Flirting online can be difficult. This mainly is because flirting has always been physical, involving body language such as eye-contact, smiling etc. Flirting through a modem therefore poses a certain challenge. But it can be done.
Flirting is an art that requires oozing confidence without being OTT (Over The Top). Many of the same things work for online flirting as in "brick and mortar" flirting. A delicate balance born of insight as well as experience is still required. Why?
Well, go too far and she will label you "slimy". Don't go far enough and she will label you "wimpy". So how do you achieve that point half way between slimy and wimpy and do it online without using eye contact or body language?
1. Have fun! Flirting is playful. Be light-hearted, funny and entertaining. But, don't go too far with humor at the beginning. Try to gauge what kind of humor you can get away with.
2. Keep it simple. Use short emails or messages, and day to day conversational language.
3. Ooze confidence. Successful flirts have a positive outlook on life, which is often infectious. You need to transmit the "feel good" factor. Women have always been attracted to confident, optimistic men.
4. Listen to her. Pay attention to what she says and ask appropriate questions. Successful flirts often use their "third ear". What is that? It is listening beyond what is spoken, or in our case, reading between the lines of her messages. Make her feel like she is interesting and that you are interested in her.
5. Compliment her. And be sincere. Nothing opens doors like making her feel good about herself. Look for something unique or subtle to compliment her about. Beautiful women often grow tired of being told they are beautiful.
6. Avoid sexual overtones. Flirting does not have to include being sexual suggestions and innuendos: this might actually turn her.
7. Send an email after you chat. This ranks right up there with sending a thank you note for a gift and it is vital to successful online flirting.
Take it slow. Don't try to go too fast. Remember you are only a click away from being shut out. Done right, online flirting can be the first step to a successful and long-lasting relationship.
About the author:
David Kamau is webmaster of http://e-datecentral.com, which reviews websites. Get best-selling dating, romance and relationships ebooks free at: http://e-datecentral.com/subscribe.htm
Wednesday, May 30, 2007
Establishing Internet Relationships: Safety First
Online dating can be fun. But while establishing internet relationships, don't neglect safety and common sense when you try to hook up with a mate. At minimum, take caution in the following areas.
Protect Your Computer
This is one which we tend to forget. Your personal safety comes first, but when dating online, there is a chance that someone could grab at you through the computer screen. How?
Spy-ware, Trojan horses and other malicious software could sneak into your computer without your knowledge. Before long, some stranger might know more about and your surfing habits than you would dare to think.
Not only that but, your computer could experience a system crash or start acting funny (and not in a humorous way).
Take care of your equipment and systems before you head out into the Internet realm. You need to have a firewall and anti-virus protection for your email and for when you search websites and interact online.
At the bare minimum, you need two forms of protective software:
1. A Firewall: Helps keep destructive or malicious wares from entering your system or network
2. Anti-Virus: Helps to stop and/or clean computer viruses
Protect Yourself
Next, you need to take care of yourself. Your personal safety is the most important aspect in establishing internet relationships. After all, you are dealing with strangers. So, how do you protect yourself?
Begin by choosing appropriate dating sites. Seek and choose a reputable online dating service.
You could start by asking around with friends and relatives neighbors, co-workers and others you may know who have tried internet relationships for recommendations. But be aware that dating sites tend to be tailored to meet specific needs, and what may be right for your friend may not necessarily be so for you.
Alternatively, you could do your own research. Do a search for "online dating services" with your favorite search engine. And take notes.
Among the things to look for are addresses or website links, the fees, rules and regulations, complete contact information of each and any other useful information that spikes your interest. Then compare each site. This could be tedious and time-consuming work.
An easier way around is to read objective dating site reviews on the internet. These will give you, at least, a summary of what to expect.
Success in internet relationships should never be left to chance. Neither should your personal safety. Try only those places where you feel safe. Avoid the others. So take care. Arm your computer - and yourself- with the correct tools and knowledge!
About the author:
David Kamau is webmaster of: http://e-datecentral.com which reviews dating sites. Receive free online dating, relationships, and romance ebooks at http://www.e-datecentral.com/subscribe2.htm
Protect Your Computer
This is one which we tend to forget. Your personal safety comes first, but when dating online, there is a chance that someone could grab at you through the computer screen. How?
Spy-ware, Trojan horses and other malicious software could sneak into your computer without your knowledge. Before long, some stranger might know more about and your surfing habits than you would dare to think.
Not only that but, your computer could experience a system crash or start acting funny (and not in a humorous way).
Take care of your equipment and systems before you head out into the Internet realm. You need to have a firewall and anti-virus protection for your email and for when you search websites and interact online.
At the bare minimum, you need two forms of protective software:
1. A Firewall: Helps keep destructive or malicious wares from entering your system or network
2. Anti-Virus: Helps to stop and/or clean computer viruses
Protect Yourself
Next, you need to take care of yourself. Your personal safety is the most important aspect in establishing internet relationships. After all, you are dealing with strangers. So, how do you protect yourself?
Begin by choosing appropriate dating sites. Seek and choose a reputable online dating service.
You could start by asking around with friends and relatives neighbors, co-workers and others you may know who have tried internet relationships for recommendations. But be aware that dating sites tend to be tailored to meet specific needs, and what may be right for your friend may not necessarily be so for you.
Alternatively, you could do your own research. Do a search for "online dating services" with your favorite search engine. And take notes.
Among the things to look for are addresses or website links, the fees, rules and regulations, complete contact information of each and any other useful information that spikes your interest. Then compare each site. This could be tedious and time-consuming work.
An easier way around is to read objective dating site reviews on the internet. These will give you, at least, a summary of what to expect.
Success in internet relationships should never be left to chance. Neither should your personal safety. Try only those places where you feel safe. Avoid the others. So take care. Arm your computer - and yourself- with the correct tools and knowledge!
About the author:
David Kamau is webmaster of: http://e-datecentral.com which reviews dating sites. Receive free online dating, relationships, and romance ebooks at http://www.e-datecentral.com/subscribe2.htm
The Essential Element In Friendship and Sex
Hollywood has encouraged the public to become more curious about the relationship between friendship and sex. Where does one stop, and where does the other begin? The following article does not answer that question. The following article focuses on one element that is an essential part of both sex and friendship. The following article underscores the benefits of good communications.
Both friendship and sex rely on the adept use of communication. A friend or sexual partner often serves as a “listening post,” a person who will lend an ear to the woes and boasts of a close friend or lover. During both friendship and sex, two driving forces motivate such all-important communication.
One of those forces arises from the desire by two people to know information. One friend, for example, wants to learn as much information as possible about a second friend. Someone in love hopes to know more about the cause of his or her heartthrob. Communication offers a tool by which to obtain a few desired facts.
The second force that encourages communication during both friendship and sex is the decision to talk. To be truly effective, communication should take the form of a two-way communication. Both friends and both sex partners must demonstrate a willingness to share information with another person.
The communication that takes place during either a friendship or a sex driven relationship seldom focuses on tangibles. Friends and lovers do not spend many hours discussing facts. Instead, they concentrate on sharing emotions. If a friend or lover does decide to discuss facts, then the cited facts frequently betray the friend or lover’s emotions.
For example, a friend might say, “I appreciate your help.” A lover might say, “I care about you.” Both of those phrases convey an emotional attachment—an attachment that can pave the way for friendship and sex.
Friendship and sex lay the groundwork for a long-term relationship. Yet in neither case is that relationship one that frees either party from responsibility. Two people who care about each other should feel obligated to carry-out valuable communications.
How can a friend or sex partner increase the value of his or her communications? He or she must learn how to make a non-intrusive inquiry. He or she must ask gently how a friend or lover feels. He or she must then become a receptive listener.
Most importantly, the friend or lover who has been provided with personal information must hold such information in strictest confidence. Both friendship and sex lead to the sharing of personal information between two people. Neither friendship nor sex gives those who hear such information the right to share it freely with others.
One friend should not have to spy on a second friend. A lover should not feel compelled to spy on a sex partner. Each should feel comfortable with the provided information. When one friend or one lover feels compelled to spy on the other then that can bespeak the end of the relationship.
Friendship can sometimes lead to sex. Friendship can also have other ramifications. For that reason, it is always good to keep in mind this phrase: “Show me your friends, and I will tell you who you are.” It is a phrase that many teens would like their parents to discount, but it is a phrase well worth recalling.
Time has proven the value of that simple phrase—a phrase that can serve as a guide for both friendship and sex.
http://articles.syl.com/theessentialelementinfriendshipandsex.html
Both friendship and sex rely on the adept use of communication. A friend or sexual partner often serves as a “listening post,” a person who will lend an ear to the woes and boasts of a close friend or lover. During both friendship and sex, two driving forces motivate such all-important communication.
One of those forces arises from the desire by two people to know information. One friend, for example, wants to learn as much information as possible about a second friend. Someone in love hopes to know more about the cause of his or her heartthrob. Communication offers a tool by which to obtain a few desired facts.
The second force that encourages communication during both friendship and sex is the decision to talk. To be truly effective, communication should take the form of a two-way communication. Both friends and both sex partners must demonstrate a willingness to share information with another person.
The communication that takes place during either a friendship or a sex driven relationship seldom focuses on tangibles. Friends and lovers do not spend many hours discussing facts. Instead, they concentrate on sharing emotions. If a friend or lover does decide to discuss facts, then the cited facts frequently betray the friend or lover’s emotions.
For example, a friend might say, “I appreciate your help.” A lover might say, “I care about you.” Both of those phrases convey an emotional attachment—an attachment that can pave the way for friendship and sex.
Friendship and sex lay the groundwork for a long-term relationship. Yet in neither case is that relationship one that frees either party from responsibility. Two people who care about each other should feel obligated to carry-out valuable communications.
How can a friend or sex partner increase the value of his or her communications? He or she must learn how to make a non-intrusive inquiry. He or she must ask gently how a friend or lover feels. He or she must then become a receptive listener.
Most importantly, the friend or lover who has been provided with personal information must hold such information in strictest confidence. Both friendship and sex lead to the sharing of personal information between two people. Neither friendship nor sex gives those who hear such information the right to share it freely with others.
One friend should not have to spy on a second friend. A lover should not feel compelled to spy on a sex partner. Each should feel comfortable with the provided information. When one friend or one lover feels compelled to spy on the other then that can bespeak the end of the relationship.
Friendship can sometimes lead to sex. Friendship can also have other ramifications. For that reason, it is always good to keep in mind this phrase: “Show me your friends, and I will tell you who you are.” It is a phrase that many teens would like their parents to discount, but it is a phrase well worth recalling.
Time has proven the value of that simple phrase—a phrase that can serve as a guide for both friendship and sex.
http://articles.syl.com/theessentialelementinfriendshipandsex.html
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