia like smell occurs, but its harmless and good ventilation or aroma oil keeps the smell down.
Urine is poisonous !!
Well actually its not, 95% of urine is water, 2.5% consists of urea and the remaining 2.5% is a mixture of minerals, salt, hormones and enzymes. Toxic substances are being removed from the body through the liver, intestines, skin and through the out-breath.
Medical researchers have discovered that many of the elements of the blood that are found in urine have enormous medicinal value, and when reintroduced to the body, they boost the body's immune defenses and stimulate healing in a way that nothing else does.
I'm not going to try and convince you about the purity of urine, if you do a search on the net with 'urine therapy' there are many pages describing to process through the body that creates good wholesome urine. In fact its only in the last 50 years that urine has gone out of fashion, it has been highly praised through out history as a natural substance that has many healing properties. One of the biggest users of urine has been the cosmetic industry, traditionally produced by horses, it is used as a skin moisturizer. It is only since the rise of the pharmaceutical industry that the use of urine as a general medicine has ceased, well in the West, it is still highly prized in the Far East. Nothing to do with the fact that pharmaceutical companies can't make a profit from it no doubt.
I've had personal experience with its amazing properties. As a child I had eczema, my skin was always cracked and dry, as I grow older and changed my diet I grow out of it, except for a bad patch on my right elbow. No cream or ointment could cure this patch, it would often bleed, especially when I was asleep. The I saw a children's TV series, on a particular episode was a Dutchman called Coen Van Der Kroon who had wrote a book called 'Golden Fountain : The Complete Guide to Urine Therapy', I was so intrigued I tried the treatment. I put urine on my elbow 3/4 times a day, always washing my hands afterwards of course. After about two weeks, the eczema had disappeared and my skin completely re-generated and I've not had any problems since. Every so often I also use it on my skin, although 49 years old, I've skin like a young child.
Now this article isn't going to tell you how to use it, as I've stated there are many good sites that will explain all, it simply says 'give it a go, you might surprise yourself'
http://www.articlesuniverse.com/Article/Soft-Hair-And-Skin-Au-Naturelle/71812
Hold on, stop the boat, get the nose clip out, 'you use urine therapy' they say, 'yes, it's amazing' with that you gently glide into the sunset with your hair bouncing for joy.
Ok, its seems a little like a hair spray commercial, that is all except the urine therapy part, but its true, your OWN urine is one of natures gifts.
First of all lets dispense with a few myths about natures finest.
Urine smells !!
Well actually urine does smell, about 20 minutes after leaving the body a certain amount of oxidation takes place and a ammonia like smell occurs, but its harmless and good ventilation or aroma oil keeps the smell down.
Urine is poisonous !!
Well actually its not, 95% of urine is water, 2.5% consists of urea and the remaining 2.5% is a mixture of minerals, salt, hormones and enzymes. Toxic substances are being removed from the body through the liver, intestines, skin and through the out-breath.
Medical researchers have discovered that many of the elements of the blood that are found in urine have enormous medicinal value, and when reintroduced to the body, they boost the body's immune defenses and stimulate healing in a way that nothing else does.
I'm not going to try and convince you about the purity of urine, if you do a search on the net with 'urine therapy' there are many pages describing to process through the body that creates good wholesome urine. In fact its only in the last 50 years that urine has gone out of fashion, it has been highly praised through out history as a natural substance that has many healing properties. One of the biggest users of urine has been the cosmetic industry, traditionally produced by horses, it is used as a skin moisturizer. It is only since the rise of the pharmaceutical industry that the use of urine as a general medicine has ceased, well in the West, it is still highly prized in the Far East. Nothing to do with the fact that pharmaceutical companies can't make a profit from it no doubt.
I've had personal experience with its amazing properties. As a child I had eczema, my skin was always cracked and dry, as I grow older and changed my diet I grow out of it, except for a bad patch on my right elbow. No cream or ointment could cure this patch, it would often bleed, especially when I was asleep. The I saw a children's TV series, on a particular episode was a Dutchman called Coen Van Der Kroon who had wrote a book called 'Golden Fountain : The Complete Guide to Urine Therapy', I was so intrigued I tried the treatment. I put urine on my elbow 3/4 times a day, always washing my hands afterwards of course. After about two weeks, the eczema had disappeared and my skin completely re-generated and I've not had any problems since. Every so often I also use it on my skin, although 49 years old, I've skin like a young child.
Now this article isn't going to tell you how to use it, as I've stated there are many good sites that will explain all, it simply says 'give it a go, you might surprise yourself'
http://www.articlesuniverse.com/Article/Soft-Hair-And-Skin-Au-Naturelle/71812
Internet Dating Online: 3 Ways to Make Sure You Play It Safe
According to recent numbers, 40 million Americans have jumped into the online dating pool. The amount of usage and particular dating agencies varies per individual of course but even with taking these things into account, online dating is becoming more comfortable and accessible to the general population. For instance, Online Dating Magazine estimates there are over 120,000 marriages per year that are a direct result of internet dating. These numbers are only going to grow as the online dating becomes more interactive
Unfortunately there is a flip side. Many of us have heard or seen the stories about online hookups that have gone tragically wrong. While these incidents remain in the definite minority, they do exist.
Many free online dating services have yet to implement a screening process. The result is you really do not have any guarantees about the other person you are trying to meet. But let us face it; even if they prescreen applicants thoroughly, people have been known to lie. This means the responsibility of online dating safety falls squarely on to your shoulders. Use the following tips as guidelines and then later on add more of your own.
1. Good Judgment
None of us is perfect so you can never be right one hundred percent of the time but trusting someone online that you just met with the most intimate details of your life is not a good idea. In fact, it is downright dangerous. Trust has to be earned offline so the same should go double on the internet. If you sense the person on the other end is lying, then there is a strong likelihood they probably are.
It is not only the lack of telling the truth that should set off bells and whistles. Maybe they seem a little too aggressive in their answers or way too anxious to meet you immediately. Whatever the case, keep your thinking logical and your common sense on high alert.
2. Go Slow on Sharing Personal Information
You have probably seen those online dating profiles where the person volunteers every bit of their personal information including the exact hour they were born. Eventually you are going to share things like your phone number and home address but do not rush it. Also make sure your signature file is turned off or at the very least, it does not have any identifying information. Do a little bit more chatting and investigating.
3. One Phone Call Away
Okay so you both agree that it is time to hear each other's voices. Now you are still in the investigation phase so do yourself a favor and call from a public phone (no need to give your cell phone or home number just yet). You should be able to get a better feel for the other person by having a phone conversation. Do you sense something in their tone or words that make you uneasy? Are the answers a little too perfect for your taste (i.e. telling you what they think you want to hear?). After you hang up do some serious analyzing. If you have to talk it over with someone close to you, than by all means do so.
Online dating is the new wave and it can be a lot of fun but to get the most out of it, you must include safety as one of your top priorities. There are other steps that you should follow but start by going slow with sharing your personal information, the phone conversation and above all exercise good judgment. Keep in mind that it is better to be unhurried and overly cautious, than to let your emotions rush you into a bad situation.
http://www.articlesuniverse.com/Article/Internet-Dating-Online--3-Ways-to-Make-Sure-You-Play-It-Safe/72421
Unfortunately there is a flip side. Many of us have heard or seen the stories about online hookups that have gone tragically wrong. While these incidents remain in the definite minority, they do exist.
Many free online dating services have yet to implement a screening process. The result is you really do not have any guarantees about the other person you are trying to meet. But let us face it; even if they prescreen applicants thoroughly, people have been known to lie. This means the responsibility of online dating safety falls squarely on to your shoulders. Use the following tips as guidelines and then later on add more of your own.
1. Good Judgment
None of us is perfect so you can never be right one hundred percent of the time but trusting someone online that you just met with the most intimate details of your life is not a good idea. In fact, it is downright dangerous. Trust has to be earned offline so the same should go double on the internet. If you sense the person on the other end is lying, then there is a strong likelihood they probably are.
It is not only the lack of telling the truth that should set off bells and whistles. Maybe they seem a little too aggressive in their answers or way too anxious to meet you immediately. Whatever the case, keep your thinking logical and your common sense on high alert.
2. Go Slow on Sharing Personal Information
You have probably seen those online dating profiles where the person volunteers every bit of their personal information including the exact hour they were born. Eventually you are going to share things like your phone number and home address but do not rush it. Also make sure your signature file is turned off or at the very least, it does not have any identifying information. Do a little bit more chatting and investigating.
3. One Phone Call Away
Okay so you both agree that it is time to hear each other's voices. Now you are still in the investigation phase so do yourself a favor and call from a public phone (no need to give your cell phone or home number just yet). You should be able to get a better feel for the other person by having a phone conversation. Do you sense something in their tone or words that make you uneasy? Are the answers a little too perfect for your taste (i.e. telling you what they think you want to hear?). After you hang up do some serious analyzing. If you have to talk it over with someone close to you, than by all means do so.
Online dating is the new wave and it can be a lot of fun but to get the most out of it, you must include safety as one of your top priorities. There are other steps that you should follow but start by going slow with sharing your personal information, the phone conversation and above all exercise good judgment. Keep in mind that it is better to be unhurried and overly cautious, than to let your emotions rush you into a bad situation.
http://www.articlesuniverse.com/Article/Internet-Dating-Online--3-Ways-to-Make-Sure-You-Play-It-Safe/72421
Internet Dating Online - 3 Ways to Make Sure You Play It Safe
According to recent numbers, 40 million Americans have jumped into the online dating pool. The amount of usage and particular dating agencies varies per individual of course but even with taking these things into account, online dating is becoming more comfortable and accessible to the general population. For instance, Online Dating Magazine estimates there are over 120,000 marriages per year that are a direct result of internet dating. These numbers are only going to grow as the online dating becomes more interactive
Unfortunately there is a flip side. Many of us have heard or seen the stories about online hookups that have gone tragically wrong. While these incidents remain in the definite minority, they do exist.
Many free online dating services have yet to implement a screening process. The result is you really do not have any guarantees about the other person you are trying to meet. But let us face it; even if they prescreen applicants thoroughly, people have been known to lie. This means the responsibility of online dating safety falls squarely on to your shoulders. Use the following tips as guidelines and then later on add more of your own.
1. Good Judgment
None of us is perfect so you can never be right one hundred percent of the time but trusting someone online that you just met with the most intimate details of your life is not a good idea. In fact, it is downright dangerous. Trust has to be earned offline so the same should go double on the internet. If you sense the person on the other end is lying, then there is a strong likelihood they probably are.
It is not only the lack of telling the truth that should set off bells and whistles. Maybe they seem a little too aggressive in their answers or way too anxious to meet you immediately. Whatever the case, keep your thinking logical and your common sense on high alert.
2. Go Slow on Sharing Personal Information
You have probably seen those online dating profiles where the person volunteers every bit of their personal information including the exact hour they were born. Eventually you are going to share things like your phone number and home address but do not rush it. Also make sure your signature file is turned off or at the very least, it does not have any identifying information. Do a little bit more chatting and investigating.
3. One Phone Call Away
Okay so you both agree that it is time to hear each other's voices. Now you are still in the investigation phase so do yourself a favor and call from a public phone (no need to give your cell phone or home number just yet). You should be able to get a better feel for the other person by having a phone conversation. Do you sense something in their tone or words that make you uneasy? Are the answers a little too perfect for your taste (i.e. telling you what they think you want to hear?). After you hang up do some serious analyzing. If you have to talk it over with someone close to you, than by all means do so.
Online dating is the new wave and it can be a lot of fun but to get the most out of it, you must include safety as one of your top priorities. There are other steps that you should follow but start by going slow with sharing your personal information, the phone conversation and above all exercise good judgment. Keep in mind that it is better to be unhurried and overly cautious, than to let your emotions rush you into a bad situation.
http://www.articlesuniverse.com/Article/Internet-Dating-Online---3-Ways-to-Make-Sure-You-Play-It-Safe/72643
Unfortunately there is a flip side. Many of us have heard or seen the stories about online hookups that have gone tragically wrong. While these incidents remain in the definite minority, they do exist.
Many free online dating services have yet to implement a screening process. The result is you really do not have any guarantees about the other person you are trying to meet. But let us face it; even if they prescreen applicants thoroughly, people have been known to lie. This means the responsibility of online dating safety falls squarely on to your shoulders. Use the following tips as guidelines and then later on add more of your own.
1. Good Judgment
None of us is perfect so you can never be right one hundred percent of the time but trusting someone online that you just met with the most intimate details of your life is not a good idea. In fact, it is downright dangerous. Trust has to be earned offline so the same should go double on the internet. If you sense the person on the other end is lying, then there is a strong likelihood they probably are.
It is not only the lack of telling the truth that should set off bells and whistles. Maybe they seem a little too aggressive in their answers or way too anxious to meet you immediately. Whatever the case, keep your thinking logical and your common sense on high alert.
2. Go Slow on Sharing Personal Information
You have probably seen those online dating profiles where the person volunteers every bit of their personal information including the exact hour they were born. Eventually you are going to share things like your phone number and home address but do not rush it. Also make sure your signature file is turned off or at the very least, it does not have any identifying information. Do a little bit more chatting and investigating.
3. One Phone Call Away
Okay so you both agree that it is time to hear each other's voices. Now you are still in the investigation phase so do yourself a favor and call from a public phone (no need to give your cell phone or home number just yet). You should be able to get a better feel for the other person by having a phone conversation. Do you sense something in their tone or words that make you uneasy? Are the answers a little too perfect for your taste (i.e. telling you what they think you want to hear?). After you hang up do some serious analyzing. If you have to talk it over with someone close to you, than by all means do so.
Online dating is the new wave and it can be a lot of fun but to get the most out of it, you must include safety as one of your top priorities. There are other steps that you should follow but start by going slow with sharing your personal information, the phone conversation and above all exercise good judgment. Keep in mind that it is better to be unhurried and overly cautious, than to let your emotions rush you into a bad situation.
http://www.articlesuniverse.com/Article/Internet-Dating-Online---3-Ways-to-Make-Sure-You-Play-It-Safe/72643
Tuesday, November 13, 2007
Good Advice On Dating For The First Time.
Do you remember your first date? I bet you do. It doesnt matter if you are having your first they girlfriend, or you have had ten girls. You always get nervous. Of course, if you have been friends with that girl and suddenly youve decided to invite her to go out, that might be easier, because you already know each other, at least a little bit. That can help you to feel less nervous.
But what if you dont know her very well? Thats where the fun is! You need to discover how wonderful that girl is, and of course, you have to may it easy for her to know how wonderful you are. You feel nervous, excited and happy. You must dress casual, dont try to impress her too much with your wardrobe, At least at the beginning. What about buying a little gift for her on your first date? You see, I dont really like that idea, however I have lots of friends who have received flowers or chocolates on their first dates and they loved it. I still dont know any woman who doesnt like a little detail from a man.
When you decided to invite that girl to go out, you really need to have a plan. But wait, Im not talking about planning on taking her to be with you alone, you know what I mean. When I say planning Im talking about have some ideas of where to go with her to have fun. Its good to be spontaneous, but sometimes you are a little too nervous to think straight, so you need to have a plan beforehand to make your date go smooth and as natural as possible. For example, let say that you dont have a plan and at some point you have the idea of taking her to that nice restaurant downtown. But what if there is no table? How would you feel? Why not book at table in the morning or the day before? You get the idea. A good idea for your first date with that special one is to take her somewhere for lunch and not to a very formal dinner. This can help you to feel less nervous because the environment is as casual as it can be. If everything goes fine, then you can go to the next level and invite her to that elegant restaurant, but now you know a little more about her and what she likes.
Do you know what to talk about in your dates? I still remember when I met with a girl I like; I never knew what to talk about. I used to ask some friends for advice; and I even used to write down what I was going to talk about. I laugh about it now, but in those days I was so nervous that I would prefer to die. A good advice to be a good speaker, Is to be a good listener first. By good listener I mean that you get really interested in what shes talking about , Asking questions , And make Comments , Never in interrupt her to roughly . When its your turn to talk, please not to relate your whole life, just give her some funny anecdotes about you. Trying not to be a jerk by telling red or sexual jokes too much or in your first dates.
Many people who are too shy or have been living alone for some time, find it difficult to go and talk to a girl by themselves and use the service of dating agencies. I wont say anything bad about these companies, but try not to use them as your only hope. Maybe that Special one is in their files but maybe is not. It is nice to know that some companies tried to help you with your sentimental life, but wouldnt it be great if you met your partner in a public place?
A new trend has been becoming very popular, that is the Speed Dating sessions. Here, you have a few minutes to chat, in that time you can decide if you like the person or not. Its not too much time but at least you are not trying to be nice to someone for long time.
http://www.articlejoe.com/Article/Good-Advice-On-Dating-For-The-First-Time-/26182
But what if you dont know her very well? Thats where the fun is! You need to discover how wonderful that girl is, and of course, you have to may it easy for her to know how wonderful you are. You feel nervous, excited and happy. You must dress casual, dont try to impress her too much with your wardrobe, At least at the beginning. What about buying a little gift for her on your first date? You see, I dont really like that idea, however I have lots of friends who have received flowers or chocolates on their first dates and they loved it. I still dont know any woman who doesnt like a little detail from a man.
When you decided to invite that girl to go out, you really need to have a plan. But wait, Im not talking about planning on taking her to be with you alone, you know what I mean. When I say planning Im talking about have some ideas of where to go with her to have fun. Its good to be spontaneous, but sometimes you are a little too nervous to think straight, so you need to have a plan beforehand to make your date go smooth and as natural as possible. For example, let say that you dont have a plan and at some point you have the idea of taking her to that nice restaurant downtown. But what if there is no table? How would you feel? Why not book at table in the morning or the day before? You get the idea. A good idea for your first date with that special one is to take her somewhere for lunch and not to a very formal dinner. This can help you to feel less nervous because the environment is as casual as it can be. If everything goes fine, then you can go to the next level and invite her to that elegant restaurant, but now you know a little more about her and what she likes.
Do you know what to talk about in your dates? I still remember when I met with a girl I like; I never knew what to talk about. I used to ask some friends for advice; and I even used to write down what I was going to talk about. I laugh about it now, but in those days I was so nervous that I would prefer to die. A good advice to be a good speaker, Is to be a good listener first. By good listener I mean that you get really interested in what shes talking about , Asking questions , And make Comments , Never in interrupt her to roughly . When its your turn to talk, please not to relate your whole life, just give her some funny anecdotes about you. Trying not to be a jerk by telling red or sexual jokes too much or in your first dates.
Many people who are too shy or have been living alone for some time, find it difficult to go and talk to a girl by themselves and use the service of dating agencies. I wont say anything bad about these companies, but try not to use them as your only hope. Maybe that Special one is in their files but maybe is not. It is nice to know that some companies tried to help you with your sentimental life, but wouldnt it be great if you met your partner in a public place?
A new trend has been becoming very popular, that is the Speed Dating sessions. Here, you have a few minutes to chat, in that time you can decide if you like the person or not. Its not too much time but at least you are not trying to be nice to someone for long time.
http://www.articlejoe.com/Article/Good-Advice-On-Dating-For-The-First-Time-/26182
Nerds Need Love Too
On a beautiful summer day a couple of years ago, a woman came to me with a simple problem. She wanted to find her true love but she did not want to change anything in her otherwise successful life. She did not belong to any social groups or health clubs, and her only friends lived many miles away in other cities.
Normally, to shake people out of a rut, you simply get them to try doing something new. But this time we were talking about love. Not just any love mind you, but true love, the kind of love that fairy tales are made from.
Strangely, as fate would have it, I was teaching a workshop where two college girls approached me with a similar question. They spent most of their time in the library studying. Because of the pressures of school, they just did not have time to dedicate to the pursuit of what they considered a frivolous fancy.
Sure it would have been easy to give these love lost women a rousing pep talk about changing their lifestyles or social networking and send them on their way. But, except for one missing piece, they were shining examples of people living their dream lives.
There is magic in this universe. They just needed to know where to look.
Love is everywhere. You never know where or when Cupid’s arrow is going the strike. Simply, they all had to open themselves to the possibility of love in their otherwise enchanted lives.
I guess love was in the air, or perhaps good things come in threes because a couple of days later, yet another woman asked me the same question. This time my motivational speech was prepared. I explained that we are all on different paths in life. Where one person finds love is not necessarily the same for everyone.
Happy ending. The last woman called me the very next day with a youthful joy in her voice. “Sonny,” she said, “I met someone on my way home from your office yesterday. Tonight we’re going out for dinner. I’m a little nervous, but you were right. There is magic in this universe. And thanks for understand. Nerds need love too.”
http://www.articlejoe.com/Article/Nerds-Need-Love-Too/26437
Normally, to shake people out of a rut, you simply get them to try doing something new. But this time we were talking about love. Not just any love mind you, but true love, the kind of love that fairy tales are made from.
Strangely, as fate would have it, I was teaching a workshop where two college girls approached me with a similar question. They spent most of their time in the library studying. Because of the pressures of school, they just did not have time to dedicate to the pursuit of what they considered a frivolous fancy.
Sure it would have been easy to give these love lost women a rousing pep talk about changing their lifestyles or social networking and send them on their way. But, except for one missing piece, they were shining examples of people living their dream lives.
There is magic in this universe. They just needed to know where to look.
Love is everywhere. You never know where or when Cupid’s arrow is going the strike. Simply, they all had to open themselves to the possibility of love in their otherwise enchanted lives.
I guess love was in the air, or perhaps good things come in threes because a couple of days later, yet another woman asked me the same question. This time my motivational speech was prepared. I explained that we are all on different paths in life. Where one person finds love is not necessarily the same for everyone.
Happy ending. The last woman called me the very next day with a youthful joy in her voice. “Sonny,” she said, “I met someone on my way home from your office yesterday. Tonight we’re going out for dinner. I’m a little nervous, but you were right. There is magic in this universe. And thanks for understand. Nerds need love too.”
http://www.articlejoe.com/Article/Nerds-Need-Love-Too/26437
Get to Know, Meet And Date Indonesian Women
The Indonesian people are tremendously well known throughout the world for their soft, hospitable and generous nature. Even more so are the women. They are renowned for their lovingness, honesty, caring nature and beauty to say the least. They hold true traditional and old fashion family values, are extremely devoted when it comes to family matters and make excellent wives. Indonesians are a god fearing and religious people, the women are also more conservative than those of other countries. Unlike women in western countries, Indonesian ladies generally shun away from free sex and public display of affection, such as kissing. They are generally very shy, timid and are very respectable, although in no way are they distant or emotionally cold. On the contrary, they are extremely affectionate, loving, romantic, loyal and make perfect life partners. They are especially honest and trustworthy towards their husbands, and family is the most important aspect of their lives.
Indonesian women are generally very gentle, soft and feminine. They are very friendly and very outgoing and love to smile and laugh, no matter what the situation may be. They always look on the brighter side of life and are very humble and grateful for what they have and value the simple things that life has to offer. Indonesian women are also not materialistic or spoilt as women of western countries. In addition to their beautiful personalities, Indonesian ladies are also physically beautiful and are amongst some of the most beautiful women of the world. They have elegant natural beauty, dark soft skin, beautiful strong black hair and vivid facial features. Their physical features definitely compliment their warm, positive and joyous personalities.
Indonesian ladies are also very intelligent, educated, business minded and extremely gifted in the arts and crafts. They have also attained high status within Indonesian society and have made their mark on the international scene. Such two examples are Agguun, the multilingual international singer and Megawati Sukarno Putri, Indonesia's first female and democratically elected leader. Indonesian women have come a long way in the last 50 years and will continue to achieve great accomplishments in the many years to come.
Having said all that, there are many ways to personally meet the women of Indonesia, and they are very open towards meeting western men. Most ladies view western men as being the perfect gentlemen: extremely handsome, caring, sensitive and loyal. The internet provides many ways to do so with the various dating sites about. It is well worth the step to forming a great friendship and possible relationship.
http://www.articlejoe.com/Article/Get-to-Know--Meet-And-Date-Indonesian-Women/26725
Indonesian women are generally very gentle, soft and feminine. They are very friendly and very outgoing and love to smile and laugh, no matter what the situation may be. They always look on the brighter side of life and are very humble and grateful for what they have and value the simple things that life has to offer. Indonesian women are also not materialistic or spoilt as women of western countries. In addition to their beautiful personalities, Indonesian ladies are also physically beautiful and are amongst some of the most beautiful women of the world. They have elegant natural beauty, dark soft skin, beautiful strong black hair and vivid facial features. Their physical features definitely compliment their warm, positive and joyous personalities.
Indonesian ladies are also very intelligent, educated, business minded and extremely gifted in the arts and crafts. They have also attained high status within Indonesian society and have made their mark on the international scene. Such two examples are Agguun, the multilingual international singer and Megawati Sukarno Putri, Indonesia's first female and democratically elected leader. Indonesian women have come a long way in the last 50 years and will continue to achieve great accomplishments in the many years to come.
Having said all that, there are many ways to personally meet the women of Indonesia, and they are very open towards meeting western men. Most ladies view western men as being the perfect gentlemen: extremely handsome, caring, sensitive and loyal. The internet provides many ways to do so with the various dating sites about. It is well worth the step to forming a great friendship and possible relationship.
http://www.articlejoe.com/Article/Get-to-Know--Meet-And-Date-Indonesian-Women/26725
They Probably Don’t Like You. Meet Her Friends and Survive!
Wow. You two really click when you're together. So to her it's only natural that you finally meet her friends.
"Great, can't wait", you tell her as you break into a cold sweat. You check your calendar in the hopes you have a dentist appointment that week. No such luck.
Is it that stressful? It can be. Her friends are very important to her and their opinions have the potential of making or breaking the relationship. For that reason it's crucial that you make a good impression and gain their trust.
The first step is to introduce yourself. It tells her friends you have confidence and cannot be intimidated. Intimidation equals manipulation equals no respect and her friends aren't going to go to bat for you if they don't respect you. Taking the initiative also lets her friends know you are not just putting on an act because your girlfriend insists you meet them.
Once you get acquainted with her friends do everything possible to remember their names but more than that, DON'T mix up their names later on. It doesn't matter if they all dress and act alike; calling one of her friends by the wrong name is a major gaffe. How bad is it? It's almost as bad as calling your girlfriend by the wrong name (ouch!). Use whatever word association tricks you need to keep the names straight.
You're in it now so don't sit there like a statue. Get involved in the conversation .This shows that you are interested in getting to know them. Don't hog the conversation but take an active part. Your girlfriend will appreciate the effort and more important her friends will have no reason not to like you…in the beginning at least (Hey that's life. You're trying to be Mr. Wonderful not Captain Perfect).
Now comes the balancing act. Your girlfriend may want you to take an interest in her friends but don't go overboard. Getting to know her friends is one thing but if she senses you're flirting (and women are very in tune to that sort of thing) or ignoring her in your effort to be friendly, it can cause problems or doom the relationship. Exercise caution when meeting her friends. Take an interest but not too much.
Listen carefully when you meet her friends for the first time. Try to hang on to as much information about them as possible. After the meeting when you're alone with your girlfriend, make a casual comment or ask a question RELATED to the earlier meeting. This lets her know that you were listening and that you have a real interest in getting to know her friends. Again this is a balancing act but for the most part you can pretty much figure that saying "you're girlfriend with the blue dress and cute dimples looked hot" is asking for trouble.
Your girlfriend's buddies are probably going to play a significant role in whether or not the relationship survives. Yes, it can seem like one long job interview but try to make a genuine effort to get to know her friends. Since you will probably be spending quite a bit of time with them, starting a courteous, respectful relationship can only make your girlfriend happy and your life a whole lot easier.
http://www.articlejoe.com/Article/They-Probably-Don-t-Like-You--Meet-Her-Friends-and-Survive-/27519
"Great, can't wait", you tell her as you break into a cold sweat. You check your calendar in the hopes you have a dentist appointment that week. No such luck.
Is it that stressful? It can be. Her friends are very important to her and their opinions have the potential of making or breaking the relationship. For that reason it's crucial that you make a good impression and gain their trust.
The first step is to introduce yourself. It tells her friends you have confidence and cannot be intimidated. Intimidation equals manipulation equals no respect and her friends aren't going to go to bat for you if they don't respect you. Taking the initiative also lets her friends know you are not just putting on an act because your girlfriend insists you meet them.
Once you get acquainted with her friends do everything possible to remember their names but more than that, DON'T mix up their names later on. It doesn't matter if they all dress and act alike; calling one of her friends by the wrong name is a major gaffe. How bad is it? It's almost as bad as calling your girlfriend by the wrong name (ouch!). Use whatever word association tricks you need to keep the names straight.
You're in it now so don't sit there like a statue. Get involved in the conversation .This shows that you are interested in getting to know them. Don't hog the conversation but take an active part. Your girlfriend will appreciate the effort and more important her friends will have no reason not to like you…in the beginning at least (Hey that's life. You're trying to be Mr. Wonderful not Captain Perfect).
Now comes the balancing act. Your girlfriend may want you to take an interest in her friends but don't go overboard. Getting to know her friends is one thing but if she senses you're flirting (and women are very in tune to that sort of thing) or ignoring her in your effort to be friendly, it can cause problems or doom the relationship. Exercise caution when meeting her friends. Take an interest but not too much.
Listen carefully when you meet her friends for the first time. Try to hang on to as much information about them as possible. After the meeting when you're alone with your girlfriend, make a casual comment or ask a question RELATED to the earlier meeting. This lets her know that you were listening and that you have a real interest in getting to know her friends. Again this is a balancing act but for the most part you can pretty much figure that saying "you're girlfriend with the blue dress and cute dimples looked hot" is asking for trouble.
Your girlfriend's buddies are probably going to play a significant role in whether or not the relationship survives. Yes, it can seem like one long job interview but try to make a genuine effort to get to know her friends. Since you will probably be spending quite a bit of time with them, starting a courteous, respectful relationship can only make your girlfriend happy and your life a whole lot easier.
http://www.articlejoe.com/Article/They-Probably-Don-t-Like-You--Meet-Her-Friends-and-Survive-/27519
Dating Your Coworker or Boss, Is This A Good Idea?
That’s a million dollar question! Dating your coworker or boss, someone you see at least five days a week, eight hours or more a day, why not? Well, that depends if dating your coworker will create problems in the workplace for you. Probably not a good idea to date your boss, this could cause problems for you down the line.
Imagine, you’re in the company cafeteria talking to your coworker that you date. Sally and John just walked into the cafeteria and they immediately start staring and whispering to themselves about the both of you. You know they’re talking about you because they look in your direction continuously while they whisper.
You and the coworker you date, feel very uncomfortable with Sally and John’’s reaction to you having lunch together. You think to yourselves that it may have been a mistake for you to have lunch together in the cafeteria where you work.
You’re now going to be the topic of your other coworkers conversation you believe, thanks to Sally and John who are known in the workplace as the king and queen of gossiping at your job. Both of you now wonder if the two of you should be dating and what were you thinking when you decided to have lunch together in the company’s cafeteria.
What type of problems could dating your coworker or maybe your boss cause? Well, what if you get into an argument at home or while you are on a date, when you go back to work you have to see that person almost everyday! If that person is your boss, then you could possibly loose that promotion you worked so hard for or maybe you have to walk on eggshells while you’re at work! This could make you feel very uncomfortable.
Or, if you’re getting along well with the coworker or boss you’re dating, your coworkers may think when they see you together that you may be getting special treatment. Especially if the boss you are dating favors you and gives you a promotion. This could cause a problem for the both of you.
If you just have to date your coworker or boss, consider keeping your personal relationship outside of the workplace! When you participate in this type of relationship, keep it professional in the office and personal outside of workplace. This is key in keeping the work place rumor mill to a minimum on having information about you and your coworker dating.
Only you will know if dating your coworker or boss will be a good idea for you. If you don’t believe this will cause a problem, then go for it! There are many people that have found their soul mates in the workplace. So do what makes you happy, after all you are in control of your own destiny and love life.
http://www.articlejoe.com/Article/Dating-Your-Coworker-or-Boss--Is-This-A-Good-Idea-/27541
Imagine, you’re in the company cafeteria talking to your coworker that you date. Sally and John just walked into the cafeteria and they immediately start staring and whispering to themselves about the both of you. You know they’re talking about you because they look in your direction continuously while they whisper.
You and the coworker you date, feel very uncomfortable with Sally and John’’s reaction to you having lunch together. You think to yourselves that it may have been a mistake for you to have lunch together in the cafeteria where you work.
You’re now going to be the topic of your other coworkers conversation you believe, thanks to Sally and John who are known in the workplace as the king and queen of gossiping at your job. Both of you now wonder if the two of you should be dating and what were you thinking when you decided to have lunch together in the company’s cafeteria.
What type of problems could dating your coworker or maybe your boss cause? Well, what if you get into an argument at home or while you are on a date, when you go back to work you have to see that person almost everyday! If that person is your boss, then you could possibly loose that promotion you worked so hard for or maybe you have to walk on eggshells while you’re at work! This could make you feel very uncomfortable.
Or, if you’re getting along well with the coworker or boss you’re dating, your coworkers may think when they see you together that you may be getting special treatment. Especially if the boss you are dating favors you and gives you a promotion. This could cause a problem for the both of you.
If you just have to date your coworker or boss, consider keeping your personal relationship outside of the workplace! When you participate in this type of relationship, keep it professional in the office and personal outside of workplace. This is key in keeping the work place rumor mill to a minimum on having information about you and your coworker dating.
Only you will know if dating your coworker or boss will be a good idea for you. If you don’t believe this will cause a problem, then go for it! There are many people that have found their soul mates in the workplace. So do what makes you happy, after all you are in control of your own destiny and love life.
http://www.articlejoe.com/Article/Dating-Your-Coworker-or-Boss--Is-This-A-Good-Idea-/27541
Monday, November 12, 2007
Online Dating Mistakes
There are a lot of mistakes that online daters make when they try online dating. These examples below are some that you have to watch out for or remember never to do.
Template messages
Men are usually the ones who commit these. Don't send the same messages to everyone that you are trying to have a connection with in online dating sites. Women have an eye for them and may not take you seriously. Besides it's pretty obvious because you message will come out looking generic. Messages that don't have anything personal about them (commenting on how a woman looks in her photo for example) automatically give away your message's obviousness.
The "sex" part
Don't mention sex when you're still trying to establish contact. Messages that sell your capabilities in the sack are just plain pathetic. Online daters will probably categorize you among the losers who feel the need to describe their sexual aptitude just to get girls.
The conceited comment
Don't tell a woman that you're a "good-looking" guy. Women have varying standards of male beauty. Just post a photo and let them be the judge of that.
Emphasizing negative preferences
Another no-no. Don't put things like "no liars" or "no heartbreakers" and whatnots. You don't want to seem angry at the world. Most online daters are searching for fun, even if some of them were also hurt in the past. These lines suggest that you're still bitter to whoever that was that made you hate those traits. So don't capitalize them either. Try to have a fun and happy profile. Not like someone who carries a lot of emotional burden.
Flirt first!
Don't take things too fast! Be sure to flirt with a woman first and get to know her more via email before sharing your phone number or asking her to meet you. Online dating gives you the chance to flirt online, don't waste it.
Be flexible!
Don't put too many restrictions on your preferences. You shouldn't be picky when it comes to women. You may be excluding the women with the right personality by doing so. Try to be flexible when joining the dating game. It much more fun that way.
Don't mention income!
Don't put how much money you make on your profile! Don't be so shallow as to base your interest on a person's economic status. Putting your income on your profile will either scare away women who are reading it or make them too uncomfortable to answer the messages you send them. Online dating is such a unique experience. But just because it is so, it doesn't mean you can take it for granted. Meeting women will be a whole lot easier yes but you still have to do it properly to succeed. So next time you post a profile or send women messages, stay away from these red flags.
If you're into dating and want some guides and tips on how to have a romantic bond between two opposite sexes Dansdatingblog is the site for you.
Dansdatingblog gives you the guide and the right tips to dating. Spice up your day as you get the finest advices based on personal experiences which will help you gain self confidence of having a romantic bond.
More online dating tips, adult dating advise, and free online dating guides on this website
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Template messages
Men are usually the ones who commit these. Don't send the same messages to everyone that you are trying to have a connection with in online dating sites. Women have an eye for them and may not take you seriously. Besides it's pretty obvious because you message will come out looking generic. Messages that don't have anything personal about them (commenting on how a woman looks in her photo for example) automatically give away your message's obviousness.
The "sex" part
Don't mention sex when you're still trying to establish contact. Messages that sell your capabilities in the sack are just plain pathetic. Online daters will probably categorize you among the losers who feel the need to describe their sexual aptitude just to get girls.
The conceited comment
Don't tell a woman that you're a "good-looking" guy. Women have varying standards of male beauty. Just post a photo and let them be the judge of that.
Emphasizing negative preferences
Another no-no. Don't put things like "no liars" or "no heartbreakers" and whatnots. You don't want to seem angry at the world. Most online daters are searching for fun, even if some of them were also hurt in the past. These lines suggest that you're still bitter to whoever that was that made you hate those traits. So don't capitalize them either. Try to have a fun and happy profile. Not like someone who carries a lot of emotional burden.
Flirt first!
Don't take things too fast! Be sure to flirt with a woman first and get to know her more via email before sharing your phone number or asking her to meet you. Online dating gives you the chance to flirt online, don't waste it.
Be flexible!
Don't put too many restrictions on your preferences. You shouldn't be picky when it comes to women. You may be excluding the women with the right personality by doing so. Try to be flexible when joining the dating game. It much more fun that way.
Don't mention income!
Don't put how much money you make on your profile! Don't be so shallow as to base your interest on a person's economic status. Putting your income on your profile will either scare away women who are reading it or make them too uncomfortable to answer the messages you send them. Online dating is such a unique experience. But just because it is so, it doesn't mean you can take it for granted. Meeting women will be a whole lot easier yes but you still have to do it properly to succeed. So next time you post a profile or send women messages, stay away from these red flags.
If you're into dating and want some guides and tips on how to have a romantic bond between two opposite sexes Dansdatingblog is the site for you.
Dansdatingblog gives you the guide and the right tips to dating. Spice up your day as you get the finest advices based on personal experiences which will help you gain self confidence of having a romantic bond.
More online dating tips, adult dating advise, and free online dating guides on this website
Did you find this article interesting? there's more best online dating information at this site
Find online dating stories, features on adult dating service, adult dating online from this informative page
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Dating After Divorce - Are You Over Your Ex
Beginning dating after a divorce can be difficult. Maybe you still care for your ex or are even hoping to get back together with him or her. Or, you may consider your divorce to be a positive situation, but you still aren't sure about dating again due to negative experiences that you had in previous relationships.
Before dating again, ask yourself if you are still pining for your ex and if so, consider whether a reconciliation is even possible or desirable. For example, what led to the breakup? Are these factors something that is within your control to fix, or is it your ex that must change? If it's your ex that needs behavior improvement, he or she has to decide to change and more importantly, follow through on the decision. Making major behavioral changes can be a long, bumpy road even for someone who is highly motivated.
Did you have a good relationship prior to the ending of the relationship? If not, then you may be looking to resurrect a dream rather than something based in reality. Remember both your positive and negative feelings about the relationship. Fight the tendency to only recall the good things and forget the bad. Take an objective view of the relationship and whether it's even worth putting energy into getting the ex back. If he or she is in a relationship with someone else, this is a great sign for you to move on no matter how wonderful the ex may be.
Before you begin dating after a divorce, make sure that you have explored your feelings about your past relationship and worked through them. You may be harboring hurt or anger that you need to release before you take those feelings out on an undeserving new partner. Think about the type of people that you have dated in the past. Do they have similar behavioral patterns such as disrespecting you or even abuse? You may need to date people who are not your “type” to break away from destructive relationship patterns. What about your behavioral patterns? You may be unconsciously attracting the type of mate that you don't want through your actions. It might be helpful to attend therapy to work through your feelings and get clear on what you really desire.
When you are able to view your relationship breakup as a learning experience and are ready to meet new potential partners with an open mind, you are ready to start dating after your divorce.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Annie_Parron
Before dating again, ask yourself if you are still pining for your ex and if so, consider whether a reconciliation is even possible or desirable. For example, what led to the breakup? Are these factors something that is within your control to fix, or is it your ex that must change? If it's your ex that needs behavior improvement, he or she has to decide to change and more importantly, follow through on the decision. Making major behavioral changes can be a long, bumpy road even for someone who is highly motivated.
Did you have a good relationship prior to the ending of the relationship? If not, then you may be looking to resurrect a dream rather than something based in reality. Remember both your positive and negative feelings about the relationship. Fight the tendency to only recall the good things and forget the bad. Take an objective view of the relationship and whether it's even worth putting energy into getting the ex back. If he or she is in a relationship with someone else, this is a great sign for you to move on no matter how wonderful the ex may be.
Before you begin dating after a divorce, make sure that you have explored your feelings about your past relationship and worked through them. You may be harboring hurt or anger that you need to release before you take those feelings out on an undeserving new partner. Think about the type of people that you have dated in the past. Do they have similar behavioral patterns such as disrespecting you or even abuse? You may need to date people who are not your “type” to break away from destructive relationship patterns. What about your behavioral patterns? You may be unconsciously attracting the type of mate that you don't want through your actions. It might be helpful to attend therapy to work through your feelings and get clear on what you really desire.
When you are able to view your relationship breakup as a learning experience and are ready to meet new potential partners with an open mind, you are ready to start dating after your divorce.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Annie_Parron
Saturday, November 10, 2007
How To Kiss On The First Date
Knowing how and when to kiss her can be a tricky thing. Kissing her too early will give a vulgar and insensitive impression, and kissing her too late will give her an insecure or un-confident feeling. The kiss itself says a lot about you, and will give her a lot of information about the future of your relationship. How do you make sure the first kiss is a great one? Read on to find out.
Kissing her at the right moment is a key point in how to kiss. As a general rule, I like to kiss a girl as soon as I know I can. Why? Because this tells her that the relationship isn't just going to "sit there" because I'm not comfortable moving things forward. Kissing her early also takes care of a lot of the tension in the air.
Showing her I know how to kiss early removes clears the air of being in a "dating process."
Reading if she's ready to be kissed is about feeling the intimacy of the interaction. How comfortable is she physically with you, and how comfortable is she with staying in an intimate energy with you? (I.e. Maintaining eye contact, letting you stroke her hair, touch the back of her neck without looking away, etc.)
Of course, showing her you know how to kiss well also gives a strong impression. See, women are always sub-consciously looking for "clues" as to how you are in bed. If the first kiss is awkward and forced, her mind automatically assumes that this is what it would be like in bed with you as well.
If you show her you know how to kiss well, and it feels sensual and passionate, her mind will also assume you're great in bed.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Derek_Carson
Kissing her at the right moment is a key point in how to kiss. As a general rule, I like to kiss a girl as soon as I know I can. Why? Because this tells her that the relationship isn't just going to "sit there" because I'm not comfortable moving things forward. Kissing her early also takes care of a lot of the tension in the air.
Showing her I know how to kiss early removes clears the air of being in a "dating process."
Reading if she's ready to be kissed is about feeling the intimacy of the interaction. How comfortable is she physically with you, and how comfortable is she with staying in an intimate energy with you? (I.e. Maintaining eye contact, letting you stroke her hair, touch the back of her neck without looking away, etc.)
Of course, showing her you know how to kiss well also gives a strong impression. See, women are always sub-consciously looking for "clues" as to how you are in bed. If the first kiss is awkward and forced, her mind automatically assumes that this is what it would be like in bed with you as well.
If you show her you know how to kiss well, and it feels sensual and passionate, her mind will also assume you're great in bed.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Derek_Carson
The Key to a Successful Relationships: Self Love
Are you wondering how could self love be so important in a relationship between two people? I will answer that question with another question, how can you love anyone if you can not love yourself? The answer is you can not. A great analogy is a stewardess on an airplane will always tell you that when the plane is going down, if the cabin is running low on oxygen, to always give yourself the oxygen first before giving it to an infant. If you give it to the infant first, you could pass out from lack of oxygen, and than both of you are goners. The same is true in a relationship; fill yourself up with self love first, and than you have plenty of love to give to your lucky partner.
So what is self love? Self love is not that egotist, self centered, conceited love that unfortunately some people have. These people put their own selfish needs first even when it hurts others. Self love is when you respect yourself enough that you stay out of harmful situations, get your needs met while avoiding hurting others, and take care of your body, mind, and spirit. How do you cultivate self love? The following are tips to create self love in your life:
1. Stop pretending to be someone you are not to impress and/or please someone else. How would you feel if someone you were falling in love with turned out to be an imposter?
2. Be yourself always; if you do not know who you are, then take the journey of self discovery. It takes a lifetime to answer the question “Who Am I?”
3. Do activities that you enjoy: swimming, walking, reading, socializing, taking classes, volunteering, etc.
4. The qualities that you desire in a mate, cultivate those same qualities in yourself.
5. Always see the glass as half full instead of half empty and surround yourself around positive people.
The more you practice the above five suggestion, the more you will love yourself. The more you love yourself,the higher quality people you will attract into your life. The higher quality people that are in your life, the easier it is for “The One” to come into your life.
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So what is self love? Self love is not that egotist, self centered, conceited love that unfortunately some people have. These people put their own selfish needs first even when it hurts others. Self love is when you respect yourself enough that you stay out of harmful situations, get your needs met while avoiding hurting others, and take care of your body, mind, and spirit. How do you cultivate self love? The following are tips to create self love in your life:
1. Stop pretending to be someone you are not to impress and/or please someone else. How would you feel if someone you were falling in love with turned out to be an imposter?
2. Be yourself always; if you do not know who you are, then take the journey of self discovery. It takes a lifetime to answer the question “Who Am I?”
3. Do activities that you enjoy: swimming, walking, reading, socializing, taking classes, volunteering, etc.
4. The qualities that you desire in a mate, cultivate those same qualities in yourself.
5. Always see the glass as half full instead of half empty and surround yourself around positive people.
The more you practice the above five suggestion, the more you will love yourself. The more you love yourself,the higher quality people you will attract into your life. The higher quality people that are in your life, the easier it is for “The One” to come into your life.
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Body Language Attraction - How To Use Your Eyes To Build Attraction
There are a ton of things you can do to build attraction and every dating coach has their own opinions as well as their own field tested results. Most will agree that your body language, how close or far away you are from her, your eyes, your vocal projection, how and when you touch her, sense of humor, confidence are all necessary ingredients (at one time or another) for building attraction.
In this body language attraction article, I am only going to focus on your eyes and how to use them to build initial attraction.
Here's the biggest lesson about eye contact and you probably already know it (it's in every major pick up forum I've ever visited so it's nothing new, but it's worth repeating):
It is simply by start looking a woman in the eye and holding it for a few seconds. Once you start getting better at this you can make funny faces, raise an eye brow, let out a small smirk, etc.
Pay attention to her response.
If she smiles back, holds eye contact a little longer, and looks away (in typical sideways glance fashion), and keeps glancing back at you, guess what? She's open to you meeting her! But if she shows no expression and looks away quickly, never bothering to look in your direction again, you'll be wasting your time on her! So now you know it's best to move on and find another women who WILL enjoy your company.
Let me tell you the reason behind this technique.
Women, especially hot ones, get approaches by tons of men who suck up to them, say stupid things. By simply holding your eye contact a little longer than normal you're telling her that there's a very small chances you are one of those guys. Because those guys usually don't hold the eye contact.
It will also communicate to her that you are confident. It tells her you are not an average guy. An average guy looks a hot girl in the eye and then looks down at the floor or he looks away.
That's how you generate initial attraction to women. Holding your eye contact is just one of the few things you can start doing right now to begin having better results with the female population. So, start having fun with this. Start experimenting with your eye contact. Who knows, you just might make a new friend. Good Luck!
Do you know What are the Mistakes that Almost Every Guys Makes on First Dates - And What to Do to About It? How can you tell if a woman is interested in you? How to Use Your Sexual Body Language to Make Women Notice and Feel ATTRACTION to You?
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In this body language attraction article, I am only going to focus on your eyes and how to use them to build initial attraction.
Here's the biggest lesson about eye contact and you probably already know it (it's in every major pick up forum I've ever visited so it's nothing new, but it's worth repeating):
It is simply by start looking a woman in the eye and holding it for a few seconds. Once you start getting better at this you can make funny faces, raise an eye brow, let out a small smirk, etc.
Pay attention to her response.
If she smiles back, holds eye contact a little longer, and looks away (in typical sideways glance fashion), and keeps glancing back at you, guess what? She's open to you meeting her! But if she shows no expression and looks away quickly, never bothering to look in your direction again, you'll be wasting your time on her! So now you know it's best to move on and find another women who WILL enjoy your company.
Let me tell you the reason behind this technique.
Women, especially hot ones, get approaches by tons of men who suck up to them, say stupid things. By simply holding your eye contact a little longer than normal you're telling her that there's a very small chances you are one of those guys. Because those guys usually don't hold the eye contact.
It will also communicate to her that you are confident. It tells her you are not an average guy. An average guy looks a hot girl in the eye and then looks down at the floor or he looks away.
That's how you generate initial attraction to women. Holding your eye contact is just one of the few things you can start doing right now to begin having better results with the female population. So, start having fun with this. Start experimenting with your eye contact. Who knows, you just might make a new friend. Good Luck!
Do you know What are the Mistakes that Almost Every Guys Makes on First Dates - And What to Do to About It? How can you tell if a woman is interested in you? How to Use Your Sexual Body Language to Make Women Notice and Feel ATTRACTION to You?
Find out how to successfully meet, date, attract, and become intimate with women plus GET FREE NEWSLETTER - 3 Times a Week + FREE EBOOK by visiting http://www.freewebs.com/herm4n/
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Kissing Techniques For Men
Learning great kissing techniques can give you a huge boost in your relationships. By giving her a great kiss, she'll see you as more confident - And somewhere in the back of her mind, she'll even imagine you as great in bed. Read on to learn the secrets to great kissing techniques.
The first key lesson is this: Kissing techniques is not about physical techniques! When most men picture kissing techniques, they imagine specific tongue swirls, lip positions, etc. This is not what it's about at all.
Kissing techniques is 90% about creating feelings. Give her the feeling of being completely protected and taken care of. Or give her the feeling of being dominated. Or give her the feeling of feeling loved. A great kisser can give his partner a huge range of sensations with just his kiss.
Of course, there's something to be said for physical kissing techniques, but a good kisser who can swirl his tongue right is never a match for the man who can make women feel an avalanche of sexual and sensual feelings.
One key skill for generating these emotions is learning to create sexual tension.
Sexual tension is the charged energy that fills the room when it's clear a man and a woman want each other, but nothing has been said yet. Everyone in the room can feel it, especially the man and the woman. The stronger the sexual tension is, the more powerful the kiss.
Women constantly dream about the man who can come and emotionally sweep her off her feet. They dream of the moment in movies where the camera zooms in on the two main characters, the music slows, and the tension between them is so powerful that everyone in the theater is completely glued to the screen.
The gift of that feeling is what you want to give your woman.
To learn more secrets behind sexual tension, including proven kissing techniques to creating electrifying tension and giving her a mind-blowing kiss, visit: http://www.masterthekiss.com
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The first key lesson is this: Kissing techniques is not about physical techniques! When most men picture kissing techniques, they imagine specific tongue swirls, lip positions, etc. This is not what it's about at all.
Kissing techniques is 90% about creating feelings. Give her the feeling of being completely protected and taken care of. Or give her the feeling of being dominated. Or give her the feeling of feeling loved. A great kisser can give his partner a huge range of sensations with just his kiss.
Of course, there's something to be said for physical kissing techniques, but a good kisser who can swirl his tongue right is never a match for the man who can make women feel an avalanche of sexual and sensual feelings.
One key skill for generating these emotions is learning to create sexual tension.
Sexual tension is the charged energy that fills the room when it's clear a man and a woman want each other, but nothing has been said yet. Everyone in the room can feel it, especially the man and the woman. The stronger the sexual tension is, the more powerful the kiss.
Women constantly dream about the man who can come and emotionally sweep her off her feet. They dream of the moment in movies where the camera zooms in on the two main characters, the music slows, and the tension between them is so powerful that everyone in the theater is completely glued to the screen.
The gift of that feeling is what you want to give your woman.
To learn more secrets behind sexual tension, including proven kissing techniques to creating electrifying tension and giving her a mind-blowing kiss, visit: http://www.masterthekiss.com
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Derek_Carson
Creating An Effective Personals Ad That Gets Results: Do's and Don'ts
Creating a great ad means selling your strengths and attributes. Think of this as creating your personal resume. Many of the online systems provide a multiple choice matching along with an essay. After someone finds you with a "match", it is your essay portion that can make you shine. It is crucial to fill out the essay completely, with at least 2 or three sentences per question asked. You can come back to the essay later on many systems. You will spend 45 minutes to an hour filling this out. People who do not fill out the essay are not taking seriously and get passed on for other profiles that are more forthcoming. Be honest in your ad.
What to write about? Describe yourself honestly and accurately. Include hard data such as your height, weight, body type, educational background and profession. Show your personality. Talk about your hobbies, interests, activities you enjoy, movies, books, or music you enjoy, where you like to travel, and minimally about your work (do not give your place of employment....keep it general such as: I am a nurse at a local clinic, an accountant with a medium size company, etc). Don't share too much information or write a book.....just write enough to get them interested. You have to leave something to talk about later.
Share your feelings and experiences, not just facts about your life. You don't want your profile to be a touchy-feely pile of mush (can you hear your potential dates heading for the door?), but you do want to communicate things people can relate to: where you're from, where you are, where you're going in life, what makes you laugh, things you really enjoy about life. DON'T fixate on only one aspect of your life: You may love your dog, have a great career, live to ski, and those are great things to talk about in your profile. But if you talk about that and only that, you're going to come off as one-dimensional and obsessed. Show your fully rounded self. Put your personality and humor into what you write. Tell what you are like, and don't try to make false impressions. False impressions will back fire in the online dating arena as much as they will in the rest of your life. Relax, and let your true self show through. There are people who will like who you are.
Don't dwell on your problems and limitations: This is not the place to talk about why you got divorced, your last relationship didn't work out, or problems at work. You can talk about this later after you get to know someone. If you have children, mention them BRIEFLY with their ages and sex. Do not spend time talking about your children or reveal their names. People are wanting to look at a profile that focuses on YOU, not your immediate family. You can talk about your childcare arrangements and coaching little league soccer, etc later. People looking at your profile want to know you have time for them. Focusing on your children and their activities can give the impression that you will have limited time.
What you are looking for: Think about who you are and what you are looking for. To make friends? Fall in love? Meet someone to hang out with? Do you want something short term or long term? Do you just want to chat with? (Ex. I am looking for a cultured man between 32-45 who is a Christian, attends church, college educated, and is into opera and gallery hopping). (Ex. Looking for a down to earth gal between 22-30 that likes the country, camping, country music, country dancing and NASCAR). Don't say that you are looking for the love of your life and want to get married....this will scare a lot of people away. Its good idea to state the general type of person you are hoping to meet, but don't overdo it. If you set down too many requirements you will miss out on the opportunity to meet some great people, and quite possibly the one that is just right for you.
Words to Use and Avoid:
Good Words: Affectionate, Likes to cuddle, interested in a committed relationship, sensitive, great cook, romantic, caring, monogamous, down to earth, looking for best friend, educated, sophisticated, loving, generous, cute, reliable, my colleagues describe me as handsome, great legs, petite, curvaceous, hourglass figure, gentleman.
Words to Avoid: Some of the bad stuff I have seen in ads. (On some systems, you will get terminated using some of this language whether in your profile or in an email). These guys have read too many Penthouse magazines and need to look in the alternative personals. Here is what NOT to put in a personal on a regular/metro site: Well hung, great in bed, I'd love to satisfy you, sexually insatiable, animal, great lover, oral, f*ck, blow, make love, erotic, uninhibited and any other sexual words. This stuff is SCARY to most women and runs them off.You can tweak and improve your profile as you go along.
Tweaking your profile: If you're getting the type of responses you're looking for, great. If you're getting responses from the wrong types of people or not getting as many responses as you'd like, then review your profile and think about how you can improve it and make yourself shine a little bit more. Most matchmaking systems have a place for you to edit your essay and parts of your ad. Take a look at it at least every couple of weeks.
How to search for a new friend: Each matchmaking system has different ways of searching for compatible profiles. Some have several ways. Typically these are MATCH, SEARCH, FIND, and some allow you to make a Search Profile that you can reuse. You can search by location, ideal height and weight, ethnic background -- even by interest in having kids in the future.
A high percentage on a multiple choice match is a good start but read the answers and look at the essay. The percentages may be great but then the profile might be someone who sounds desperate and lonely, is someone just looking for sex or has totally different interests and values.
If there is a photo, look at the photo and remember that the photo can be one taken yesterday or 5 years ago. Unless the person is down right unappealing, remember that amateur/family photos don't always make a person look their best. Look for profiles that match your ideal characteristics but also hit you the right way -- do the writers sound funny? Intellectual? Love animals as much as you do? Like to travel?
Posting Photos: It is up to you to post a photo. You will increase your response rate TEN TIMES by posting a photo. People want to see who they are writing to, and many don't want to start a correspondence and waste time with someone that they don't know if there is even a initial attraction from a photo. If you want a lot of responses, you'd better have a picture. From my experience, and from what I've heard from others, it seems that people who don't have pictures of themselves are usually hiding something. So, if you don't have a picture, people are going to assume you look like a dog. If you are a high profile person in the city you live, offer in your profile to exchange photos from your personal (yahoo or hotmail, not your real email address). Make sure you put an accurate description of what you look like in your profile. You may want to say what celebrity you closely resemble.
People who say they don't have a photo or don't have a way to get one on line are either lazy or playing games. If you don't have a scanner at home or work, take a photo to KINKO's (they are everywhere). Have your photo or photos scanned in a .jpg format. Most matchmaking systems do not allow you to send the zip files or unusable formats. Typically .jpg, .gif, and .bmp is the limit and they must be sized down. Photos should have a shirt on, clearly show your face (no sunglasses), well lit, no swimwear (except for secondary shots) and no family in your primary photo. Make sure you are smiling in the photo. (Who wants to meet someone who looks angry and glum). Many companies allow secondary shots that have your family and friends in the photos as long as you are in the photo. Don't use a photo in which you're dressed too revealingly -- you want to look elegant and alluring, but a picture of you in a bikini is going to attract the wrong kind of responses.
What should you not send? You car, house, boat, photos of your kids or friends by themselves, photos where your face is the size of a pencil head, photos with your ex, dark shots, anything revealing, etc. Send your best photos. Remember, FIRST IMPRESSIONS may be your only chance. Your most recent photo of you camping (once in 5 years) with the ball cap on may leave a the impression that you don't want others to have. Again, think in terms of a resume. How would you want an employer to first see you? (Dressed nicely with your hair perfect). Ex. A good mix would be primary photo in a business suit or polo shirt, secondary photo out rock climbing with friends, third photo with two nephews at XMAS.
Out of Town or Unable to Answer email? Members of matchmaking systems expect responses to their emails quickly. If you can't answer emails for a week or two, edit your profile and at the top of the essay say "I will be out of town for "x time frame" and will not have access to email. Please ear mark my profile and write me back at "x time frame" and I will be happy to respond when I return." This is especially important during the summer months when people are on vacation and during holidays.
Anna Winters is a writer for www.Singlesonthego.com, the largest singles groups, singles events and activities website helping 500,000 plus readers monthly find singles in their city.Creating a great ad means selling your strengths and attributes. Think of this as creating your personal resume. Many of the online systems provide a multiple choice matching along with an essay. After someone finds you with a "match", it is your essay portion that can make you shine. It is crucial to fill out the essay completely, with at least 2 or three sentences per question asked. You can come back to the essay later on many systems. You will spend 45 minutes to an hour filling this out. People who do not fill out the essay are not taking seriously and get passed on for other profiles that are more forthcoming. Be honest in your ad.
What to write about? Describe yourself honestly and accurately. Include hard data such as your height, weight, body type, educational background and profession. Show your personality. Talk about your hobbies, interests, activities you enjoy, movies, books, or music you enjoy, where you like to travel, and minimally about your work (do not give your place of employment....keep it general such as: I am a nurse at a local clinic, an accountant with a medium size company, etc). Don't share too much information or write a book.....just write enough to get them interested. You have to leave something to talk about later.
Share your feelings and experiences, not just facts about your life. You don't want your profile to be a touchy-feely pile of mush (can you hear your potential dates heading for the door?), but you do want to communicate things people can relate to: where you're from, where you are, where you're going in life, what makes you laugh, things you really enjoy about life. DON'T fixate on only one aspect of your life: You may love your dog, have a great career, live to ski, and those are great things to talk about in your profile. But if you talk about that and only that, you're going to come off as one-dimensional and obsessed. Show your fully rounded self. Put your personality and humor into what you write. Tell what you are like, and don't try to make false impressions. False impressions will back fire in the online dating arena as much as they will in the rest of your life. Relax, and let your true self show through. There are people who will like who you are.
Don't dwell on your problems and limitations: This is not the place to talk about why you got divorced, your last relationship didn't work out, or problems at work. You can talk about this later after you get to know someone. If you have children, mention them BRIEFLY with their ages and sex. Do not spend time talking about your children or reveal their names. People are wanting to look at a profile that focuses on YOU, not your immediate family. You can talk about your childcare arrangements and coaching little league soccer, etc later. People looking at your profile want to know you have time for them. Focusing on your children and their activities can give the impression that you will have limited time.
What you are looking for: Think about who you are and what you are looking for. To make friends? Fall in love? Meet someone to hang out with? Do you want something short term or long term? Do you just want to chat with? (Ex. I am looking for a cultured man between 32-45 who is a Christian, attends church, college educated, and is into opera and gallery hopping). (Ex. Looking for a down to earth gal between 22-30 that likes the country, camping, country music, country dancing and NASCAR). Don't say that you are looking for the love of your life and want to get married....this will scare a lot of people away. Its good idea to state the general type of person you are hoping to meet, but don't overdo it. If you set down too many requirements you will miss out on the opportunity to meet some great people, and quite possibly the one that is just right for you.
Words to Use and Avoid:
Good Words: Affectionate, Likes to cuddle, interested in a committed relationship, sensitive, great cook, romantic, caring, monogamous, down to earth, looking for best friend, educated, sophisticated, loving, generous, cute, reliable, my colleagues describe me as handsome, great legs, petite, curvaceous, hourglass figure, gentleman.
Words to Avoid: Some of the bad stuff I have seen in ads. (On some systems, you will get terminated using some of this language whether in your profile or in an email). These guys have read too many Penthouse magazines and need to look in the alternative personals. Here is what NOT to put in a personal on a regular/metro site: Well hung, great in bed, I'd love to satisfy you, sexually insatiable, animal, great lover, oral, f*ck, blow, make love, erotic, uninhibited and any other sexual words. This stuff is SCARY to most women and runs them off.You can tweak and improve your profile as you go along.
Tweaking your profile: If you're getting the type of responses you're looking for, great. If you're getting responses from the wrong types of people or not getting as many responses as you'd like, then review your profile and think about how you can improve it and make yourself shine a little bit more. Most matchmaking systems have a place for you to edit your essay and parts of your ad. Take a look at it at least every couple of weeks.
How to search for a new friend: Each matchmaking system has different ways of searching for compatible profiles. Some have several ways. Typically these are MATCH, SEARCH, FIND, and some allow you to make a Search Profile that you can reuse. You can search by location, ideal height and weight, ethnic background -- even by interest in having kids in the future.
A high percentage on a multiple choice match is a good start but read the answers and look at the essay. The percentages may be great but then the profile might be someone who sounds desperate and lonely, is someone just looking for sex or has totally different interests and values.
If there is a photo, look at the photo and remember that the photo can be one taken yesterday or 5 years ago. Unless the person is down right unappealing, remember that amateur/family photos don't always make a person look their best. Look for profiles that match your ideal characteristics but also hit you the right way -- do the writers sound funny? Intellectual? Love animals as much as you do? Like to travel?
Posting Photos: It is up to you to post a photo. You will increase your response rate TEN TIMES by posting a photo. People want to see who they are writing to, and many don't want to start a correspondence and waste time with someone that they don't know if there is even a initial attraction from a photo. If you want a lot of responses, you'd better have a picture. From my experience, and from what I've heard from others, it seems that people who don't have pictures of themselves are usually hiding something. So, if you don't have a picture, people are going to assume you look like a dog. If you are a high profile person in the city you live, offer in your profile to exchange photos from your personal (yahoo or hotmail, not your real email address). Make sure you put an accurate description of what you look like in your profile. You may want to say what celebrity you closely resemble.
People who say they don't have a photo or don't have a way to get one on line are either lazy or playing games. If you don't have a scanner at home or work, take a photo to KINKO's (they are everywhere). Have your photo or photos scanned in a .jpg format. Most matchmaking systems do not allow you to send the zip files or unusable formats. Typically .jpg, .gif, and .bmp is the limit and they must be sized down. Photos should have a shirt on, clearly show your face (no sunglasses), well lit, no swimwear (except for secondary shots) and no family in your primary photo. Make sure you are smiling in the photo. (Who wants to meet someone who looks angry and glum). Many companies allow secondary shots that have your family and friends in the photos as long as you are in the photo. Don't use a photo in which you're dressed too revealingly -- you want to look elegant and alluring, but a picture of you in a bikini is going to attract the wrong kind of responses.
What should you not send? You car, house, boat, photos of your kids or friends by themselves, photos where your face is the size of a pencil head, photos with your ex, dark shots, anything revealing, etc. Send your best photos. Remember, FIRST IMPRESSIONS may be your only chance. Your most recent photo of you camping (once in 5 years) with the ball cap on may leave a the impression that you don't want others to have. Again, think in terms of a resume. How would you want an employer to first see you? (Dressed nicely with your hair perfect). Ex. A good mix would be primary photo in a business suit or polo shirt, secondary photo out rock climbing with friends, third photo with two nephews at XMAS.
Out of Town or Unable to Answer email? Members of matchmaking systems expect responses to their emails quickly. If you can't answer emails for a week or two, edit your profile and at the top of the essay say "I will be out of town for "x time frame" and will not have access to email. Please ear mark my profile and write me back at "x time frame" and I will be happy to respond when I return." This is especially important during the summer months when people are on vacation and during holidays.
Anna Winters is a writer for www.Singlesonthego.com, the largest singles groups, singles events and activities website helping 500,000 plus readers monthly find singles in their city.
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What to write about? Describe yourself honestly and accurately. Include hard data such as your height, weight, body type, educational background and profession. Show your personality. Talk about your hobbies, interests, activities you enjoy, movies, books, or music you enjoy, where you like to travel, and minimally about your work (do not give your place of employment....keep it general such as: I am a nurse at a local clinic, an accountant with a medium size company, etc). Don't share too much information or write a book.....just write enough to get them interested. You have to leave something to talk about later.
Share your feelings and experiences, not just facts about your life. You don't want your profile to be a touchy-feely pile of mush (can you hear your potential dates heading for the door?), but you do want to communicate things people can relate to: where you're from, where you are, where you're going in life, what makes you laugh, things you really enjoy about life. DON'T fixate on only one aspect of your life: You may love your dog, have a great career, live to ski, and those are great things to talk about in your profile. But if you talk about that and only that, you're going to come off as one-dimensional and obsessed. Show your fully rounded self. Put your personality and humor into what you write. Tell what you are like, and don't try to make false impressions. False impressions will back fire in the online dating arena as much as they will in the rest of your life. Relax, and let your true self show through. There are people who will like who you are.
Don't dwell on your problems and limitations: This is not the place to talk about why you got divorced, your last relationship didn't work out, or problems at work. You can talk about this later after you get to know someone. If you have children, mention them BRIEFLY with their ages and sex. Do not spend time talking about your children or reveal their names. People are wanting to look at a profile that focuses on YOU, not your immediate family. You can talk about your childcare arrangements and coaching little league soccer, etc later. People looking at your profile want to know you have time for them. Focusing on your children and their activities can give the impression that you will have limited time.
What you are looking for: Think about who you are and what you are looking for. To make friends? Fall in love? Meet someone to hang out with? Do you want something short term or long term? Do you just want to chat with? (Ex. I am looking for a cultured man between 32-45 who is a Christian, attends church, college educated, and is into opera and gallery hopping). (Ex. Looking for a down to earth gal between 22-30 that likes the country, camping, country music, country dancing and NASCAR). Don't say that you are looking for the love of your life and want to get married....this will scare a lot of people away. Its good idea to state the general type of person you are hoping to meet, but don't overdo it. If you set down too many requirements you will miss out on the opportunity to meet some great people, and quite possibly the one that is just right for you.
Words to Use and Avoid:
Good Words: Affectionate, Likes to cuddle, interested in a committed relationship, sensitive, great cook, romantic, caring, monogamous, down to earth, looking for best friend, educated, sophisticated, loving, generous, cute, reliable, my colleagues describe me as handsome, great legs, petite, curvaceous, hourglass figure, gentleman.
Words to Avoid: Some of the bad stuff I have seen in ads. (On some systems, you will get terminated using some of this language whether in your profile or in an email). These guys have read too many Penthouse magazines and need to look in the alternative personals. Here is what NOT to put in a personal on a regular/metro site: Well hung, great in bed, I'd love to satisfy you, sexually insatiable, animal, great lover, oral, f*ck, blow, make love, erotic, uninhibited and any other sexual words. This stuff is SCARY to most women and runs them off.You can tweak and improve your profile as you go along.
Tweaking your profile: If you're getting the type of responses you're looking for, great. If you're getting responses from the wrong types of people or not getting as many responses as you'd like, then review your profile and think about how you can improve it and make yourself shine a little bit more. Most matchmaking systems have a place for you to edit your essay and parts of your ad. Take a look at it at least every couple of weeks.
How to search for a new friend: Each matchmaking system has different ways of searching for compatible profiles. Some have several ways. Typically these are MATCH, SEARCH, FIND, and some allow you to make a Search Profile that you can reuse. You can search by location, ideal height and weight, ethnic background -- even by interest in having kids in the future.
A high percentage on a multiple choice match is a good start but read the answers and look at the essay. The percentages may be great but then the profile might be someone who sounds desperate and lonely, is someone just looking for sex or has totally different interests and values.
If there is a photo, look at the photo and remember that the photo can be one taken yesterday or 5 years ago. Unless the person is down right unappealing, remember that amateur/family photos don't always make a person look their best. Look for profiles that match your ideal characteristics but also hit you the right way -- do the writers sound funny? Intellectual? Love animals as much as you do? Like to travel?
Posting Photos: It is up to you to post a photo. You will increase your response rate TEN TIMES by posting a photo. People want to see who they are writing to, and many don't want to start a correspondence and waste time with someone that they don't know if there is even a initial attraction from a photo. If you want a lot of responses, you'd better have a picture. From my experience, and from what I've heard from others, it seems that people who don't have pictures of themselves are usually hiding something. So, if you don't have a picture, people are going to assume you look like a dog. If you are a high profile person in the city you live, offer in your profile to exchange photos from your personal (yahoo or hotmail, not your real email address). Make sure you put an accurate description of what you look like in your profile. You may want to say what celebrity you closely resemble.
People who say they don't have a photo or don't have a way to get one on line are either lazy or playing games. If you don't have a scanner at home or work, take a photo to KINKO's (they are everywhere). Have your photo or photos scanned in a .jpg format. Most matchmaking systems do not allow you to send the zip files or unusable formats. Typically .jpg, .gif, and .bmp is the limit and they must be sized down. Photos should have a shirt on, clearly show your face (no sunglasses), well lit, no swimwear (except for secondary shots) and no family in your primary photo. Make sure you are smiling in the photo. (Who wants to meet someone who looks angry and glum). Many companies allow secondary shots that have your family and friends in the photos as long as you are in the photo. Don't use a photo in which you're dressed too revealingly -- you want to look elegant and alluring, but a picture of you in a bikini is going to attract the wrong kind of responses.
What should you not send? You car, house, boat, photos of your kids or friends by themselves, photos where your face is the size of a pencil head, photos with your ex, dark shots, anything revealing, etc. Send your best photos. Remember, FIRST IMPRESSIONS may be your only chance. Your most recent photo of you camping (once in 5 years) with the ball cap on may leave a the impression that you don't want others to have. Again, think in terms of a resume. How would you want an employer to first see you? (Dressed nicely with your hair perfect). Ex. A good mix would be primary photo in a business suit or polo shirt, secondary photo out rock climbing with friends, third photo with two nephews at XMAS.
Out of Town or Unable to Answer email? Members of matchmaking systems expect responses to their emails quickly. If you can't answer emails for a week or two, edit your profile and at the top of the essay say "I will be out of town for "x time frame" and will not have access to email. Please ear mark my profile and write me back at "x time frame" and I will be happy to respond when I return." This is especially important during the summer months when people are on vacation and during holidays.
Anna Winters is a writer for www.Singlesonthego.com, the largest singles groups, singles events and activities website helping 500,000 plus readers monthly find singles in their city.Creating a great ad means selling your strengths and attributes. Think of this as creating your personal resume. Many of the online systems provide a multiple choice matching along with an essay. After someone finds you with a "match", it is your essay portion that can make you shine. It is crucial to fill out the essay completely, with at least 2 or three sentences per question asked. You can come back to the essay later on many systems. You will spend 45 minutes to an hour filling this out. People who do not fill out the essay are not taking seriously and get passed on for other profiles that are more forthcoming. Be honest in your ad.
What to write about? Describe yourself honestly and accurately. Include hard data such as your height, weight, body type, educational background and profession. Show your personality. Talk about your hobbies, interests, activities you enjoy, movies, books, or music you enjoy, where you like to travel, and minimally about your work (do not give your place of employment....keep it general such as: I am a nurse at a local clinic, an accountant with a medium size company, etc). Don't share too much information or write a book.....just write enough to get them interested. You have to leave something to talk about later.
Share your feelings and experiences, not just facts about your life. You don't want your profile to be a touchy-feely pile of mush (can you hear your potential dates heading for the door?), but you do want to communicate things people can relate to: where you're from, where you are, where you're going in life, what makes you laugh, things you really enjoy about life. DON'T fixate on only one aspect of your life: You may love your dog, have a great career, live to ski, and those are great things to talk about in your profile. But if you talk about that and only that, you're going to come off as one-dimensional and obsessed. Show your fully rounded self. Put your personality and humor into what you write. Tell what you are like, and don't try to make false impressions. False impressions will back fire in the online dating arena as much as they will in the rest of your life. Relax, and let your true self show through. There are people who will like who you are.
Don't dwell on your problems and limitations: This is not the place to talk about why you got divorced, your last relationship didn't work out, or problems at work. You can talk about this later after you get to know someone. If you have children, mention them BRIEFLY with their ages and sex. Do not spend time talking about your children or reveal their names. People are wanting to look at a profile that focuses on YOU, not your immediate family. You can talk about your childcare arrangements and coaching little league soccer, etc later. People looking at your profile want to know you have time for them. Focusing on your children and their activities can give the impression that you will have limited time.
What you are looking for: Think about who you are and what you are looking for. To make friends? Fall in love? Meet someone to hang out with? Do you want something short term or long term? Do you just want to chat with? (Ex. I am looking for a cultured man between 32-45 who is a Christian, attends church, college educated, and is into opera and gallery hopping). (Ex. Looking for a down to earth gal between 22-30 that likes the country, camping, country music, country dancing and NASCAR). Don't say that you are looking for the love of your life and want to get married....this will scare a lot of people away. Its good idea to state the general type of person you are hoping to meet, but don't overdo it. If you set down too many requirements you will miss out on the opportunity to meet some great people, and quite possibly the one that is just right for you.
Words to Use and Avoid:
Good Words: Affectionate, Likes to cuddle, interested in a committed relationship, sensitive, great cook, romantic, caring, monogamous, down to earth, looking for best friend, educated, sophisticated, loving, generous, cute, reliable, my colleagues describe me as handsome, great legs, petite, curvaceous, hourglass figure, gentleman.
Words to Avoid: Some of the bad stuff I have seen in ads. (On some systems, you will get terminated using some of this language whether in your profile or in an email). These guys have read too many Penthouse magazines and need to look in the alternative personals. Here is what NOT to put in a personal on a regular/metro site: Well hung, great in bed, I'd love to satisfy you, sexually insatiable, animal, great lover, oral, f*ck, blow, make love, erotic, uninhibited and any other sexual words. This stuff is SCARY to most women and runs them off.You can tweak and improve your profile as you go along.
Tweaking your profile: If you're getting the type of responses you're looking for, great. If you're getting responses from the wrong types of people or not getting as many responses as you'd like, then review your profile and think about how you can improve it and make yourself shine a little bit more. Most matchmaking systems have a place for you to edit your essay and parts of your ad. Take a look at it at least every couple of weeks.
How to search for a new friend: Each matchmaking system has different ways of searching for compatible profiles. Some have several ways. Typically these are MATCH, SEARCH, FIND, and some allow you to make a Search Profile that you can reuse. You can search by location, ideal height and weight, ethnic background -- even by interest in having kids in the future.
A high percentage on a multiple choice match is a good start but read the answers and look at the essay. The percentages may be great but then the profile might be someone who sounds desperate and lonely, is someone just looking for sex or has totally different interests and values.
If there is a photo, look at the photo and remember that the photo can be one taken yesterday or 5 years ago. Unless the person is down right unappealing, remember that amateur/family photos don't always make a person look their best. Look for profiles that match your ideal characteristics but also hit you the right way -- do the writers sound funny? Intellectual? Love animals as much as you do? Like to travel?
Posting Photos: It is up to you to post a photo. You will increase your response rate TEN TIMES by posting a photo. People want to see who they are writing to, and many don't want to start a correspondence and waste time with someone that they don't know if there is even a initial attraction from a photo. If you want a lot of responses, you'd better have a picture. From my experience, and from what I've heard from others, it seems that people who don't have pictures of themselves are usually hiding something. So, if you don't have a picture, people are going to assume you look like a dog. If you are a high profile person in the city you live, offer in your profile to exchange photos from your personal (yahoo or hotmail, not your real email address). Make sure you put an accurate description of what you look like in your profile. You may want to say what celebrity you closely resemble.
People who say they don't have a photo or don't have a way to get one on line are either lazy or playing games. If you don't have a scanner at home or work, take a photo to KINKO's (they are everywhere). Have your photo or photos scanned in a .jpg format. Most matchmaking systems do not allow you to send the zip files or unusable formats. Typically .jpg, .gif, and .bmp is the limit and they must be sized down. Photos should have a shirt on, clearly show your face (no sunglasses), well lit, no swimwear (except for secondary shots) and no family in your primary photo. Make sure you are smiling in the photo. (Who wants to meet someone who looks angry and glum). Many companies allow secondary shots that have your family and friends in the photos as long as you are in the photo. Don't use a photo in which you're dressed too revealingly -- you want to look elegant and alluring, but a picture of you in a bikini is going to attract the wrong kind of responses.
What should you not send? You car, house, boat, photos of your kids or friends by themselves, photos where your face is the size of a pencil head, photos with your ex, dark shots, anything revealing, etc. Send your best photos. Remember, FIRST IMPRESSIONS may be your only chance. Your most recent photo of you camping (once in 5 years) with the ball cap on may leave a the impression that you don't want others to have. Again, think in terms of a resume. How would you want an employer to first see you? (Dressed nicely with your hair perfect). Ex. A good mix would be primary photo in a business suit or polo shirt, secondary photo out rock climbing with friends, third photo with two nephews at XMAS.
Out of Town or Unable to Answer email? Members of matchmaking systems expect responses to their emails quickly. If you can't answer emails for a week or two, edit your profile and at the top of the essay say "I will be out of town for "x time frame" and will not have access to email. Please ear mark my profile and write me back at "x time frame" and I will be happy to respond when I return." This is especially important during the summer months when people are on vacation and during holidays.
Anna Winters is a writer for www.Singlesonthego.com, the largest singles groups, singles events and activities website helping 500,000 plus readers monthly find singles in their city.
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