5 x 2 Great Reasons to go for Online Dating

In this life, isn't everything about attitude towards things?

And here comes your attitude: simply say "yes" to online dating!

Obviously you cannot meet people from nowhere, you have to start from a certain spot. I guess you've already done some research in the neighborhood and there was nothing fit for you as the matter we are here talking about it, right?

Thus you have the great opportunity to find singles worth dating with all the websites offering dating services and dating tools to meet and talk to people that match the criteria you are looking for.

The enormous reasons that online dating is the most popular media for meeting single people are:

1. the easy access to a wide variety of profiles

2. its safety (many dating sites focus on this requirement, by implementing a Member Code of Ethics, Single Certification, and also a criminal background screening as compulsory)

3. you are in control with whom you want to meet and when

4. its increased accuracy in providing you the best match by offering profile set-ups, personality tests and photo uploads

5. it is cheap and fast

Whatever your aims in finding love are, Internet will always be a great affordable source for dating women and men for friendship, romance and possible marriage.

Just in case you have nothing against dating itself, as we know dating can be both a positive or negative experience. I'm telling you that the only quality dating should have is being enjoyable. If not, it's only because people carry over past relationships to current ones and begin to act selfishly because of their broken hearts and scared emotions.

Dating may seem like a game, and you can make it a fair one by getting over your past failed relationships and giving every person the chance he/she deserves. Refusing to date tells us that we believe ourselves incapable of having a relationship on our own content. Dating may be the journey of our social/love life not the target of it. That is why we should be more considerate of the lessons learned during this journey and carry them in our lifelong commitments.

And here are some strong arguments concerning the benefits of dating in our lives:

1. dating is pure enjoyment and recreation once we are fed up with our own views and want to share another's

2. dating can offer companionship by simply interacting and sharing activities

3. your personality is developed and improved through relationships with other people: you learn how to evaluate and how to choose, how to say no and still keep amiable relationships and so on

4. you have the great opportunity to find out how different the opposite sex thinks, and figure out how to deal with it, meaning helping you prepare for marriage

5. dating may happily lead you to the perfect match with the mate you've always dreamt about.

Now as you have found all these, go on and give yourself the chance to enjoy the benefits of dating for whatever your heart tells you to and do it wisely, by choosing the best online dating tool !


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Online dating is truly a very new and fundamental change in the way that we are able to look for a partner, friendships or even sexual pleasure. Never ever in human history did we have such strong and efficient matchmaking opportunities. Online dating as we know it, is the fastest and easiest way that we can meet new people whenever and wherever we want in modern society. It is straight-forward, direct and simple. It is not bound to your city borders or local single-café or pup. Gone are the days of blind dateing somebody that you could never lay an eye on. Many of us still remember the bad experiences we have made with blind dates that collegues or family members have sent us on.

Online dating removes lots of these negative unknowns whilst allowing you to meet some phantastic people which you would never have a chance to meet or even contact with in former times, before the internet flash-conquered our planet.

Online dating has become so popular, especially during the past 10 years or so, that almost everybody of the young and middle-age generation within industrialized countries as well as numerous TV shows and news reports deals with the subject of internet dating communities.

After spending some time in front of your PC screen, communicating with a person far away that attract kind of your attention, sounds sympathic and fits into your desired dating profile checklist, you may finally - at one stage want to meet him or her face to face. But remember. Even though you have spent numerous hours or even days communicating with the person of choice, and even after exchanging photos or videos with each other it is important to make it very clear to your mind that YOU STILL DO NOT KNOW FOR SURE WHOM YOU REALLY WILL MEET IN THE END !!! You do not know his or her complete history, and even if he or she sounds pretty sympatic and reliable - you do not know if this behaviour is true or false. You do not and cannot know, if he´s the desired lover you dream of - or simply a fool - or maybe even a madman!

I do not intend to scare you away from online dating, because it really is a fantastic way to meet exactly the match of your desire. And usually, chances that you will get confronted with a madman, marriage swindler, rapist or murderer are near to zero. However it should be in your interest to protect yourself, just in case... Observing the following simple online dating safety rules will help you make your online dating dreams not to end up in a nightmare:

1. The very first rule in safe online dating is to meet in a public place. Do not let him pick you up at home. Never. Besides, you should also not unveal your home or work address before or at this point of time. If possible, try to arrange for some kind of double date or have somebody whom you can trust, a good friend or relative for example, sitting around nearby. You will not only feel more secure, you will be!

2. It is much more safe to use your own vehicle or a taxi and not to depend on the car of your dating partner. This way you will be fully independent, either way your date comes out.

3. If you are a female and you don´t want to feel to be under any obligation, consider paying half of the bill. If you are a male, it is of course a matter of good manners, that you pay for the complete bill. Even, if you have been disappointed and your dating partner is not the kind of girl or woman of your imagination. Some may think this is a little outdated, but really it still is a matter of decency and fair play and it won´t hurt.

4. Stay away from alcohol. Remember that alcohol can affect your judgment about the person in question. Until now, you know the person that you meet from your online dating sessions only. You do not have a single clue or proof what type of character he or she is in real life. Especially for the first dates you should be able to build yourself an uninfluenced opinion. You should be clear minded in order to be able to estimate what kind of person your dating partner really is. If you like and to feel more relaxed and less inhibited, you can have one or two welcome drinks with him, but that´s it. Never ever go for hard drinks. Better take a glass of wine or so. Be insistant on that!

5. Online dating is a great way to meet very interesting people. But always remember that what you see on the screen of your computer can be very different from reality. For example, if your online date has written that he is a very religious person, that does not mean that you can trust him. As in any other flirt or dating relationship it takes time, before you come next to really know each other.

6. If you really like the person that you have met, you may be very lucky. But even now do always stay alert and cautious. Some awkward or even dangerous people are perfect pretenders! You never know what can happen.

7. This brings us to the last, but as I think most important rule for secure online dating. ALWAYS LET SOMEONE ELSE KNOW WHERE YOU ARE AND WITH WHOM YOU MEET. If possible make the name and address of the person available to your best friend or another person that you can trust. Always let him or her know, where you are going to meet with the person. For the first meeting, do not go elsewhere with the other person. Always take your mobile phone with you. If at some further meeting you go elsewhere, let the person of trust know about and tell him or her exactly where you are going. It is also a good idea, that your friend will call you at pre-set times, in order that he or she asures everything is all right. So, if something bad happens, there is at least someone that knows where to look for you.

Online dating is one of the greatest social developments the internet has enabled. You can make use of it to find your ideal match with an anonymous distance at first, to filter out the ones you don´t like the easy way and finally meet with the ones on your short-list. Most of the people, weather you like them or not, will be decent and harmless. But do not forget, that there are also some idiots out there. And some of them can be dangerous. So have fun, but always remember to be cautious and responsible.

And next time your aunt tries to tie you up with somebody of her church group, tell her that you already have a boyfriend... in France!

About the author:
Written by Ispas Marrin for http://www.single-fiesta.com - Ispas is running his own dating site especially for South Africa on http://www.socialcity.co.za - Probably one of the best dating sites for South Africa currently available. --- Publish or download articles or for free on: http://www.GoArticles.com | http://www.Dreamicles.com | http://www.AZ-Articles.com .

Online Dating and Internet Dating Communities -

Have you ever noticed that it is much easier to attract a potential partner or lover, if you already have one? Have you noticed that if you are not really looking for a relationship a lot more of people show an interest in you, but if you get desperate and show you are looking for someone, they run away!

At least this has happened to me more than once and I have talked to other people, that do confirm the same. It seems to be quite common. If you have a partner, others want to partner with you, if you are actively and obviously looking around, nobody cares, but if you don´t even think about a mate, they come to you all by themselves. But before we put this down to some bizarre quirk of human nature, lets look a little at the cause of this behavior and see if we can make it work for us.

A key thing in finding a mate is to not really need one. This sounds odd, but it seems to be the plain truth. I found out, that if you need or desire to look for a partner too much, it can drift them away. But now, you say, what do I do if I really feel desparate? What can I do if I am really looking for my match or mate?

Another tricky thing of human nature is that our nervous system finds it difficult to tell the difference in between imagined experience and a real one. Just think about watching an exciting or very scary movie to see how easy it is to fool ourselves. And now, here we go. This is the key to never feel desperate about finding a partner.

And this is the key rule of this article, and the key rule to your success:

If we want to find a partner, then the best thing is to imagine that we have one already...!!!

Imagining that we already have the perfect partner and get into the feeling on how it would be to have him or her right now calms down and pacifies our complete nervous system. It gives us a feeling of fulfillment and takes away feelings of desperation. This comes into effect particularly when you go let your imagination dive into details. What you will do together, what you will say, where you will go and so on...

This does not mean you should change your mind to become a hopeless day dreamer. It is just meant to be what it´s meant for (funny sentence, is it...?). This is, helping you to make your charisma more attractive and to provide you with a personal appearance open to help you to find your desired match in real life.

So please bear in mind that I am not talking about yearning for someone. Sitting around depressivly yearning for someone is absolutely different from imagining you already have them. Yearning is a feeling of not having. It is a negative feeling and makes us even more desparate. What we need to do is to discourage ourselves from cultivationg such feelings. We shall rather encourage ourselves to cultivate feelings from having and success. You can easily tell the difference, because such feelings are loaded with positve energies and really can make us feel much better.

Now you can say, this is just a trick of the mind. And I will tell you - so what? It is more or less a trick of the mind. But a trick that will really help you in your real search for your mate in your real life! So - what? It is somewhat scientific and logic, and this is why it works! Negative feelings of failure or resignative feelings that we will never find anyone are also all part of imagination. Such feelings will almost certainly prevent you from finding your match. Negative imaginations can go as far as to prevent you from success in life. This is using our mind and imagination against us. You all know such negative feelings. And we all know how they can harm our lifes. But they are just feelings and imagination. So, as we know such feelings and imaginations are so powerful, why not using them to our benefit, instead of our disadvantage? This is why it is true, that positive feelings and positive imagination can help us not only to find a partner for us, but in our complete life as well. They will definitely make you more successful. It is only a question to control your imagination as far as possible. And this can be very far!

If all this still sounds strange and odd to you, remember what top athlets do if they want to improve their abilities. They imagine achieving better times in a race, jumping higher, lifting heavier weights and so on. They imagine how it will feel to achieve their goals. Athlets do not have the time to mess around with tactics that don´t work. Successful business people do not either. But both use positive imagination to help them succeed and come at least mcuh closer to their targets. And this is what you can do, too. You can use this effect in any aspect of your private or business life. And you can use it in terms of dating and matchfinding.

By simply imagining that we do have the perfect partner already, and how this will feel like, we train our subconscious mind to start making that happen. And because we are more calm and relaxed about it, chances are high that we make the best out of it when the next opportunity, say a good looking man or woman, comes along. If you are actively going to try this and you are willing to spend a few minutes on it every day, e.g. when you are sitting in the train, the subway, the airport or wherever, you will move a nice step forward to your real life dating success.

About the author:
William F. Martin offers interesting views on dating and relationships. He offers wholistic tips and advice to creating a healthy relationship with the man or woman of your dreams. Check out his dating site to find a partner at http://www.meetyourgreens.com --- Publish or download articles or for free on: http://www.GoArticles.com | http://www.Dreamicles.com | http://www.AZ-Articles.com .

Realistic Dating

The Informal Normal In a Black-Tie-Affair World

Have you noticed the trend?

You ever notice how on programs like "The Bachelor" most of their dating episodes are via limousine escort?

They travel to lavish destinations amid scenic splendor. The sunsets are so beautiful you can almost hear nature singing its own rendition of, "Love Is A Many Splendid Thing."

You rarely ever even see a rainy day.

In "Sleepless In Seattle," the audience was left "Speechless in New York" atop the Empire State Building. The climactic romantic interlude that followed is one that will be etched in the memory of movie-lovers for a long time to come.

In "Sabrina," the audience feels the eloquent charm and ambience of Paris.

"You've Got Mail" spammed us with the scenic elegance and grandeur of all that's good in and around "The Big Apple".

If you really want to be depressed, sit and watch some of the workout programs that abound. Watch as brisk morning breezes enrapture the velvety clouds tracing the horizon from the backdrops of scenic vistas and ocean views. Who couldn't be motivated to work out?

We easily become captivated by "Lifestyles of The Rich and Famous," "Cribs," and the latest craze of "Extreme Make Over-Home Edition," dreaming if only...

Watch a few of the music videos that abound at VH1, MTV and BET. You will see more money, lavish diamonds, fancy fashions, flashy gold jewelry, expensive limousines and other fine automobiles watching these music video programs for one hour than most people will see in the average lifetime.

All commercials seem to have the same goal in mind to make us feel that their product is the missing link to our imminent happiness.

We live in a Black Tie Affair World!

No wonder so many people struggle with comparisons.

When one becomes enamored by the glitz and the glamour so prevalent in our culture, it is easy to feel relationally shortchanged and cheated in life.

This Black-Tie-Affair mindset causes many couples to strive to keep up with the Joneses to the point of being maxed out to the hilt in financial demise from debt. Money issues are cited as one of the biggest reasons for the breakdown in the family leading to divorce.

Are you struggling with the fantasy?

Are you confused with all the hoopla?

Is this life reality?

Is this relational reality?

Is it reality?

If it is, I must be missing something. I must have made a wrong turn in the road somewhere. Most of the families I know must have made the wrong turn with me.

Although my wife and I love each other very much, much of our relationship life is spent, well, INFORMALLY NORMAL. A day in the life for most couples is spent:

* Punching the old inevitable time clock.
* Doing the dishes and the laundry.
* Cooking.
* Paying bills.
* Fighting colds, headaches and fatigue.
* Changing diapers.
* Bathing the kids and getting them ready for bed.
* Getting up the next day and doing it all over again.

Most of the world struggles with getting up, getting old, getting fat, getting sick or simply getting by.

So, do yourself a favor. Stop buying in to all the hoopla and falsehood. If you get caught in this web of deceit, you just may miss out on what really matters - faith, family, character and integrity.

The last time I checked, love wasn't defined by the word MONEY.

For words that better define love you may want to consider: commitment, sacrifice, support, unselfishness, home building, encouragement, forgiveness, planning and working together.

Maybe a bit informal and normal...maybe not as flashy as dollar signs...but ironically, a lot richer!

About the Author
Stanley Leffew is the author of, "How To Be Wanted For a Lifetime of Nights and Not Just a Night of a Lifetime." His website, Advice for Lifetime Relationships is based on this same theme showing why leading-with-the-body in relationships feeds desire but fails to satisfy the longing of the heart for love, companionship and intimacy.

Writing Your Personal Ad

If you've never written a personal ad before, read through quite a few. What would attract your attention? What makes you roll your eyes and say, "Boring"? Come on, doesn't everybody like movies and romantic walks on the beach? You can do better than that!

If you're a fun person (and of course, you are!), write a fun personal ad! A great way to tell if you've gotten it right is to read it out loud--that's how it will "sound" in the reader's head. Wait to write until you're having an upbeat day and feeling good about yourself. Happiness shows, and we all enjoy being around people who enjoy life.

Think about what delight you can bring to the potential friend or partner you seek, and the unique qualities that you'll be bringing to that person's life. Then, let them know! It's not bragging, it's advertising, and if you don't tell say it, how will anybody know? The whole point is to let people know why they should get to know you, after all. If you've posted a photo (and you really need to--it increases your response rate exponentially!), and you're attractive, that goes without saying, so spend your words on something that doesn't show, like your Ph.d. in marine biology, or your world-famous comic book collection, or whatever cool fact is going to stop your prey from clicking away.

Once you've written it, set it aside for a little while before posting it. Look at a few more from other people. Then, come back and look at your own again, as if seeing it through a stranger's eyes. Is it likeable? Believable? Does it make you smile? Then load it up, and have fun!

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Your Online Personal Ad-Write for Success!

Where are all the good men/women? You go to parties, sign up for various activities and ask friends and family if they know anyone they can introduce you to. Yet, your dating life has been more than a little disappointing. What is a guy/girl supposed to do to find quality people?

Begin by continuing to do what you have been doing. These are all good ways to meet people. However, you may need to expand your search to the world of online dating. This would allow you to expand your search and come into contact with interested and available singles you would never meet in the existing circles in which you now move.

Perhaps you are thinking, "I have already tried this with little or mixed success." Maybe this too has become a source of disappointment and frustration and even despair. If so, you could be going about it the wrong way, or be in need of some
information to put you on a track to better success. The first important step is writing your personal ad and choosing a good site to place it on.

The following are tips to help you write for success.

* Be Yourself
The goal of your ad is to attract the kind of person who would be compatible with you. You are looking for someone who shares your goals, values, sense of humor, lifestyle and perhaps religion or other specific criteria. If you put in information that is not true to who you are, you could send potentially good dates on to the next ad. You may also attract the kind of person you are not interested in.

* Be Sincere
Nothing is more attractive than sincerity. Think about it. Isn't this a turn-on for you? If you are funny, be funny. If you are serious, be that. Use honesty in describing your traits and desires in a potential mate. If there is something that is a must-have for you in any future relationship, highlight it. Remember that when and if you move to the next step, the other person will experience you as you really are, regardless of what the picture you drew for them in your ad looked like.

* Write Like You Talk
This goes right along with being you. Don't make your ad seem too contrived or rehearsed. You will loose that feeling of sincerity. Write a few drafts and just let the thoughts flow. Then go back and edit it. Make sure you spell check and check again. There is no bigger turn-off than someone who appears to have poor grammar or spelling.

* Be Specific, But Leave Out Hang-Ups and Other Negatives
This is a first step. You want to put your true best forward. The picture you paint should be upbeat and positive. Everyone has a past. It's not wise too tell too much too soon. If you feel something is important, than put it in. A good example is "single mom", "divorced father of two", etc. Leave out the part about looking for someone to help me heal from a painful divorce. Do not mention past relationships except to inform that you had one.

* Highlight Your Uniqueness
There are things about us all that make us uniquely who we are. Let your ad portray this. If you have a special talent, interesting career or pastime, let people know about it. If it's important to you, it tells others much. If someone out there shares it, they will be drawn to what you have written. Find a unique way to highlight yourself. If you look like someone well known, put that in. Just remember, if you look like Woody Allen, don't portray yourself as a Robert Redford type.

* Avoid classic turn-offs
If you place a heavy emphasis on finding someone who is "beautiful" or "wealthy", you will turn off many people- often the very people who hope to attract. No one wants to be wanted for his or her looks or bank account. It also says something about you. How about superficial?

* Use a Picture
This is very important. Ads that don't have one get far fewer responses. Many singles are having a professional picture made of them. You want to look like your BEST self. A professional can usually do a much better job at a very reasonable cost if you shop around a bit.

* Post Your Ad On The Right Site
There are so many choices out there. Look for one that has a large membership of people who appear to be compatible with you. Make sure they have an enforced safety and privacy policy. There are specialty sites for people who seek a partner with a very particular passion or lifestyle. These include but are not limited to: animal lovers, vegetarians, advanced degreed professionals, and sites for people seeking those of the same faith. If your requirements include someone within a close geographical distance, look for the sites that offer you a good selection.

Once you have given it careful thought and a little research and
energy, write and post your ad for success.

Remember, we attract what we are, not what we want.


About the Author
Toni Coleman is a licensed therapist and relationship coach. She specializes in working with singles that want to create lasting, intimate relationships. Toni has over 20 years of post-masters
experience in relationship coaching with singles and couples. She has written numerous email classes for singles on all aspects of meeting, dating and relating. She is the author of the email newsletter, The Art of Intimacy, which goes out to thousands of subscribers monthly.

All About BBS Door Play

So you know how fun it is to hook on to your local BBS (Bulletin Board System) and chat the night away with new friends. What if you want something more from your BBS experience? Maybe you want to command a virtual army, become a pimp, perhaps go on an exciting quest. This is where BBS door play comes in, allowing you to play fun and exciting multiplayer games through the world of the Bulletin Board System.

In the world of the BBS (Bulletin Board System) a door is a software mechanism which allows users of the BBS to hook up to an external program. Users of this external program can communicate with other users through the BBS through this door. The most common use of the door: play games of course!

During the golden age of the BBS such door play was extremely popular. While there were other uses for BBS doors (such as creating BBS polls or time banks, where users can trade rationed hours on the BBS), games were certainly the most common way to utilize the amazing door technology. After all, who doesn’t want to enjoy the fun and excitement of a multiplayer game?

Since the heyday of the BBS was during the late 1980’s and early 1990’s, many a once popular door game might seem somewhat dated now. They are mostly text-based with few graphics to speak of, for the most part. But lack of graphics didn’t make them any less enjoyable, especially in a world before such explosive multiplayer games like Everquest and World of Warcraft.

So you log onto a BBS, open up a door, play a game. What sort of games were available? Due to the nature of the beast, most of the games were of the role playing or strategy variety. One of the most popular games was Barren Realms Elite, a BBS strategic war game.

In the game users would control part of a planet; these parts were known as barrens. The worlds were post-apocalyptic, and users would have to do their best to turn their barren into the strongest of all. In its most basic mode, users would compete with the other barrens on their world, seeking to overtake and destroy the others.

What made Barren Realms Elite so popular was one that it allowed BBSes to play against each other. Rather than competing with other barrens on your planet (all the barrens on a single planet would be made up from people of the same BBS), you would team up with the other barrens to seek to create the most powerful planet and destroy the other planets in the universe (populated by other BBSes). Inter-BBS door play!

Of course Barren Realms Elite (often abbreviated BRE) was not the only door game around. You also had many role playing games, such as Legend of the Red Dragon (LORD) 1 and 2, Usurper and more. There was also the popular sequel to Barren Realms Elite, called Solar Realms Elite.

The world of BBS door play was advanced in 1990 when Scott M. Baker created Land of Devastation, a multiplayer science fiction game taking place in a post-apocalyptic wasteland (there are a lot of those in science fiction games) which was the first to boast a fully graphical non-ascii user interface. In 2006 a new game was built on the “Devastation Engine” developed to create a 3D version of Land of Devastation, known as the Cerberus Incident.

As you can very well see, the world of BBS door play is one of endless possibility. Almost anything can be achieved, and because of the multiplayer functionality every game is completely different. Playing with other people will always create more possibilities than playing against a computer, because every person is different and has their own personality and their own way of playing.


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