Wednesday, June 27, 2007
Is Online Dating Right For You?
Added to this are negative views and stereotypes such as, "online dating is for geeks" and "online dating is for the desperate". This article is about dispelling some of the common negative views and stereotypes by presenting facts.
Common Fallacies and Truths about Online Dating
Fallacy: "Online dating is not safe; I've heard too many nightmare stories."
Truth: Nightmare stories you've heard are actually rare and more likely to occur in bars, night clubs and free chat rooms. They only appear common-place due to publicity they get from the press.
Reputable dating services go out of their way to ensure safe and secure dating environment for their members. Plus, the cost commitment eliminates many practical jokers and lowlifes.
Fallacy: "Online dating is for geeks."
Truth: Surveys show that the majority of online daters are normal people with at least a college education, a career, above average income and are socially active. Most are interested in a serious relationship.
Fallacy: "You have to be good with computers."
Truth: If all you can do is click a mouse and send an email (which you can learn in a few minutes), you are ready for online dating. Popular dating sites make it easy for you and will guide you through.
Fallacy: "Online dating is for liars, losers and the desperate."
Truth: Online dating sites indicate their members tend to be significantly higher educated and earn above average incomes, are sincere and honest people in search for serous relationships.
Fallacy: "It's not safe to meet strangers online."
Truth: It's never really safe to meet strangers anywhere, least of all bars and night clubs. Online dating lets you remain anonymous till comfortable enough to reveal more to the most suitable prospect.
Fallacy: "It takes/requires a huge time commitment."
Truth: Online dating is the only medium right now that allows you to go mate-hunting at your convenience. It is open 24/7 and you can do it in your spare time.
Fallacy: "People lie and misrepresent themselves."
Truth: People lie and misrepresent themselves in person too. With proper checks, some online dating education, and good old guts you can learn to uncover deception easily and quickly.
Fallacy: "I'd be too embarrassed if someone found out."
Truth: What are chances of someone who knows you stumbling upon your personal ad among millions in one dating site among hundreds? And what would they be doing there in the first place? If they are surfing, they are on the same boat with you.
Fallacy: "I'd be embarrassed to tell friends and family that we met online."
Truth: But you wouldn't be embarrassed to tell them that you met in a bar? What's important is that you find someone who makes you happy, not whether you met in a bar, church or through a modem. Look around and you'll find couples who met online and are happy, even proud to say so.
Fallacy: "You have to be good at writing."
Truth: Actually, conversation-style writing works better as it has a personal feel. Just write like you talk and you are good to go. Use a spelling checker, which comes with most word processing documents such as Word or WordPad. Some of these do check your grammar also.
Fallacy: "Online dating is for the young and restless."
Truth: Surveys indicate that the fastest growing segment in online dating is 40 years plus. This is partly due to other methods not being as open to this segment, and the fact that career and other commitments tend to peak at around that age.
Fallacy: "Online dating is for old, naughty or desperate people."
Truth: Older people are the fastest growing segment in online dating, simply because it provides them an easier and quicker way to meet potential mates. But younger people still make the majority, especially those who are busy in careers.
Fallacy: "It's for people who are not social and have trouble finding a date."
Truth: At the risk of repeating, online dating membership is mainly composed of professional, sincere and romantic people who are also socially active. Internet dating simply offers them an easy and time-saving way to meet like-minded people.
Fallacy: "It's too impersonal. There's no real chemistry doesn't feel real."
Truth: If you've ever read a story that drove you to tears you know that writing does convey emotions. Also, top dating sights now offer voice chats and video conferencing. You can look and talk to the other person, making an almost personal date.
Fallacy: "It's too expensive."
Truth: How much is the (potential) perfect partner worth to you? Online dating actually costs much less than traditional dating that involves costly dinners before you even find out if you have anything in common.
Dating online allows you to find out if you have something in common, and to know each other to a reasonable degree before the actual meeting.
Conclusion: Online dating is one of the most wonderful, healthy and appealing ways of finding a companion or even a lifetime partner. If you have not tried it, you owe it to yourself to do so. Top-rated dating sites offer free trials before you commit, so why not try online dating today?
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How to Find the Best Dating Site for You
Side bar: This article is not about touting certain websites. It is about helping make your search easier by letting you know what to look for, and narrowing the field down to one or two good sites.
There are two common ways to select a dating site. One is to follow the advice of a friend or family member. Not a bad way, but also error-prone. Remember we are talking about the best dating site for you.
The second, and recommended, option is to do some good old fact-finding through research. Don't panic, this article is about making it easier on you.
What Is the Best Dating Site?
The best dating site is not the biggest, nor the most features-laden. The best dating site is the one that best fits who you are or matches your personality/need(s).
Types of Dating Sites
There are, basically, three types of dating sites:
1. Popular or General
2. Specialty or Niche
3. Community or Special Interest
Now let's now briefly describe each for a better understanding:
1. Popular or general dating sites: These Cater to the general public and all ages, ethnic groups, religions, sexual orientations etc. Usually they will have huge databases, often running to the tens of millions of members.
2. Specialty or niche dating sites: These cater to specific interests such as religion, ethnicity, age groups etc. Their members have something in common.
3. Community or special interest dating sites: These are similar to specialty or niche sites (#2 above), but cater to even narrower interests. Examples; Catholic (not "Christian"), swingers (not "adult"), Filipino (not "Asian")… you get the picture.
So, which way to go? The first step towards success in finding the best dating site is to be clear on what you are looking for. You do know yourself, don't you?
If you have some online dating experience, consider specialty or community sites. But if just starting out, your best bet is to go with popular/general dating sites. Why?
Because popular dating sites serve most interests and you'll get faster results. This will give you some experience as well as a feel of the features. Subsequently, this helps build your confidence while also learning online dating "lingo" and sub-culture.
What to Look For In a Dating Site
The top ten things to consider when selecting a dating site are:
1. The number of profiles: Online dating is a numbers game. The larger the database the better your chance of meeting the right person.
2. Features: These include search and safety.
3. You should be able to search by age and gender as well as height, hair color, vocation etc. if this is important to you.
4. Privacy: Most high-popularity dating sites provide you with an email address specifically for online dating.
5. Availability of chat rooms and private chat rooms so you may talk with your prospect(s) once a contact has been initiated. Web video would be an additional benefit.
6. Some top-rated dating sites will alert you when someone has responded to your email or expressed interest in contacting you. Not the most important feature but nice to have all the same.
7. Relationship intentions: The site should cater to the kind of relationship you seek.
8. Location: The site should have a sufficient number of members in your geographical area, especially if you are not for long distance relationships.
9. Detailed profiles: If a site allows members to skimp on details about themselves, chances are they are doing it. This makes it a mere photo contest.
10. Cost: Don't just go for the cheapest or free sites (there's a price to pay for that), but if they are way above average they should give a very good for this.
Signing Up for a Free Trial
Having narrowed your search to one or two dating sites using the above guidelines, it is not time to commit yet. It is time to sign up for a trial run, which most highly popular dating sites offer. Make sure it is a real trial run and not just a tour. What's the difference?
A tour is just that, a tour. You get to browse pictures of seemingly (may I add unrealistic) happy couples who have "found" happiness using that particular dating site. Don't buy into this. It is crap and a complete waste of time.
A trial run lets you enjoy most of the site's features without paying, for a period of time. But note that the trial is geared towards getting you to become a paid member; therefore you'll get a teaser here and there. Just stick to the trial till it's over.
Take full advantage of the trial run. This means initiating as many contacts as you possibly can. And post your photo immediately on sign-up. The point is to find out if the dating site is a good fit for your personality.
When the trial period ends, be ready to sign up for full membership or opt out. If you opt out, take heart that at least you didn't waste your money or time. And you now have some experience. Find another site and do another test. The best dating site for you is out there waiting to be discovered.
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10 Reasons Why Online Dating Is a Good Idea
If 40 million plus people are doing it, then something is right. So, what draws people to online dating in such vast numbers? Well, here are a few benefits and advantages of online dating over traditional dating:
1. Volume: Perhaps the foremost advantage is the almost limitless supply of people online, all with one common goal: to find a date. The huge numbers of available singles improve the odds of meeting the Mr. or Miss/Ms. Right. And, there are always fresh "supplies" as new people continue to join dating sites.
2. No guessing (in most cases) as to whether the other person is available or not, as they wouldn't be on a dating site if they weren't.
3. Wide net: Online dating offers you the opportunity contact multiple prospects at the same time. After exchanging emails and/or phone calls you can determine which if any is worth keeping. If none, just continue your search.
4. Online dating eliminates the awkwardness of first introductions. The first encounter is always the hardest for most people, and getting over it makes the rest of the dating experience much easier.
5. Speed: Online dating is designed towards a fast and efficient initial contact. Once the contact has been made, you can slow things slowed down to find out if you have a match.
6. Convenience: For people who are busy, prospecting online is the way to go. It is open 24/7 and you can also spend the amount of time that is convenient to you.
7. Privacy: You can exchange emails and/or phone calls until you are comfortable enough to reveal more, or to meet in person.
8. Web video chat and conferencing option allows you to see and talk to the other person, making it an almost personal interaction. Sorry, there's not yet a way to touch or smell the other person through a modem (wink).
9. You already know, to a reasonable degree, what your prospective date looks like as well as his/her age, height, education etc. Compare this to blind dating.
10. Low Cost: The cost of internet dating is far less than traditional dating which usually involves coffee outings, dinners, movies etc.
If you haven't yet tried online dating, aka internet dating, you should at least give it a try. Most of the reputable dating sites offer free trials. Who knows, the right person could be waiting for you right now!
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Tuesday, June 26, 2007
Matchmakers Or A Dating Service?
So you want to get back into the dating scene but are unsure which service to choose, a matchmaker or and actual dating service, lets have a look at each service and their differences to help you make up your mind on which road to go.
The Dating Service:
The usual online dating service lets the client/user pick the person for a potential date themselves by going through their profile. Profiles usually consists of their photo, interests, age, likes and what they are looking for in a person. Sure, this is a fun and interactive way of meeting new people in your area or all over the world, but one of the biggest struggles with a dating service is that the majority of users go for the good looking or popular people, you know the people who are always the center of attention at bars, clubs, parties and functions. Sure this is great for them and people interested in them and all the luck to them, but this leaves the rest of the user population struggling to be noticed or are overlooked in the meantime. Don't get me wrong, a dating service can have a lot of success and is a fantastic way for meeting new people from all over the world. You can find friends and date people all who you think suits your criteria and contact them. It is very fun and a lively atmosphere. Anyone can join a dating service as they are always looking for people to join as they don't have a set limit on how many people can accommodate.
The Matchmaking Service:
An online matchmaker service is different from a dating service because they do all the looking and matching for you to find the best possible match that suits you. With matchmakers it's all about you, your interests, your wants and needs. Both online and offline matchmaker professionals are very experienced in the field and know whom and how to match up the right personalities and individuals, you may even get introduced to a person you may never have expected or never thought compatible only to find out that both of you share a great compatibility with each other. Matchmakers rely on feedback from both parties and from there they can evaluate whether or not that person suits you, if so - fantastic, but if not they look for a different person. With matchmakers there is a higher percentage of finding you a date with a person your are more compatible with and may even have a long term relationship with. The only real thing with joining an online matchmaking service than a dating service is that not everyone can join. It all depends on the members they already have and whether or not at the time there is someone who is compatible with you. There is no point in joining a matchmaker service if there is no one for you to meet, right?
A Quick Comparison:
With a dating service you have to find the person yourself while a matchmaker service finds the person for you.
With a matchmaker service they have a better chance of finding a person who is compatible with you while a dating service you have to judge for yourself.
A dating service lets anyone join up while a matchmaking service only lets you join when they have people that are compatible with you.
A matchmaker service has a better success rate with long term relationships than a dating service.
Well there you have it, the difference between a dating service and matchmakers, now the choice is up to you. Happy dating everyone.
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Are the Dating Services Provided to Us Capable of Finding that Special Someone
There are hundreds and hundreds of matchmaking services everywhere providing us with matchmaker services, they are more commonly known as dating services. These services are designed with the task of providing matchmaking services to the public.
These dating services come in many different forms; they include websites and even more local dating agencies. Are there matchmaking services up to scratch? Or are there matchmaker services prehistoric?
First of all we must understand that dating services will either have a low number of members or a high number of members. We always hear about successful matches within their companies and yes some do find each other's soul mate. But they wouldn't want to publish their unsuccessful matches, would they? However it's not up to them to show you how to sweep a woman off her feet, that is up to the individuals themselves to do that.
Dating services are becoming more and more popular everywhere, it seems that you can find anyone anywhere on a dating website. These websites seem to be an excellent choice to try out their dating services, they will often let you know how many people are signed up to the site and will let you search their full database of members with certain criteria, such as age, height and even right down to their interests and eye colour. These are more designed for the virtual matchmaking era, which seems to be at a peak at the moment with a lot of dating services online and running seemly smoothly.
If you are looking for an online dating website just type 'dating' into a search engine and see the results for yourself. It is quite staggering to see that many, but how do you choose the one for you? The best thing to do is try some free memberships and use that time effectively because once you have used that time you won't be able to try it again. Use one website at a time and just use a profile to say what you are looking for, don't try to be someone different, just be yourself and see what happens. Try e-mailing other people and just be nice and not to up front and see where it takes you. You never know and you may be lucky enough to meet that special someone.
Of course there are loads of benefits to online dating. If you would prefer to date an American, Mexican or even Asian women then simply type it into a search engine and away you go. It can be cheaper if you are dating online, because there is no need to wait in line at the movies or even order a fancy restaurant. Of course that is when you actually start when you are online dating, you must remember - if you do ever decide to meet up then you will have to order a seat at a fancy restaurant, or wait in line at the movies. Because when you meet, there won't be a keyboard that is expressing yourself, it will be face-to-face and you will need to be yourself, well that seems to be why either person was talking to you in the first place. Also remember - it may seem simple but remember - to be safe don't meet anyone on your own. Offer each person the opportunity to bring a friend along if one of you may feel uncomfortable meeting on his or her own.
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Message Board ? The Place To Talk
A usual message board is an arranged list of the discussed topics, where one can choose the topic he is interested in, then he chooses one of the threads started within this topic and posts a reply, participating in discussion. When posting a reply on a message board, you have an option to quote one of the previous posters, give links to some referred to the topic websites, insert smilies whatever. You can choose to start a new thread instead of posting a reply if the issue you want to discuss have not been previously talked over on this particular message board.
There are lots of various message boards on the Internet these days. People discuss various issues, they can talk about politics, cars, birds, some are united by their hobbies, some just seek for a smart opponent in a discussion. If the message board is highly visited, you usually get over ten replies to your posting within several minutes, and if the problem you have touched is an interesting and intriguing one, the thread is likely to reach as many as several hundreds of pages of the discussion on a heavily popular message board.
With the development of the Internet, it became the technology for everyone, not only for those smart heads who know programming languages and smart words like "servers" or "dedicated hosting". It has become very easy to create a message board of your own, where you are the administrator, is capable of setting your own rules and topic list. If you create a message board, you can invite your friends to actively discuss your common issues and if you have quite many friends, your message board may soon be hitting the top of the popularity lists!
To create a message board, you'll need a script of such a resource and surely you'll need some server space, meaning hosting. There are various kinds of the message board scripts available today on the Internet and most of them are very comfortable and easy to install, setup and run. However, you should take into account that these scripts may be both free and commercial. The commercial scripts of message boards are usually available for download and installation, but if you tried and liked it, still ignoring the fact you should pay for this script, the developers may initiate legal investigation. Remember about the copyright law and never offend it.
There are many web hosting companies which allow message board hosting. Just choose the best hosting provider you can, who meets all your wants and demands and contact him saying you want to start a message board on his server. Very often they will even help you to install the script so that you are free of any difficulties which may appear if you are not familiar with all that programming stuff.
Message boards are fun! You can visit the already popular message boards and talk their or you can start your own message board and have fun administrating it. That's up to you only.
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Message Boards and Their Use In The Online World
The places that are available for online dating mostly allow a website message board on their list of features and allow all members to post their own thoughts on their message boards. Of course not every website has these message boards, so if you are looking for a message board, be careful when choosing. You can also be updated by e-mail when someone adds a comment on that message board to another member or your own comment. Of course you can always add your own comments on a message board to another member freely.
Message boards are becoming increasingly popular with today's modern technology, which allows people to connect to these message boards with ease and comfort. There are also message boards on the site that allow the members to chat openly about the website and see if there are any problems with the site, which can be posted in that section of the message board. These message boards are also a small dedicated area of any website for dating websites these are a hugh benefit to members who need to post something on the website or to a specific member.
Using a message board on a website is like leaving a message on a notice board at work; everyone will read it and see it. So it is rather a very less private way to interact with another member of the website. Message boards are commonly used, because they are very easy to use and because of how they operate like a pin board. Due to some offensive content, which can be easily placed on to the message board, they are always monitored, so that people who add offensive material can be deleted from the site and their messages also will be deleted.
There is a rather big downside to online message boards and that is the time delay. When you post a message it can be several hours before you can expect a response from either the individual you are talking to or if you have asked a question, which needs an answer. So remember for your first visit that it can be a time consuming process, which you must be patient with. So take that into consideration before you start using a message board.
Overall preference will take place when choosing to post on a message board if your question can wait for an answer. If so, the message board will be a good place to ask the question. But if you are in more need of a direct answer then you should really consider how useful a message board might be for you. There are other options that would not include the time delay that is associated with message boards, instant messaging or even a simple e-mail are not as time delayed as the message boards.
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