What makes relationship last long? Why do some people seem to have happy and long-lasting relationships while others simply can’t seem to hold it together? Is there magic to what makes some relationships last longer than others?
Maybe there is. Or maybe it’s just that some people learn secrets of success from their grandparents or other relatives or friends. And since the latter is probably more accurate, here are some tried and true tips from people who have enjoyed long, happy relationships.
1. Dates: Dating does not have to end simply because the couple is married or has been together long. Keep dating each other. Even if life seems too busy, meet at the end of the evening for something light and easy, like viewing your favorite sitcom (record it if necessary) together or playing a game of Euchre.
2. Refresh: Take time to look back. Refresh your memories and share your most memorable moments. Take a look at what brought you together. Pull out those old pictures in happy moments and look at them together. Especially when times are difficult, lean back and rely on these old memories as your foundation and glue yourselves back together with them (not literally, of course!)
3. Fun: Couples tend to have fun on dates, and get too serious once married. Lighten up. Head to Yahoo Games (off Yahoo.com main site) and join in any number of card or other games. Or head to a local rental shop and rent an Xbox or other game player and some games.
4. Let Go: No need to hold on to the bad things that happened during an argument. Actively “forget”. Take them as lessons about what needs to be improved, or how to handle things better next time. Then move on. Be the first to apologize and make up.
5. Space: Give each other some space. Either you trust or you don’t. Get on with life, though. People need time alone and time with their mates and other friends. Be sure to give and take your fair share of space.
6. Disagree: Agree that it’s okay to disagree on some issues. You are still two different people, each with a brain of their own and an opinion. No need to create a new religion or political movement just to appease both of you. You don’t have to agree on everything. And you won’t. And that’s okay.
7. Reminiscences: Enjoy special moments, special anniversary dates and events. No need to be elaborate. For example, maybe you enjoyed watching a hot air balloon race one spring day. The next year, you might schedule time to watch it again. Make it an annual event. Collect postcards with balloons on the, playing cards, toss pillows…over time it becomes a theme.
So don’t wish for the “good old days”. Make them happen. You may be a little older, but you can rekindle the embers into a nice, warm glow. Take short steps to improve your relationships and let life’s problems magically pass by while you hold on to your relationship.
http://e-datecentral.com/dating_advice/improve_relationship.htm
Saturday, May 19, 2007
Finding Your Soul Mate with Online Matchmaking Services
Online matchmaking is hot. The continual growth in popularity of online matchmaking services has even some its harshest critics take a step back and say, "Well, looks like it works after all."
Indeed, the advantages of online matchmaking over other tried-and-not-so-true methods of meeting a mate, such as singles bars, blind dates, supermarkets and so on are undeniable and varied. These advantages include:
1. Matching: On many matchmaking sites you answer questions and specify what you are looking for in a mate. You can be very specific as to what you like and dislike, what you must have and what you cannot stand, and anything in between.
2. Convenience: You can search and communicate with prospective candidates at any time of the day or night.
3. Numbers: There are millions of people from whom to choose, of different ages, ethnicities, backgrounds, religions and geographical locations.
4. Interacting: While some people can say the right thing at the right time, some of us get the right ideas long after the fact. In online matchmaking, you have all the time to create opening lines or think up appropriate responses.
Exchanging email, instant/text messages, chatting, and phone calls help further in finding the right match as well as weeding out those who are incompatible to you or with whom you are uncomfortable.
5. Put Your Best Foot Forward: In online matchmaking you can broadcast your best talents and qualities by creating a profile that touches on all the interesting elements that make the real you.
6. Privacy: Online matchmaking services provide easy-to-use features as well as an environment that lets you communicate while maintaining your anonymity. You can remain anonymous until you are ready to reveal more about yourself to the right person.
You also get to check out any number of potential mates without their ever knowing you took a peek.
7. Familiarity: You get to "know" the people who seem promising before meeting in person. This eliminates the awkwardness of first introductions. You also have an idea of what your prospective mate looks like, as you will have exchanged photos.
8. Minimizing risk: Meeting strangers in bars, clubs and other similar places carries an element of risk. Though risk cannot be entirely eliminated in online matchmaking you can maintain safety with caution and commonsense.
The fact that you have been communicating with the person for some time minimizes risk as you already know the person to a certain extent.
All in all, online matchmaking services offer many advantages over other dating methods. A reputable service can offer you a way to meet lots of compatible singles who are also looking for serious partners. Reputable matchmaking sites offer free trials.
About the author :
Indeed, the advantages of online matchmaking over other tried-and-not-so-true methods of meeting a mate, such as singles bars, blind dates, supermarkets and so on are undeniable and varied. These advantages include:
1. Matching: On many matchmaking sites you answer questions and specify what you are looking for in a mate. You can be very specific as to what you like and dislike, what you must have and what you cannot stand, and anything in between.
2. Convenience: You can search and communicate with prospective candidates at any time of the day or night.
3. Numbers: There are millions of people from whom to choose, of different ages, ethnicities, backgrounds, religions and geographical locations.
4. Interacting: While some people can say the right thing at the right time, some of us get the right ideas long after the fact. In online matchmaking, you have all the time to create opening lines or think up appropriate responses.
Exchanging email, instant/text messages, chatting, and phone calls help further in finding the right match as well as weeding out those who are incompatible to you or with whom you are uncomfortable.
5. Put Your Best Foot Forward: In online matchmaking you can broadcast your best talents and qualities by creating a profile that touches on all the interesting elements that make the real you.
6. Privacy: Online matchmaking services provide easy-to-use features as well as an environment that lets you communicate while maintaining your anonymity. You can remain anonymous until you are ready to reveal more about yourself to the right person.
You also get to check out any number of potential mates without their ever knowing you took a peek.
7. Familiarity: You get to "know" the people who seem promising before meeting in person. This eliminates the awkwardness of first introductions. You also have an idea of what your prospective mate looks like, as you will have exchanged photos.
8. Minimizing risk: Meeting strangers in bars, clubs and other similar places carries an element of risk. Though risk cannot be entirely eliminated in online matchmaking you can maintain safety with caution and commonsense.
The fact that you have been communicating with the person for some time minimizes risk as you already know the person to a certain extent.
All in all, online matchmaking services offer many advantages over other dating methods. A reputable service can offer you a way to meet lots of compatible singles who are also looking for serious partners. Reputable matchmaking sites offer free trials.
About the author :
David Kamau is webmaster of http://www.e-datecentral.com which reviews dating sites. To find reputable Christian online dating sites go to: http://e-datecentral.com/personals/christian.htm
Writing an Online Dating Profile: Common Pitfalls to Avoid
When writing an online dating profile, there pitfalls that you should avoid as they may well cost you love of your life. Some common pitfalls include:
1. Laundry List:
Yes, complex beings we are, with wide and varied interests. But you don't need to put each and every one of them in your profile. Four to five activities that mean most to you and are integral to your life suffice.
2. Shopping List:
This is related to 1 above, only that you make a long list of demands that your prospect must have or meet. Some online dating profile lists of demands simply cannot be met by someone from planet earth. Be realistic.
3. Lies:
The biggest complaint about online dating is about all the liars out there. People lie about their marital status, age, profession, income and so on. These lies eventually catch up with them, inflicting deep wounds and even lifetime scars on either or both parties. Be honest.
2. TMI (Too Much Information):
Don't spill every little detail about yourself in your ad.
First, if you lay everything out on the table right away, you'll have a hard time finding things to talk about later.
Second, a little mystery in a relationship helps strengthen the interest in both parties. Take your time in finding out more about each other.
3. Bragging:
Nobody likes a show-off. But how, you might ask, do you write positively about yourself without sounding arrogant? Well, be objective as opposed to being subjective. Avoid self-aggrandizing commentaries like, "I look great", "I am successful", "I have a great sense of humor", and so on.
4. Clichés and Other Overused Phrases:
Guess what? Almost everyone enjoys "fine dining" and "long walks on a moonlit beach". You're not inviting a response when you list things like this. Using these phrases will make you seem unimaginative, if not outright boring. Put some thought into what you really enjoy doing and list things that make you stand out from the crowd.
5. Loser Words and Phrases:
Avoid using any of the following words or phrases in your personal profile:
a) "I'm tired of being alone" - This paints you as desperate and can set you up for responses by manipulative people.
b) "If you want more info, ask" - The whole response/reply process assumes this. Adding this line indicates laziness on your part to think about the content of your ad.
c) "I'm honest" - Even the most compulsive of liars won't admit to being one, so there's really no point in saying this.
d) "I'm no good at these things" - Few people consider themselves particularly gifted in writing personal ads. Like a) above, this reads like unmotivated filler text.
e) "I can't believe I'm doing this." Well, guess what, you are! Get real.
6. Shouting:
Typing in all capital letters is not only hard on the eyes, but also annoying to most readers. Also, on the Internet this is considered shouting. DON'T SHOUT! (See what I'm saying?).
7. Sexual Innuendo:
Save the sex talk for later communication, when you and your date become more comfortable with each other. What you intend as a cute remark may inadvertently be taken the wrong way.
8. Berating Former Relationships or Partners:
Almost everybody has gone through a relationship that just didn't work out (I doubt there's anybody who hasn't). Don't whine about what you didn't get out of your last relationship. This is not the time or place to vent.
9. Unfamiliar Words:
Don't try to show off vocabulary you do not have. The easier to read your personal profile is the better. Conversation-style writing that brings out your personality works best.
10. Negativity:
You want to come across positively. Talk about your positive aspects and traits. Leave the negative behind.
There you have ten common pitfalls to avoid when writing an online dating profile. And while you are at it, don't forget to check your spelling and grammar.
About the author :
1. Laundry List:
Yes, complex beings we are, with wide and varied interests. But you don't need to put each and every one of them in your profile. Four to five activities that mean most to you and are integral to your life suffice.
2. Shopping List:
This is related to 1 above, only that you make a long list of demands that your prospect must have or meet. Some online dating profile lists of demands simply cannot be met by someone from planet earth. Be realistic.
3. Lies:
The biggest complaint about online dating is about all the liars out there. People lie about their marital status, age, profession, income and so on. These lies eventually catch up with them, inflicting deep wounds and even lifetime scars on either or both parties. Be honest.
2. TMI (Too Much Information):
Don't spill every little detail about yourself in your ad.
First, if you lay everything out on the table right away, you'll have a hard time finding things to talk about later.
Second, a little mystery in a relationship helps strengthen the interest in both parties. Take your time in finding out more about each other.
3. Bragging:
Nobody likes a show-off. But how, you might ask, do you write positively about yourself without sounding arrogant? Well, be objective as opposed to being subjective. Avoid self-aggrandizing commentaries like, "I look great", "I am successful", "I have a great sense of humor", and so on.
4. Clichés and Other Overused Phrases:
Guess what? Almost everyone enjoys "fine dining" and "long walks on a moonlit beach". You're not inviting a response when you list things like this. Using these phrases will make you seem unimaginative, if not outright boring. Put some thought into what you really enjoy doing and list things that make you stand out from the crowd.
5. Loser Words and Phrases:
Avoid using any of the following words or phrases in your personal profile:
a) "I'm tired of being alone" - This paints you as desperate and can set you up for responses by manipulative people.
b) "If you want more info, ask" - The whole response/reply process assumes this. Adding this line indicates laziness on your part to think about the content of your ad.
c) "I'm honest" - Even the most compulsive of liars won't admit to being one, so there's really no point in saying this.
d) "I'm no good at these things" - Few people consider themselves particularly gifted in writing personal ads. Like a) above, this reads like unmotivated filler text.
e) "I can't believe I'm doing this." Well, guess what, you are! Get real.
6. Shouting:
Typing in all capital letters is not only hard on the eyes, but also annoying to most readers. Also, on the Internet this is considered shouting. DON'T SHOUT! (See what I'm saying?).
7. Sexual Innuendo:
Save the sex talk for later communication, when you and your date become more comfortable with each other. What you intend as a cute remark may inadvertently be taken the wrong way.
8. Berating Former Relationships or Partners:
Almost everybody has gone through a relationship that just didn't work out (I doubt there's anybody who hasn't). Don't whine about what you didn't get out of your last relationship. This is not the time or place to vent.
9. Unfamiliar Words:
Don't try to show off vocabulary you do not have. The easier to read your personal profile is the better. Conversation-style writing that brings out your personality works best.
10. Negativity:
You want to come across positively. Talk about your positive aspects and traits. Leave the negative behind.
There you have ten common pitfalls to avoid when writing an online dating profile. And while you are at it, don't forget to check your spelling and grammar.
About the author :
David Kamau is webmaster of http://www.e-datecentral.com which reviews dating sites. To find reputable Christian online dating sites go to: http://e-datecentral.com/personals/christian.htm
Friday, May 18, 2007
Must Love Wing Tips
Executives tend to list eyes as their best feature
We figured that asking single executives to talk about their love lives would be a frustrating, probably futile pursuit. We might as well be inquiring about their mental health. So we turned to several online matchmaking sites to get the lowdown on what the lonely hearts in the executive suite secretly yearn for.
To start with, more than a third of all online daters are over 45, and 19% make more than $100,000 a year, says Web tracking firm Hitwise. Industry pioneer Match.com reports that 7% of its 8 million U.S. members call themselves executives (while the government classifies 4% of the workforce as managers).
They're more likely to be divorced (36%), have dogs (30%), and enjoy wine tastings (20%) than other singles. They tend to list their eyes as their best feature -- in marked contrast to, say, the nonexecutive singles of Grand Rapids, Mich., where the largest group (5.8%) cites their butts. Manhattan has the highest percentage of execs (29%) who find power a turn-on; Las Vegas has the biggest share (22%) who say money is. Colorado Springs has the most who are turned off by power and money.
In Washington, D.C., the women have high financial expectations: 44.3% of female executives want a match who makes more than $150,000. In Raleigh, N.C., it's the men who do: 37.2% of the male executives there want a date who rakes in that much.
Executives are sexually adventurous. True.com, a fast-growing matchmaking site, offers a sexual compatibility quiz that puts people into one of eight categories, from "traditionalists" to "mavericks." Sixteen percent of executive members are mavericks, vs. 12% overall. "They're willing to do just about anything," says True.com founder Herb Vest, "within the normal parameters."
And yes, older men want younger women. Match.com says male execs in L.A. typically seek women 13 years younger. About 25% of eHarmony.com's men over 55 are interested in women 40 or younger. That can put founder Dr. Neil Clark Warren in the awkward spot of having to explain to some men that younger women just aren't into them. "I've had men ask: 'Do they know what I'm worth?"' he says.
They can take heart: Palm Bay, Fla., has the highest percentage (7%) of women seeking bald men.
http://www.businessweek.com/magazine/content/06_08/b3972114.htm
We figured that asking single executives to talk about their love lives would be a frustrating, probably futile pursuit. We might as well be inquiring about their mental health. So we turned to several online matchmaking sites to get the lowdown on what the lonely hearts in the executive suite secretly yearn for.
To start with, more than a third of all online daters are over 45, and 19% make more than $100,000 a year, says Web tracking firm Hitwise. Industry pioneer Match.com reports that 7% of its 8 million U.S. members call themselves executives (while the government classifies 4% of the workforce as managers).
They're more likely to be divorced (36%), have dogs (30%), and enjoy wine tastings (20%) than other singles. They tend to list their eyes as their best feature -- in marked contrast to, say, the nonexecutive singles of Grand Rapids, Mich., where the largest group (5.8%) cites their butts. Manhattan has the highest percentage of execs (29%) who find power a turn-on; Las Vegas has the biggest share (22%) who say money is. Colorado Springs has the most who are turned off by power and money.
In Washington, D.C., the women have high financial expectations: 44.3% of female executives want a match who makes more than $150,000. In Raleigh, N.C., it's the men who do: 37.2% of the male executives there want a date who rakes in that much.
Executives are sexually adventurous. True.com, a fast-growing matchmaking site, offers a sexual compatibility quiz that puts people into one of eight categories, from "traditionalists" to "mavericks." Sixteen percent of executive members are mavericks, vs. 12% overall. "They're willing to do just about anything," says True.com founder Herb Vest, "within the normal parameters."
And yes, older men want younger women. Match.com says male execs in L.A. typically seek women 13 years younger. About 25% of eHarmony.com's men over 55 are interested in women 40 or younger. That can put founder Dr. Neil Clark Warren in the awkward spot of having to explain to some men that younger women just aren't into them. "I've had men ask: 'Do they know what I'm worth?"' he says.
They can take heart: Palm Bay, Fla., has the highest percentage (7%) of women seeking bald men.
http://www.businessweek.com/magazine/content/06_08/b3972114.htm
Thursday, May 17, 2007
Her Perspective
No Waiting Dating sets a precedent in speed dating. We ALWAYS book an equal number of men and women. Our policy is NEVER to have more than 2 of one sex or the other and that is only because of 1) there is a no-show or 2) a cancellation at the last minute.
We have a dress code ('First Impression' Dress); we occasionally check IDs to ensure participants are within the specified age range; and we choose upscale venues with good acoustics, easy parking and make sure you're not sitting too close to the other attendees.
Our events are ENJOYABLE experiences. We are professional, we care and we put ourselves in your place to make sure you have a good time.
We invite you to call us and experience 'Speed Dating at its Finest.'
http://www.nowaitingdating.com/MatchMaker/Articles.asp?id=42
We have a dress code ('First Impression' Dress); we occasionally check IDs to ensure participants are within the specified age range; and we choose upscale venues with good acoustics, easy parking and make sure you're not sitting too close to the other attendees.
Our events are ENJOYABLE experiences. We are professional, we care and we put ourselves in your place to make sure you have a good time.
We invite you to call us and experience 'Speed Dating at its Finest.'
http://www.nowaitingdating.com/MatchMaker/Articles.asp?id=42
Wednesday, May 16, 2007
Do Nice Guys Finish Last?
Are we just trying to make ourselves feel better when, in fact, the problem may lie with us and not with the women who prefer guys who apparently, are not nice?
Do men honestly think that being nice is a drawback when it comes to women? I think that we need to take a good look at ourselves if we've ever uttered this phrase as an excuse.
Nice Guy Syndrome has become a pervasive way of thinking for a certain type of man. I stumbled on this quote posted on the Counseling Center for Human Development Web site at The University of South Florida:
"The nice guy is the person who you trust and feel comfortable with, but don't see as 'fun' or 'challenging' or really all that 'interesting,' other than as a friend, of course."
I think that quote is the classic Nice Guy Syndrome mind-set. It sounds pretty reasonable at first blush, but if we look deeper at how the "Nice Guys" behave, we'll see some similarities in their thinking and actions.
Some of the symptoms of Nice Guy Syndrome:
Avoiding Conflicts
A so-called Nice Guy will go out of his way to avoid an argument even if he strongly believes he's right. That kind of passivity doesn't mean that you're nice. It means that you're a pushover. It's not the challenge that women really want, it's someone who has his own set of opinions and is willing to back them up.
Having a spine is a good thing... and conflicts are how we learn about each other. Deferring to the woman all the time leads to a stagnation in the relationship and can make a woman feel quite alone because when she looks to you for an opinion, all she'll get back is her own.
Placing Women on Pedestals This is a really big problem with Nice Guys and it's a sure-fire path to failure.
When you put a woman on a pedestal, you thrust upon her the idea that she is perfect, beyond-reproach, angelic, and unable to make mistakes. Who in the world can live up to that kind of billing?
When a woman who has been placed on a pedestal inevitably falters or takes a misstep, she comes crashing down hard. The man who placed her there can't believe that the woman he placed all his faith in could suddenly become so... well... human.
Holding anyone up to unrealistic expectations is unhealthy for both parties. Nice Guys have to realize that they are involved with women who have faults. Stop foisting what you wish were their traits on them - and take them for the wonderfully, flawed individuals that they are.
Passive Neediness Oooh... this is one of the most irritating things in the world to witness. It also falls under the unrealistic expectations category. You want something from your mate (fair enough), but you don't ask for it (not fair at all), then you feel hurt when you don't get it (incredibly unfair).
Basically, if you want something, you have to ask for it. Then, and only then, if you don't get it you can make an issue of it by verbalizing your feelings. Expecting a woman to read your mind is rather unfair, don't you think?
By now you may be thinking: Nice Guys aren't always nice, and have a tendency to be passive aggressive in these situations. The trouble is, Nice Guys think that asking for something makes them selfish. But they have to wake up to the fact that we all want and need things. It's what makes us human. Ask, and maybe, ye shall receive.
Living For Someone Else Another classic trait of Nice Guy Syndrome entails the idea of self-sacrifice. That's not always a bad thing, but if a relationship only has one person making sacrifices, we run into trouble. The end result of this is that the Nice Guy feels used and unappreciated.
Nice Guys often lose themselves in their partner and do everything to try and make them happy. But, in the process, they lose their individuality, the very individuality that probably made them attractive to their mate in the first place.
Nice Guys are so very eager to please that they end up denying themselves happiness along the way. Does that sound like a healthy way to live?
No More Mr. Nice Guy
As you can see, Nice Guy Syndrome is a pretty damaging condition. So the next time you utter the phrase, "nice guys finish last", think about what you're saying and take a moment to see if you really are as "nice" as you believe.
http://www.vvaaa.com/dating/articles/article2.php
Do men honestly think that being nice is a drawback when it comes to women? I think that we need to take a good look at ourselves if we've ever uttered this phrase as an excuse.
Nice Guy Syndrome has become a pervasive way of thinking for a certain type of man. I stumbled on this quote posted on the Counseling Center for Human Development Web site at The University of South Florida:
"The nice guy is the person who you trust and feel comfortable with, but don't see as 'fun' or 'challenging' or really all that 'interesting,' other than as a friend, of course."
I think that quote is the classic Nice Guy Syndrome mind-set. It sounds pretty reasonable at first blush, but if we look deeper at how the "Nice Guys" behave, we'll see some similarities in their thinking and actions.
Some of the symptoms of Nice Guy Syndrome:
Avoiding Conflicts
A so-called Nice Guy will go out of his way to avoid an argument even if he strongly believes he's right. That kind of passivity doesn't mean that you're nice. It means that you're a pushover. It's not the challenge that women really want, it's someone who has his own set of opinions and is willing to back them up.
Having a spine is a good thing... and conflicts are how we learn about each other. Deferring to the woman all the time leads to a stagnation in the relationship and can make a woman feel quite alone because when she looks to you for an opinion, all she'll get back is her own.
Placing Women on Pedestals This is a really big problem with Nice Guys and it's a sure-fire path to failure.
When you put a woman on a pedestal, you thrust upon her the idea that she is perfect, beyond-reproach, angelic, and unable to make mistakes. Who in the world can live up to that kind of billing?
When a woman who has been placed on a pedestal inevitably falters or takes a misstep, she comes crashing down hard. The man who placed her there can't believe that the woman he placed all his faith in could suddenly become so... well... human.
Holding anyone up to unrealistic expectations is unhealthy for both parties. Nice Guys have to realize that they are involved with women who have faults. Stop foisting what you wish were their traits on them - and take them for the wonderfully, flawed individuals that they are.
Passive Neediness Oooh... this is one of the most irritating things in the world to witness. It also falls under the unrealistic expectations category. You want something from your mate (fair enough), but you don't ask for it (not fair at all), then you feel hurt when you don't get it (incredibly unfair).
Basically, if you want something, you have to ask for it. Then, and only then, if you don't get it you can make an issue of it by verbalizing your feelings. Expecting a woman to read your mind is rather unfair, don't you think?
By now you may be thinking: Nice Guys aren't always nice, and have a tendency to be passive aggressive in these situations. The trouble is, Nice Guys think that asking for something makes them selfish. But they have to wake up to the fact that we all want and need things. It's what makes us human. Ask, and maybe, ye shall receive.
Living For Someone Else Another classic trait of Nice Guy Syndrome entails the idea of self-sacrifice. That's not always a bad thing, but if a relationship only has one person making sacrifices, we run into trouble. The end result of this is that the Nice Guy feels used and unappreciated.
Nice Guys often lose themselves in their partner and do everything to try and make them happy. But, in the process, they lose their individuality, the very individuality that probably made them attractive to their mate in the first place.
Nice Guys are so very eager to please that they end up denying themselves happiness along the way. Does that sound like a healthy way to live?
No More Mr. Nice Guy
As you can see, Nice Guy Syndrome is a pretty damaging condition. So the next time you utter the phrase, "nice guys finish last", think about what you're saying and take a moment to see if you really are as "nice" as you believe.
http://www.vvaaa.com/dating/articles/article2.php
Dating advice.
Online dating is an excellent way of meeting exciting new people. But connecting with someone in an everyday environment such as a shop or dog park has advantages too, namely an obvious starting point for conversation. Which public places are best for cruising unattached cuties? Read on...
Meeting singles by flirting at bars and clicking with online Lavalifers definitely has its arousing advantages, but hooking up with other spicy singles need not be limited to traditional dating venues. In fact, it can equally mischievous to connect with someone in an everyday environment--food shopping, wine tasting, frolicking at a dog park. Best, the pressure-free surroundings provide a natural conversation topic to begin interacting. Regularity is the salacious secret here: the more you bump into each other, the most comfortable you'll become. Make sure to frequent places that best reflect your interests.
1. Linen Beginnings What's more alluring than soft bed sheets, a clean bathroom, and fluffy towels? Department store linen departments are one of the sassiest places for neat freaks to meet likeminded singles. It's probably safe to assume that if a hottie guy or girl cares about guest towels, they're likely feel good about asking you over and making you feel at home.
2. Judge a Book by its Lover From poetry to porn, fiction to sex addiction, what can't you say about yourself by browsing in a particular section of a bookstore or library? Many of today's book superstores also provide coffee shops, comfy seating, and air conditioning, so take your time and read between the lines of other shoppers.
3. Bedding at the Wedding Frequently and mistakenly dreaded by the dateless, nuptial events rank right up there with other pick-up hot spots. Romance is in the air, all are dressed to the nines, there's vino and dancing to be relished, and you already know everyone at the event by mere association. So usher in your enticing side and say 'I do' to those roomfuls of potential dates.
4. Food for Thought Are you a tofu stir-fry kind of guy or a flank steak girl, a Rice Krispie square baker or a fresh parmesan grater? Shopping carts weren't constructed of wire mesh without purpose--they're ideal for snooping. Visit your grocer on the same day every week, giving yourself plenty of time to squeeze the melons, smell the strawberries, and flirt your pants off with likeminded foodies.
5. Charity Begins Alone Want to meet that special someone while simultaneously contributing to the community? Then volunteering is for you. With so many charities needing support--from the SPCA to the Sally Ann--you'll have no problem finding a cause that sates your Good Samaritan urge. And volunteers can be counted on to be thoughtful and considerate types, usually with plenty of free time to play and cavort with other slinky singles.
6. It's a Dog-Meet-Dog World You don't have to be a canine owner to meet all the young, hip singles hanging out at a dog park--borrow one from a friend who's "out of town" for a few days. The pups do all the judging for you, even down to the crotch-sniffing. All you have to do is throw a soggy tennis ball a few times and follow up.
7. Be a Winer Vineyard tours, wine-tasting events and oenophile and sommelier classes are all single-friendly gatherings where picking up can be as easy as picking grapes. Come prepared to talk about your favorite vintages or a nearby restaurant with a noteworthy wine carte--the perfect stepping stone for a date.
8. Come Clean A few quarters and a scoopful of laundry detergent could easily morph into a few hours of steamy conversation with a new single in your 'hood. You've got a few hours to work your wonders while clothes tumble and toss. And what better way to check out someone's sexy underclothes or show off your own trendy garb?
9. Perk Up Meet other caffeine addicts in a swish, relaxed atmosphere. Tightly packed tables, background jazz music stylings and a laissez-faire attitude encouraging subtle displays of personal interest--journal writing, laptop work, book reading, photograph browsing--all make coffee shops a pick-up spot accessible to everyone.
10. Hobnob Hobbies From marketing seminars for career-focused urbanites to language classes for travel-fiends to Pilates for the amorously athletic, classes are a shoo-in for meeting singles of a similar persuasion. Pick a hobby that interests you and that you know will attract the kind of person you're hot for--you'd be mistaken if you expected to find a roomful of single men at a salsa lesson or a gaggle of gorgeous girls at a racecar mechanic's class. Check out your local community center, dance studio, college, and conference hall for offerings.
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Meeting singles by flirting at bars and clicking with online Lavalifers definitely has its arousing advantages, but hooking up with other spicy singles need not be limited to traditional dating venues. In fact, it can equally mischievous to connect with someone in an everyday environment--food shopping, wine tasting, frolicking at a dog park. Best, the pressure-free surroundings provide a natural conversation topic to begin interacting. Regularity is the salacious secret here: the more you bump into each other, the most comfortable you'll become. Make sure to frequent places that best reflect your interests.
1. Linen Beginnings What's more alluring than soft bed sheets, a clean bathroom, and fluffy towels? Department store linen departments are one of the sassiest places for neat freaks to meet likeminded singles. It's probably safe to assume that if a hottie guy or girl cares about guest towels, they're likely feel good about asking you over and making you feel at home.
2. Judge a Book by its Lover From poetry to porn, fiction to sex addiction, what can't you say about yourself by browsing in a particular section of a bookstore or library? Many of today's book superstores also provide coffee shops, comfy seating, and air conditioning, so take your time and read between the lines of other shoppers.
3. Bedding at the Wedding Frequently and mistakenly dreaded by the dateless, nuptial events rank right up there with other pick-up hot spots. Romance is in the air, all are dressed to the nines, there's vino and dancing to be relished, and you already know everyone at the event by mere association. So usher in your enticing side and say 'I do' to those roomfuls of potential dates.
4. Food for Thought Are you a tofu stir-fry kind of guy or a flank steak girl, a Rice Krispie square baker or a fresh parmesan grater? Shopping carts weren't constructed of wire mesh without purpose--they're ideal for snooping. Visit your grocer on the same day every week, giving yourself plenty of time to squeeze the melons, smell the strawberries, and flirt your pants off with likeminded foodies.
5. Charity Begins Alone Want to meet that special someone while simultaneously contributing to the community? Then volunteering is for you. With so many charities needing support--from the SPCA to the Sally Ann--you'll have no problem finding a cause that sates your Good Samaritan urge. And volunteers can be counted on to be thoughtful and considerate types, usually with plenty of free time to play and cavort with other slinky singles.
6. It's a Dog-Meet-Dog World You don't have to be a canine owner to meet all the young, hip singles hanging out at a dog park--borrow one from a friend who's "out of town" for a few days. The pups do all the judging for you, even down to the crotch-sniffing. All you have to do is throw a soggy tennis ball a few times and follow up.
7. Be a Winer Vineyard tours, wine-tasting events and oenophile and sommelier classes are all single-friendly gatherings where picking up can be as easy as picking grapes. Come prepared to talk about your favorite vintages or a nearby restaurant with a noteworthy wine carte--the perfect stepping stone for a date.
8. Come Clean A few quarters and a scoopful of laundry detergent could easily morph into a few hours of steamy conversation with a new single in your 'hood. You've got a few hours to work your wonders while clothes tumble and toss. And what better way to check out someone's sexy underclothes or show off your own trendy garb?
9. Perk Up Meet other caffeine addicts in a swish, relaxed atmosphere. Tightly packed tables, background jazz music stylings and a laissez-faire attitude encouraging subtle displays of personal interest--journal writing, laptop work, book reading, photograph browsing--all make coffee shops a pick-up spot accessible to everyone.
10. Hobnob Hobbies From marketing seminars for career-focused urbanites to language classes for travel-fiends to Pilates for the amorously athletic, classes are a shoo-in for meeting singles of a similar persuasion. Pick a hobby that interests you and that you know will attract the kind of person you're hot for--you'd be mistaken if you expected to find a roomful of single men at a salsa lesson or a gaggle of gorgeous girls at a racecar mechanic's class. Check out your local community center, dance studio, college, and conference hall for offerings.
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