Flirting online can be difficult. This mainly is because flirting has always been physical, involving body language such as eye-contact, smiling etc. Flirting through a modem therefore poses a certain challenge. But it can be done.
Flirting is an art that requires oozing confidence without being OTT (Over The Top). Many of the same things work for online flirting as in "brick and mortar" flirting. A delicate balance born of insight as well as experience is still required. Why?
Well, go too far and she will label you "slimy". Don't go far enough and she will label you "wimpy". So how do you achieve that point half way between slimy and wimpy and do it online without using eye contact or body language?
1. Have fun! Flirting is playful. Be light-hearted, funny and entertaining. But, don't go too far with humor at the beginning. Try to gauge what kind of humor you can get away with.
2. Keep it simple. Use short emails or messages, and day to day conversational language.
3. Ooze confidence. Successful flirts have a positive outlook on life, which is often infectious. You need to transmit the "feel good" factor. Women have always been attracted to confident, optimistic men.
4. Listen to her. Pay attention to what she says and ask appropriate questions. Successful flirts often use their "third ear". What is that? It is listening beyond what is spoken, or in our case, reading between the lines of her messages. Make her feel like she is interesting and that you are interested in her.
5. Compliment her. And be sincere. Nothing opens doors like making her feel good about herself. Look for something unique or subtle to compliment her about. Beautiful women often grow tired of being told they are beautiful.
6. Avoid sexual overtones. Flirting does not have to include being sexual suggestions and innuendos: this might actually turn her.
7. Send an email after you chat. This ranks right up there with sending a thank you note for a gift and it is vital to successful online flirting.
Take it slow. Don't try to go too fast. Remember you are only a click away from being shut out. Done right, online flirting can be the first step to a successful and long-lasting relationship.
David Kamau is webmaster of http://e-datecentral.com, which reviews websites. Get best-selling dating, romance and relationships ebooks free at: http://e-datecentral.com/subscribe.htm
