There's a problem with window shopping: you begin to dwell on all the things you can't have or can't afford. But there's a bigger problem than that: we will begin focusing on the fact that can't have or afford the item in question, and that little obsession can actually cause more harm than the other.
Let us compare this behavior to online dating and exploring Boston personals. It's easy to sign up on free online dating sites or take free trials on pay sites and then start browsing the lists of available singles. And – just like window shopping – we stay out of the store and look through a small window at a nice, prettied-up and posed person. Then we just as often declare them unattainable or impractical and, just like regular shopping, it's not the items or the Boston personals that we focus on, but our ability or likelihood to meet those people.
Actually going inside and, in the case of online dating, making a commitment to a serious relationship or just trying to meet someone great, can be a little daunting. Much easier to just stand outside and look in.
But, just like with regular shopping, sometimes we find ourselves with a little extra courage or some new means that make going in the store or making contact with some of the people behind the Boston personals a valid possibility. But now we've spent so long convincing ourselves that there wasn't even a possibility that when one presents itself this is where we can make our biggest mistakes.
When a door stands invitingly open to us after so much time sealing us out we risk two major mistakes. The first is to maintain our stance and try to ignore the door and all the wonderful things that might be on the other side. The other choice is to go barreling through the doors at the first sign that it might give way.
But aren't you supposed to take a chance? Aren't you supposed to take any and every opportunity? Isn't this exactly what we've been standing around this whole time waiting for?
Not exactly.
What could be worse than barging through a door just to be confronted with what's really waiting for you?
Boston has one of the most active online dating communities in the country. Singles are more willing to try this form of meeting new people because they're getting tired of the more traditional means of finding compatible singles. There is a wide variety of Boston personals out there to see, but how do you know which one is right for you?
As you search through different sites and the different Boston personals on those sites, you can learn different things, and by paying attention to the entire personal ad – in other words, doing more than just basic window shopping – we can discern whether to take door number one, two, or the mystery prize.
There are a number of ways people can express themselves in Boston personals these days. We can write up quick and, hopefully, pithy little paragraphs, we can select a number of multiple choice answers, or we can use a personality profile to try and find people who are a good match for us. All these methods are a great way to delve further than just a nice picture.
Don't get me wrong, pictures are an integral part of good Boston personals, but now online dating sites provide tools that allow us to step out of the shallow pool and start focusing on the more meaningful parts of a potential relationship.
And when we stop focusing on our own problems, when we're ready to move past the window shopping phase, we can finally do so knowing we're making the best choice possible. We're not going to go into the store that is only interested in ripping you off, or presenting something that may be beautiful on the outside and nothing but rotten bits on the inside.
Take the time to explore Boston personals and look, read, and understand the things presented there to start your relationship off in the right direction.
http://www.articlecube.com/Article/Delving-the-Realm-of-Boston-Personals/144773
Thursday, August 23, 2007
I Have Been Hurt By Men Too Many Times, Should I Start Dating Women?
Can you say from your heart that your passion for making love is saturated? You would definitely say a big ‘NO’. Yes, the yearning for fulfilling love does not stop till human beings lose the pulsation of life. Do not thrive on the stinking experience of your past; rather try hard tailoring your future and earn utmost fun and pleasure from life. Keeping these ideas in mind, you can make a balance in your personal life too. After all…past is history and future is mystery, so be with the present for enlightening your future and also to erase painful experiences of your past.
I know a girl, who got immensely benefited by listening to my words. She was just like you, who had several relationships but none of them gave her assurance to carry further. She got frustrated and decided not to go for any other relationship with her male friends. I told her that to end up relationships is to end up life and also asked her why she had taken such steps. She described her whole story to me. She had fallen in love with a boy much older to her. They had physical relation for several times. Each time my friend asked him to marry, he used to get rid off that situation by saying something else. With the passage of time, they got separated and that boy got married to another girl. Three other boys also cheated my friend thereafter. Having understood her situation very well, I suggested her not to give up in her pursuit of finding love and do not stop looking for men until you are truly happy with someone. She searched out a new friend and they began their romance. Now, they are married with two children.
There are several reasons behind winning in the battle of love affair. You would get to know what the male populace prefers and why they change relationship very often. Once you learn the art of realizing their mind, you would be able to mould yourself to fulfill all their desires and thus, you will be able to make your way to success. As you are experienced, you can add more fun in their life. Think it properly – a man moves to other place when he is not satisfied with what he has. If he gets satisfaction, fun, entertainment from his life partner, he would definitely stay with her till the end.
As you have been in quite a few relationships earlier, you would probably have the idea of how to win hearts of men. Be confident and look around for a match for you. I am sure that you would be able to find out you partner very soon. Do not hasten, move slowly to reach your end. This has to be kept in mind well to get success in life. You should also realize that compared to women, the minds of men are built from an entirely different blueprint. Men hurt their wives' feelings without understanding them properly and then get baffled when their women counterpart are upset with them without any specific reason.
The saying goes - "To meet her handsome prince, a girl has to kiss a lot of frogs." So, you will have to play intelligently. Even if you are experienced and financially self-sufficient, this adage is much more appropriate for men aspiring for marriage than it is for women.
Apart from all these things, you need to get a male partner because of quenching your thirst for sex. Spend a little time in thinking - can any women satisfy you by entering their organ into yours? NO! It is not physically possible. You can get pleasure by pushing artificial limb into yours. But that would not be as satisfactory as the organ of your male counterpart. For getting hands free penetration, you also need the help of a male partner. Male-female pair is recognized as ideal. They are just like the two halves of a ball, if you consider only one part and neglect the other, you would not be able to form a complete sphere. Thus, you need to make a lifelong relationship with a male counterpart.
It may happen that you want desperately making friendship with a woman because of your preference. Never mind making friendship with her. It is better to have a girl friend than having none at all. Decide what do you want to have in life first. Do you want a male partner or want to get enjoyment from a girl partner. The ultimate thing is to get pleasure…it does not matter in what way you are getting them. So, decide first in which direction you want to move and march forward. Never stay alone in life.
http://www.articlecube.com/Article/I-Have-Been-Hurt-By-Men-Too-Many-Times--Should-I-Start-Dating-Women-/144660
I know a girl, who got immensely benefited by listening to my words. She was just like you, who had several relationships but none of them gave her assurance to carry further. She got frustrated and decided not to go for any other relationship with her male friends. I told her that to end up relationships is to end up life and also asked her why she had taken such steps. She described her whole story to me. She had fallen in love with a boy much older to her. They had physical relation for several times. Each time my friend asked him to marry, he used to get rid off that situation by saying something else. With the passage of time, they got separated and that boy got married to another girl. Three other boys also cheated my friend thereafter. Having understood her situation very well, I suggested her not to give up in her pursuit of finding love and do not stop looking for men until you are truly happy with someone. She searched out a new friend and they began their romance. Now, they are married with two children.
There are several reasons behind winning in the battle of love affair. You would get to know what the male populace prefers and why they change relationship very often. Once you learn the art of realizing their mind, you would be able to mould yourself to fulfill all their desires and thus, you will be able to make your way to success. As you are experienced, you can add more fun in their life. Think it properly – a man moves to other place when he is not satisfied with what he has. If he gets satisfaction, fun, entertainment from his life partner, he would definitely stay with her till the end.
As you have been in quite a few relationships earlier, you would probably have the idea of how to win hearts of men. Be confident and look around for a match for you. I am sure that you would be able to find out you partner very soon. Do not hasten, move slowly to reach your end. This has to be kept in mind well to get success in life. You should also realize that compared to women, the minds of men are built from an entirely different blueprint. Men hurt their wives' feelings without understanding them properly and then get baffled when their women counterpart are upset with them without any specific reason.
The saying goes - "To meet her handsome prince, a girl has to kiss a lot of frogs." So, you will have to play intelligently. Even if you are experienced and financially self-sufficient, this adage is much more appropriate for men aspiring for marriage than it is for women.
Apart from all these things, you need to get a male partner because of quenching your thirst for sex. Spend a little time in thinking - can any women satisfy you by entering their organ into yours? NO! It is not physically possible. You can get pleasure by pushing artificial limb into yours. But that would not be as satisfactory as the organ of your male counterpart. For getting hands free penetration, you also need the help of a male partner. Male-female pair is recognized as ideal. They are just like the two halves of a ball, if you consider only one part and neglect the other, you would not be able to form a complete sphere. Thus, you need to make a lifelong relationship with a male counterpart.
It may happen that you want desperately making friendship with a woman because of your preference. Never mind making friendship with her. It is better to have a girl friend than having none at all. Decide what do you want to have in life first. Do you want a male partner or want to get enjoyment from a girl partner. The ultimate thing is to get pleasure…it does not matter in what way you are getting them. So, decide first in which direction you want to move and march forward. Never stay alone in life.
http://www.articlecube.com/Article/I-Have-Been-Hurt-By-Men-Too-Many-Times--Should-I-Start-Dating-Women-/144660
Relaciones contactos
Las palabras "relaciones contactos" son unas de las más buscadas en Internet, y esto se debe a que "relaciones contactos" resume lo que muchas personas en todo el mundo están buscando. Por un lado, “relaciones contactos” significa querer encontrar a una persona con la cual formar una pareja y compartir toda la vida, y por otro lado, significa querer tener una lista de amigos con los cuales poder hablar. Incluso, “relaciones contactos” es una búsqueda válida para aquellas personas que están buscando una relación casual, sin compromiso, o simplemente una noche de pasión.
Ahora bien, ¿a donde deberías ir a parar luego de buscar “relaciones contactos” en cualquiera de los buscadores populares de Internet? La respuesta es muy simple: deberías ir a parar a un sitio de citas. ¿Qué es un sitio de citas? ¡Es el lugar donde encontrar “relaciones contactos”! Es decir, un lugar donde puedes encontrar todo tipo de personas de todas partes del mundo en busca de todo tipo de relaciones, y sin duda, esto es lo que pretendes encontrar al buscar “relaciones contactos”.
Originalmente, los sitios de citas surgieron como un lugar para ofrecer a aquellas personas en busca de pareja, un lugar donde conocer otras personas en busca de lo mismo. Sin embargo, con el tiempo se vio que también podían ser utilizados para hacer amigos o conocer gente para hablar de los temas que a uno le interesan. Es decir que hoy en día, estos sitios abarcan todos los aspectos de “relaciones contactos”.
¿Y que diferencia a un sitio de citas de un sitio de chat normal? La posibilidad de realizar búsquedas personalizadas entre las personas registradas en el sitio. Supongamos que quieres “relaciones contactos” pero solo te interesan aquellas potenciales “relaciones contactos” que sean solteras o solteros, que estén buscando una relación seria, y que vivan en tu país. Puedes especificarlo en tu búsqueda, y solo las personas que cumplan con estas condiciones aparecerán.
Por lo tanto, la próxima vez que hagas la búsqueda “relaciones contactos”, sabrás que la mejor opción son los sitios de citas, y que ahí podrás encontrar todo lo que estás buscando, ¡Y mucho más!
http://www.articlecube.com/Article/Relaciones-contactos/147463
Ahora bien, ¿a donde deberías ir a parar luego de buscar “relaciones contactos” en cualquiera de los buscadores populares de Internet? La respuesta es muy simple: deberías ir a parar a un sitio de citas. ¿Qué es un sitio de citas? ¡Es el lugar donde encontrar “relaciones contactos”! Es decir, un lugar donde puedes encontrar todo tipo de personas de todas partes del mundo en busca de todo tipo de relaciones, y sin duda, esto es lo que pretendes encontrar al buscar “relaciones contactos”.
Originalmente, los sitios de citas surgieron como un lugar para ofrecer a aquellas personas en busca de pareja, un lugar donde conocer otras personas en busca de lo mismo. Sin embargo, con el tiempo se vio que también podían ser utilizados para hacer amigos o conocer gente para hablar de los temas que a uno le interesan. Es decir que hoy en día, estos sitios abarcan todos los aspectos de “relaciones contactos”.
¿Y que diferencia a un sitio de citas de un sitio de chat normal? La posibilidad de realizar búsquedas personalizadas entre las personas registradas en el sitio. Supongamos que quieres “relaciones contactos” pero solo te interesan aquellas potenciales “relaciones contactos” que sean solteras o solteros, que estén buscando una relación seria, y que vivan en tu país. Puedes especificarlo en tu búsqueda, y solo las personas que cumplan con estas condiciones aparecerán.
Por lo tanto, la próxima vez que hagas la búsqueda “relaciones contactos”, sabrás que la mejor opción son los sitios de citas, y que ahí podrás encontrar todo lo que estás buscando, ¡Y mucho más!
http://www.articlecube.com/Article/Relaciones-contactos/147463
Solteras
It is already six o'clock. You are ready for the big date. Well, almost. The little black dress that you bought at Neiman-Marcus still hangs in your closet. Feeling butterflies in the stomach, you reach for it and slip it on (for the tenth time), and zipped it up. Perfect. Well, almost. All glammed up and ready to go. You've got the vanity kit in the purse, the make-up's been re-touched, and the mandatory spritz of perfume is through. You've got everything in place, well, except for the guy. “Where is my date?”, you ask. A million other questions race through your mind. You can't help think about whether he was in a car accident or, even worse, if he changed his mind about the date. Feeling the anxiety now creeping through your body, you dial his cellphone number. He answers the phone and tells you in a half-embarrassed voice that he is now your front porch. The immediately, you hear the doorbell. “He's here!”, you silently scream in your as you glide down the staircase. Of course, you first had to take one last look at the mirror to check your teeth, hair, and dress before taking that one long breath of air. Finally, you open the door and given out your sweetest smile to the guy --- your date, who, at least came, even if he was 20 minutes late.
This scenario describes how one woman can feel the anxiety when it comes to dating. The emotional roller coaster of preparing and waiting for the date --- not to mention the actual outcome of it --- can put even the most stable of women in panic. It has been a tradition for almost everyone to have dates in order to know more about each other, spend time together, and see if your attitudes, beliefs, or interests are compatible. Of course, not all expectations or agreements about this thing or that thing are met with ease. Dating is necessary because it takes time to know a person well, and hopefully, after that, the simple getting-to-know-you would blossom into a good relationship.
But not all people are accustomed to or even ready to have a date. Dating is considered as a social event, where two people are dressed up appropriately based on where they are going, or what activity they are going to do. In these times, dating can be done in various ways, not just the candle lit dinner for two setup. Double dates, group dates, blind dates, and even the ones where you go to a certain spot, be with nineteen other women and twenty guys that you have not met, and go on rotation to speak with a man for at least five minutes. Speed dating, anyone? Crazy, right?
Still, even with all the innovations on how to meet and date people, some individuals still find it a struggle to actually be around others of their kind. The fact of being near other people can stress out or cause panic is such a serious concern that there is even a term for it --- Social Anxiety. Social anxiety often refers to fear and worry about being around other people or of establishing contact with another person for the first time.
In a society like ours, they are often seen as loners, anti-socials, or wallflowers. In a scene like that, a person dealing with social anxiety might just run, be silent for the rest of the night, or even faint! Those with this type of anxiety disorder may often experience sweaty hands, butterflies in the stomach, and nagging thoughts about not being “good enough” for the person they are about to meet.
Needless to say, any feeling of anxiety may be considered normal as long as it does not interrupt with your daily routine or with prevents a person from having a happy, fulfilled life. Every single person on earth wants the best, and by that, it means that all of us aspire to look good, feel good, and show how wonderful we are as human beings --- especially during a date.
In dating, a person feels the anxiety before or during a date --- which is perfectly all right. Taking time to relieve the anxiety is key before going on a date. What then should be the first step an anxious dater should take before going out?
Deep breathing can really help ease nervousness. Focusing on the other person (or your date) and not just obsessing about whether you will be liked or not is a good start, too. Most of all, just be yourself.
People who suffer from social anxiety should participate in social therapy and treatment in order to decrease their fear of meeting other people. It is essential for a person to grow and interact with others, so it is wise to address this kind of anxiety as soon as possible. Going out on a date need not be such a hassle. It should be one of the most fun things every one should try and experience.
http://www.articlecube.com/Article/Solteras/147465
This scenario describes how one woman can feel the anxiety when it comes to dating. The emotional roller coaster of preparing and waiting for the date --- not to mention the actual outcome of it --- can put even the most stable of women in panic. It has been a tradition for almost everyone to have dates in order to know more about each other, spend time together, and see if your attitudes, beliefs, or interests are compatible. Of course, not all expectations or agreements about this thing or that thing are met with ease. Dating is necessary because it takes time to know a person well, and hopefully, after that, the simple getting-to-know-you would blossom into a good relationship.
But not all people are accustomed to or even ready to have a date. Dating is considered as a social event, where two people are dressed up appropriately based on where they are going, or what activity they are going to do. In these times, dating can be done in various ways, not just the candle lit dinner for two setup. Double dates, group dates, blind dates, and even the ones where you go to a certain spot, be with nineteen other women and twenty guys that you have not met, and go on rotation to speak with a man for at least five minutes. Speed dating, anyone? Crazy, right?
Still, even with all the innovations on how to meet and date people, some individuals still find it a struggle to actually be around others of their kind. The fact of being near other people can stress out or cause panic is such a serious concern that there is even a term for it --- Social Anxiety. Social anxiety often refers to fear and worry about being around other people or of establishing contact with another person for the first time.
In a society like ours, they are often seen as loners, anti-socials, or wallflowers. In a scene like that, a person dealing with social anxiety might just run, be silent for the rest of the night, or even faint! Those with this type of anxiety disorder may often experience sweaty hands, butterflies in the stomach, and nagging thoughts about not being “good enough” for the person they are about to meet.
Needless to say, any feeling of anxiety may be considered normal as long as it does not interrupt with your daily routine or with prevents a person from having a happy, fulfilled life. Every single person on earth wants the best, and by that, it means that all of us aspire to look good, feel good, and show how wonderful we are as human beings --- especially during a date.
In dating, a person feels the anxiety before or during a date --- which is perfectly all right. Taking time to relieve the anxiety is key before going on a date. What then should be the first step an anxious dater should take before going out?
Deep breathing can really help ease nervousness. Focusing on the other person (or your date) and not just obsessing about whether you will be liked or not is a good start, too. Most of all, just be yourself.
People who suffer from social anxiety should participate in social therapy and treatment in order to decrease their fear of meeting other people. It is essential for a person to grow and interact with others, so it is wise to address this kind of anxiety as soon as possible. Going out on a date need not be such a hassle. It should be one of the most fun things every one should try and experience.
http://www.articlecube.com/Article/Solteras/147465
On anxiety and dating
It is already six o'clock. You are ready for the big date. Well, almost. The little black dress that you bought at Neiman-Marcus still hangs in your closet. Feeling butterflies in the stomach, you reach for it and slip it on (for the tenth time), and zipped it up. Perfect. Well, almost. All glammed up and ready to go. You've got the vanity kit in the purse, the make-up's been re-touched, and the mandatory spritz of perfume is through. You've got everything in place, well, except for the guy. “Where is my date?”, you ask. A million other questions race through your mind. You can't help think about whether he was in a car accident or, even worse, if he changed his mind about the date. Feeling the anxiety now creeping through your body, you dial his cellphone number. He answers the phone and tells you in a half-embarrassed voice that he is now your front porch. The immediately, you hear the doorbell. “He's here!”, you silently scream in your as you glide down the staircase. Of course, you first had to take one last look at the mirror to check your teeth, hair, and dress before taking that one long breath of air. Finally, you open the door and given out your sweetest smile to the guy --- your date, who, at least came, even if he was 20 minutes late.
This scenario describes how one woman can feel the anxiety when it comes to dating. The emotional roller coaster of preparing and waiting for the date --- not to mention the actual outcome of it --- can put even the most stable of women in panic. It has been a tradition for almost everyone to have dates in order to know more about each other, spend time together, and see if your attitudes, beliefs, or interests are compatible. Of course, not all expectations or agreements about this thing or that thing are met with ease. Dating is necessary because it takes time to know a person well, and hopefully, after that, the simple getting-to-know-you would blossom into a good relationship.
But not all people are accustomed to or even ready to have a date. Dating is considered as a social event, where two people are dressed up appropriately based on where they are going, or what activity they are going to do. In these times, dating can be done in various ways, not just the candle lit dinner for two setup. Double dates, group dates, blind dates, and even the ones where you go to a certain spot, be with nineteen other women and twenty guys that you have not met, and go on rotation to speak with a man for at least five minutes. Speed dating, anyone? Crazy, right?
Still, even with all the innovations on how to meet and date people, some individuals still find it a struggle to actually be around others of their kind. The fact of being near other people can stress out or cause panic is such a serious concern that there is even a term for it --- Social Anxiety. Social anxiety often refers to fear and worry about being around other people or of establishing contact with another person for the first time.
In a society like ours, they are often seen as loners, anti-socials, or wallflowers. In a scene like that, a person dealing with social anxiety might just run, be silent for the rest of the night, or even faint! Those with this type of anxiety disorder may often experience sweaty hands, butterflies in the stomach, and nagging thoughts about not being “good enough” for the person they are about to meet.
Needless to say, any feeling of anxiety may be considered normal as long as it does not interrupt with your daily routine or with prevents a person from having a happy, fulfilled life. Every single person on earth wants the best, and by that, it means that all of us aspire to look good, feel good, and show how wonderful we are as human beings --- especially during a date.
In dating, a person feels the anxiety before or during a date --- which is perfectly all right. Taking time to relieve the anxiety is key before going on a date. What then should be the first step an anxious dater should take before going out?
Deep breathing can really help ease nervousness. Focusing on the other person (or your date) and not just obsessing about whether you will be liked or not is a good start, too. Most of all, just be yourself.
People who suffer from social anxiety should participate in social therapy and treatment in order to decrease their fear of meeting other people. It is essential for a person to grow and interact with others, so it is wise to address this kind of anxiety as soon as possible. Going out on a date need not be such a hassle. It should be one of the most fun things every one should try and experience.
http://www.articlecube.com/Article/On-anxiety-and-dating/147568
This scenario describes how one woman can feel the anxiety when it comes to dating. The emotional roller coaster of preparing and waiting for the date --- not to mention the actual outcome of it --- can put even the most stable of women in panic. It has been a tradition for almost everyone to have dates in order to know more about each other, spend time together, and see if your attitudes, beliefs, or interests are compatible. Of course, not all expectations or agreements about this thing or that thing are met with ease. Dating is necessary because it takes time to know a person well, and hopefully, after that, the simple getting-to-know-you would blossom into a good relationship.
But not all people are accustomed to or even ready to have a date. Dating is considered as a social event, where two people are dressed up appropriately based on where they are going, or what activity they are going to do. In these times, dating can be done in various ways, not just the candle lit dinner for two setup. Double dates, group dates, blind dates, and even the ones where you go to a certain spot, be with nineteen other women and twenty guys that you have not met, and go on rotation to speak with a man for at least five minutes. Speed dating, anyone? Crazy, right?
Still, even with all the innovations on how to meet and date people, some individuals still find it a struggle to actually be around others of their kind. The fact of being near other people can stress out or cause panic is such a serious concern that there is even a term for it --- Social Anxiety. Social anxiety often refers to fear and worry about being around other people or of establishing contact with another person for the first time.
In a society like ours, they are often seen as loners, anti-socials, or wallflowers. In a scene like that, a person dealing with social anxiety might just run, be silent for the rest of the night, or even faint! Those with this type of anxiety disorder may often experience sweaty hands, butterflies in the stomach, and nagging thoughts about not being “good enough” for the person they are about to meet.
Needless to say, any feeling of anxiety may be considered normal as long as it does not interrupt with your daily routine or with prevents a person from having a happy, fulfilled life. Every single person on earth wants the best, and by that, it means that all of us aspire to look good, feel good, and show how wonderful we are as human beings --- especially during a date.
In dating, a person feels the anxiety before or during a date --- which is perfectly all right. Taking time to relieve the anxiety is key before going on a date. What then should be the first step an anxious dater should take before going out?
Deep breathing can really help ease nervousness. Focusing on the other person (or your date) and not just obsessing about whether you will be liked or not is a good start, too. Most of all, just be yourself.
People who suffer from social anxiety should participate in social therapy and treatment in order to decrease their fear of meeting other people. It is essential for a person to grow and interact with others, so it is wise to address this kind of anxiety as soon as possible. Going out on a date need not be such a hassle. It should be one of the most fun things every one should try and experience.
http://www.articlecube.com/Article/On-anxiety-and-dating/147568
How To Deal With Negative Emotions
Negative emotions sap your energy and undermine your effectiveness. In the negative emotional state, you find the lack of desire to do anything. The mind is filled with thoughts of fear, doubts and insecurities. Your body experiences fatigue, tightness and muscle tension.
Notice that your negative emotions arise when you respond to something, attach a meaning to it and picture it in your mind. You add power to it by using words to label and describe the situation or emotion. You will then experience the sensation and respond accordingly, as you always, have unconsciously. The ability to deal with negative emotions will change your responses to situations and people.
How to deal with negative emotions.
Decision.
It takes a decision to change anything. Once you decide that you no longer want to allow your negative emotions to control your life, you will take action to manage them when the first hint appears.
Awareness.
You should condition yourself to become aware of your emotions and the stimulus that trigger them. When you are aware, you are able to look at it squarely. Train your mind to "catch" yourself getting into an emotional state.
Questioning.
It takes conscious awareness to question your limiting feelings and state of mind. Questioning yourself is a way to dehypontize your way of getting into an automatic state. Question your reasons, assumptions and understandings in order to change the intensity and meaning you attach to your emotions.
Change your focus.
When you focus on hurtful feeling, fear and all other negative state of emotions, you will einlarge them. You need to refocus and divert your attention to what you want to experience. Instead of brooding and playing disempowering images and talking negatively to yourself, take a different action. Since you have total control over your thoughts at any given time, you can shift your thinking. The best way to shift your thinking and refocus is to do something physically. Moving your body through physical activity changes your internal state of mind.
De-stress and relax.
When there is a lot of stress in your life, everything seems against you. De-stress yourself at intervals during your waking hours by taking time to relax and exercise breathing techniques. A calm and peaceful mind is able to produce positive emotions and a better outlook about life and events.
Accept responsibility.
Try to remind yourself that the cause of your anger, hurt and fear are not due to external situations or people. It exists inside you. If you can control and manage your negative emotions, nothing out there will affect your state of mind and body.
http://www.articlecube.com/Article/How-To-Deal-With-Negative-Emotions/147664
Notice that your negative emotions arise when you respond to something, attach a meaning to it and picture it in your mind. You add power to it by using words to label and describe the situation or emotion. You will then experience the sensation and respond accordingly, as you always, have unconsciously. The ability to deal with negative emotions will change your responses to situations and people.
How to deal with negative emotions.
Decision.
It takes a decision to change anything. Once you decide that you no longer want to allow your negative emotions to control your life, you will take action to manage them when the first hint appears.
Awareness.
You should condition yourself to become aware of your emotions and the stimulus that trigger them. When you are aware, you are able to look at it squarely. Train your mind to "catch" yourself getting into an emotional state.
Questioning.
It takes conscious awareness to question your limiting feelings and state of mind. Questioning yourself is a way to dehypontize your way of getting into an automatic state. Question your reasons, assumptions and understandings in order to change the intensity and meaning you attach to your emotions.
Change your focus.
When you focus on hurtful feeling, fear and all other negative state of emotions, you will einlarge them. You need to refocus and divert your attention to what you want to experience. Instead of brooding and playing disempowering images and talking negatively to yourself, take a different action. Since you have total control over your thoughts at any given time, you can shift your thinking. The best way to shift your thinking and refocus is to do something physically. Moving your body through physical activity changes your internal state of mind.
De-stress and relax.
When there is a lot of stress in your life, everything seems against you. De-stress yourself at intervals during your waking hours by taking time to relax and exercise breathing techniques. A calm and peaceful mind is able to produce positive emotions and a better outlook about life and events.
Accept responsibility.
Try to remind yourself that the cause of your anger, hurt and fear are not due to external situations or people. It exists inside you. If you can control and manage your negative emotions, nothing out there will affect your state of mind and body.
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