Women like men who exhibit confidence and self-assuredness. That should really go without saying. However, many guys run head-first into a problem when they try to convey those attributes in the presence of a hot woman. So, with that said, how can you learn the elusive art of approaching women without stumbling over words or, worse, looking like one of the previous thirty-eight losers she shot down prior to your arrival? Well, it's pretty simple... we'll call our plan the Four D's of Approach: Develop, Display, Discern, and Direct.
#1) Develop...You can't show a female something you don't have. Your first order of business is to build your confidence and self esteem. There are plenty of self-help books and free content on the Web that can help you with that, so there's no need in regurgitating that information here.
#2) Display... What good is getting something if you don't show it off? People don't collect expensive art to keep it in their cellar. Now that you have your swagger, let people know about it. But keep in mind, there is a very fine line between exuding confidence naturally and looking like an overcompensating prick. The best way to avoid the latter is to constantly remind yourself of how great you are while at the same time acknowledging your many shortcomings (we all have them). Think of it as being humbly cocky.
#3) Discern... When you're in a bar, or wherever, and you spot a hot chick, don't just run up on her without evaluating the situation first. Is she with her boyfriend? Her homegirls? What does the situation look like? Take some time to analyze things first (but do not use this as an attempt to cop out). For instance, don't approach women when they're being bombarded by men left and right. As far as she is concerned, you're no better than the other losers who just tried to talk with her. Separate yourself from the pack by making some kind of brief communication (a smile or quick glance will do). She'll notice this and your chances of having a favorable conversation with her will increase exponentially.
#4) Direct... This is where you get to show off most of your confidence and self esteem. After approaching a woman, direct the conversation. You're supposed to be in control and more than likely, the female will appreciate your assertiveness - not pushiness. Do not try to be the jerk you think women are attracted to. Instead, be comfortable in your own skin... Know what you want and don't be afraid to say it. (warning: that does mean saying you want her body right now).
Remember, the art of approaching women is just that... an art! You can't paint a masterpiece if you don't learn how to draw first. As with anything else that has substantial rewards, you will have to work at this - some more than others. But regardless of the time it takes, the outcome can be achieved by practically any and everyone. If you've ever wondered how that scruffy looking dude who works at Kinko's managed to snag the hot girl next door, now you know... It's all in the approach.
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