It's that Special Time of Year! Time to tangle yourself in Christmas lights, indulge with eggnog, and deck the house with wrapping paper scraps and bows that have lost their stickiness.
Being a single woman over the holidays is a task for the mightiest of heroines. You must navigate the minefield of Christmas parties, deflect questions about your commitment to producing grandchildren, and avoid the temptation to sneak just one more holiday chocolate into your purse for later.
Yes, it takes resolve of steel, but luckily, with these tips, you'll be a bit better prepared than Bridget Jones.
1. Swap sparkling water for champagne - at least every other glass.
There's nothing sexier than a woman twirling a slender glass sparkling with golden bubbles. Swap the champagne for sparkling water, and few will notice the difference. You'll cut down on the empty calories, stay sober and bright-eyed until the party's end, and wake up the next day no worse for the wear. Treat your body well this holiday season.
2. Holiday fashions can be disastrous, even on the most perfect body. So when you're picking out an outfit for that holiday party, be wary of the following:
- Anything shiny, sparkly, or with sequins;
- Anything featuring Santas, reindeer, or elves;
- Anything involving velvet and white cuffs; and
- ANYTHING that jingles or sings on command.
3. Don't be the grinch.
Whether or not you think Christmas is an excess of consumerism, a pagan holiday, or simply an annoying interjection in your peaceful and quiet life, don't give into the temptation to bring everyone else down. Radiate joy and goodwill to all men. (And here's another tip: a holiday spirit is highly attractive.)
4. Keep a firm grip on your emotions.
Yes, I know: it's hard being single during the holidays. It's hard being in a rocky relationship, too, especially if you don't know whether or not you'll last past New Year's. It's hard being married and arguing over which group of parents to visit and how much to spend on presents. The holidays stress out EVERYONE, so whether you're single or in a relationship, remember that everyone is in the same boat.
The best cure for the holiday blues is to focus on your connection with others. Give a friend a hand with her Christmas preparations. Take your mother out for coffee and watch the antics at the indoor ice rink. Offer to babysit friends' children so that they can go Christmas shopping. By the time Christmas comes, you'll be so full of love for those around you that you'll be amazed to realize that you haven't dreamed about Mr. Right for weeks.
5. Enjoy the party.
And when I say, "Enjoy the PARTY," I mean it! Don't talk to one person with half your attention while you case the crowd for single possibilities. Don't decide that the party was a waste or a winner based on whether or not you exchanged phone numbers. Don't cast longing glances at the object of your admiration. Focus on enjoying yourself with the people around you. Be present in the moment, not stuck in your expectations. I promise you that not only will you have a lot more fun, but you'll actually attract single guys to you without batting an eye.
And if Bridget Jones would have known all THAT ... well, there's no way she would have wasted her time with Daniel Cleaver.
Happy Holidays from all of us here at 000Relationships.com. Ho ho ho!
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