You knowtheres something about you I like. I cant put my finger on itbut theres something about you that makes you attractive.
Youve got charisma!
How do I know I know youve got charisma because youre open to the world around you and ready to learn new things that the universe has to offer. And if theres one characteristic you always find in charismatic people, its openness.
So, I think Ive got your pegged right when I say youve got charisma. Even if you dont know it yet.
Charisma is easy to spot. You could probably name a dozen charismatic people you know in politics, the entertainment industry, or your personal life. But even though its easy to spot, charisma isnt so easy to break down into its key components.
The It Factor
Its not so easy to identify exactly what it is about a person that makes him or her charismatic. You know that someones got it; you just cant quite define what it is.
Charisma is an attractiveness that goes beyond good looksan appeal that cant be labelleda captivating quality that isnt the result of simple intellectual brilliance or a terrific sense of humor.
Most people see charisma as something elusive and unachievablea kind of magical, mysterious magnetism that youre either born with or not. And the fact is that nothing could be further from the truth!
Charisma isnt a function of DNA. It can be developed
and it can be developed by YOU.
Charisma is defined as a certain presence. When charismatic people enter a room, their mere presence draws attention and their energy may radiate to enliven the entire gathering. At the core of this charisma, says Friedman, is a basic self-confidence and the ability to project this to others.
Your charisma can be improved and increaseand that takes work, but dont worry, the work is actually fun to do.
1. Youll get far more respect than the average person!
2. People will be drawn to you without any effort on your part!
3. Youll exude self-confidence!
4. Youll seem powerful without being intimidating.
5. Youll put people at ease and make them feel understood!
6. And youll be able to easily get what you want, because people will instinctively want to help you!
In your personal relationships, the quality of charisma can make your life fuller and more joyful. Members of your family and your friends will be far happier in your company, and you will have a greater influence on them, causing them to feel better about themselves and to do better at the important things in their lives.
Face it. Your charisma makes you irresistible.
In trying to explain charisma, some people speak of an aura that radiates out from a person and affects the people around him/her in a positive or negative way.
You Are What You Speak - Charismatic Words
We tend to equate charisma with a type of sex appeal or charm, but you can find charismatic leaders who were pretty darn unattractive. Look at British Prime Minister Winston Churchill, unarguably tremendously charismatic, but not attractive physically.
So an important part of charisma is the ability to elicit images in the mind of a follower. A message that is easy to see is easier to understand, and that works well for the message and the messenger.
Let Your Voice Come From Deep Within You
Its more likely than not that you dont involve your body in your speaking very much. You probably take shallow breaths, and when you speak, the resonance of your voice probably comes mainly out of your throat, neck and head, rather than out of your chest or deeper in your body.
Not good.
You must practice breathing more deeply, and practice letting sound come out of that deeper place within you. The following exercise is perfect for you:
Exercise: Open Up and Say Ahhhhh
Try breathing deeply and saying ahhhh, ahhhh, ahhhh with each breath, letting the sound come out of a lower place in your body. Then try speaking. Youll find that your voice is more resonant and easier to listen to. If you do this every day, after a while your habit of breathing will change, and your vocal tone will change along with it.
You can practice this exercise wherever its convenient: in the car on the way to work, in the shower in the morning, or whenever you happen to be alone.
Speak with Excitement
Many people who have been told that they lack charisma have usually gotten into the habit of never showing any real excitement about anything.
Charismatic, attractive people, on the other hand, are good at conveying their enthusiasm about things in their lives by the way that they speak. You can learn to do this by practicing speaking excitedly about things.
You do this by practice. Choose a topic, and spend one speaking about that topic with enthusiasm. Really let yourself go, and get excited about it! It doesnt matter if youre talking about baseball, a recipe for brownies, your spouse, your business, or world politics. The subject doesnt matter nearly as much as your ability to convey your excitement about it.
As you practice speaking excitedly, youll find you are more animated and exciting in all your conversations. And this will make you much more charismatic.
Dont Be Wishy Washy
Many people who come across as boring and un-focused were not rewarded during their formative years for speaking with certainly or decisiveness. As a result, theyve come to believe that the best way to get along in life was to stay under the radar, and to never appear too committed to anything
Thats a good way to get along, okay, if you dont mind being completely devoid of charismaand all the benefits that charisma brings.
If youd rather do more than just get along, if youd like to really be charismatic in your personal and business life, its time to start experimenting with speaking with certainty.
Exercise - Remove and Replace
Sounding wishy-washy is very much a function of the language you use when you express yourself. The easiest way to stop appearing to be drifting without a rudder is to remove the words I guess from your vocabulary.
When it comes to radiating charisma, you should remove all words of doubt and replace them with words of certainty.
* Instead of saying, I guess so, try saying, Yes!
* Instead of saying I guess thatd be okay, try saying, Thats what I want.
* Instead of saying, I guess we could sit over there, try saying, Lets sit over there.
Some people have natural charisma in their speaking. The rest of us just have practice.
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