Men having great sense of humor ranked number three as being a personality trait that attracts women on survey results conducted by several magazines. Topping the survey is physical appearance and number two, financial stability.
Laughing can be very beneficial to one’s health, according to researchers. And a great sense of humor, which creates laughter, can make a lot of difference specially when dating women.
A lot of women see a guy with a great sense of humor very attractive mainly because it makes the conversation a lot lighter, it makes them laugh and dating a man who is very serious in his outlook in life makes the conversation heavy and can become very boring, according to studies, among two hundred college students.
The same study indicated that women like intelligent men and a great sense of humor is linked to intelligence, as a man with wits can think fast, able to produce a joke instantly that is suitable to the situation is clever indeed and is no “non-sense”.
Indeed, “laughter is the best medicine”. Considerable research and studies have proved that laughter and humor benefits the body as well as the emotion. It boost the “immune system”, reduces stress, relax the muscles, “lowers blood pressure”, increases pain tolerance and hastens the process of healing. No wonder women feel so good being with a man with great sense of humor!
Men having good sense of humor are always cheerful. To them, each day is sunny. Should dark clouds appear, they depend on laughter, confident that all problems will pass and instead of being discouraged, they move on with so much hope.
Even if a man is not really that attractive physically, but with a great sense of humor, women are usually drawn to him. Why? Because according to most women in a survey result, they are more at ease with these types of men, as they make the women laugh and as a result, let them feel that they can open up almost anything; a man with a great sense of humor encourages the woman to be confident.
Generally, men with a sense of humor have so much spunk in life. Not only can they come up with a joke unrehearsed, but also can take a joke.
Here are ways to sharpen and improve your sense of humor:
1. Encourage an environment of laughter and humor in the relationship that you have by concentrating on the comical or funny side of things and delighting in the laughter that they bring to mind. Then, you will soon begin to see humor in things that you do, including the problems that may come and handle them without stress in your relationship.
2. When you feel that you do not laugh that much and you feel that you should correct this, associate yourself with fun loving and humorous people. Try to go to happy places and you and your partner can engage in fun and lively activities.
3. Try laughing at yourself and at the situations around you. Many individuals are not able to laugh because they are insecure of themselves and because of personal fears. Often, they are scared to look silly in front of others and give the impression to be foolish, according to psychiatrists. It is essential to become conscious that all people make or commit mistakes and it is when you put up a pleasant laugh can make such mistake appear human.
4. Read on humorous books and collect clean jokes. Then when the need arises, there is always a joke ready to lighten up someone else’s day!
5. So as to neutralize disagreement in your relationship, use humor. When things in your relationship get uptight, “self deprecating humor” can lighten things. “Self-deprecating humor” encourages humility and nurtures courage, needed to take off the mask that one wears when insecure and uncovers one's weakness to his partner.
Having sense of humor in your relationship will add so much zest, help it become rewarding and can help both partners see life in a different perspective. A more carefree, cheerful and positive relationship will prosper as a result of a happy disposition between couples.
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Wednesday, August 29, 2007
How To Find A Prom Date
If debut is a girl's introduction to society, then prom night is definitely a senior student's introduction to the world of dating. Most high school students usually go on date groups to avoid being scolded by their parents. Others go on dates without their parents' knowledge.
What makes prom night doubly exciting and a memorable event for highs schools seniors is the fact that dating during the prom is legal from the point of view of parents. Most seniors who are not yet allowed to go on dates are formally given permission by their parents to go out with a date during this time.
The problem is, some seniors who concentrated on their studies and who did not go on secret dates now have the problem of choosing their partners or dates for the prom night.
If you have a steady group of friends whom you have known since first grade then it is easy to get a reference for a date. You can even choose from among your friends. Senior guys find it easier to get prom dates because they can always choose junior girls who think it is an addition to their persona if they out on a date with senior guys. It is more often the girls who have a hard time finding prom dates.
There are numerous boys and girls waiting to be asked for the prom. The problem is; how does one choose a prom date?
Careful planning
Prom night is announced several months ahead of schedule to allow preparation among the seniors, not only in terms of the decoration and the whole event, but also in terms of prom dates. Even before the prom date is announced, you must already prepare a strategy to make your prom night memorable.
If you already have a steady girlfriend or boyfriend then getting a prom date is not a problem with you. If you don't have anyone yet, then look from among you circle of friends. Do you have a friend you feel relaxed with? Then you can choose him. However, it will have to be a friendly date unless you have a secret crush on this friend.
Your girlfriends can also help you get a prom date by recommending some of their buddies or even their brothers. Start looking around for friends who have brothers who may either be your age or older than you. Somebody from a different school would be okay, for as long as you know his family background and you have made sure he is not jack the ripper.
Have a crush on someone? Why not invite him or her for the prom? Who knows, this may be the start of a special friendship between you two. Just make sure that the person you are inviting for the prom does not already have a steady boyfriend or girlfriend as this would lessen the possibility of your invitation being accepted.
You have to prepare a set of criteria for your choice of a prom date. First of all, you must go out with someone whom you already know or someone your friends know. This is to make sure that you are safe in the hands of you date. This should be a primordial consideration due tot eh frequency of date rape nowadays.
Next, you have to choose someone whom you are comfortable with. Prom night is supposed to be fun and you do not want it to turn out a disaster just because you cannot be yourself with the guy or gal you are going out with. If you can relax with your prom date, then you will surely have a nice prom night. Choose somebody you can have fun with and who will make your prom night memorable.
A prom date who is already known to your parents will make the whole night out easy. For starters, he will not be harassed by your parents when he picks you up during the prom night. Your parents will also have a better night waiting up for you if they know that you are going out with someone they know to be a decent person.
You may have the best prom night attire or the best make up but if you do not have a date you are comfortable with, then your prom night will surely be less than fun. And what is prom night except a night to have fun? So go get your checklist now and start choosing your prom date!
http://www.articles-central.info/Article/How-To-Find-A-Prom-Date/15970
What makes prom night doubly exciting and a memorable event for highs schools seniors is the fact that dating during the prom is legal from the point of view of parents. Most seniors who are not yet allowed to go on dates are formally given permission by their parents to go out with a date during this time.
The problem is, some seniors who concentrated on their studies and who did not go on secret dates now have the problem of choosing their partners or dates for the prom night.
If you have a steady group of friends whom you have known since first grade then it is easy to get a reference for a date. You can even choose from among your friends. Senior guys find it easier to get prom dates because they can always choose junior girls who think it is an addition to their persona if they out on a date with senior guys. It is more often the girls who have a hard time finding prom dates.
There are numerous boys and girls waiting to be asked for the prom. The problem is; how does one choose a prom date?
Careful planning
Prom night is announced several months ahead of schedule to allow preparation among the seniors, not only in terms of the decoration and the whole event, but also in terms of prom dates. Even before the prom date is announced, you must already prepare a strategy to make your prom night memorable.
If you already have a steady girlfriend or boyfriend then getting a prom date is not a problem with you. If you don't have anyone yet, then look from among you circle of friends. Do you have a friend you feel relaxed with? Then you can choose him. However, it will have to be a friendly date unless you have a secret crush on this friend.
Your girlfriends can also help you get a prom date by recommending some of their buddies or even their brothers. Start looking around for friends who have brothers who may either be your age or older than you. Somebody from a different school would be okay, for as long as you know his family background and you have made sure he is not jack the ripper.
Have a crush on someone? Why not invite him or her for the prom? Who knows, this may be the start of a special friendship between you two. Just make sure that the person you are inviting for the prom does not already have a steady boyfriend or girlfriend as this would lessen the possibility of your invitation being accepted.
You have to prepare a set of criteria for your choice of a prom date. First of all, you must go out with someone whom you already know or someone your friends know. This is to make sure that you are safe in the hands of you date. This should be a primordial consideration due tot eh frequency of date rape nowadays.
Next, you have to choose someone whom you are comfortable with. Prom night is supposed to be fun and you do not want it to turn out a disaster just because you cannot be yourself with the guy or gal you are going out with. If you can relax with your prom date, then you will surely have a nice prom night. Choose somebody you can have fun with and who will make your prom night memorable.
A prom date who is already known to your parents will make the whole night out easy. For starters, he will not be harassed by your parents when he picks you up during the prom night. Your parents will also have a better night waiting up for you if they know that you are going out with someone they know to be a decent person.
You may have the best prom night attire or the best make up but if you do not have a date you are comfortable with, then your prom night will surely be less than fun. And what is prom night except a night to have fun? So go get your checklist now and start choosing your prom date!
http://www.articles-central.info/Article/How-To-Find-A-Prom-Date/15970
First Date Weirdness: That Awkward Silence
First dates for some can be intimidating and stressful. Often, one’s mind and emotions are overcome with insecurities and fears.
Conversation normally is a big factor for a positive date outcome as well as a great influence on the failure of your date.
Carrying a conversation during a first date can become difficult and uneasy at times, since you hardly know the individual you are dating (specially on a blind date), making it hard to open up and think of a certain topic to talk about and with slight tension and nervousness, things can be really awkward.
On dates, usually a person is scared of rejection and failure; thus is nervous and conscious on what to say. It has to be the right things; sparking his/her interests as the wrong words may either injure your date’s feelings or make the conversation boring. This is because usually one is very concerned about one’s impression that he/she is able to convey to his/her date.
One’s apprehensions can lead to damaging results, usually paralyzing one’s thoughts and emotions, thus inhibiting one’s capability to behave confidently and normally like one would do when he is in the company of family and friends.
As a result, one ends up in a very humiliating and embarrassing situation, which one describes in dating as "awkward silence".
Almost everyone is capable of carrying on an effortless, enjoyable and easy going conversation with individuals they are familiar with and therefore having the proper approach, so one can do it with the girl/guy on one’s first date.
One solution here is to think ahead of time the things that you can open up or topics that can start a good conversation; ask a common friend of his/her interest, hobbies, sports, career, etc.
Another solution is to relax and be yourself; never pretend to be somebody that you are not. Keep in mind that it’s no use when your date will like for putting up a front; it will be a great feeling to know that your date liked you for what you are.
Never brag, talking constantly of your awards and accomplishments as this would only set arrogant impression on you. Keep your conversation as simple as possible keeping away discussions about politics or religion.
Also, do not intrude or ask personal questions; whatever your date wants to relate to you, he/she will tell you on his/her own. Never too, talk about your experience about past relationships, as this will make your date feel uneasy. Making your date feel at ease with your conversations, for sure there will be a second time around for both of you.
Let your date talk and you have to listen well, as this will allow you to collect ideas of the things that interest your date and make these as topics for your conversation as well as be acquainted with your date much better. Furthermore, being a great listener is one positive feature that any ideal date can possess.
Take note that most often than not, people are tempted or even talk about their life story. Be careful, as this might only bore your date. Instead, loosen up and select an easy topic or general things such as movies, food, or anything that is of interest to your date. Or be funny and joke a little, you do not need to be all that formal.
Basically, when you are listening well to your date, you’ll know what you both have in common, so talk about that, so you can develop a good bond.
Do not let the “awkward silences” worry you, at some point those silences will come, but know that as they embarrass you, they also embarrass your date. Awkward silences are never a basis for you to conclude that your date is not interested in you; he/she just might be in a similar situation as you.
Relax and be yourself. When “silence” do come, break it with a joke, a compliment or a question and remember to be honest; let your date know how nervous you are (when you are). Letting your date know how to feel on this first date will take away the tension on he/she is feeling and will make him/her comfortable and can handle the situation better.
http://www.articles-central.info/Article/First-Date-Weirdness--That-Awkward-Silence/15967
Conversation normally is a big factor for a positive date outcome as well as a great influence on the failure of your date.
Carrying a conversation during a first date can become difficult and uneasy at times, since you hardly know the individual you are dating (specially on a blind date), making it hard to open up and think of a certain topic to talk about and with slight tension and nervousness, things can be really awkward.
On dates, usually a person is scared of rejection and failure; thus is nervous and conscious on what to say. It has to be the right things; sparking his/her interests as the wrong words may either injure your date’s feelings or make the conversation boring. This is because usually one is very concerned about one’s impression that he/she is able to convey to his/her date.
One’s apprehensions can lead to damaging results, usually paralyzing one’s thoughts and emotions, thus inhibiting one’s capability to behave confidently and normally like one would do when he is in the company of family and friends.
As a result, one ends up in a very humiliating and embarrassing situation, which one describes in dating as "awkward silence".
Almost everyone is capable of carrying on an effortless, enjoyable and easy going conversation with individuals they are familiar with and therefore having the proper approach, so one can do it with the girl/guy on one’s first date.
One solution here is to think ahead of time the things that you can open up or topics that can start a good conversation; ask a common friend of his/her interest, hobbies, sports, career, etc.
Another solution is to relax and be yourself; never pretend to be somebody that you are not. Keep in mind that it’s no use when your date will like for putting up a front; it will be a great feeling to know that your date liked you for what you are.
Never brag, talking constantly of your awards and accomplishments as this would only set arrogant impression on you. Keep your conversation as simple as possible keeping away discussions about politics or religion.
Also, do not intrude or ask personal questions; whatever your date wants to relate to you, he/she will tell you on his/her own. Never too, talk about your experience about past relationships, as this will make your date feel uneasy. Making your date feel at ease with your conversations, for sure there will be a second time around for both of you.
Let your date talk and you have to listen well, as this will allow you to collect ideas of the things that interest your date and make these as topics for your conversation as well as be acquainted with your date much better. Furthermore, being a great listener is one positive feature that any ideal date can possess.
Take note that most often than not, people are tempted or even talk about their life story. Be careful, as this might only bore your date. Instead, loosen up and select an easy topic or general things such as movies, food, or anything that is of interest to your date. Or be funny and joke a little, you do not need to be all that formal.
Basically, when you are listening well to your date, you’ll know what you both have in common, so talk about that, so you can develop a good bond.
Do not let the “awkward silences” worry you, at some point those silences will come, but know that as they embarrass you, they also embarrass your date. Awkward silences are never a basis for you to conclude that your date is not interested in you; he/she just might be in a similar situation as you.
Relax and be yourself. When “silence” do come, break it with a joke, a compliment or a question and remember to be honest; let your date know how nervous you are (when you are). Letting your date know how to feel on this first date will take away the tension on he/she is feeling and will make him/her comfortable and can handle the situation better.
http://www.articles-central.info/Article/First-Date-Weirdness--That-Awkward-Silence/15967
Advices To The Gallant Man When Meeting Her Parents
Is your valor put to the test, when facing (her) Mom and Dad? Is meet-the-parents-day, a dreaded event in the near future? Do you enjoy each other’s company that Mom’s opinion or Dad’s plan is already part of the daily conversation? If things are going good, then you should expect that you would meet her parents sooner or later. But don’t dread the day, and instead welcome it with open arms. For here are sound advices for you, the gallant man, when the day comes to meet her parents.
First of all, not all parents are alike; so don’t assume that they’ll be like Mom and Pop. But, hopefully like her, you would want to impress, respect and not offend your own parents, wouldn’t you? Ask your girlfriend about her family. It would be useful to know any history on her father or mother’s side, her siblings, their work background and major health issues. It would be wise to find out about the parents’ politics, what kind of sense of humor they have, cultural or entertainment preference, if any. Asking these key questions will also show your girlfriend that you’re interested in knowing all about her family and that you attach a lot of importance in meeting her parents.
A careless remark about the latest bloopers by the country’s president may not sit well with her parents if they are staunch republicans from a red state. There are countless of other ways you can go wrong with her parents if you don’t do your homework. The objective is to leave a good impression on her father and mother after the first meeting.
Now, you would think that of the two, the father should be the primary focus. But, no; it is best to get your girlfriend’s mother on your side first. Think about it, she’s actually the one hosting the dinner in the house, isn’t she? Moreover, most mothers would partially judge you according to how happy their daughter looks being with you. When you’re hitting a rough spot in your relationship, your girlfriend would most likely run to her mother. In these times of trouble, her mother might become instrumental in bringing you back together again.
Fathers will generally have a harder time accepting you. Rightly so, because he was the main man in your girlfriend’s life. Now, it will obviously appear to her father that you are taking over that role. In some instances, the father might resent that. In most cases, they will size you up to see if you are really fit to take care of their daughter. So, come to think of it, fathers have a more natural obstacle to get close to you. But this will happen in time, especially if you’re careful in your first meeting.
Now what do you really do during the actual meeting? If it’s a dinner at their house, always bring a gift. You can give them a floral arrangement. Depending on their tastes, traditional items like a bottle of wine or a box of sweets also work.
When you get into a conversation with them, show interest in their family life. Look for common interests, hobbies and expound on them. Politely ask for their opinion and listen. It’s easy to talk about sports, pets and their line of work. Other good topics are your job, your family, movies, and current events. It would be wise to steer the conversation away from jokes, politics, personal matters, religion and money matters.
Flatter your girlfriend’s mother on her cooking, clothes or the home interiors. Compliment her cooking by finishing your plate. After dinner, offer to help clear the table of wash the dishes.
Eventually, your girlfriend’s parents will start to ask you some direct questions. You won’t panic if you’re prepared for this. Relax, look them in the eye and answer as nicely as you can. Try to think about their reason for asking the question and relate to this when answering the parents.
Remember, in the first meeting, be yourself and make sure to always observe good manners. Show respect to your girlfriend and her parents. Your girlfriend has probably told all of them about you and how great you are. So come prepared for the meeting and prove to her parents that you deserve to be with their daughter.
http://www.articles-central.info/Article/Advices-To-The-Gallant-Man-When-Meeting-Her-Parents/15772
First of all, not all parents are alike; so don’t assume that they’ll be like Mom and Pop. But, hopefully like her, you would want to impress, respect and not offend your own parents, wouldn’t you? Ask your girlfriend about her family. It would be useful to know any history on her father or mother’s side, her siblings, their work background and major health issues. It would be wise to find out about the parents’ politics, what kind of sense of humor they have, cultural or entertainment preference, if any. Asking these key questions will also show your girlfriend that you’re interested in knowing all about her family and that you attach a lot of importance in meeting her parents.
A careless remark about the latest bloopers by the country’s president may not sit well with her parents if they are staunch republicans from a red state. There are countless of other ways you can go wrong with her parents if you don’t do your homework. The objective is to leave a good impression on her father and mother after the first meeting.
Now, you would think that of the two, the father should be the primary focus. But, no; it is best to get your girlfriend’s mother on your side first. Think about it, she’s actually the one hosting the dinner in the house, isn’t she? Moreover, most mothers would partially judge you according to how happy their daughter looks being with you. When you’re hitting a rough spot in your relationship, your girlfriend would most likely run to her mother. In these times of trouble, her mother might become instrumental in bringing you back together again.
Fathers will generally have a harder time accepting you. Rightly so, because he was the main man in your girlfriend’s life. Now, it will obviously appear to her father that you are taking over that role. In some instances, the father might resent that. In most cases, they will size you up to see if you are really fit to take care of their daughter. So, come to think of it, fathers have a more natural obstacle to get close to you. But this will happen in time, especially if you’re careful in your first meeting.
Now what do you really do during the actual meeting? If it’s a dinner at their house, always bring a gift. You can give them a floral arrangement. Depending on their tastes, traditional items like a bottle of wine or a box of sweets also work.
When you get into a conversation with them, show interest in their family life. Look for common interests, hobbies and expound on them. Politely ask for their opinion and listen. It’s easy to talk about sports, pets and their line of work. Other good topics are your job, your family, movies, and current events. It would be wise to steer the conversation away from jokes, politics, personal matters, religion and money matters.
Flatter your girlfriend’s mother on her cooking, clothes or the home interiors. Compliment her cooking by finishing your plate. After dinner, offer to help clear the table of wash the dishes.
Eventually, your girlfriend’s parents will start to ask you some direct questions. You won’t panic if you’re prepared for this. Relax, look them in the eye and answer as nicely as you can. Try to think about their reason for asking the question and relate to this when answering the parents.
Remember, in the first meeting, be yourself and make sure to always observe good manners. Show respect to your girlfriend and her parents. Your girlfriend has probably told all of them about you and how great you are. So come prepared for the meeting and prove to her parents that you deserve to be with their daughter.
http://www.articles-central.info/Article/Advices-To-The-Gallant-Man-When-Meeting-Her-Parents/15772
Scientific Dating Advice For Geeks
You enjoy math, chemistry, and you thrash out algorithms to solve practical problems. You are smart; actually, you’re a geek! But being a geek shouldn’t stop you from actively dating. It would be possible that spending too much time studying, reading, solving problems, and pursuing other “egghead” activities might leave you a little light on social techniques. Here’s a scientific way to solve your dating problem.
Given
Geeks are afraid to date. That’s a given. They are afraid they might come out too nerdy, weird or boring. But believe it or not, girls don’t avoid geeks like the plague. In fact, many people find geeks interesting and even cute. So relax, there’s no “Do Not Date” sign printed on your forehead. Dating is something that everybody does, so there’s no reason that a geek can’t do it well.
Unknown
Your biggest challenge as a geek is to overcome this fright and ask girls out. Fear not, for what is unknown to you, is laid out step by step in the solution below.
Solution
Step 1: Overcoming Communication Issues
Probably the biggest dating problem facing geeks would be communication. Geeks tend to use too much technical jargon. In social settings, this gets worse because they tend to switch to sci-fi mode and lose non-geeks with their references to scenes from Star Wars or names from the planet Tatooine. So there: not everyone is into science fiction and video games.
Step 2: Bridging the communication gap
Quite simply, this issue can be most effectively solved by the techniques of effective communication. Effective communication states that misunderstanding can be avoided if parties try to understand the person they are talking to, and try to picture their conversation from that other person’s point of view.
When you talk to someone, a potential date, imagine if she will appreciate your geeky terms. What is she like, her background? What is she interested in? Try to picture your conversation through her eyes, and visualize how she would receive what you’re saying.
Step 3: Show Your Interest
Be genuinely interested in knowing her. Be aware of where they are coming from when they are talking to you. So, in turn, you can better understand them.
Remember that in most communications, the actual words make up only 7 percent of the message, while the remaining 93% is non-verbal (body language, facial expression, eye contact, voice tone and quality). So be mindful of the messages you send.
Step 4: Take It Slow
Date unhurriedly; take time in meeting people and asking more than one girl out on a date. There’s no need to dive into a deeper relationship with someone unless you have had the time to know each other better and to see if you are emotionally ready.
Step 5: Inject Variety
Don’t confine yourself to the usual dinner in a restaurant. Set up a date where one of you prepares a meal at home. Go outdoors for a picnic, kite flying, shopping for fresh produce, a fairground or carnival. Mix the routine with the adventurous venues, and you will have a wealth of diverse experiences and stories to share with your date.
Don’t confine yourself in dating from school or the neighborhood. There are many online dating services available, even for the geek in you. Visit a dating network for geeks like you interested in science, chemists, and biologists. That’s a good place to find a perfect match.
Step 6: Enjoy!
Date to make yourself happy. Who you date is entirely your choice. Whether she is a fellow geek or not, she must be someone you want to spend time with or you will be happy to go out with.
Enjoy the conversations that you are able to carry. Enjoy the busy weekends with several, interesting girls. Enjoy the places, activities and adventures that you embark in as you go on a date. Enjoy the fact that you are getting good at dating.
Being a geek should not get in the way of dating. You simply have to attack it like a math problem that you happily tackle. Know the givens; understand the unknown; and follow the procedure to solve the unknown; and, “Eureka! Dating problem, solved!”
http://www.articles-central.info/Article/Scientific-Dating-Advice-For-Geeks/15766
Given
Geeks are afraid to date. That’s a given. They are afraid they might come out too nerdy, weird or boring. But believe it or not, girls don’t avoid geeks like the plague. In fact, many people find geeks interesting and even cute. So relax, there’s no “Do Not Date” sign printed on your forehead. Dating is something that everybody does, so there’s no reason that a geek can’t do it well.
Unknown
Your biggest challenge as a geek is to overcome this fright and ask girls out. Fear not, for what is unknown to you, is laid out step by step in the solution below.
Solution
Step 1: Overcoming Communication Issues
Probably the biggest dating problem facing geeks would be communication. Geeks tend to use too much technical jargon. In social settings, this gets worse because they tend to switch to sci-fi mode and lose non-geeks with their references to scenes from Star Wars or names from the planet Tatooine. So there: not everyone is into science fiction and video games.
Step 2: Bridging the communication gap
Quite simply, this issue can be most effectively solved by the techniques of effective communication. Effective communication states that misunderstanding can be avoided if parties try to understand the person they are talking to, and try to picture their conversation from that other person’s point of view.
When you talk to someone, a potential date, imagine if she will appreciate your geeky terms. What is she like, her background? What is she interested in? Try to picture your conversation through her eyes, and visualize how she would receive what you’re saying.
Step 3: Show Your Interest
Be genuinely interested in knowing her. Be aware of where they are coming from when they are talking to you. So, in turn, you can better understand them.
Remember that in most communications, the actual words make up only 7 percent of the message, while the remaining 93% is non-verbal (body language, facial expression, eye contact, voice tone and quality). So be mindful of the messages you send.
Step 4: Take It Slow
Date unhurriedly; take time in meeting people and asking more than one girl out on a date. There’s no need to dive into a deeper relationship with someone unless you have had the time to know each other better and to see if you are emotionally ready.
Step 5: Inject Variety
Don’t confine yourself to the usual dinner in a restaurant. Set up a date where one of you prepares a meal at home. Go outdoors for a picnic, kite flying, shopping for fresh produce, a fairground or carnival. Mix the routine with the adventurous venues, and you will have a wealth of diverse experiences and stories to share with your date.
Don’t confine yourself in dating from school or the neighborhood. There are many online dating services available, even for the geek in you. Visit a dating network for geeks like you interested in science, chemists, and biologists. That’s a good place to find a perfect match.
Step 6: Enjoy!
Date to make yourself happy. Who you date is entirely your choice. Whether she is a fellow geek or not, she must be someone you want to spend time with or you will be happy to go out with.
Enjoy the conversations that you are able to carry. Enjoy the busy weekends with several, interesting girls. Enjoy the places, activities and adventures that you embark in as you go on a date. Enjoy the fact that you are getting good at dating.
Being a geek should not get in the way of dating. You simply have to attack it like a math problem that you happily tackle. Know the givens; understand the unknown; and follow the procedure to solve the unknown; and, “Eureka! Dating problem, solved!”
http://www.articles-central.info/Article/Scientific-Dating-Advice-For-Geeks/15766
9 Irresistible Tips on How to Set The Powerful Mind Set for Dating
The following are 9 irresistible tips & tricks to ensure a powerful mind set for dating. Use them wisely and you will be bound to have fun and triumph in the dating arena.
1. Burn with Curiosity
Be curious about persons you find interesting, discover out what makes them happy! What are their passions! The best way to get to know someone is to be intrigued about life through their eyes. You may be missing out on something altogether.
2. Avoid Setting Inappropriate Expectations
We are all unique individuals, with our own distinctive life purpose. Expecting and convincing others do things your way does not help them with their life lessons or you with yours!
3. It takes time…
It requires an investment of time and effort to get back into the dating game especially if you have not dated for a while and you are looking for an ideal partner. As we get older and learn from our experiences our must-have requirements for an ideal partner may have changed. Some character traits or behavior patterns that were must haves may now be negotiable. Forget how long you think it ought to take in finding your right partner.
4. Work out a ‘Seize and Let Go’ technique
If you are currently dating someone you enjoy being with yet you know that this person is not THE ONE, do yourself a favor and release the person. By keeping this person in your life keeps YOU and them from being open for the real one. Don’t be afraid to let the other person go if you are not perfect for each other. You never know if your ideal mate is just waiting for you to become available!
5. Be the Playful You!
Embrace an expectation of fun when you go out on dates. Every individual’s best surfaces when having fun. There is no greater way to enjoy yourself and time with others, share it with your date – you being at your best!
6. Listen and Discover
Learn to ask questions and be a good listener BUT do not interview you date. Take initiative to know the real person you are sitting across from. Relax, have fun and enjoy hearing about life from another person’s perspective. Listen for cues, let the conversation flow.
7. Be Captivating
People fall in love because they feel they finally know the real you. Start being YOU right now, in every moment. Don’t wait for tomorrow to let others know you, they may just find you distinctly attractive – right this very moment!
8. Accepting for What They Are
Accept people for what they are. This does not mean however that every individual who comes along is a right match for you nor does it mean that you will completely disregard inappropriate behaviors. You have a choice of whether to see this person again or not.
9. I’m sinking… Help!!
Avoid setting expectations that your date or your partner to rescue you from your life. A healthy and fulfilling relationship means both parties come together as a whole and together you become even more amazing. If you are emotionally deprived you may attract exactly what you don’t want and repel what you do want.
http://www.articles-central.info/Article/9-Irresistible-Tips-on-How-to-Set-The-Powerful-Mind-Set-for-Dating/8835
1. Burn with Curiosity
Be curious about persons you find interesting, discover out what makes them happy! What are their passions! The best way to get to know someone is to be intrigued about life through their eyes. You may be missing out on something altogether.
2. Avoid Setting Inappropriate Expectations
We are all unique individuals, with our own distinctive life purpose. Expecting and convincing others do things your way does not help them with their life lessons or you with yours!
3. It takes time…
It requires an investment of time and effort to get back into the dating game especially if you have not dated for a while and you are looking for an ideal partner. As we get older and learn from our experiences our must-have requirements for an ideal partner may have changed. Some character traits or behavior patterns that were must haves may now be negotiable. Forget how long you think it ought to take in finding your right partner.
4. Work out a ‘Seize and Let Go’ technique
If you are currently dating someone you enjoy being with yet you know that this person is not THE ONE, do yourself a favor and release the person. By keeping this person in your life keeps YOU and them from being open for the real one. Don’t be afraid to let the other person go if you are not perfect for each other. You never know if your ideal mate is just waiting for you to become available!
5. Be the Playful You!
Embrace an expectation of fun when you go out on dates. Every individual’s best surfaces when having fun. There is no greater way to enjoy yourself and time with others, share it with your date – you being at your best!
6. Listen and Discover
Learn to ask questions and be a good listener BUT do not interview you date. Take initiative to know the real person you are sitting across from. Relax, have fun and enjoy hearing about life from another person’s perspective. Listen for cues, let the conversation flow.
7. Be Captivating
People fall in love because they feel they finally know the real you. Start being YOU right now, in every moment. Don’t wait for tomorrow to let others know you, they may just find you distinctly attractive – right this very moment!
8. Accepting for What They Are
Accept people for what they are. This does not mean however that every individual who comes along is a right match for you nor does it mean that you will completely disregard inappropriate behaviors. You have a choice of whether to see this person again or not.
9. I’m sinking… Help!!
Avoid setting expectations that your date or your partner to rescue you from your life. A healthy and fulfilling relationship means both parties come together as a whole and together you become even more amazing. If you are emotionally deprived you may attract exactly what you don’t want and repel what you do want.
http://www.articles-central.info/Article/9-Irresistible-Tips-on-How-to-Set-The-Powerful-Mind-Set-for-Dating/8835
Tuesday, August 28, 2007
Why Does Social Proof Attract Women?
It doesn't matter if you are in a forest, a supermarket, a nightclub, or a busy city - people will be influenced by your social proof.
Social proof is one of the most potent ways of influencing the social behavior of others.
How does social proof work?
Put simply, human beings will often look to others to determine how they should behave and feel.
"Since 95 percent of the people are imitators and only 5 percent initiators, people are persuaded more by the actions of others than by any proof we can offer." Cavett Robert
The belief behind social proof is: If enough people are thinking/doing it then it MUST be true/the right thing to do.
Here's an example: You walk into a bar and immediately start talking to women. Other women who notice this will assume that you are liked by women and thus see you as an attractive option.
When you are accepted socially and have a lot of people interested in you, the amount of people who are interested in you will increase exponentially.
Think of celebrities. Celebrities are liked by more people the more popular they become. They may also be hated by jealous people, but that isn't their problem. A male celebrity can literally have billions of women who are sexually interested in him. Imagine that!
Let's scale it down to normal reality where 99.99% of us won't become superstars or celebrities. Would if be fair to estimate that as a normal guy you could have hundreds of women who are sexually interested in you...each week?
The answer you're looking for is YES!
* Creating Social Proof if You Aren't a Celebrity or High-Status Person
Walk around and behave as if it is your club/party/social event/bookstore/etc and that all the people there are your friends or your guests.
Hence my conversation starter that I like to use, "Hey guys - what's happenin...I just got here...this place is cool...what's been happening for you guys so far tonight?"
Assume rapport with everyone including the staff. Think about it.
If you were a confident social person, how would you behave in your own home when you had guests over? Here are some ideas:
- Walk around and say hi to people, "Hey guys, is everyone here having a good time tonight? Excellent...cheers! Then clink glasses with some of them, or just walk off like you are going to 'check in' with the next group.
- High-5 people and say "Hi" or "Hey, what's going on!"
- Warmly greet the bar staff and waiters like they are old friends.
- Confidently project your voice when talking.
- Take over a section of the bar/club/venue and make it yours. Stand/sit there, respectfully move tables and chairs to suit, etc.
- Introduce yourself to strangers.
* Social Proof Through Conversation
Although actions will always speak louder than words, social proof can also be related through conversation.
Another example: You might start talking to a woman and end up telling her about how you and 10 of your close friends went to the snow last winter and hired out a log cabin. Such a story demonstrates that:
a) You have friends.
b) You are accepted by a large number of people, who trust you enough to be alone with you.
c) You are adventurous enough to go to the snow and stay in a log cabin.
* The Gravitational Pull Towards Socially Successful or 'Popular' People
Have you ever noticed that people tend to gravitate toward those who have larger social circles, a lot of alliances, or who are popular or successful?
Why is that? It's a survival instinct. Long before we developed functional societies that offered goods & services - food, shelter and safety were more easily found when we stuck with a larger tribe. It also meant that we would have more options of people to breed with.
In developed worlds, people who maintain large social circles and lots of alliances are viewed with more favor than those who don't.
So what should that tell you? Be social, create a lot of alliances and give off signals that you are a high-status male who deserves only the best.
Work on creating more success for yourself and build your social circle with relevant people.
The result: People will instinctively begin to gravitate towards you to ensure their survival and you will have more opportunities to create even more success with women.
http://www.articleshelf.com/Article/Why-Does-Social-Proof-Attract-Women-/47476
Social proof is one of the most potent ways of influencing the social behavior of others.
How does social proof work?
Put simply, human beings will often look to others to determine how they should behave and feel.
"Since 95 percent of the people are imitators and only 5 percent initiators, people are persuaded more by the actions of others than by any proof we can offer." Cavett Robert
The belief behind social proof is: If enough people are thinking/doing it then it MUST be true/the right thing to do.
Here's an example: You walk into a bar and immediately start talking to women. Other women who notice this will assume that you are liked by women and thus see you as an attractive option.
When you are accepted socially and have a lot of people interested in you, the amount of people who are interested in you will increase exponentially.
Think of celebrities. Celebrities are liked by more people the more popular they become. They may also be hated by jealous people, but that isn't their problem. A male celebrity can literally have billions of women who are sexually interested in him. Imagine that!
Let's scale it down to normal reality where 99.99% of us won't become superstars or celebrities. Would if be fair to estimate that as a normal guy you could have hundreds of women who are sexually interested in you...each week?
The answer you're looking for is YES!
* Creating Social Proof if You Aren't a Celebrity or High-Status Person
Walk around and behave as if it is your club/party/social event/bookstore/etc and that all the people there are your friends or your guests.
Hence my conversation starter that I like to use, "Hey guys - what's happenin...I just got here...this place is cool...what's been happening for you guys so far tonight?"
Assume rapport with everyone including the staff. Think about it.
If you were a confident social person, how would you behave in your own home when you had guests over? Here are some ideas:
- Walk around and say hi to people, "Hey guys, is everyone here having a good time tonight? Excellent...cheers! Then clink glasses with some of them, or just walk off like you are going to 'check in' with the next group.
- High-5 people and say "Hi" or "Hey, what's going on!"
- Warmly greet the bar staff and waiters like they are old friends.
- Confidently project your voice when talking.
- Take over a section of the bar/club/venue and make it yours. Stand/sit there, respectfully move tables and chairs to suit, etc.
- Introduce yourself to strangers.
* Social Proof Through Conversation
Although actions will always speak louder than words, social proof can also be related through conversation.
Another example: You might start talking to a woman and end up telling her about how you and 10 of your close friends went to the snow last winter and hired out a log cabin. Such a story demonstrates that:
a) You have friends.
b) You are accepted by a large number of people, who trust you enough to be alone with you.
c) You are adventurous enough to go to the snow and stay in a log cabin.
* The Gravitational Pull Towards Socially Successful or 'Popular' People
Have you ever noticed that people tend to gravitate toward those who have larger social circles, a lot of alliances, or who are popular or successful?
Why is that? It's a survival instinct. Long before we developed functional societies that offered goods & services - food, shelter and safety were more easily found when we stuck with a larger tribe. It also meant that we would have more options of people to breed with.
In developed worlds, people who maintain large social circles and lots of alliances are viewed with more favor than those who don't.
So what should that tell you? Be social, create a lot of alliances and give off signals that you are a high-status male who deserves only the best.
Work on creating more success for yourself and build your social circle with relevant people.
The result: People will instinctively begin to gravitate towards you to ensure their survival and you will have more opportunities to create even more success with women.
http://www.articleshelf.com/Article/Why-Does-Social-Proof-Attract-Women-/47476
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