For love and money

Divorced Boston businessman in late 40s with beautiful home and lots of dough seeks single woman, mid to late 30s, for marriage and babies. Must be thin and possess classic good looks. He's a warm and cuddly guy who enjoys golf, sailing, and tennis. If interested, call his matchmaker at 212-987-1582.

That number belongs to Janis Spindel of Janis Spindel Serious Matchmaking, emphasis on the serious. She's a woman on a mission: To find a wife for a client she calls "Jeremy," a Boston man who has hired her for $100,000.

The concept is familiar to viewers who have seen reality shows such as "The Bachelor": Wealthy man gets help finding soul mate, roster of women compete for his affections. But in this case, the rich guy is paying a princely sum, sort of like a company using a headhunter to find its next CEO.

In the 15 years she has been in the matchmaking business, Spindel claims responsibility for 760 marriages and "massive thousands in committed relationships." She speaks in hyperbole and italics, and tends to repeat her words for dramatic effect. "I'm dealing with gorgeous men -- gorgeous! -- who have it all, from billionaires in Bel Air to humongous movers and shakers in Washington to awesome guys in Boston. The only piece missing is a woman, and that's when they come to me."

Be very clear: This isn't about hooking up. It's about settling down. Nothing drives Spindel crazier than being called a dating service. "I am a matchmaker," she says. "A man can get dates on his own. I'm a little too expensive for that. And I don't deal with trophy wives. I'm looking to match soul mates."

Despite having had thousands of clients, Spindel says the closest she's come to failure are two men who took a dozen introductions each before they finally met their matches. "I have had men who didn't get married but are living with a woman or have had mini-relationships but not marriage," she says. Besides, there's only so much even the best matchmaker can do: "I can bring the horse to water but I can't make him drink if he wants Diet Coke." Usually by the third to sixth introduction, she says, the man is in a committed relationship, a process that can take anywhere from three weeks to eight months.

There is little Spindel won't do for love. In restaurants she'll bolt after an attractive woman headed for the bathroom. She has nabbed strangers on the street, in lobbies, elevators, and bars. Her first question is always the same: Are you single?

"I leave no stone unturned in finding a marriage match. I'm very New York, very Type A, very 24/7, a multitasker. I'm relentless, tenacious, and obnoxious," says Spindel, whose words fire fast and clipped, with a hint of Jersey to them. She calls matchmaking "the second oldest profession" and says she is a firm believer in marriage. Her parents recently celebrated their 65th anniversary, and she met her own husband 25 years ago. "Marriage is wonderful if you're married to the right person," says Spindel,

she wrote a book about it: "Get Serious About Getting Married: 365 Proven Ways to Find Love in Less Than a Year." Though the book is for women, Spindel's business is geared toward men. "Women are too high maintenance," she says. "They're needy. They're nagging." As if on cue, her phone rings. She gets rid of the caller in a New York second.
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"See what I mean? That was a woman I just met for coffee this morning."

Women pay $1,000 for a 30-minute consultation with her, or $500 to see one of her assistants. She'll waive the fee if you bring in five "attractive" girlfriends for a group consult. The women then enter her database of potential wives.

Pretty in red and pink
This labor of love operates out of a sunny studio apartment on Manhattan's upper east side, next to another apartment she shares with her husband, Allen, who teaches physical education and martial arts. They have two daughters, ages 21 and 8.

The studio is done in pinks and reds. There are heart-shape candles, frames and paper weights, Cupid napkins and books with titles like "Being Committed" and "Make Up, Don't Break Up." On a recent afternoon, candles are lit, giving off a vanilla scent. Disco, her frisky Shih Tzu , sports tiny red-and-pink ribbons on her ears.

Spindel is meticulously turned out in a black-and-white Chanel pantsuit, her naturally curly hair freshly blown out. "Men like long, straight hair," she says. And she's constantly going on breakfast, lunch, and dinner "dates" with her clients, to see how they act. The man must pick the restaurant and pay for the meal, over which he will be grilled like the rib eye on the menu. Spindel also notes how the men treat her: their manners, their sophistication -- or lack thereof. "I need to know they're a man with a plan," she says.

Her own plan includes various levels, from a $25,000 "basic" package that Spindel says takes her "five minutes" to match from her database of women to a $100,000 "elite" plan consisting of an out-of-town client and a casting call that can involve hundreds of women. Spindel has already met with Jeremy several times and sent him to an image consultant, who took him to Bergdorf Goodman, where he dropped $10,000 on clothes.

Now Jeremy is ready for the next step: the match. The woman must be from the Boston or Providence areas. ("He lives in Boston in a sick, awesome house," Spindel says. "Totally awesome.") The bachelorette search, as she calls it, will take place April 13-15 in a conference room at the Boston Marriott Copley Place; only those who made appointments with Spindel beforehand will be allowed in

http://www.boston.com/yourlife/relationships/articles/2007/03/28/for_love_and_money/?page=1

Matchmaking and species marriage: A game-theory model of community assembly

heories developed to explain the processes that govern the assembly and composition of natural plant communities can be divided into two broad categories. Niche-based theories propose that coevolutionary changes among species lead to character divergence (displacement), which allows for coexistence by partitioning resources among species. In contrast, ecological-drift theories propose that species diversity results from a balance of migration, speciation, and extinction, with little microevolutionary change. We use a game-theory model to reconcile drift and niche perspectives by developing a theory of species "marriage." Initially, ecological drift may determine which species encounter each other in a competitive arena. Once species come into contact, historical niche development as a result of prior coevolutionary molding of competitive ability determines which species may coexist. The model shows that only species that display the well-known tradeoff between seed size and competitive ability as a result of past competitive histories comply with the requisite for mutual evolutionary stability. Mutual evolutionary stability of competitive ability tends to make reproductive outputs more similar between species, increasing the chances of ecological equilibrium, i.e., the coexistence of species competing for a single resource. Moreover, mutual evolutionary stability guarantees that such an ecological equilibrium will be stable. The species-marriage model predicts that two or more plant species will coexist indefinitely (i.e., "marry") when their difference in seed size, their densities, and the resource availability obey a specific quantitative relation. For example, when resource availability is high, married species should be characterized by a greater asymmetry in seed size than when resource availability is low. Thus, in the species-marriage model, competition can shape the detailed properties of communities without violating the postulates of ecological-drift theory.

http://www.pnas.org/cgi/content/abstract/100/4/1787

Free RSS Reader for Symbian S60 Smartphones

First Ad-Enabled RSS-Newsreader supported by SOMA™ Mobile Advertising Platform - Smaato News is the first Symbian application using the new SOMA™ mobile advertising platform, which allows developers to show advertising within their applications.

San Mateo - Smaato Inc has announced the availability of it’s free RSS news reader software Smaato News for Symbian S60 smartphones. Smaato News is the first Symbian application using the new SOMA™ mobile advertising platform, which allows developers to show advertising within their applications. The existing versions for Palm OS and Windows Mobile have been updated. All versions can be downloaded for free at http://www.smaato.com/ now

Smaato News is an easy to use mobile RSS newsreader for smartphones. Mobile users can subscribe to their favorite news feeds or blogs directly on their phones and read them "off-line". Featured feeds include: CNN News, BBC News, digg technology, Engadget and SymbianOne. The newly released Symbian version supports popular Symbian S60 2nd Edition smartphones, including Nokia N70, N90 and the Nokia 66xx phones.

The integration of the recently announced SOMA™ (Smaato Open Mobile Advertising) allows Smaato to give this commercial-grade software to the users for free. The in-application advertising platform offers unique matchmaking between brands and mobile consumers. With the addition of the Symbian mobile phones (e.g. from handset manufacturers like Nokia) SOMA’s reach extends now to over 120 million new smartphones out in the market today estimated by ABI Research - covering Windows Mobile, Palm and Symbian mobile operating systems.

Mercedes, Microsoft and Allianz are among the first brands working with SOMA™ and distributing their targeted mobile advertising with the applications Smaato Cost and Smaato News. SOMA supports recommended ad-formats by the MMA (the global Mobile Marketing Association) that are contextually integrated into the mobile user- experience.

“We feel that SOMA is a revolutionary solution for developers, end- users and advertisers”, says Ragnar Kruse, CEO of Smaato Inc. “Today’s mobile life is moving extremely fast. No one wants to spend hundreds of dollars for a set of applications, which won’t run on the next device, someone buys just 6 months later. Selling mobile software is extremely difficult for developers today. We help save their marketing costs and free them from the very labor-intensive license handling. The users get high quality software for free or for a substantially reduced price”.

SOMA’s patent-pending mobile advertising platform is initially focusing on in-application advertising for mobile software. Smaato provides the key technologies of its mobile advertising platform as an open interface for developers and content providers, for marketing their mobile solutions by deploying the SOMA™ platform.

Smaato Inc. recently has been chosen by AlwaysOn Media as one of the Top 100 Private Company award winners. The AO Media 100 is a power list of the top private digital media companies. Smaato was handpicked based on a set of five criteria – innovation, market potential, customer adoption, media buzz and investor value creation.

Smaato Inc. is based in San Mateo, California. The company was founded in 2005 by an experienced international management team. The European headquarter is in Hamburg, Germany. For more information please visit www.smaato.com. SOMA™ is a registered trademark of Smaato Inc.

http://www.symbianer.com/post/Free-RSS-Reader-for-Symbian-S60-Smartphones.html

Online Gay Dating, Relationship and Lifestyle

The popularity of gay lifestyle is evident from the number of gay dating sites that has sprung up on Internet in recent times. It is a blessed platform for closeted gays to contact gay males for gay romance, love and sex relationship as anyone else would wish for. gays can search free gay personals on gay dating websites for gay relationship.

Out Personals
Out Personals, Queer - these words characterize gay lifestyle, which till today is not an accepted mode of life to a large populace on this planet. Even in modern, fast-paced societies where liberal attitudes and sexual liberation are a norm, gay men are looked down upon. Gay activity is sneered or frowned upon and they are looked down as queers or out personals the naming to is self explanatory.

Social Life
Country politics and social caretakers indulge in raging debates on gay lifestyles and gay rights in discussion forums, parliament, and conventions. There is a marked hesitancy in accepting gays in government services and other public enterprises, though some nations have accorded acceptance but more has to be done. In many instance persons discovered as following gay lifestyle have been debarred from office jobs and social circles.

The crux is that homosexuality is in practice since ages and it is still as popular, without any signs of receding or vanishing from the face of earth. Then why not accept it since it does not impinge on anyone’s privacy or way of life. Nor is it detrimental to the society since gay dating lifestyle is a much-closeted practice.

I am not advocating gay life as a gay-which I am not-but what I want to stress is that everyone has a right to express his or her sexuality and practice as long as it does not hurt others.

Gay Lifestyle and Relationship
The reason behind ridicule or sneer of gay lifestyle is that it is a biological aberrance as sex is for procreation and a man-to-man sex does not give birth to new being. But then, anal sex practice is not limited to gay couples only, it is much practiced by straight couples too, so what is funny. Any way gay love and romance is a very strong force that binds the gay couple together sometimes in permanent relationship.

Sex is for procreation but it is for pleasure too, and any which way you can. Therefore, "Out" sex practice is not restricted to guys only but rather practiced by straight lifestyle followers in some way or the other. So live and let live.

http://www.articlesbase.com/dating-articles/online-gay-dating-relationship-and-lifestyle-120078.html

Gay Love and Matchmaking Dating

Gay dating lifestyle also has the same implication of love and relationship as in for straights people. Though gay love would be having a superior bent in the direction of sex as it is a sexual course. The behavioral trait among gay man in love is the same as among straights.

Gay Love Dating
Again, this is a relationship building process among homosexual males. Gay dating is very popular as is evident from the gay personals ads and free classifieds of gays that are encountered in gay dating sites. There are vacation hot spots that are friendly places for adult gay men to interact freely. Like lesbians and swingers there bars and clubs that are gay oriented and favorable for hot gay sex activity. These places are highly comforting to closeted gay and an amateur gay experiencing gay sex for the first time.

Gay Flirting
Gay flirts as we do. They look in the eyes, budge closer with thighs touching, and throw a compliment or a mildly funny or even hilarious remark to impress another sexy male. The experience is sensitive when a gay boy or teen is experiencing his first gay sex. A male not bent towards homosexuality would find a man flirting with him as shocking. Nevertheless, this is the method that mature gays use to seek newbie gay about to experience his first gay sex. When somebody flirts at us, our ego is boosted so is the case with guys.

Gay Matchmaking and Marriage
Gays are as possessive over their love partner as straights or lesbians are and many decide to tie the relationship in marriage. Gay marriage or same sex marriage is permissible in very few countries. Nevertheless, gay lovers or couples stay committed for life and live together as such.

Gold Star Gay
Some men are committed in their love for men. Such men are known as gold star such gays have never and will never engaged in sex with a woman. They are staunch supporter of this homosexual practice, live, and die as gay forever.


http://www.articlesbase.com/dating-articles/gay-love-and-matchmaking-dating-156562.html

Forgiveness and Dating Relationships

There is an amazing connection between forgiveness and healing in the Bible. Forgiveness has amazing benefits. Forgiveness can heal broken relationships, broken hearts and even bring health to one’s body. Only recently have secular psychologists and doctors begun speaking of the healing power of forgiveness in one’s life.
The Forgiveness Problem

Many Christian singles have problems with their health and the relationships in their lives because they have a major issue with forgiveness. For example, some singles have had such sour dating relationships with cheaters and patholigical liars that they now find it hard to grant forgiveness. Others walk around with walk around gloomy and depressed because they they can’t forgive themselves for past sex sins that God has long forgiven.

Are you a single Christian today in need of forgiveness for how you treated someone in the past? Remember Jesus suffered for all your wrongdoing. If He says he has forgiven you (1 John 1:9), in faith you need to forgive yourself. Is there someone seeking your forgiveness, but you just can’t open up to that person? Jesus says forgive, and you shall be forgiven. (Luke 6:37).

I really hope you don’t think I’m preaching to you. Why? Because lately a whole bunch of people have been ticking off to the point where I have had a difficult time forgiving them. So I’ll make a deal with you. You pray for me and I’ll pray for you, okay?

http://christian-dating-service-plus.com/blog/forgiveness-and-dating-relationships.html

How to Ask Someone Out on a Date

Ask ten different people how to ask someone out on a date, and no doubt each person’s answer will be a little different than the next one. The following dating tips on how to ask someone out seeks to put together the best from what we’ve accumulated from other Christian singles.
How to Ask Someone Out Advice

How to Ask Someone Out: Practice But Speak from the Heart

Asking someone out on a date, whether a girl or guy, can be a tense experience for the simple reason you’re making yourself vulnerable to another person by sharing your feelings. A lot of singles wish they had their own personal Cyrano De Bergerac, but you don’t need that.

Practicing the general gist of what it is you want to share will help take away some of those pre-dating fears. However, the key here is not to over analyze your words, but to let them flow naturally from your heart. (This always works best. :)

How to Ask Someone Out: Time Your Swing

The Bible says there’s a time under heaven for everything, and that includes when to ask someone out. Besides the question, “How to ask someone out”, the question, “When is a good time to ask someone out?” is the next most popular. The answer is simple: Whenever you feel the other person can focus, and not be distracted by school, work, kids, friends or other responsibilities.

How to Ask Someone Out: Don’t Beat Around the Bush

Hey, I shouldn’t really talk on this one. It once took me two hours to pop the question to one girl. In frustration she finally blurted out, “What are you trying to tell me?” In order to avoid this situation, just remind yourself to be as specific about your intentions as possible. Oh, by the way….she said yes!

How to Ask Someone Out: Have a Dating Plan

If the person says yes be prepared with a some creative dating ideas that will be fun for both of you. Reading about first date do’s and don’ts will also be helpful at this time, that is, if you’re planning on having a second date as well.

How to Ask Someone Out: Commit the Result to the Lord

Whether the person says yes or no, remember the Lord has a future and plan for your life (Jeremiah 29:11). Pray to your Father for guidance. If the answer is “no”, don’t put pressure on the other person for a reason. Remember your worth as a person is not connected to another human being, and rejection happens to the best of us. This just means the Lord has a better plan for you. Do you believe this?

Are you a single Christian with something to share about how to ask someone
out?

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