Aidan decided to consult with me because he wanted to get married and have a family. A handsome man in his mid-30s, it was certainly not obvious at first glance why he could not find a partner.
However, it didn't take me long to understand why relationships were not working for Aidan. Being with Aidan felt like being alone. He was so not present as to practically be invisible.
"Aidan," I asked, "What are you feeling right now?"
"I don't know."
"Aidan, please move your focus out of your head and focus inside your body. Breathe into your body. Notice any sensations in your body."
Aidan breathed. A few moments later he told me that he felt nervous.
"Aidan, imagine that the nervousness is a child inside you - your feeling self. I'd like you to notice what you are telling this child that is causing him to feel nervous."
"I'm telling him that he has to say the right thing so that you will like him."
"So when you tell yourself that you have to perform right in order to get my approval, you end up feeling nervous. What are you telling yourself about why is it so important to get my approval?"
"I guess I'm telling myself that if you like me and approve of me, I'm okay."
"Aidan, I'd like you to imagine that your inner child - your feeling self - is an actual child. Imagine that you have a little boy who is just like you were as a child. How would this little boy feel if you kept telling him that others had to like him for him to be okay? How would he feel if you kept handing him away to someone else for acceptance and approval?"
"I think he would feel rejected and abandoned by me. I think he would not feel very good about himself if I kept rejecting him."
"Yes, and that is exactly what is happening on the inner level. You are handing away your inner child for others to define as okay. But the very act of handing him away is causing low-self esteem. And how attractive do you think a woman finds you when you are approaching her from this neediness - this need for her to approve of you for you to feel okay?"
"Well, obviously, women don't find this attractive. But I didn't know I was doing this, and I don't know what to do about it."
"The first thing you need to do is practice moving your focus out of your head and into your body - into your feelings. Your inner child feels valued by you when you pay attention to him, which means paying attention to your feelings. Your anxious, nervous, fearful feelings are letting you know that you are abandoning yourself and telling yourself that you have to perform right to be okay. Your happy and peaceful feelings are telling you that you are connecting with yourself and taking care of yourself. When you keep your focus in your mind rather than your body, you don't know when you are abandoning yourself."
Aidan started to practice noticing his feelings, and noticing what he was telling himself that was causing his anxiety. The more he noticed and shifted his thinking about himself, the better he started to feel. Within a few months of practicing defining himself and taking care of himself, instead of handing himself over to others to define, Aidan found himself dating two women that he liked. The last time I spoke with him, he was in an exclusive relationship with one of the women, much to the dismay of the other woman!
http://www.articledashboard.com/Article/Dating--Why-Are-People-Rejecting-Me-/332665
Thursday, November 15, 2007
Will You Date Women With Children?
Recent survey showed that a good number of men favor to date single mothers. Out of five thousand men, forty eight percent find single mothers more motivated and mature in nurturing a relationship.
Twenty-five percent want or choose to date single mothers for the reason that single mothers are faced with a demanding and hectic schedule which is why they recognize the value of sacrifice single moms had to go through, making them a stronger person and the type to value a relationship.
Seventeen percent said that when they dated a single mom, it was an opportunity seeing the woman care for her children and that is such a wonderful sight.
Here are reasons why men love dating single moms:
1. Men look up to their mothers; therefore they see the single mom as a person who is more focused and responsible in life. She already knows what are her priorities and definitely will not let go of her children’s happiness for a man. Therefore, when she chooses to date a man, the man must be real special.
2. Single moms are strong, having had gone through raising her children alone.
3. They are independent, have a direction in life and very confident.
4. They value the quality of time, and this sets them apart. When they date a man or in a relationship, they often make the most out of that moment, and value their time spent together.
5. Single mothers give importance and cherish lasting relationships. They do not just fill time when dating, as they need to decide on doing something for them at the same time accomplishing the task of being a father and a mother to her kids. To the man searching for a lasting and true relationship, the single mom is perfect.
6. They approach dating with sincerity and not just a segment of a sequence of worthless dates or that which sprouts from one’s fear of loneliness.
7. Single moms relish their time when alone on a date and appreciate a simple evening, giving more importance of your time spent together, and not on how grand it is. This makes them fun to date.
Here are guidelines in dating single moms:
1. When she wants you to give her time before you meet her kids, be patient and realize that this is not because she does not like you, instead, she wants to become acquainted with you, at the same time that you will have a chance to become acquainted with her first “as a woman”, before you know her as a mom.
She still wants to know for sure how your relationship develops before introducing the kids to you.
2. Understand that she is a mom, her first priority being her children, so as much as she wants to, she can not make spur-of-the-moment plans with you. However romantic unplanned dinner dates may seem, understand that they are simply unworkable for single moms.
3. Know your part and never try to discipline her kids. Leave the disciplining to the mom and never be a father to her kids. They already have one, and will only feel bitter towards you if and when you take their father’s place.
Just be their friend whom they can trust and count on. This way, they will accept you and appreciate you more.
4. After a while of dating together and you know that you both are on your way to a lasting relationship, including the kids in your plans can be a great idea, wherein her children and you can spend time and get to know each other better. Plan your outings that kids will love and enjoy.
Dating women with children would entail so much than dating single women. However, should you really like a single mom and is willing to give the relationship a shot, then go for it. The single mom has many good qualities worth knowing and she has many good values worth your time. Let her kids be not of hindrance to you. As long as there is understanding, patience, dedication and love, you will both have a lasting relationship that you both will enjoy in the coming years.
http://www.articledashboard.com/Article/Will-You-Date-Women-With-Children-/332675
Twenty-five percent want or choose to date single mothers for the reason that single mothers are faced with a demanding and hectic schedule which is why they recognize the value of sacrifice single moms had to go through, making them a stronger person and the type to value a relationship.
Seventeen percent said that when they dated a single mom, it was an opportunity seeing the woman care for her children and that is such a wonderful sight.
Here are reasons why men love dating single moms:
1. Men look up to their mothers; therefore they see the single mom as a person who is more focused and responsible in life. She already knows what are her priorities and definitely will not let go of her children’s happiness for a man. Therefore, when she chooses to date a man, the man must be real special.
2. Single moms are strong, having had gone through raising her children alone.
3. They are independent, have a direction in life and very confident.
4. They value the quality of time, and this sets them apart. When they date a man or in a relationship, they often make the most out of that moment, and value their time spent together.
5. Single mothers give importance and cherish lasting relationships. They do not just fill time when dating, as they need to decide on doing something for them at the same time accomplishing the task of being a father and a mother to her kids. To the man searching for a lasting and true relationship, the single mom is perfect.
6. They approach dating with sincerity and not just a segment of a sequence of worthless dates or that which sprouts from one’s fear of loneliness.
7. Single moms relish their time when alone on a date and appreciate a simple evening, giving more importance of your time spent together, and not on how grand it is. This makes them fun to date.
Here are guidelines in dating single moms:
1. When she wants you to give her time before you meet her kids, be patient and realize that this is not because she does not like you, instead, she wants to become acquainted with you, at the same time that you will have a chance to become acquainted with her first “as a woman”, before you know her as a mom.
She still wants to know for sure how your relationship develops before introducing the kids to you.
2. Understand that she is a mom, her first priority being her children, so as much as she wants to, she can not make spur-of-the-moment plans with you. However romantic unplanned dinner dates may seem, understand that they are simply unworkable for single moms.
3. Know your part and never try to discipline her kids. Leave the disciplining to the mom and never be a father to her kids. They already have one, and will only feel bitter towards you if and when you take their father’s place.
Just be their friend whom they can trust and count on. This way, they will accept you and appreciate you more.
4. After a while of dating together and you know that you both are on your way to a lasting relationship, including the kids in your plans can be a great idea, wherein her children and you can spend time and get to know each other better. Plan your outings that kids will love and enjoy.
Dating women with children would entail so much than dating single women. However, should you really like a single mom and is willing to give the relationship a shot, then go for it. The single mom has many good qualities worth knowing and she has many good values worth your time. Let her kids be not of hindrance to you. As long as there is understanding, patience, dedication and love, you will both have a lasting relationship that you both will enjoy in the coming years.
http://www.articledashboard.com/Article/Will-You-Date-Women-With-Children-/332675
How The Shy Guy Can Start Dating
Many people have to overcome their shyness before starting to date. If you are a very shy person, you should be encouraged by the fact that a lot of persons like you have learned to have active dating lifestyles.
However, shy guys could not get themselves to make the first move or ask someone out on a date without considerable struggle or pain. This could block your chance of introducing yourself to someone you find very interesting.
There is a double-edge sword for shy people. Most times they belong to their own group of friends or family that provides them support. These groups know the person, understand the shyness and accept him or her, and often enjoy their company. This sense of refuge in your own group could work against the shy person and prevent them from venturing out to meet new people with different backgrounds and personalities. So what could a lonely shy person do besides curl up in front of the TV with the remote control?
The first thing to do is to recognize that being shy prevents you from dating and that you should overcome it. Sit yourself down and relax and start thinking of dating someone you like. Focus on the feelings, fears and apprehensions that develop as you start working yourself through the imaginary date. It is very helpful to have a clear understanding of your thoughts and feelings so you can confront the things that cause that paralyzing dread, that overwhelming shyness that could stop you dead on your tracks.
If you have great difficulty in isolating your thoughts, it would be a good idea to consider visiting a therapist for a few sessions of personal counseling. Only a few could be needed because the idea is for the therapist to help you identify the real causes of your shyness for dating. Once the process helps in isolating these causes, you would need little help in confronting or overcoming them. The counselor would also help build your confidence in facing these issues.
With or without the counselor, you could try to enact an imaginary date in your mind. Moving in precise steps: from meeting a woman, talking to her, calling her on the phone to set a date, choosing a place, picking her up, and so on. In your mind, walk yourself through each stage in as much detail as you can. Try to begin in a way or situation that is most comfortable with you. Then, at each stage, confront any tension or panic that you feel could prevent you from going to the next step. Repeat the “date” through each imaginary step until you can picture the entire dating sequence without feeling stressed out or petrified with shyness.
Once you understand your shyness and have a little idea of how to face it, it is time to go out with another person for a “test date”. Every person has persons from the opposite sex that is close to them. For guys, they would be a sister, a cousin, a good friend, colleague, or teammate. Make sure that the person is someone close to you and there is no chance of getting intimate with them. This friend should understand your dating (or more appropriately, “non-dating”) situation and be prepared to help you through some practice night outs or dates.
Depending on how close you are to this practice date partner, you can go through all the motions of a real date. Contact or call them and do all the steps we identified earlier in your “imaginary date” in these practice nights out. Act out a role as if the other person is a potential romantic date.
As practice runs go, a shy person is bound to mess up some of the steps. So it’s good to have a good friend playing practice date. Both of them can laugh off all the bloopers during the exercise, and may even make up good funny stories in the future. More importantly, they could talk about what went wrong, or when some sudden shyness acted up again. Remember, shyness not only affects how you relate to your date, but probably all people that the person will meet while he or she is with the said date (like the bartender, waiter, other guests in the restaurant, etc…). Having test dates will help call out potential “shy” traps.
Often, shyness comes from having feelings of low self-esteem. If it is something like being self-conscious of one’s weight or clothes, it could be remedied. Going on a fitness training program or changing your wardrobe will solve those two problems. And you should know that regular exercise gives you a slight feeling of exhilaration. So although you may not have lost all the extra pounds, you feel healthier, fitter and more comfortable around other people. The important thing is you did something to remove that feeling of inadequacy and made yourself feel better about yourself.
The pick-up lines, choice of date places, and seduction come a little later. What a shy guy should remember is overcoming the hurdle of meeting other people for a date is the key to starting off an active dating life.
http://www.articledashboard.com/Article/How-The-Shy-Guy-Can-Start-Dating/332703
However, shy guys could not get themselves to make the first move or ask someone out on a date without considerable struggle or pain. This could block your chance of introducing yourself to someone you find very interesting.
There is a double-edge sword for shy people. Most times they belong to their own group of friends or family that provides them support. These groups know the person, understand the shyness and accept him or her, and often enjoy their company. This sense of refuge in your own group could work against the shy person and prevent them from venturing out to meet new people with different backgrounds and personalities. So what could a lonely shy person do besides curl up in front of the TV with the remote control?
The first thing to do is to recognize that being shy prevents you from dating and that you should overcome it. Sit yourself down and relax and start thinking of dating someone you like. Focus on the feelings, fears and apprehensions that develop as you start working yourself through the imaginary date. It is very helpful to have a clear understanding of your thoughts and feelings so you can confront the things that cause that paralyzing dread, that overwhelming shyness that could stop you dead on your tracks.
If you have great difficulty in isolating your thoughts, it would be a good idea to consider visiting a therapist for a few sessions of personal counseling. Only a few could be needed because the idea is for the therapist to help you identify the real causes of your shyness for dating. Once the process helps in isolating these causes, you would need little help in confronting or overcoming them. The counselor would also help build your confidence in facing these issues.
With or without the counselor, you could try to enact an imaginary date in your mind. Moving in precise steps: from meeting a woman, talking to her, calling her on the phone to set a date, choosing a place, picking her up, and so on. In your mind, walk yourself through each stage in as much detail as you can. Try to begin in a way or situation that is most comfortable with you. Then, at each stage, confront any tension or panic that you feel could prevent you from going to the next step. Repeat the “date” through each imaginary step until you can picture the entire dating sequence without feeling stressed out or petrified with shyness.
Once you understand your shyness and have a little idea of how to face it, it is time to go out with another person for a “test date”. Every person has persons from the opposite sex that is close to them. For guys, they would be a sister, a cousin, a good friend, colleague, or teammate. Make sure that the person is someone close to you and there is no chance of getting intimate with them. This friend should understand your dating (or more appropriately, “non-dating”) situation and be prepared to help you through some practice night outs or dates.
Depending on how close you are to this practice date partner, you can go through all the motions of a real date. Contact or call them and do all the steps we identified earlier in your “imaginary date” in these practice nights out. Act out a role as if the other person is a potential romantic date.
As practice runs go, a shy person is bound to mess up some of the steps. So it’s good to have a good friend playing practice date. Both of them can laugh off all the bloopers during the exercise, and may even make up good funny stories in the future. More importantly, they could talk about what went wrong, or when some sudden shyness acted up again. Remember, shyness not only affects how you relate to your date, but probably all people that the person will meet while he or she is with the said date (like the bartender, waiter, other guests in the restaurant, etc…). Having test dates will help call out potential “shy” traps.
Often, shyness comes from having feelings of low self-esteem. If it is something like being self-conscious of one’s weight or clothes, it could be remedied. Going on a fitness training program or changing your wardrobe will solve those two problems. And you should know that regular exercise gives you a slight feeling of exhilaration. So although you may not have lost all the extra pounds, you feel healthier, fitter and more comfortable around other people. The important thing is you did something to remove that feeling of inadequacy and made yourself feel better about yourself.
The pick-up lines, choice of date places, and seduction come a little later. What a shy guy should remember is overcoming the hurdle of meeting other people for a date is the key to starting off an active dating life.
http://www.articledashboard.com/Article/How-The-Shy-Guy-Can-Start-Dating/332703
Dating Shyness - How To Overcome Your Shyness When Dating
Dating shyness can be an obstacle for people who are timid or introverted. Aside from the natural “players” who circle the dating game as if it’s a carnival ride, some people just aren’t born lucky. Let’s figure out if you have dating shyness or if you’re the ultimate natural at the dating scene. Ask yourself these questions.
Do you end up being your most boring self on a date? Do you get tongue-tied and out of words? Do you simply sit there and mumble your answers for fear of saying something silly? Then, congratulations! This article is undeniably the one for you.
Below are tips on overcoming your dating shyness. I hope you learn enough to get past those first-dates only category.
Being naturally shy isn’t supposed to be your fault. If you are uncomfortable opening up or sharing too much of yourself too soon, this can work to your advantage. For the opposite sex, you can be mistaken as somebody quite “mysterious”. And mystery breeds its own sort of anticipation.
Instead of talking about yourself on a date, focus instead on the other person. Don’t feign interest; be genuine by being eager to know more about your date. That way, you can remain your shy self, without ruining the date.
Ask questions. Be nice and polite. Dating shyness can’t be that bad, you don’t have to be the Extrovert-of-the-Year to score points on that first date!
Figure out what makes you shy. Deal with provoking situations as you would a math problem. Do it a step at a time. If you feel tense being on blind dates and having dinner with a complete stranger, then don’t. Why not go into cyber romance first?
Get to know somebody by emailing, chatting or even text messaging. If you feel comfortable enough, you can meet up later on, right? That way you wouldn’t be too shy once you see him/her up close.
So you see, being shy doesn’t mean you should miss out on the dating opportunities at your feet. All you have to do is to work your way around dating shyness until it works to your advantage. It’s nothing really harmful as long as it’s a natural part of your personality. Besides if your date really does like you for who you are, it won’t matter if you’re outgoing or extremely shy.
http://www.articledashboard.com/Article/Dating-Shyness---How-to-Overcome-Your-Shyness-When-Dating/333018
Do you end up being your most boring self on a date? Do you get tongue-tied and out of words? Do you simply sit there and mumble your answers for fear of saying something silly? Then, congratulations! This article is undeniably the one for you.
Below are tips on overcoming your dating shyness. I hope you learn enough to get past those first-dates only category.
Being naturally shy isn’t supposed to be your fault. If you are uncomfortable opening up or sharing too much of yourself too soon, this can work to your advantage. For the opposite sex, you can be mistaken as somebody quite “mysterious”. And mystery breeds its own sort of anticipation.
Instead of talking about yourself on a date, focus instead on the other person. Don’t feign interest; be genuine by being eager to know more about your date. That way, you can remain your shy self, without ruining the date.
Ask questions. Be nice and polite. Dating shyness can’t be that bad, you don’t have to be the Extrovert-of-the-Year to score points on that first date!
Figure out what makes you shy. Deal with provoking situations as you would a math problem. Do it a step at a time. If you feel tense being on blind dates and having dinner with a complete stranger, then don’t. Why not go into cyber romance first?
Get to know somebody by emailing, chatting or even text messaging. If you feel comfortable enough, you can meet up later on, right? That way you wouldn’t be too shy once you see him/her up close.
So you see, being shy doesn’t mean you should miss out on the dating opportunities at your feet. All you have to do is to work your way around dating shyness until it works to your advantage. It’s nothing really harmful as long as it’s a natural part of your personality. Besides if your date really does like you for who you are, it won’t matter if you’re outgoing or extremely shy.
http://www.articledashboard.com/Article/Dating-Shyness---How-to-Overcome-Your-Shyness-When-Dating/333018
Wednesday, November 14, 2007
Dating After Being Ditched
Dating after being ditched differs from individual to individual, their measure of heart-break, measure of damage to their self-esteem and the length of time indulge in their relationship. A heart-break for sure could completely devastate and ruin the mental stability of a person no matter how long you stay in your relationship.
Casual dating is a great way to maintain the understanding on how to date and it prevents severe heart ache. There are many methods available to individuals to deal with the hard time. It is recommended not to jump back into a serious relationship right away instead work on the lost self-esteem and re-evaluate your styles and conduct. It is also necessary to work on the reason behind the unsuccessful dating because if the individual does not know exactly why they were ditched in the first place then it will be difficult to continue with dating in the future.
Though dating varies for individual it mostly depends on how involved and attached to someone this person was. Some people can bounce back may be because their relationship lasted after a few weeks, and the pain may be easier to deal with whereas others consider themselves unfortunate and feel reluctant for another date or dump themselves in one dark corner of a room not allowing happiness penetrate their gloomy world. It is understood that people fall on their face with a great thud when they are ditched and the pain and sorrow may linger indefinitely, and the time to revive over a lost love and stepping back in the world of dating in search of a reliable new date is unpredictable but it is suggested to stop brooding on the past events, because the more you think of sad past the more you will get entangle which will create a problem in future in building a new relationship.
Wait for the depression to subsides and go out but remember to give a limited time and indulge yourself in making new forceless connections with the support of your friends and family. It is vital not to dwell on the past instead get out and do something to your heart and mind satisfaction. Find a new activity that is enjoyed, take classes or go on a camping trip with a social group because the longer an individual sits at home the more uncomfortable they are in their new surroundings. Dust all the negative cobwebs in your mind and get ready for a new start.
http://www.articlesuniverse.com/Article/Dating-After-Being-Ditched/70814
Casual dating is a great way to maintain the understanding on how to date and it prevents severe heart ache. There are many methods available to individuals to deal with the hard time. It is recommended not to jump back into a serious relationship right away instead work on the lost self-esteem and re-evaluate your styles and conduct. It is also necessary to work on the reason behind the unsuccessful dating because if the individual does not know exactly why they were ditched in the first place then it will be difficult to continue with dating in the future.
Though dating varies for individual it mostly depends on how involved and attached to someone this person was. Some people can bounce back may be because their relationship lasted after a few weeks, and the pain may be easier to deal with whereas others consider themselves unfortunate and feel reluctant for another date or dump themselves in one dark corner of a room not allowing happiness penetrate their gloomy world. It is understood that people fall on their face with a great thud when they are ditched and the pain and sorrow may linger indefinitely, and the time to revive over a lost love and stepping back in the world of dating in search of a reliable new date is unpredictable but it is suggested to stop brooding on the past events, because the more you think of sad past the more you will get entangle which will create a problem in future in building a new relationship.
Wait for the depression to subsides and go out but remember to give a limited time and indulge yourself in making new forceless connections with the support of your friends and family. It is vital not to dwell on the past instead get out and do something to your heart and mind satisfaction. Find a new activity that is enjoyed, take classes or go on a camping trip with a social group because the longer an individual sits at home the more uncomfortable they are in their new surroundings. Dust all the negative cobwebs in your mind and get ready for a new start.
http://www.articlesuniverse.com/Article/Dating-After-Being-Ditched/70814
Dating: A Unique Human Experience
Dating consists of sequence of events in one's life that reveals a lot about the people themselves. As viewed from different angles by the wide population around the world, for some dating is a bitter experience and for others it is a sort of sports, where the winner will be awarded the best lifetime achievement award with an understanding life partner. Whatever good or bad reasons it might be, dating holds a unique place in a human experience that most people participate in during their lives.
Dating is an amusing way to enter into a new kinship where you get the chance to taste the different flavor of a relationship and it also ensure you to spice up your relationship with your own taste-maker. You can also learn how to act in a relationship and the impact of dating on the course of a relationship by following the rules of dating. Among the existing variety of code of correct conduct in terms of dealing with one another within the general rules of dating, some of the issues like the experience of the "first kiss" are up for some debate. According to many the first kiss should take place after three dates, while still others insist that in such cases time and location does not matter.
Culturally definition of dating differs widely. For example people with Indian or Asian origin, believe in a concept called "arranged marriage", which effectively go against conventional dating altogether. An arranged marriage is best way to skip the demanding job of dating, actually having to impress someone and which is also time consuming whereas in other cultures, dating seems to be taken as an unnecessary and purposeless in getting someone ready for marriage. Again for many people in the Western culture, dating is a prospect that agitates the spring chicken of the countries, to date in their young age as they cannot wait until they are old enough.
Whatever might be the definitions and motivations, nowadays for many people dating serves as a form of marriage preparation and for others it serves as a form of entertainment in which people date for years without any commitment. Where marriage, is considered settling down with a single person for years and many people view that as being undesirable and reserved for later years, there dating seems to be mostly preferred by those who do not want to go for any commitment.
http://www.articlesuniverse.com/Article/Dating--A-Unique-Human-Experience/70823
Dating is an amusing way to enter into a new kinship where you get the chance to taste the different flavor of a relationship and it also ensure you to spice up your relationship with your own taste-maker. You can also learn how to act in a relationship and the impact of dating on the course of a relationship by following the rules of dating. Among the existing variety of code of correct conduct in terms of dealing with one another within the general rules of dating, some of the issues like the experience of the "first kiss" are up for some debate. According to many the first kiss should take place after three dates, while still others insist that in such cases time and location does not matter.
Culturally definition of dating differs widely. For example people with Indian or Asian origin, believe in a concept called "arranged marriage", which effectively go against conventional dating altogether. An arranged marriage is best way to skip the demanding job of dating, actually having to impress someone and which is also time consuming whereas in other cultures, dating seems to be taken as an unnecessary and purposeless in getting someone ready for marriage. Again for many people in the Western culture, dating is a prospect that agitates the spring chicken of the countries, to date in their young age as they cannot wait until they are old enough.
Whatever might be the definitions and motivations, nowadays for many people dating serves as a form of marriage preparation and for others it serves as a form of entertainment in which people date for years without any commitment. Where marriage, is considered settling down with a single person for years and many people view that as being undesirable and reserved for later years, there dating seems to be mostly preferred by those who do not want to go for any commitment.
http://www.articlesuniverse.com/Article/Dating--A-Unique-Human-Experience/70823
Soft Hair And Skin Au Naturelle
Just picture this, your walking down the beach front, its a warm sunny day, a light breeze in from the sea is gently blowing through your hair gives it more waves than the ocean. People look at you, men admire your hair and the women are jealous, some ask how come your hair is so soft and shiny. At the same time they notice how baby soft your skin looks, you look at them with a knowing smile and tell them your secret, 'I use Urine Therapy' you say.
Hold on, stop the boat, get the nose clip out, 'you use urine therapy' they say, 'yes, it's amazing' with that you gently glide into the sunset with your hair bouncing for joy.
Ok, its seems a little like a hair spray commercial, that is all except the urine therapy part, but its true, your OWN urine is one of natures gifts.
First of all lets dispense with a few myths about natures finest.
Urine smells !!
Well actually urine does smell, about 20 minutes after leaving the body a certain amount of oxidation takes place and a ammonia like smell occurs, but its harmless and good ventilation or aroma oil keeps the smell down.
Urine is poisonous !!
Well actually its not, 95% of urine is water, 2.5% consists of urea and the remaining 2.5% is a mixture of minerals, salt, hormones and enzymes. Toxic substances are being removed from the body through the liver, intestines, skin and through the out-breath.
Medical researchers have discovered that many of the elements of the blood that are found in urine have enormous medicinal value, and when reintroduced to the body, they boost the body's immune defenses and stimulate healing in a way that nothing else does.
I'm not going to try and convince you about the purity of urine, if you do a search on the net with 'urine therapy' there are many pages describing to process through the body that creates good wholesome urine. In fact its only in the last 50 years that urine has gone out of fashion, it has been highly praised through out history as a natural substance that has many healing properties. One of the biggest users of urine has been the cosmetic industry, traditionally produced by horses, it is used as a skin moisturizer. It is only since the rise of the pharmaceutical industry that the use of urine as a general medicine has ceased, well in the West, it is still highly prized in the Far East. Nothing to do with the fact that pharmaceutical companies can't make a profit from it no doubt.
I've had personal experience with its amazing properties. As a child I had eczema, my skin was always cracked and dry, as I grow older and changed my diet I grow out of it, except for a bad patch on my right elbow. No cream or ointment could cure this patch, it would often bleed, especially when I was asleep. The I saw a children's TV series, on a particular episode was a Dutchman called Coen Van Der Kroon who had wrote a book called 'Golden Fountain : The Complete Guide to Urine Therapy', I was so intrigued I tried the treatment. I put urine on my elbow 3/4 times a day, always washing my hands afterwards of course. After about two weeks, the eczema had disappeared and my skin completely re-generated and I've not had any problems since. Every so often I also use it on my skin, although 49 years old, I've skin like a young child.
Now this article isn't going to tell you how to use it, as I've stated there are many good sites that will explain all, it simply says 'give it a go, you might surprise yourself'
http://www.articlesuniverse.com/Article/Soft-Hair-And-Skin-Au-Naturelle/71812
Hold on, stop the boat, get the nose clip out, 'you use urine therapy' they say, 'yes, it's amazing' with that you gently glide into the sunset with your hair bouncing for joy.
Ok, its seems a little like a hair spray commercial, that is all except the urine therapy part, but its true, your OWN urine is one of natures gifts.
First of all lets dispense with a few myths about natures finest.
Urine smells !!
Well actually urine does smell, about 20 minutes after leaving the body a certain amount of oxidation takes place and a ammonia like smell occurs, but its harmless and good ventilation or aroma oil keeps the smell down.
Urine is poisonous !!
Well actually its not, 95% of urine is water, 2.5% consists of urea and the remaining 2.5% is a mixture of minerals, salt, hormones and enzymes. Toxic substances are being removed from the body through the liver, intestines, skin and through the out-breath.
Medical researchers have discovered that many of the elements of the blood that are found in urine have enormous medicinal value, and when reintroduced to the body, they boost the body's immune defenses and stimulate healing in a way that nothing else does.
I'm not going to try and convince you about the purity of urine, if you do a search on the net with 'urine therapy' there are many pages describing to process through the body that creates good wholesome urine. In fact its only in the last 50 years that urine has gone out of fashion, it has been highly praised through out history as a natural substance that has many healing properties. One of the biggest users of urine has been the cosmetic industry, traditionally produced by horses, it is used as a skin moisturizer. It is only since the rise of the pharmaceutical industry that the use of urine as a general medicine has ceased, well in the West, it is still highly prized in the Far East. Nothing to do with the fact that pharmaceutical companies can't make a profit from it no doubt.
I've had personal experience with its amazing properties. As a child I had eczema, my skin was always cracked and dry, as I grow older and changed my diet I grow out of it, except for a bad patch on my right elbow. No cream or ointment could cure this patch, it would often bleed, especially when I was asleep. The I saw a children's TV series, on a particular episode was a Dutchman called Coen Van Der Kroon who had wrote a book called 'Golden Fountain : The Complete Guide to Urine Therapy', I was so intrigued I tried the treatment. I put urine on my elbow 3/4 times a day, always washing my hands afterwards of course. After about two weeks, the eczema had disappeared and my skin completely re-generated and I've not had any problems since. Every so often I also use it on my skin, although 49 years old, I've skin like a young child.
Now this article isn't going to tell you how to use it, as I've stated there are many good sites that will explain all, it simply says 'give it a go, you might surprise yourself'
http://www.articlesuniverse.com/Article/Soft-Hair-And-Skin-Au-Naturelle/71812
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